Why are there flakes? People that flake on you. Do you know any, let everyone else know who is a flake.
Fortunately we have not been "Flaked out on" after driving to SLC and getting a hotel etc. Seems like when we meet local people they are more likely to no show, maybe they think since it's local it's less of an inconvenience.
As a side note what kind of moron would flake out on you!
Bob
As a side note what kind of moron would flake out on you!
Bob
We have been very lucky both with people we have met on Swingular in SL area and in Houston from other sites. You cannot take it to seriously if people "flake" at the last moment. In reality it is there problem not yours....next couple please. If they have been verified maybe it makes a difference but really who knows. Its just one of those things you have to deal with.
For us its humorous that we have not met anyone from Houston from Swingular even though there are some locals on the site. The folks we have communicated with and met form Utah have all been very nice, no "flakes". The local site here in Houston, Couples Touch has a lot of great locals but I am sure I would not meet anyone too far from this area.
You just got to go with the flow and I think at some point you get a feel for when the odds are they will "flake".
For us its humorous that we have not met anyone from Houston from Swingular even though there are some locals on the site. The folks we have communicated with and met form Utah have all been very nice, no "flakes". The local site here in Houston, Couples Touch has a lot of great locals but I am sure I would not meet anyone too far from this area.
You just got to go with the flow and I think at some point you get a feel for when the odds are they will "flake".
There are all sorts of people in this world (and on Swingular). Some are flakes, some are fakes, and some are just fucktarded twatwaffles. The cold hard truth is that once you stop expecting people to do anything (including showing up) you will have a much calmer life. I mean really, the only people you reasonably have any kind of expectation to do something you want them to do is someone that you are paying to do it (employee, contractor, hooker) and even then there are some that still won't end up doing what you want them to do. Some will, some won't, so what? Next!
Oh, and disclosing someone who flaked on you could possibly be construed as a violation of the TOS so tread lightly unless you want to see how many actually show up from your craigslist ad.
Oh, and disclosing someone who flaked on you could possibly be construed as a violation of the TOS so tread lightly unless you want to see how many actually show up from your craigslist ad.
Ok where are the flake people Im ready for them!
And they prolly flaked because they found a BBD (no not big black dick...a bigger better deal) which many people, especially in swinging, appear to be constantly looking for.
Dammit! Now I'm craving some Fortified Oat Flakes. Used to love that shit and then the fuckers stopped making it.
Dammit! Now I'm craving some Fortified Oat Flakes. Used to love that shit and then the fuckers stopped making it.
Am I a flake if I show up, park outside "their" residence, call them, and he refuses to put her on the phone? And I don't go in because I don't know what I am walking into.
Mav
Mav
lol Mav yes you are. However I don't think the right thing to do is call them out in public on a forum all that achieves is problems and more drama. There could of been many reasons they didn't show up but a phone call would probably of been nice. There is many reasons some people don't show up. For us we will understand one time but the second time its over for us to contact them. As far as posting on booty calls we don't answer all our emails because we either already made a date or forgot to delete it. Hope people don't think thats flacky but if it does I'm sorry well really we aren't.
In2Love, I haven't called them out. I have not said their profile names. I would NEVER do that in a public forum.
There was no "showing up" involved. I came to THEIR house! It was me that traveled to them. They should have been there.
Mav
There was no "showing up" involved. I came to THEIR house! It was me that traveled to them. They should have been there.
Mav
You show for a meet in a club, and its just some guy alone, no couple he said he was told to check me out. by him self and the next time the" wife" would be there flake!! no just a scammer trying to get laid he needed to be (castrated)
Everyone has reasons in their life that has them change plans, between work and kids and shit between you and your spouse, life just happens, its not that you missed the show but how you missed the show, excuse after excuse or no call or last minute call, or several cancellations in a row, just have some balls and say you found something you would rather do, yes it bites just a bit but we should all be big kids with our grown up panties on so we should understand right.
To call them out on the forms would not be right in our minds, just tell them thanks for their time, be nice when you see them and move on. There is so many great people on here that just needs the meet for great things to happen, dont waste any more of your life on those people that do not deserve it, if you do they win. just out .02
To call them out on the forms would not be right in our minds, just tell them thanks for their time, be nice when you see them and move on. There is so many great people on here that just needs the meet for great things to happen, dont waste any more of your life on those people that do not deserve it, if you do they win. just out .02
Amen KRAZYGIRL (it's Conference Sunday afterall). You don't know what is going on in people's lives. They could have just won a thousand bucks in the lottery and be rushing up to Malad to collect. Been run over by a Trax train. Found out their cat really IS evil and has been trying to kill them in their sleep. Started their car and it suddenly turned into a Transformer. Read their horoscope and it told them not to fuck other people today. Opened their sock drawer only to find that there weren't any that matched (would YOU go on a hookup with mismatched socks?). Realized that their DVR is full and if they don't binge watch all of the final season of Matlock they won't have room for the Wizard's of Waverly Place marathon. Woken up in the morning and found two new oozing sores on their junk. Now aren't you glad that they didn't show up?!!? 
We have that effect on folks. Meet them apt a restaurant and talk about getting together for a play date and they later decide they don want to be in the lifestyle.
So it's likely us causing everyone else problems
Men cheating on their wives. Naw never. You think. We have a guy lives close to us. Part of our art/figure drawing group. Asks if he can come to a party because he never has sex with his wife. Obviously the answer was no.
So it's likely us causing everyone else problems
Men cheating on their wives. Naw never. You think. We have a guy lives close to us. Part of our art/figure drawing group. Asks if he can come to a party because he never has sex with his wife. Obviously the answer was no.
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We have that effect on folks. Meet them apt a restaurant and talk about getting together for a play date and they later decide they don want to be in the lifestyle.
So it's likely us causing everyone else problems
You may have a very bright future in conversion/reparative therapy, especially if you can also have the same effect on gay kids. There are about a million very religious people looking for someone who can turn their gay kid straight. And probably more than a few spouses who would like you to turn their swinger spouse monogamous again.
The deal is, in my mind, if you say you'll be there then you BE there. You NEVER just leave people hanging. If you aren't sure in the first place that you want to do whatever with whomever, then don't tell them you will. And about finding something better ... uh-uh. That something better, if it IS better, will wait. You made a commitment to someone and you really need to keep it. OK, shit does happen. If it does you NEED to contact whoever you were supposed to meet and tell them,
[quote=TMACA]The deal is, in my mind, if you say you'll be there then you BE there. You NEVER just leave people hanging. If you aren't sure in the first place that you want to do whatever with whomever, then don't tell them you will. And about finding something better ... uh-uh. That something better, if it IS better, will wait. You made a commitment to someone and you really need to keep it. OK, shit does happen. If it does you NEED to contact whoever you were supposed to meet and tell them,[/quounderstaundersta
Now that is how it should be, shit
happen, its how you take care of it and how you try and make it happen the next time.
And that better thing,just tell me, I know if Brad and Angie showed up my wife would tell me, sorry dear but I have a better deal so you will hqve to wait. Now would I be a little but hurt, well yea cuz I so would want to tickle Angie in all the right places but do that this is on her buckett list and I should let her.
Now that is how it should be, shit
happen, its how you take care of it and how you try and make it happen the next time.
And that better thing,just tell me, I know if Brad and Angie showed up my wife would tell me, sorry dear but I have a better deal so you will hqve to wait. Now would I be a little but hurt, well yea cuz I so would want to tickle Angie in all the right places but do that this is on her buckett list and I should let her.
We had like three dinner dates set with KellogCouple and they flaked each time even after promising to be a greeaaat couple
We have had our fair share of flakes. We have had people friend request and message us but when we reply we get ignored. We can see that you have read our email so if your not interested then don't request or message us. We have also meet people at resteraunts who swore up and down they were into us but after we left completely ignored us. People please be honest with us. If you are not into us politely say it and don't lie and then ignore us.
Seems to be just a way of life, here....If you throw a party, or event of some kind, expect about 1/2 or 2/3 of the ones who say they are coming to show up. At least that has been our experience. Recently posted a booty call for 3 new couples to come join us for a little "meet and Greet" in the hot tub....had four respond...had to turn one couple away, regretfully...tub only seats 8...
In the end? One couple showed up. Had a real nice time, anyway, but, How tough is it, especially knowing your spot was "reserved for you" so to speak...to send a note, something, beforehand, that says "sorry..somethings come up...Can't make it? Would have been real nice to have been able to invite someone else. One of our pet peeves...for sure.
In the end? One couple showed up. Had a real nice time, anyway, but, How tough is it, especially knowing your spot was "reserved for you" so to speak...to send a note, something, beforehand, that says "sorry..somethings come up...Can't make it? Would have been real nice to have been able to invite someone else. One of our pet peeves...for sure.
When I moved from Portland OR to Illinois in 2013 I contacted a couple who lives near Ogden through Swingular. We agreed to meet at my hotel in Ogden. I bought flowers for her and a bottle of wine for him. I dressed as we agreed and waited for them for 4 hours in the lobby of the hotel. They never showed, never called (they had my cell number), never emailed and to this day have not let me know what happened. Yes, I was going to be in Ogden that day. I was taught that if you have an appointment and you decide not to keep, the civilized thing to do is to call and break the appointment. I will NEVER communicate with that couple again. No, I will not OUT that couple on Swingular. They know who they are.