This could easily induce a thorough flaming. But I'm going to put it out there.
I have a friend who is in his lower 30s. He was an active mormon his entire life, until about 6 months ago. He finally decided that he wasn't happy or convinced and bailed on church. He contacted me because we are friends and I have a somewhat similar backstory. He also know i have been in the lifestyle community. He is a 30+ year old virgin and isn't wanting to be a 40 year old virgin. He had a bunch of questions and needed life advice. My advice was to go get laid.
But he is pretty clueless. A really nice guy, good looking, reasonably fit and interesting.
Are there any women out there who have some sort of interest in leading this innocent young man further astray?
I'm sure he isn't prepared in any way for a couple. But this is a good place to start.
I don't want anything out of this. I am just trying to see if anyone might be interested if he gets serious, or if anyone thinks this might be a horrible or awesome idea.
I have a friend who is in his lower 30s. He was an active mormon his entire life, until about 6 months ago. He finally decided that he wasn't happy or convinced and bailed on church. He contacted me because we are friends and I have a somewhat similar backstory. He also know i have been in the lifestyle community. He is a 30+ year old virgin and isn't wanting to be a 40 year old virgin. He had a bunch of questions and needed life advice. My advice was to go get laid.
But he is pretty clueless. A really nice guy, good looking, reasonably fit and interesting.
Are there any women out there who have some sort of interest in leading this innocent young man further astray?
I'm sure he isn't prepared in any way for a couple. But this is a good place to start.
I don't want anything out of this. I am just trying to see if anyone might be interested if he gets serious, or if anyone thinks this might be a horrible or awesome idea.
All single males should go to a swinger site to find a easy lay. If you are such a good friend why not give him the lay yourself. It only hurts for a minute or two' soive been told. Not that I'm gay or anything, is it possible there are any slots still open on the thc show.
Yeah, I'm not really certain banging a swinger chick would necessarily be my first choice for losing my virginity. If he really is a "nice guy, good looking, reasonably fit and interesting" I can't for the life of me imagine that he wouldn't be able to find a nice girl to have sex with. Either that or maybe a hooker...wait, hear me out. If the guy is that old and still hasn't had sex (for religious reasons or ANY reason for that matter) there's probably a fairly good chance that he could easily and quickly develop feelings for the woman who took his virginity. Hiring a hooker seems like a no brainer if all he really wants to do is lose his virginity. Take your buddy on a road trip to Nevada and let him pick out the lady he wants to fuck for the first time. Swinging is pretty advanced stuff for both couples and singles and not easily navigable by the inexperienced. If he doesn't want to get a hooker maybe just ask around and see if you can line him up with some nice girls that he could possibly have a relationship with. I just don't think swinging is the answer for someone looking to lose their virginity. Would you recommend finding a swinger male to take the virginity of a girl who was still a virgin? Of course all of this is just my opinion. I'm sure there are plenty of swinger ladies who would gladly help your friend lose his virginity.
So far the responses have not disappointed.
So I was 32, semi-devout mormon, wanted to lose my virginity because I was sick of trying to find a wife. Dating is not a game that is for me, and I tried it over and over again repeatedly. Got most of my makeout expeirences before that from meeting chicks on yahoo chat before it became pure spam.
So I finally decided I wanted to give in, and just lose it. Tried with a few friends, was honest up front, but most women don't want to help you lose it. They want you to have it be with someone special even if it's looking like you'll never find anyone special.
I put up a craigslist ad, got an actual response, but when I told the girl we needed to go to a hotel because of my roommate, she got a little freaked out, and that plan was over.
So I got on Swingular, with the advice of a female friend of mine (she lived in California, her husband didnt want me driving all the way there to lose it to her, so I respected that). I tested the waters. I was up front with EVERYone about it. People thought I was lying about it to get some fun.
So I started lying. Or rather not being up front. I met up with a lady on swingular, started making out with her, and then gave her what had to be the worst 1 minute of sex in her life. She never knew I was a virgin. I don't have her SN anymore. I don't remember her name, and I have a vague recollection of what she looks like at most. She was the first lady I was ever inside, and I'm glad I got it out of the way, because chicks do NOT like older virgins.
So there you go, if you find someone to help him, it could work. If not, just tell him to not tell anyone and give them a crappy night of sex. Or maybe just have him go to a few parties. If he's reasonably attractive, he'll find someone who's into him. And he can tell her about what happened afterwards.
So I finally decided I wanted to give in, and just lose it. Tried with a few friends, was honest up front, but most women don't want to help you lose it. They want you to have it be with someone special even if it's looking like you'll never find anyone special.
I put up a craigslist ad, got an actual response, but when I told the girl we needed to go to a hotel because of my roommate, she got a little freaked out, and that plan was over.
So I got on Swingular, with the advice of a female friend of mine (she lived in California, her husband didnt want me driving all the way there to lose it to her, so I respected that). I tested the waters. I was up front with EVERYone about it. People thought I was lying about it to get some fun.
So I started lying. Or rather not being up front. I met up with a lady on swingular, started making out with her, and then gave her what had to be the worst 1 minute of sex in her life. She never knew I was a virgin. I don't have her SN anymore. I don't remember her name, and I have a vague recollection of what she looks like at most. She was the first lady I was ever inside, and I'm glad I got it out of the way, because chicks do NOT like older virgins.
So there you go, if you find someone to help him, it could work. If not, just tell him to not tell anyone and give them a crappy night of sex. Or maybe just have him go to a few parties. If he's reasonably attractive, he'll find someone who's into him. And he can tell her about what happened afterwards.
Personally, I've been involved in a few "introductory events"
I don't hate them, but do have some advice
- don't treat virginity like its a stigma or shameful. As a Recovering Mormon, I find that nothing serves to make something feel more WRONG than an unhealthy obsession with losing it.
- be honest, a first time experience shouldn't come with an expectation of "best sex ever" but if it's planned for and around, it can be a quickie Followed by foreplay (so something a girl needs to be warned about).
-the longer a guy waits, it seems the more focused he is on dick size..... Let it go. I will probably tell you you are average no matter what my tape measure says.
-realize that even Porns have blooper reels.... Sex can be awkward and silly. Relax and enjoy the sensation. Don't try to orchestrate the best letter ever written for Penthouse Forum.
-personality affects the experience-A lot. Be yourself from the beginning so bedroom games don't get weird or overly intense unexpectedly
-do your best to NOT overthink it- just sex usually means I'm not going to change my FaceBook status to reflect your deflowering or dp shout it from any other sort of rooftop. Everyone wonders I'd the rest of the world notices the change in status... It's good to have a secret. Discretion is valued above all else in this lifestyle
Finally... Dear Mormon Brother.
I am aware of the hypocrisy, but don't arrive for your deflowering still wearing your Garments.... Those of us who recognize the significance in your beliefs don't need to feel any sort of conflict from you.
I don't hate them, but do have some advice
- don't treat virginity like its a stigma or shameful. As a Recovering Mormon, I find that nothing serves to make something feel more WRONG than an unhealthy obsession with losing it.
- be honest, a first time experience shouldn't come with an expectation of "best sex ever" but if it's planned for and around, it can be a quickie Followed by foreplay (so something a girl needs to be warned about).
-the longer a guy waits, it seems the more focused he is on dick size..... Let it go. I will probably tell you you are average no matter what my tape measure says.
-realize that even Porns have blooper reels.... Sex can be awkward and silly. Relax and enjoy the sensation. Don't try to orchestrate the best letter ever written for Penthouse Forum.
-personality affects the experience-A lot. Be yourself from the beginning so bedroom games don't get weird or overly intense unexpectedly
-do your best to NOT overthink it- just sex usually means I'm not going to change my FaceBook status to reflect your deflowering or dp shout it from any other sort of rooftop. Everyone wonders I'd the rest of the world notices the change in status... It's good to have a secret. Discretion is valued above all else in this lifestyle
Finally... Dear Mormon Brother.
I am aware of the hypocrisy, but don't arrive for your deflowering still wearing your Garments.... Those of us who recognize the significance in your beliefs don't need to feel any sort of conflict from you.
Personally, I've been involved in a few "introductory events"
I don't hate them, but do have some advice
- don't treat virginity like its a stigma or shameful. As a Recovering Mormon, I find that nothing serves to make something feel more WRONG than an unhealthy obsession with losing it.
- be honest, a first time experience shouldn't come with an expectation of "best sex ever" but if it's planned for and around, it can be a quickie Followed by foreplay (so something a girl needs to be warned about).
-the longer a guy waits, it seems the more focused he is on dick size..... Let it go. I will probably tell you you are average no matter what my tape measure says.
-realize that even Porns have blooper reels.... Sex can be awkward and silly. Relax and enjoy the sensation. Don't try to orchestrate the best letter ever written for Penthouse Forum.
-personality affects the experience-A lot. Be yourself from the beginning so bedroom games don't get weird or overly intense unexpectedly
-do your best to NOT overthink it- just sex usually means I'm not going to change my FaceBook status to reflect your deflowering or dp shout it from any other sort of rooftop. Everyone wonders I'd the rest of the world notices the change in status... It's good to have a secret. Discretion is valued above all else in this lifestyle
Finally... Dear Mormon Brother.
I am aware of the hypocrisy, but don't arrive for your deflowering still wearing your Garments.... Those of us who recognize the significance in your beliefs don't need to feel any sort of conflict from you.
I don't hate them, but do have some advice
- don't treat virginity like its a stigma or shameful. As a Recovering Mormon, I find that nothing serves to make something feel more WRONG than an unhealthy obsession with losing it.
- be honest, a first time experience shouldn't come with an expectation of "best sex ever" but if it's planned for and around, it can be a quickie Followed by foreplay (so something a girl needs to be warned about).
-the longer a guy waits, it seems the more focused he is on dick size..... Let it go. I will probably tell you you are average no matter what my tape measure says.
-realize that even Porns have blooper reels.... Sex can be awkward and silly. Relax and enjoy the sensation. Don't try to orchestrate the best letter ever written for Penthouse Forum.
-personality affects the experience-A lot. Be yourself from the beginning so bedroom games don't get weird or overly intense unexpectedly
-do your best to NOT overthink it- just sex usually means I'm not going to change my FaceBook status to reflect your deflowering or dp shout it from any other sort of rooftop. Everyone wonders I'd the rest of the world notices the change in status... It's good to have a secret. Discretion is valued above all else in this lifestyle
Finally... Dear Mormon Brother.
I am aware of the hypocrisy, but don't arrive for your deflowering still wearing your Garments.... Those of us who recognize the significance in your beliefs don't need to feel any sort of conflict from you.
Didn't mean to submit twice... Blaming my iPad. Sorry
Interesting comments by VIRANI and JEFFSMITH. I was hoping he would chime in since I remember him soliciting someone to take his virginity. And yes I admit I too thought it was possibly a ploy as a single guy to get more sex. I don't think lying about it is necessarily a good idea though. There's more than enough lying that already goes on in swinging and in life in general. Seems to me that after coming clean about that lie someone might start thinking, "Hmmmm, wonder what else he might be lying about. Was he really a virgin? Is he really single? Does he have an STD that he didn't tell me about?"
I enjoyed the pun in the title of this thread (I assume it was intentional) though. I'm sure there are more than a few ladies who have a "Mrs. (Sister) Robinson" fetish and would be more than happy to fuck this guy especially if he's willing to play the role of innocent young? Mormon kid. I can imagine all kinds of kinky scenarios. "Sister Smith, why are you touching me there? You know Heavenly Father wouldn't be pleased." to "Oh yes, Sister Smith, fuck the bejesus...or just Jesus, out of me!"
I enjoyed the pun in the title of this thread (I assume it was intentional) though. I'm sure there are more than a few ladies who have a "Mrs. (Sister) Robinson" fetish and would be more than happy to fuck this guy especially if he's willing to play the role of innocent young? Mormon kid. I can imagine all kinds of kinky scenarios. "Sister Smith, why are you touching me there? You know Heavenly Father wouldn't be pleased." to "Oh yes, Sister Smith, fuck the bejesus...or just Jesus, out of me!"
Hey, folks, give the poor guy a break. He's probably clueless s because his religious stuff kept him from ever really learning how to hook up with a girl. There's someone who had a post here recently, specifically looking for a virgin guy. They might be interested. But I can't remember who. Does anyone recall who it was? ~ Terry
Yeah it was someone from back east I think. Maybe we can all chip in for a bus ticket. 
The messages I've gotten so far have been really helpful. It seems there are a number of both generous or kinky ladies who would be into this sort of thing. I'll talk to my buddy and make sure he is solid and understands what he might be getting into.
I will proceed with caution.
Thank you swingular.
I will proceed with caution.
Thank you swingular.
Also buy him a pack of condoms and have "the talk" with him.
You know, in case his "Mo" parents only told him about abstinence.
You know, in case his "Mo" parents only told him about abstinence.
EVILDOERS wrote:In fact, buy him a large package of them (20+) and Astroglide and tell him to practice rolling them on and taking them off according to the instructions; hell, tell him to work his way through a few and then try masturbating in them. He doesn't want to have to fumble to put one on his first time and then either go soft out of frustration or be tempted to have unsafe sex; this will show him if/where he might catch hair in the rolling down or up and w/ the Astroglide get used to having an orgasm w/ a condom on. Even if he winds up in an exclusive relationship he should be prepared to be out in the cold, cruel world of safe sex w/ non-exclusive partners. Everything else is an upgrade.
Also buy him a pack of condoms and have "the talk" with him.
You know, in case his "Mo" parents only told him about abstinence.
I may or may not have recently advocated this for the week prior to my meeting up w/ an intercourse-inexperienced young man myself, and had spectacular results.
My question is....Does he know how to kiss. If he kisses like a fish....he just might be one. If he is a good kisser could mean he might be a natural in the bed. Hahaha Man this feels like high school again. LOL
Damn I thought the correlation was between DANCING and fucking. If I'd known it was kissing I never would have taken those tap dancing lessons. 
No you learned that from Dirty Dancing. Also never leave Baby in the corner. haha
No you learned that from Dirty Dancing. Also never leave Baby in the corner. haha