How many of you swing exclusively with select couples? We have encountered some couples that would like to. Any others experienced the same?
D n D
D n D
We would IF we could find those couples who are very compatible. Of course we like to meet new people too so would hate to stop that altogether, so some sort of agreement from those envolved would help.
We would love to meet a couple or even some singles that we could get together with on a regular basis to hang out and have some fun. But to agree with Destin we like to meet new people too, thats a part of the enjoying this lifestyle too is meeting new peoplewith similar interests. To limit yourself to only a few select people would take that away. Plus the exclusive thing concerns us a bit that people get attached and jealous....
Whoever said that variety is the spice of life hit the nail right on the head. We know a couple we would love to hang out with all the time but unfortunately they live several hours away
We don't do the exclusive thing, though. We are constantly messaging and getting messages from other lifestyle participants and occasionally get the coordination in sync to get together with others. We love each other more than anything, but our relationship began in the swinger lifestyle and we still enjoy sharing each other with others
We don't do the exclusive thing, though. We are constantly messaging and getting messages from other lifestyle participants and occasionally get the coordination in sync to get together with others. We love each other more than anything, but our relationship began in the swinger lifestyle and we still enjoy sharing each other with othersTotally agree with the majority here. There's one couple we're great friends with - the last several times we've been together have been purely social - but they're over an hour and a half away. They're the only ones we've seen recently, but that's not by design. Either way, I don't know of anyone who's looked for an exclusive relationship with another couple. Making good friends is as important to us as having fun sex, so why would we want to narrow our options?
Just to add one more thought, I have spoken with a couple of women who were interested in a FMF relationship and/or solo play with me, but not if my wife and I were with other couples. I think it was generally that they didn't understand what "responsible" swinging is about and they expressed some concern. That might be an interesting topic too, I wonder if anyone else has encountered this?
We do like having a small group of *regulars* but throughly enjoy meeting new couples! Any one interested in meeting ???
Sugar
Sugar
It all depends on your point of view. My wife is very selective and has had a hard time finding the attraction/chemistry to play. The last few couples we have been out with the guy was a bore in regard to flirting or he was all hands and would not listen to Christy when she told him to back down.
At this point I would love to find an exclusive couple because then my wife would have her comfort level and we would also be able to play.
There is also the safety issue. The less partners the safer everyone is. Condoms and not sharing toys is great, but it's not 100% anyone that thinks different is fooling themselves.
At this point I would love to find an exclusive couple because then my wife would have her comfort level and we would also be able to play.
There is also the safety issue. The less partners the safer everyone is. Condoms and not sharing toys is great, but it's not 100% anyone that thinks different is fooling themselves.
We just enjoy meeting people if it leads to a fun sexual adventure great if it doesn't no problem UNLESS a cpl leads you to believe that there will be play down the road lets face it if we only wanted friends we would not be on this site we would go to the VFW or something else lol. We have a circle of friends we like to play with but we are always open to new REAL cpls as long as theyare as serious about thier fun as we are.
N&S
N&S
As far as we are concerned, we simply like going out and meeting new people with no expectations whatsoever. It is ony a very small percentage of the time that we actually become intimate with any other couple and only when the chemestry is "just right"...
We have made some great friends in the lifestyle and thusfar haven't even considered an "exclusive" relationship with any of them. I can only think that it would inhibit our ability to openly meet others. Besides, we have an exclusive relationship with eachother so why would we have any need to develop one with anyone else?
Shae and Billy
We have made some great friends in the lifestyle and thusfar haven't even considered an "exclusive" relationship with any of them. I can only think that it would inhibit our ability to openly meet others. Besides, we have an exclusive relationship with eachother so why would we have any need to develop one with anyone else?
Shae and Billy
I would love too, but the fact is that this lifestyle is very tough, even for the serious single guys who have real validations from real couples. Having a nice relationship with a couple would be wonderful, but as a single, they also must realize that this is not my life, but one small facet of it. I have met a few easy going couples, but unfortunately, I have since moved to Dallas...
Irish1178
Irish1178
I don't know thats a tough one ! It's great to have close friends , but then again , you can never have to many friends !!! 
If you find one or more couples who are compatable and agreeable there are some advantages... If couples are exclusive, yess it limits play partners and that is both a boon and a curse. Boon in that safe sex is possible without protection after testing and and a safe period to retest if necessary. The curse or drawback is that you have limited variety of partners....Unless you decide to bring in new people and utilize safe practices with them until they are tested and...
So it is done.. Since we all play safe it shouldn't matter unless you just wish to shed the condom. And if you shed anyway... play at your own risk.. The purpose of the exclusive thing is to limit exposure to STD's... or it's because this couple would like to become closer... "friends" and take it to the next level. It does happen and yes we have been asked to join a closed group.
Ray
So it is done.. Since we all play safe it shouldn't matter unless you just wish to shed the condom. And if you shed anyway... play at your own risk.. The purpose of the exclusive thing is to limit exposure to STD's... or it's because this couple would like to become closer... "friends" and take it to the next level. It does happen and yes we have been asked to join a closed group.
Ray
It is nice have a "core" group of friends/play buddies; however we aren't exclusive with each other so why be that way with others. We enjoy meeting new people also. "J"
We did have a couple who went from swing partners to friends to exclusive. We would meet with them regularly and the advantages were that the risks of non-safe sex were eliminated. Happily, this continued until the couple broke up. Now one member is still close with us, but the "exclusive" nature of our relationship has expired by mutual agreement, and we have returned to the use of safe sex with this person.
We like meeting new people and that is always fun, but it would be nice to have some regular "fuck buddies" We know them, they know us and we all know what we like. So if there are any takers local to us who would like some "regular" fuck budies....HINT
We have a group of friends that we like to play with fairly often. But half the fun is meeting new people and learning what they like/dislike. Plus, we like having new friends for outside the bedroom too
Not us. Variety. We\'re out to fuck everyone we think is hot who\'ll have us. We\'re picky too, yeah. But ... that\'s our prerogative. Some encounters go \"eh\", and don\'t happen again, some go really well... and still, unfortunately, never seem to happen again. Other times, we discover new friends, which is the best possible outcome. We\'re blessed to say we have many good friends and we keep coming back to them for more fun in and out of bed. They know who they are and they rock our world... we appreciate them being our friends. And lovers. Best of both worlds... what more can you ask for?
-R
-R
We would never see another couple exclusively because we love meeting new friends,and thats more important than any sex!even though the sex with a compatable couple is great!
We agree with an earlier post we are very exclusive, with each other......everything else is fair game . Seriously though, we are not exclusive with any other couples, and do not plan to be, but with that said, we sure seem to hang out with the same couples more than any others, so it might look exclusive at times, but it is more about hanging out with the people you enjoy.
. Seriously though, we are not exclusive with any other couples, and do not plan to be, but with that said, we sure seem to hang out with the same couples more than any others, so it might look exclusive at times, but it is more about hanging out with the people you enjoy.\"It all depends on your point of view. My wife is very selective and has had a hard time finding the attraction/chemistry to play. The last few couples we have been out with the guy was a bore in regard to flirting or he was all hands and would not listen to Christy when she told him to back down. \"
\"At this point I would love to find an exclusive couple because then my wife would have her comfort level and we would also be able to play. \"
This is us too. Either my wife doesn\'t like the other guy or his wife doesn\'t like my grey hair.
Its very tough to get together as a couple. We are both straight, wife will not even consider BI play so its tough to find others on the same page. We are not club goers, this is not a lifestyle for us, only something extra. If we could find an exclusive couple we would be satisfied. We are not looking for many, just quality and comfort level for all invloved.
\"At this point I would love to find an exclusive couple because then my wife would have her comfort level and we would also be able to play. \"
This is us too. Either my wife doesn\'t like the other guy or his wife doesn\'t like my grey hair.
Its very tough to get together as a couple. We are both straight, wife will not even consider BI play so its tough to find others on the same page. We are not club goers, this is not a lifestyle for us, only something extra. If we could find an exclusive couple we would be satisfied. We are not looking for many, just quality and comfort level for all invloved.
We have, in a way done it. We found a couple that we were very compatable with... But at the same time, we never stop looking as they didn\'t either. Probably would still be swinging with them if we wouldn\'t have moved.
I think it can be a good thing in some ways. But not the best idea in others
Donna & Brian
We found a couple that we were very compatable with... But at the same time, we never stop looking as they didn\'t either. Probably would still be swinging with them if we wouldn\'t have moved.I think it can be a good thing in some ways. But not the best idea in others
Donna & Brian
we have done it before and have had a couple who were exclusive with us only but we werent exclusive we dont prefer it nor discourage it variety is nice too but we are so bogged down with time issues most of the time its nice to have a steady thing for quick hookups lol
we are not exclusive but very selective we only have a few friends we play with
but have lots of friends
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we are not exclusive but very selective we only have a few friends we play with
but have lots of friends
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We have a couple that we would love to be exclusive with and they know who they are.W e are very,very selective in the people we have sex with.I've got to be able to open up to someone before i can have sex with them.(unless you are 5'2 and have dark hair So if you are interested just let us know.BECAUSE WE LOVE IT UP NORTH.
So if you are interested just let us know.BECAUSE WE LOVE IT UP NORTH.We are exclusive with a circle of friends but are always looking to add to the circle. Not sure but that might make us, not so much exclusive but it is our 2 cents worth. Being exclusive would get mundane after a while we think so adding to the mix here and there should prevent this. We will let you know.
Not 'exclusive', but we have found that at times we spend more time with certain couple than with others, especially when you first hit it off with someone new.
We've also had little groups that playtime is pretty frequent within.
CARESS4U
We've also had little groups that playtime is pretty frequent within.
CARESS4U
Swing,
are we the "spice" or one of the two?
Would love to be the frosting, or the cake, or even the after dinner mint..
UtHot
are we the "spice" or one of the two?
Would love to be the frosting, or the cake, or even the after dinner mint..
UtHot
Try the point system here. LMAO
exclusiveness or variety... its what you and yours are looking for. For us, it is hard to let go of inhibitions and completely open up to others...we prefer someone we both have talked to for a bit, and hung out with, we feel it makes everything better in the bedroom and creates better relationships in and out of the bedroom.
If a situation arises were we are both comfortable with a couple or lady, we will play, but for us there is nothing better than knowing the couple your playing with in and out of the bedroom..
plusses...of a exclusive couple
..safer (we might get crap for this but not having to constantly wonder about how many people the other couple is constantly sleeping with, is a big plus for us)
.. you always have someone to call when you finally get a babysitter lol (happens a lot)
..you both understand each others rules (having to go over the rules, likes, dislikes all the time with people you want to meet but end up lagging on you is TIRESOME
..familiarity can lead to better play in the bedroom
If a situation arises were we are both comfortable with a couple or lady, we will play, but for us there is nothing better than knowing the couple your playing with in and out of the bedroom..
plusses...of a exclusive couple
..safer (we might get crap for this but not having to constantly wonder about how many people the other couple is constantly sleeping with, is a big plus for us)
.. you always have someone to call when you finally get a babysitter lol (happens a lot)
..you both understand each others rules (having to go over the rules, likes, dislikes all the time with people you want to meet but end up lagging on you is TIRESOME
..familiarity can lead to better play in the bedroom
I can't imagine being exclusive with any couple (this is coming from a single female)ever again. What happens is that each half of the couple expects you to be at their beck and call for a one on one visit or a couple visit. Being 'on demand' by said couple is NOT what it's cracked up to be. Too many things go wrong.
As it is, I'm "exclusive" with the male half of a couple who's profile states that they don't play alone. Uh. Yeah. Right. What mama don't know, daddy enjoys regularly. But then we were involved LONG before they met and became a suedo couple.
Perhaps I'm just jaded. I hear that a lot of people find exclusive relationships with select couples rewarding. Just not MY experience.
As it is, I'm "exclusive" with the male half of a couple who's profile states that they don't play alone. Uh. Yeah. Right. What mama don't know, daddy enjoys regularly. But then we were involved LONG before they met and became a suedo couple.
Perhaps I'm just jaded. I hear that a lot of people find exclusive relationships with select couples rewarding. Just not MY experience.
We only have a single play friend at any given time. we do it out of comfort and safety.
no we like to meet new friends...we do have a few couples that we play with regularly, but not exclusively
We know of 2 couples that we would absolutely LOVE to play with (more than just a little flirty play at parties) but were informed one evening that they are exclusive with each other...boy was that a let down...we have had couples that we mostly hang out with but never exclusive....the only person that deserves me 100% exclusively is my hubby...don't get me wrong...we are by far from promiscuous...our issue is finding those couples that we are BOTH completely attracted too...who knows, if we ever find that we too may find ourselves being exclusive...who knows.....Naugh-Ty and Lucky B
SEXED103 wrote:
So what your really saying is you dont like to be exclusive unless it's with a MARRIED MAN/GUY IN A RELATIONSHIP CHEATING on his wife/girl friend.
NICE.... Guess it's not always the single male in this lifestyle thats a so called snake in the grass
Not quite, I was in a relationship (we lived together) with him for 8 months before we split up and we have continued our relationship, despite several attempts by both of us to just move on, we keep gravitating to each other.
ABCMAN wrote:
BLUUEYESINUTAH - You may want to check what your wrote. Ashley-Madison is a great site for that type of situation.
I've noticed in Utah, that the exclusivity issue seems to be a bigger deal. I'm not sure it's because of safety issues, or the culture, but we've noticed allot of people want some type of exclusive relationship. Now of course "Open Marriages" where a Tri or Quad actually live together are totally different arrangements (but are those really swinging). Most swinging is defined as non-committal sex with other couples or singles that you share together or with knowledge of each others activities.
My wife and I the other day were talking about this, "why the heck do people sneak around still in the Lifestyle, especially when they have a hall pass! My wife is always smarter then me, and she thinks it's because some people are driven by the need to be sneaky, the fear of getting caught is a turn on and they need to feed that turn on." She maybe correct, and thankfully as far as I know that's not an issue in our marriage.
As to that site, I have no idea what its about. Im not looking for a partner who is married or committed. In fact, Im not looking period. I'm seeing someone who just happens to be in a relationship with someone else after he and I broke up. Please see my above response about the particulars. Now, as to what you said about sneaking around despite hall passes, I don't have the answers. I just know that I was always asked to lie for each of the halves of the couple and I got tired of it. I attempted twice with 2 couples and both times it was very messy.
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An exclusive swing relationship is frequently a polyamorous relationship, it's very common.
Been there and done that exclusive thing It might work for some but not for us !!!! Most of us are already married so why be married to another couple ??? We have some great friends that we hang out with all the time but we like to meet new people and dont want to be tied down to one couple ..... We are whores and love to get around !!! Hahahaha
Sounds more like polyamory to me. The distinction to me is that swinging seems to be about having multiple sex partners. Polyamory seems to be more about having multiple lovers.
Have met a couple of couples who wanted that. We would be willing to for a great match in a couple but would prefer a couple that we could be with alot but could also go elsewhere from time to time.
We've been in the lifestyle since 2002 and have developed some very close relationships with about five or six couples. We enjoy each other in and out of the bedroom . . . at one point there were six of us (three couples) that got together on a regular basis for fun day activities and then evenings of play. It probably the best experience we've had in the lifestyle, especially when everyone is compatible. The best thing is when everyone gets their needs met because of the bond we have.
Of course we do love the hot experiences of hooking up for a wild time at a party with someone we've just met, but having some close friends in the lifestyle is great as well . . . everyone knows each other so well that our likes and dislikes don't have to be explained. D . . . and D
Of course we do love the hot experiences of hooking up for a wild time at a party with someone we've just met, but having some close friends in the lifestyle is great as well . . . everyone knows each other so well that our likes and dislikes don't have to be explained. D . . . and D