So my wife and I are new to the lifestyle and looking for some suggestions on how to initiate the fun part of meeting someone. We are comfortable meeting up and talking but when its time to play we don't know how to start it. Any suggestions?
First make sure everything has been discussed and all are good with playing sexually. Second, since the chance of offending a male by to much to fast is extremely remote, I typically undo his pants and start sucking his cock. The other female usually follows my lead with my hubby because everybody knows ladies are very competitive.
As soon the situation gets that far it's pretty much on auto-pilot so just let the good times roll!
MrsTj
As soon the situation gets that far it's pretty much on auto-pilot so just let the good times roll!MrsTj
We prefer to pussyfoot around 'till it's like 3 in the morning and everyone is just so fucking tired we all want to go home and go to sleep. 
No, really. Pussyfooting is this totally awesome game/icebreaker. You start by rolling the dice. If you roll a Yahtzee you get to stick your foot in...well, it's too detailed to explain here but it's a really fun game and it quickly puts all your cards on the table...so to speak.
ps- Be sure to wear clean socks.
No, really. Pussyfooting is this totally awesome game/icebreaker. You start by rolling the dice. If you roll a Yahtzee you get to stick your foot in...well, it's too detailed to explain here but it's a really fun game and it quickly puts all your cards on the table...so to speak.
ps- Be sure to wear clean socks.
Take Evildoers advice... start earlier and just ask.
Thanks, hopefully next time will be easier.
TJ69 is right the girls should start things, they are the ones that usually control how things will go so easy way to start is let them that way no one will feel pressure about the whole deal.
This is the wife.....I'm actually really shy to begin with and I prefer men to take control. Once we get going I feel more comfortable.
I like the woman (women) to make the first move. No man likes rejection. I miss the club atmosphere due to mindless and unnecessary discrimination against widowed males. I attend mostly private parties because they are more open to single men. Like I said though, there is nothing sexier and able to get things going then having a woman grab my crotch, open my pants and swallow my cock. I would feel strange meeting a woman and just sticking my hand down her dress.
You know it's wonderful for a woman when she wants to share with you.
Instead of it always being 2 girls for 1 guy.. with the girls being bi..
Give her a special time and forfill her fantasies.. try it you'll like it.
She'll love you for it.. in very special ways.
Instead of it always being 2 girls for 1 guy.. with the girls being bi..
Give her a special time and forfill her fantasies.. try it you'll like it.
She'll love you for it.. in very special ways.
If you have any inclination to play with girls, start it between the girls then invite the men into the action, no one will object to watching two girls kiss and touch each other, problem is some men push to far to.fast and that will shut my lady down fast, just because she is at a lifestyle party and is willing she is not willing with everyone, and she still should be treated like a lady, groping without permission is wrong.
Now between two couples in a private setting now thats a little bit different, ask and be nice and adhere to a no thank you if you get one, and dont be offended. Some people need some chemistry between all four people and others just want to have fun. Talk about it between the four people and hang on, qnd have fun.lol
Now between two couples in a private setting now thats a little bit different, ask and be nice and adhere to a no thank you if you get one, and dont be offended. Some people need some chemistry between all four people and others just want to have fun. Talk about it between the four people and hang on, qnd have fun.lol
Remove clothes, undergarment's ect next bend him/her over spit on the intended hole and proceed to violating said hole
YMAN48 wrote:
I like the woman (women) to make the first move. No man likes rejection. I miss the club atmosphere due to mindless and unnecessary discrimination against widowed males. I attend mostly private parties because they are more open to single men. Like I said though, there is nothing sexier and able to get things going then having a woman grab my crotch, open my pants and swallow my cock. I would feel strange meeting a woman and just sticking my hand down her dress.
Women don't like rejection either. And when I say make the first move I mean take me by the hand and sit next to each other maybe start rubbing my thigh or breasts on top of my clothes. After that I can take charge.
Their has to be some games people play to get people up and touching each other,no one wants to be the one to make the first move but we all aren't far behind.We all are their to have fun and the longer you sit the more awkward it get.I just want to get naked and jump on peoples couches
Your adults and this is not dating to find a lifelong partner.
We like to meet at parties then go out and eat at a restaurant. We then in a very open way ask what are you looking for. This is what we are interested in. No details left unsaid. If all goes well to that point and we are on the same level of thinking we go home and do what we just said we wanted to do.
Some will say they prefer to sit in the hot tub and have a drink first. Etc. but keep in kind mr. Has only had full sex with three gals in 8 years in the LS. Mrs. A few more, seems easier for the gals to get what they want.
We like to meet at parties then go out and eat at a restaurant. We then in a very open way ask what are you looking for. This is what we are interested in. No details left unsaid. If all goes well to that point and we are on the same level of thinking we go home and do what we just said we wanted to do.
Some will say they prefer to sit in the hot tub and have a drink first. Etc. but keep in kind mr. Has only had full sex with three gals in 8 years in the LS. Mrs. A few more, seems easier for the gals to get what they want.
I prefer to just whip out the old Johnson and say, "Want some?" Works every time cuz I'm such a suave, smooth talker. If the lady is a little shy I jerk on it a little bit and make humping motions with my hips (it helps if you're sticking your tongue out in a sexy sultry way while you do this). What lady can resist THAT?
[quote=JUSTUSKS]Their has to be some games people play to get people up and touching each other,no one wants to be the one to make the first move but we all aren't far behind.We all are their to have fun and the longer you sit the more awkward it get.I just want to get naked and jump on peoples couches
Yes [quote=GLITZY][quote=KRAZYGIRL][quote=JUSTUSKS]Their has to be some games people play to get people up and touching each other,no one wants to be the one to make the first move but we all aren't far behind.We all are their to have fun and the longer you sit the more awkward it get.I just want to get naked and jump on peoples couches
I have Jello, and a very big couch, holds about 10 people easy. So wildhearts drive north 3hr 7 min and have a jump.lol
When?...Where?
SEEHERFULL wrote:
tops off at 10 seems to work pretty well
Oh this is how every woman wants it done! The only thing that would be better would be if you walked around smacking women with the old Johnson before asking if I want some
EVILDOERS wrote:
I prefer to just whip out the old Johnson and say, "Want some?" Works every time cuz I'm such a suave, smooth talker. If the lady is a little shy I jerk on it a little bit and make humping motions with my hips (it helps if you're sticking your tongue out in a sexy sultry way while you do this). What lady can resist THAT?
Most of the time if couples do not want to play on first meeting they say so. I'm lucky because my woman does not mind getting things started. She will either say something or go and start giving a message. Discussion before action makes things go smoother and generally makes everyone more comfortable. It has always provided a more satisfying experience for us.
[quote=ONEHOTGINGER]Oh this is how every woman wants it done! The only thing that would be better would be if you walked around smacking women with the old Johnson before asking if I want some
That's phase two...after you've primed the pump so to speak. You can't rush these things. They require finesse. Now if you're a total stud (have like color coded cock rings, one for each day of the week and wear only Affliction shirts and stuff) you can sometimes skip a step here and there. But an average Joe needs to take his time so ya don't spook the lady. Walk up to her slowly so she can sniff the back of your hand (be sure to wear LOTS of aftershave on your hand...especially if you have really hairy hands). Then pat her on the head and tell her what a good girl she is...
hmmmm...I may be getting this confused with how to approach a Hippogriff. Anyway, the point is to know how to treat women. I watch lots of shows like Mad Men and Dancing With The Stars. Chicks dig that shit, so after you whack her in the face with your dick if you DIP her while staring deep into her eyes she'll tear her clothes off and beg to be fucked...I think.
That's phase two...after you've primed the pump so to speak. You can't rush these things. They require finesse. Now if you're a total stud (have like color coded cock rings, one for each day of the week and wear only Affliction shirts and stuff) you can sometimes skip a step here and there. But an average Joe needs to take his time so ya don't spook the lady. Walk up to her slowly so she can sniff the back of your hand (be sure to wear LOTS of aftershave on your hand...especially if you have really hairy hands). Then pat her on the head and tell her what a good girl she is...
hmmmm...I may be getting this confused with how to approach a Hippogriff. Anyway, the point is to know how to treat women. I watch lots of shows like Mad Men and Dancing With The Stars. Chicks dig that shit, so after you whack her in the face with your dick if you DIP her while staring deep into her eyes she'll tear her clothes off and beg to be fucked...I think.
Evildoers your posts are always the Best!!
This does not work all the time: whip your cock out and tell the ladies you are a blowjob skills assessor.
SUENDAN wrote:
This does not work all the time: whip your cock out and tell the ladies you are a blowjob skills assessor.
Yeah but what if she says that she just got evaluated and certified by her bish and/or stk. pres. when she went in to get her t. recommend renewed? You'd have to convince her somehow that YOUR certification trumps that of a man called of God to do His holy work. That's a tough sell, my friend.
I like all your guys's suggestions. Evil,looking forward to your comments daily.