Swingers Forum - Now a single male looking for a rebound play

,just remember you deserve better

The lifestyle has completely taken over me!! I'm a sex driven nympho thanks to the naughty fun of swinging!! Oh wait.. I was before that's why we have been in the lifestyle for over 10yrs.

Well I am single now so lol the rebound play. But I may want to play again in the future can you change profile from single back to couple if you change your mind

May just be me but.... Sounds like the lifestyle has taken over you as well. You wanna play but don't want your other half to.

There are certain posts (like this one) that will result in a for-sure smack-down of the OP . . .

Dammit, PALS. That was the first thing on the list...verbatim! And I'm offended that you think I would write something silly. Ludicrous, maybe. Silly? Never!







It's like you're inside my head or something.

Personally I blame EVILDOERS for everything and anything that has ever gone wrong in my life!
I thought that would make me feel better, but no he has done something to keep even that small joy away from me!

The OP doesn

SOLO_MAN42 wrote:

Why is everyone so mad at this guy?! LOL

Ya did make me giggle with that one! I don't think anyone is mad at him. I just think he seems to be in the wrong venue for what he's looking for.

I'm not going to post on a BDSM site for male companionship when what gets me off is being tickled with feathers.

loversofsex wrote:

Lol I wantrd to drop out of swinging she didn't so still tried for her. But I gave it up fully she began cheating

I think I'll start beginning my posts with my name, so someone can tell if it's the male half or the female half writing something. That may be of limited usefulness because my name could also belong to a girl, but if anyone's really that interested they could likely figure it out from our profile. I'm pretty sure one or more of our public pics has a name in the caption. So:

From Terry.

Was She "Cheating"? Or did she just continue swinging after you decided to give it up? Look, and please understand that this is NOT meant in any way as a put down or anything else negative, but it sounds like you have issues that you don't want to have if you're going to be in the lifestyle. There are three things that we're taught as we grow up that mitigate against swinging. First, that sex is somehow dirty and shameful and that it belongs behind closed doors, and that one should never talk about it. This one, I think, our society is beginning to grow out of, but it's still around. People don't talk explicitly about sex in "polite society". And there are certainly some folks who do this or that but look down on anyone else that they hear does the same things. I could go on with the examples, but won't. The second thing is monogamous love being the only valid kind. You're supposed to find the one (ONE!!!) that's your soulmate and spend your lives together. And even though we've finally reached the point where, as a society, we no longer accept sex only as part of a marriage, society still believes it has to be limited to being between those loving soulmates. And while the society now accepts that the soulmate might change from time to time, the sex still has to stay within the current relationship. Third is the ownership thing. She owns him, and he owns her, and anyone outside that relationship having sex with either one of them is somehow stealing something from the partner. Unfortunately, that does seem to be more the case with the male owning the female than with the female owning the male, but I'm not going to spend an hour ranting about my opinion of the sexism inherent in that.

If you believe in these three things, and the vast majority of people do to one degree or another, then you really shouldn't be trying to participate in the lifestyle. It obviously bothered you that your lady wanted to have sex with people other than you. I'd guess you felt like she was being "unfaithful" because of that "sex is only for two devoted people" thing, or because you felt like someone else was taking what was rightfully yours and yours alone. And maybe you were worried she didn't really love you because she wanted to have sex elsewhere.

Given that you blame the lifestyle itself for the breakup, I'm sorry, but you REALLY don't want to be in it. You obviously want an exclusive, monogamous, relationship, and you're not likely to find it here. I mean, what are the options? Most women here are part of a couple, and do you figure you can "steal" one from her partner? There are a very few single women, so few that they're called Unicorns, but if they were looking for a long term, monogamous, relationship I don't think they'd be on a swinger site.

I'm not going to presume to tell anyone how they have to think to be a swinger. But there are some obvious "requirements" if you're going to stay happy doing it. You need to somehow separate just sex from long term love relationships, unless maybe you're polyamorous. Yes, sex usually does involve some kind of emotional involvement. Not always, but it's a heck of a lot nicer and more fun when it does. Even the most casual of sex can involve emotion. If some girl wants sixteen guys to screw her, or wants sixteen guys to caress and lick on her, I'd feel an emotional attachment just 'cause I'll automatically and instantly like someone who has an attitude that lets her do something like that. And if I ended up being one of those sixteen guys, I'd be doing whatever it was while feeling and trying to give love to that girl. And that would in no way detract from, or even change, the love I have for my wife. Nor would it be a possessive, "now she's mine", kind of love. Love, in all of its shapes and forms and all of its degrees and types, is not some kind of limited commodity. It doesn

11MIKE wrote:

TMACA well said

Leftover Hippies (me) and Witches (both of us) tend to have weird attitudes, compared to the "norm", but they do seem to fit in kind of nicely in this environment.

11MIKE wrote:

Hippies rule I went to high school in Berkeley

Sorry I missed you, I was there for a minute in May of '70, but heck, you were what, 6 then?. On my way back from Vietnam. Strangely enough, on my way TO Vietnam, I'd spent a weekend being wet, hungry, a little cold, and a lot high, at White Lake, NY. A High School friend had asked me if I wanted to go to an outdoors rock concert while I was home on leave, so I did, turned out to be something folks nowadays refer to as Woodstock. So I guess Berkeley being my first stop after Oakland Army Terminal on my way back was appropriate. Big doins there then, over the Cambodia invasion, which I'd just come from.

"Hey, is it too late to blame evil for some of my problems? Damn you evil, Grrrrr...."


I TOLD you JAY, that those sores on your pee pee aren't my fault. Now quit following me on Snapchat!

Yeah but going on a swinger's site to find sex, after wanting to quit swinging which led to the breakup of your relationship...isn't that a little bit like going out looking for drugs to get over the pain of having to quit drugs? Something doesn't quite smell right here. Now it could just be that latest shipment of dead ferrets that UPS brought today for my taxidermy final exam where I'm going to fix those little guys up, dress them in period costumes and then reenact the Battle of Gettysburg or it could be that there's more to this story or more likely LESS to this story than we're hearing.

If Ms. Evil and I started sky diving and then I wanted to stop because I thought it was dangerous and she didn't want to stop and then one day her parachute didn't open I kinda doubt I'd want to go sky diving to get over her death. Scuba diving maybe. Hell, maybe even bungee jumping but definitely not sky diving.

SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:

To us, he is just a pathetic example of what's wrong with single males. So he figures us couples are here to give them a quick fuck with out it costing them anything including effort.

Couldn't agree more. It's time we stated charging by the hour!

Thank you, Mike your a awesome friend, xoxo

Could it just be the problem started before swingular.

Come to think of it swingular as caused me a few problems like that Viagra headache you get in the morning, well guess like everything else you have to take the good with the bad.

UTAHCOUPLE4PLAY wrote:

Could it just be the problem started before swingular.

Come to think of it swingular as caused me a few problems like that Viagra headache you get in the morning, well guess like everything else you have to take the good with the bad.

OK, just a tiny bit off topic here, apologies since everyone else has kept this thing so right on its track, but... Viagra is supposed to let your dick get hard if your blood circulation has gotten tired, or whatever it does when you get old (I expect to have that problem, whatever it is, any day now, maybe even before I finish typing this), but a whole bunch of people who couldn't possibly need it for that use it anyway, so just what in the Hell IS it good for besides erectile dysfunction? OK, I better check and see if I've gotten the problem yet, let's see... Oh heck, I forgot, the wife's at work, and I'm used to having her to help check things like that out. One more bit of proof of how necessary the girls are, and how we couldn't live without them.

UTAHCOUPLE4PLAY wrote:

What do you mean your Witches there are no hats or brooms on your profile or are you just making fun of halloween? Talk about misleading people.

TMACA wrote:

[quote=11MIKE]TMACA well said

Leftover Hippies (me) and Witches (both of us) tend to have weird attitudes, compared to the "norm", but they do seem to fit in kind of nicely in this environment.

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Uh, we don't have any pointy hats. And Dana likes those Swifter-type thingies so we don't have any brooms either. THAT must be why we do the sole practitioner thing instead of the coven bit. And all this time we thought that it was just how we wanted to be. Darn. We must have been subjected to a banishment spell by the ones that are properly equipped, along with a forgetfulness thing so we wouldn't remember it. I better dig into my Book Of Shadows and see if I can find a counter spell so we can figure out just who did it to us, and go tell them we think that was really excessive punishment just for a difference in opinion over fashion. Blessed be.

TMACA wrote:

UTAHCOUPLE4PLAY wrote:

Could it just be the problem started before swingular.

Come to think of it swingular as caused me a few problems like that Viagra headache you get in the morning, well guess like everything else you have to take the good with the bad.

OK, just a tiny bit off topic here, apologies since everyone else has kept this thing so right on its track, but... Viagra is supposed to let your dick get hard if your blood circulation has gotten tired, or whatever it does when you get old (I expect to have that problem, whatever it is, any day now, maybe even before I finish typing this), but a whole bunch of people who couldn't possibly need it for that use it anyway, so just what in the Hell IS it good for besides erectile dysfunction? OK, I better check and see if I've gotten the problem yet, let's see... Oh heck, I forgot, the wife's at work, and I'm used to having her to help check things like that out. One more bit of proof of how necessary the girls are, and how we couldn't live without them.

No problem getting it up but it sure can burn the fuse a lot longer for added fun. And why can't everyone Rede it
would take care of a lot of problems.

No problem getting it up but it sure can burn the fuse a lot longer for added fun. And why can't everyone Rede it would take care of a lot of problems.

What I'm waiting for is a pill that lets guys have those multiple, sequential, orgasms the girls have. I've come to the conclusion that sex is sexist, but in the girls' favor instead of the guys' the way most sexist things are. And since my religion believes in the Goddess, I'll bet she fixed it that way on purpose.

Pretty much but also I don't know. Maybe the L's can't be blamed for a cheater maybe me and a new person will want to swing.
But yes I want a good fuck to help me feel its over lol.

11MIKE wrote:

So basicly you want to get laid till you find a girlfriend then you want a monogamous relasonahip. Good luck

SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:

loversofsex wrote:

Pretty much but also I don't know. Maybe the L's can't be blamed for a cheater maybe me and a new person will want to swing.
But yes I want a good fuck to help me feel its over lol.[quote=11MIKE]So basicly you want to get laid till you find a girlfriend then you want a monogamous relasonahip. Good luck

Have you considered the traditional method of meeeting a women if thats your direction and asking her/him out. Perhaps at your work, though usually causes problems. Or at the locations you go for hobbies, or the grocery.

You could even try going to a club with you guy friends and offering to buy a lady a drink to get to know her.

Just thinking here, when I was single I never thought of trying to seek a pitty fuck on a swinger site. Put I am older, guess the younger generation has different thoughts. Best of luck. But from the shit your getting on here you are diggin yourself deeper and less likely to get laid. I would cut this thread to pieces and hope everyone forgets your sad attempt ad a quick fuck. One things for sure, if we were at a party and Mrs. Simple decided to fuck every male there for kicks, I would not let you touch her.

Let me be clear. I love dissing on the single males. But we ahve played with more single guys than single women. But every single guy we have invited over became friend first. did not try to fuck on the 10th time out at a party with us. It was Mrs. Simple that instigated it. after knowing them well and feeling comfortable that she wasnt just a quick easy fuck, or notch...

So for us, your whole premise disgusts us. [/quote]

Grab your torch and pitchfork, we have an SM that doesn't fit our parameters so let's tell him how disgusting he is. Sounds a bit like the religion and culture we all like to bash doesn't it? Mr. Simple, Internet Tough Guy!

That is my favorite movie! The first one at least. I love that Boulder.

[quote=UTAHCOUPLE4PLAY]If you are healthy in body, mind, and spirit you probably want a rich and fulfilling sex life. If you are a woman brought up in the Muslim, Christian, or Judaic tradition you were probably told you can