We just watched mixology on netflix and thought it was very funny. There seems to be rules to getting laid that we weren't aware of, such as zoo lander is the movie of choice to getting someone back to your place to have sex. This was not only said in the show but we have experienced real life examples of this that we didn't realize was code word until stated in the show. Also, you have 8 minutes to get someone back to your place from the point they say they will have sex with you till they doubt their decision (which, based on real life, sounds about right). Of course there is the 3 dates rule and not calling for at least 3 days. We have never been into playing games and didn't really know these other rules, but I think it's hilarious and want to know What are some other rules to hooking up that everyone knows but never talks about?
Damn, didn't know it was so complex. Special movies, code words? Now, this was all back When I was single, and still went out on weekends looking to hook up and, hopefully, start on one those happy ever after bits (Yeah, most guys are lookin' for that too, they just keep it on the down low.), up until when I just sort of stopped bothering. (The first goal used to get obtained, but the second never did, I think the longest happy ever after was like 2 years long.) It always worked out that I'd meet some girl, usually at a bar, we'd do whatever, usually dance some 'cause it was in the days when any really decent bar had a live band (in other words before disco and into the disco era for a few years until economic considerations finally just about killed off the live bands at bars). Then at the end of the night, usually not too long before the place closed, we'd leave, and end up at my place. Or hers. I really can't recall anyone ever actually asking about sex, or anyone ever saying yes or no, it always just sort of happened or it didn't. Generally, if we'd more or less stuck together after we first met until it was time to leave, it did happen.
Hey, maybe that's my problem now, that I never learned how to intentionally approach a girl, then do the seduction thing. That, and a ridiculously high degree of worry about seeming aggressive or somehow offending someone are, I'm thinking, what result in the wife being off in a bedroom while I'm still just hanging around, hoping some girl will do or say something that pretty clearly tells me she's interested. Yeah, the fact the the wife has the vagina has something to do with it, but it seems my always waiting for some girl to make the first move has more. Oh well, I probably need to take a class or something, but I don't think there are any yet. But soon as the first Hooking Up college opens, I'll enroll. ~ Terry
Hey, maybe that's my problem now, that I never learned how to intentionally approach a girl, then do the seduction thing. That, and a ridiculously high degree of worry about seeming aggressive or somehow offending someone are, I'm thinking, what result in the wife being off in a bedroom while I'm still just hanging around, hoping some girl will do or say something that pretty clearly tells me she's interested. Yeah, the fact the the wife has the vagina has something to do with it, but it seems my always waiting for some girl to make the first move has more. Oh well, I probably need to take a class or something, but I don't think there are any yet. But soon as the first Hooking Up college opens, I'll enroll. ~ Terry
The biggest difference I see in seduction reality vs Hollywood is the fact that all humans are NOT created the same. Every mind is different, heck, every day is different. An approach one day could just as easily fail simply because a prospect is hungry or late or ovulating....
The mainstreaming of the idea of swinging has opened some doors in the fact that couples watch these and feel encouraged to finally suggest fantasies that they may have been afraid to bring up. The problem then is- people have a gloriously simple and airbrished idea of how things will transpire and often the mental image and disparity makes it difficult to really allow them to absorb the pleasure of the encounter.
I've never been Zoolandere'd. I'm inclined to believe it wouldn't work on me. As for the 8 minute rule- that's barely enough time to visit the "rules of engagement" let alone flirt.
The mainstreaming of the idea of swinging has opened some doors in the fact that couples watch these and feel encouraged to finally suggest fantasies that they may have been afraid to bring up. The problem then is- people have a gloriously simple and airbrished idea of how things will transpire and often the mental image and disparity makes it difficult to really allow them to absorb the pleasure of the encounter.
I've never been Zoolandere'd. I'm inclined to believe it wouldn't work on me. As for the 8 minute rule- that's barely enough time to visit the "rules of engagement" let alone flirt.
Rules? I wanna fuck you, you wanna fuck me...end of rules. 
VIRANI wrote:
The biggest difference I see in seduction reality vs Hollywood is the fact that all humans are NOT created the same. Every mind is different,
Bingo!
That is very much the truth.
Maybe we all ended up swingers because we don't play games. Sounds like everyone was as surprised by these revelations as we were. We are all here for the same thing, no need to dance around it.
FUCKCHASTITY wrote:
Maybe we all ended up swingers because we don't play games. Sounds like everyone was as surprised by these revelations as we were. We are all here for the same thing, no need to dance around it.
I for one, am grateful.... I'm too lazy to try translating code... It takes up time that would be better spent actually tasting new friends.
It's tough...really tough...you can have a great night thinking everyone is on-board and then nothing....it's a "did I do something wrong" moment that no one ever answers the question for you.
It's difficult because you meet a couple and they are not what your looking for, for whatever reason. Doesn't really matter. So your at dinner and how do you get out of it. It's dating but now there are two of you that have to find two others attractive. Not just one on one anymore. Plus now, the sex is out on the table.
We met a couple once that it appeared we all four shared many of the same hobbies. Dinner went great. We talked, enjoyed each other's company. Agreed to hang out again in the future. Later in the evening we received an email that said they have decided to not remain in the lifestyle. What did we do wrong? I mean of course we discussed religion, made them commit to meeting with a couple of friends on bikes.
But I degress. We're they just testing the waters and got scared.
We have been on the other side far too many times and battle with the fear of being rude so sadly we have remained silent and failed to say, hay, you guys are great just not for us. And we now realize that was wrong.
We are all adults here. Be open, we don't have to be mean, just honest.
We met a couple once that it appeared we all four shared many of the same hobbies. Dinner went great. We talked, enjoyed each other's company. Agreed to hang out again in the future. Later in the evening we received an email that said they have decided to not remain in the lifestyle. What did we do wrong? I mean of course we discussed religion, made them commit to meeting with a couple of friends on bikes.
But I degress. We're they just testing the waters and got scared.
We have been on the other side far too many times and battle with the fear of being rude so sadly we have remained silent and failed to say, hay, you guys are great just not for us. And we now realize that was wrong.
We are all adults here. Be open, we don't have to be mean, just honest.