I think this has been discussed before but I couldn't find it.
Do you get flaked on often? I thought I had a good personality, maybe I need to rethink how I go about things.
What's your hookup to flake ratio?
Do you get flaked on often? I thought I had a good personality, maybe I need to rethink how I go about things.
What's your hookup to flake ratio?
ERASEDPANTS33 wrote:
before we moved here we tried swinging for a few months. We were flaked on more times than I would care to remember. Kinda ruined it for us. Made us start to wonder if people sometimes use these sites to titilate themselves and have no intention of ever following through.
What changed?
Have to agree with ERASEDPANTS33 party's and meet&greets help. We have given our phone # to several couples who have said they wanted to meet and have never heard from them. What's up with that? If you ask for a # you should at least call
We've had just a couple flakes in 4 years. We've managed to avoid them by meeting people at parties and meet and greets for the most part then decide from there if we meet again. At least that way we all know we're real couples and hopefully have decided we have enough in common and interest to go for a 2nd meet up.
I just don't get it. WHY do people tell other people they're going to meet them, whether it's supposed to be just to meet. or specifically to play, then just not show up? I mean, I don't even understand people RSVPing to 3 different events on the same night, then never deleting any of the RSVPs but at least when someone does that they aren't screwing up some other person or couple's personal plans. Are flakes just saying "yes" to everyone they can, then deciding at the last minute which is the "better deal"? Even then, it'd seem to make sense to contact whoever they aren't really going to meet and make some excuse or something. Yet I see people talking about things like getting "I'm on the way" texts right up until literally the last minute. I just cannot figure out why someone'd do that to someone else. ~ Terry
We discussed it at one point in this forum and the one way to avoid it is to go to parties we used to try and setup one on ones which flakes have left a bad impression on us so we haven't (swang) (swing) (swunk
for a long time cause of the amount if money we have to put out to travel we live in Price Ut. BTW. It just suck's I mean honestly just call, text, email, USPS, the message you can't make it I think most would be fine about it and there's no flake involved! But sadly these flaky douchebags will alway's be around you can't get rid of them
good luck buddy if your ever Price way on the weekend hit us up we're anti-flake so we'll flat ass tell ya if we can or can't swang
Mr. Whooty
for a long time cause of the amount if money we have to put out to travel we live in Price Ut. BTW. It just suck's I mean honestly just call, text, email, USPS, the message you can't make it I think most would be fine about it and there's no flake involved! But sadly these flaky douchebags will alway's be around you can't get rid of them good luck buddy if your ever Price way on the weekend hit us up we're anti-flake so we'll flat ass tell ya if we can or can't swangMr. Whooty
Guess we've just been lucky. Never had anyone flake on a meet up and we've never missed a set date.
We don't get out much, so we understand how important everyone's time is. Either we're really good at screening, or we've just been really lucky at meeting the right people.
We don't get out much, so we understand how important everyone's time is. Either we're really good at screening, or we've just been really lucky at meeting the right people.
Happen way to much for what everyone is on this site for.
Cold feet happens often with people. Its just part of everyday life!
CUM_AGAIN wrote:I'm sure you're right...we sort of fit into that category. However, we have had so many folks bail on us, we try real hard to not leave anyone else hanging. We feel it is just rude, period. It's not that tough to just send a note and say "Sorry, can't make it" in a timely matter. No excuse needed.
Some people just don't know how to say they aren't interested. Most people in this lifestyle are lovers not fighters. We have been around long enough to see it happen.
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:We do the same thing....we use the notepad on their profile to keep track of folks who leave us expecting them. Like you, a few times, and they aren't invited anymore. While I can't recall anyone bailing on us like that when we meet one on one with another couple, it does happen quite frequently with any more than that. We like to invite couples over to soak in the hot tub on some weekends, often by means of a booty call, sort of a very small intimate meet and greet. Tub holds 8...so we invite only 6 more. Even with folks knowing the "seat" was reserved for them, and will go empty if they bail...it still happens that at least one or even sometimes two couples will not show...and leave the rest of us waiting for their arrival to adjourn to the hot tub. Very frustrating, to say the least.
We have a 3 strike rule. We just know that sometimes life gets in the way of playtime but After the third time of a no show we dub em flakes.. Yes a phone call txt or email to say "kiss my ass" or "hey can't make it" would be nice.
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:LOL...thanks! you guys are a blast, as well!
All I gotta say TIFFND is peeps that flake on you guys have to be just straight up crazy.
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:LOL...thanks! you guys are a blast, as well!
All I gotta say TIFFND is peeps that flake on you guys have to be just straight up crazy.
I second that.
We look at dealing with flakes as one of the risks you run in the this lifestyle. I think everyone has been stood up at least a few times, and it is a waste of time to worry very much about it. We try to avoid getting burned by the same people more than once, but we don't hold any grudges. Most importantly we never flake on somebody else.
Experienced_Virgin wrote:Nope...THANKS! LOL
We look at dealing with flakes as one of the risks you run in the this lifestyle. I think everyone has been stood up at least a few times, and it is a waste of time to worry very much about it. We try to avoid getting burned by the same people more than once, but we don't hold any grudges. Most importantly we never flake on somebody else.