For the ladies does it offend you if your partner calls you a Slut or Whore in the heat of passsion?
I don't take offense to being called a slut in the bedroom, but being called a whore is a whole different game in my book.
While entertaining another couple in the bedroom the male half reffered to me as a whore while performing oral on him, and it killed the mood for me. Needless to say he was left high and dry.
I don't take offense to being called a slut in the bedroom, but being called a whore is a whole different game in my book.
While entertaining another couple in the bedroom the male half reffered to me as a whore while performing oral on him, and it killed the mood for me. Needless to say he was left high and dry.
It depends on the moment and how they mean it.If it is in play,sometimes it can be exciting.But,if it is said negativly, then it's not good.Sometimes,I like to be called slut in play
That's a tough call. One word can be offensive to one person and nothing to another. I was with a couple one time and the female liked to be degraded verbally but where do you draw the line? Dirty talk can be very erotic but can also spoil the mood if the wrong thing is said. I think the best thing is to establish limits prior to playing.
Well only I call my wife those names in the bedroom if another guy says that shit to her be assured I would knock his fckin teeth right down his disrespectful throat I know you said "ladies only" but this is a very sensitive subject you never disrespect MY QUEEN!
There are certain things I say and do with my wife that I wouldn't do with someone else's, at least, not without some discussion...
Agree with SeeHer - it certainly varies from person to person but we've met many ladies who like dominance & dirty talk during foreplay & sex. Easier to talk before than being pissed afterwards because you didn't discuss any ground rules.
Well my hubby already replied to this but, I think he and I may not completely agree on this subject.I enjoy being dominated and the language that goes with it when i'm with my husband. For it to be OK with me for a hook-up to do this I would have to know them rather well and have some discussion before hand. Because the only reason these words are acceptable for me in the bedroom is that I am receiving respect outside the bedroom.
Agree with AWHOOTY wufe, If my wife likes it and she does with me she will be ok with it but on the same hand if she says don't say it or do it then it better stop.
Personally I don't like either term. I know that some gals enjoy a fetish of sorts that includes dominance and being verbally degraded and if that's your deal so be it. I prefer positive statements during sex like sexy, hot, incredible and so forth. I have had a guy call me a little slut during a Gang Bang and I could almost feel myself drying up. It really is a turn off to me.
MrsTj
MrsTj
In my opinion (male here) I believe that you need to have a certain comfort level with the woman you talk this way to, and know how she likes to be treated, I think it would be very hard to even playfully call a woman I just met a slut or whore, even if she said she likes it. like I said I think its a trust and comfort thing between two people.
Its like everything else in this lifestyle, if your ok with it then by all means do it however if you don't then say No and live by the rule NO means NO. Pretty simple to us
I don't mind being called a good little slut in the bedroom,but when a guy is jamming his cock down your throat telling you to suck it you f-ing whore, that's where I draw the line. I'm not some $10 crack whore from the side of the road.
And makes me worried he visits $10 crack whore for his pleasure.
Maybe its just me, but rubbed me the wrong way.
And makes me worried he visits $10 crack whore for his pleasure.
Maybe its just me, but rubbed me the wrong way.
Nathalie, it is 1,000,000% up to you, period!
If you like, go for it, if not, stop it, pretty simple.
It made you uncomfortable, so it was stopped.
He fucked up by not asking!
Mrs. Jstjim72 HATES when someone grabs her head during oral, if we forget to mention it and he does it, immediately there's a corrective statement made, if he does it again, we're done.
If you like, go for it, if not, stop it, pretty simple.
It made you uncomfortable, so it was stopped.
He fucked up by not asking!
Mrs. Jstjim72 HATES when someone grabs her head during oral, if we forget to mention it and he does it, immediately there's a corrective statement made, if he does it again, we're done.
The use of derogatory terms with a woman is a turn off for me as a man and I would hope most men. But my gender is so often a disappointment to me. I would never go there unless the Role Play has been discussed and we get out the script or restraints. Unless you are clearly playing master-slave or some such and have detailed the boundaries ahead of time, it is just a bad move to use those words.
Dominance Role playing has its place. Seldom is it that such is appropriate on the first date unless everyone is into that fetish. I have never met a woman that is turned off by a man telling her how beautiful, hot, and wonderful she is unless she lives the sub fetish.
Dominance Role playing has its place. Seldom is it that such is appropriate on the first date unless everyone is into that fetish. I have never met a woman that is turned off by a man telling her how beautiful, hot, and wonderful she is unless she lives the sub fetish.
It is our opinion that nothing should be taken for granted when someone asks you to play with them, asking is she wants a comdum or if I can put things there, do you like anal or are you into S n M,
All are preference to the reciver, so should the name calling not be on those list of things talked about with the other people involved, she might like it but the husband might take offense to you calling his little angle a whore and if he is bigger then you, oops.lol
Just respect for a women says to me that it should not be done unless she asked you to.
Maybe I am old school but I was always taught to respect a lady no matter what. Untill she asks you not to.
Then game on bitch, lol
All are preference to the reciver, so should the name calling not be on those list of things talked about with the other people involved, she might like it but the husband might take offense to you calling his little angle a whore and if he is bigger then you, oops.lol
Just respect for a women says to me that it should not be done unless she asked you to.
Maybe I am old school but I was always taught to respect a lady no matter what. Untill she asks you not to.
Then game on bitch, lol
Perhaps I'm old school too, but a woman that is willing to share herself with me (us) deserves my utmost respect. (Not only that, her significant other deserves respect as well.) Not sure why some, because we all want to have sex, feel like courtesy, kindness and respect are optional. That being said, it is so nice when a woman tells me what she wants. Perhaps I'm too respectful and nice, but I don't want to touch, grab or kiss without some sort of sign that is ok. Oh I'll get wild and crazy with ya, but I'm not going to assume you want that.
Civility should prevail in all aspects of the lifestyle. If you dont know your playmate well then its smart to err on the side of caution.
I don't like to be called either, at any time.
Whew what a relief to see that we feel the same way as everyone else above on this page. ...better to avoid using those terms unless as previously stated you have been invited by the woman to say it cause she likes it...otherwise expect a nice right hook!
SEXYRIDERS wrote:
Whew what a relief to see that we feel the same way as everyone else above on this page. ...better to avoid using those terms unless as previously stated you have been invited by the woman to say it cause she likes it...otherwise expect a nice right hook!
Well said!
BEACHLOVERS1200 wrote:
Perhaps I'm old school too, but a woman that is willing to share herself with me (us) deserves my utmost respect. (Not only that, her significant other deserves respect as well.) Not sure why some, because we all want to have sex, feel like courtesy, kindness and respect are optional. That being said, it is so nice when a woman tells me what she wants. Perhaps I'm too respectful and nice, but I don't want to touch, grab or kiss without some sort of sign that is ok. Oh I'll get wild and crazy with ya, but I'm not going to assume you want that.
I have to agree. I am to respectful at times I think. But with that said, I would rather have the trust built in friendship and acceptance in what may happen. We as a couple would just rather have the friendship and acceptance in trust, over having drama.
Perhaps I'm old school too, but a woman that is willing to share herself with me (us) deserves my utmost respect. (Not only that, her significant other deserves respect as well.) Not sure why some, because we all want to have sex, feel like courtesy, kindness and respect are optional. That being said, it is so nice when a woman tells me what she wants. Perhaps I'm too respectful and nice, but I don't want to touch, grab or kiss without some sort of sign that is ok. Oh I'll get wild and crazy with ya, but I'm not going to assume you want that.
I have to agree. I am to respectful at times I think. But with that said, I would rather have the trust built in friendship and acceptance in what may happen. We as a couple would just rather have the friendship and acceptance in trust, over having drama.
I am kind of stuck on semantics (no, I did not say semen-tics).
I have always felt that a "slut" was a woman who enjoyed sexual pleasures and engaged in such for her own pure joy and satisfaction.
I consider a woman a "whore" when she is out for some secondary gain, not for her own enjoyment. That might be the $10 crack whore who wants the cash to go get high. It might be the housewife who only fucks and sucks her husband to mollify him, never taking pleasure in it.
If you gag and spit and say, "I really hate it when I have to take you in my mouth.", then you are a whore.
If you gag and spit and say, "I love it when you cum so hard." then you are a slut. But, if I find out later that you said that so I would invite you to the Eagles concert, then You are a WHORE!
I love sluts.
(btw, I consider the terms in a non-gender specific fashion, but refer to them in the female gender above because I am male. The terms work for me equally when applied to males. I am a slut!)
I have always felt that a "slut" was a woman who enjoyed sexual pleasures and engaged in such for her own pure joy and satisfaction.
I consider a woman a "whore" when she is out for some secondary gain, not for her own enjoyment. That might be the $10 crack whore who wants the cash to go get high. It might be the housewife who only fucks and sucks her husband to mollify him, never taking pleasure in it.
If you gag and spit and say, "I really hate it when I have to take you in my mouth.", then you are a whore.
If you gag and spit and say, "I love it when you cum so hard." then you are a slut. But, if I find out later that you said that so I would invite you to the Eagles concert, then You are a WHORE!
I love sluts.
(btw, I consider the terms in a non-gender specific fashion, but refer to them in the female gender above because I am male. The terms work for me equally when applied to males. I am a slut!)
Learn something new everyday. I had no idea a woman's response when I give her a surprise oral creampie determines whether she's a whore or a slut? So what does a skank say when you shoot her a big ole mouthful of man gak?
And nothing personal MOUNTAIN, but I think I might have figured out why you're single.
And nothing personal MOUNTAIN, but I think I might have figured out why you're single.
I don't mind my partner xalling me slut or whore in the heat od passion, but when the guy's or girls for that matter call you that because you want nothing to do with them, and the girls well if your not their friends your a whore but my answer to them all is a pussy is a very power full thing and if you cant have it make uo stories.
I asked Ms. Evil and she said it's perfectly fine to call her that during sex as long as she can call the guy some names in return. She suggested that perhaps if a guy calls her a whore she would retort "Yeah, fuck me you dirty rapist. You know you want it. Do it to me because you know nobody would fuck you if you didn't force them to. C'mon, harder you filthy pedophile!" Whaddaya think? 
EVILDOERS wrote:
I asked Ms. Evil and she said it's perfectly fine to call her that during sex as long as she can call the guy some names in return. She suggested that perhaps if a guy calls her a whore she would retort "Yeah, fuck me you dirty rapist. You know you want it. Do it to me because you know nobody would fuck you if you didn't force them to. C'mon, harder you filthy pedophile!" Whaddaya think?
OMG. Laughing my ass off! The evildoers always have a great take on things!
For me, being called a slut during a LS party or whatever is great. I've worn shirts and panties with "slut" saying and have even had temp tramp stamp of "cum slut"... I also realize that during flirt or during pleasure for me to declare I'm a slut in some way gets men hard or harder. Never been called a whore but don't mind "ho" term esp for pimp and ho parties, plus "hoeing it up" references.
Melati
Melati
The words "Slut or Whore" was use during the heat of passion on my experience. I will indicate she wanted to be call that and it turn her on. Outside of the scene like "SUGARANDSPICE" quoted a lady loves to hear how beautiful, hot, and wonderful she is. Oh and for peace sake get her name right LOL.
Neither of us like either one of those words..or any other that may be perceived as derogatory at anytime. We know some that do, but just not us. We have to agree with one of the other posters here who mentioned that any girl that is willing to share that very personal side of herself with us, deserves the utmost respect. And she gets it. Always.
I know women who love to be called all kinds of otherwise offending names in the heat of passion, then others who don't like it at all. It depends on the person and or the mood. Personally I have a great respect for women, but if it's what they want and like, I will do what they ask of me. I'm all for just about anything that will turn a woman on. (Within reason)
I've got to admit I've never been comfortable with calling a girl a slut or a whore. It just doesn't feel "right" somehow, and on the few occasions someone said she wanted something like that, it's always felt kind of weird doing it. Then again, I've never been terribly verbal, I'm too busy concentrating on what I'm doing to think about what to say. Anyway, before doing anything at all, I ask the girl what she likes, and then do my best to do whatever it is. Hey, I'm a guy, and it's easier for a guy to get of than it is for a lot of girls, so the obvious thing is to do whatever to make them happy first. I figure I'll get mine after she gets hers. ~ Terry
My personal definition ... Slut... A term created by prudish women to describe other women who know how to enjoy men more than they ever will.
I truly enjoy and appreciate any woman who is in touch with her inner slut(you know who you are) and can express it in any way she feels. However that doesn't mean I would call her such and have only done so when I was completely sure she was good with it or proud of the title.
I truly enjoy and appreciate any woman who is in touch with her inner slut(you know who you are) and can express it in any way she feels. However that doesn't mean I would call her such and have only done so when I was completely sure she was good with it or proud of the title.
That would not work with us. I treat the female with respect and we expect the same from the other male. I do not believe even in the swinging world that the females are sluts or whores as some have said on here. If someone wants you to call them that then that is up to you two but to just say it is not very respectful. The Mrs has put her hand over a guys mouth and told them to not say she is a dirty whore. If it happened again the fun box would be closed...
To be a slut, or not be a slut, hmmm .... that's a personal choice. I personally choose to embrace my inner slut. As far as being called a a slut, that's also a personal choice. I have two regular (and totally amazing) guys and they both call me their slut. Neither of them has ever treated me disrespectfully, and the context in which they use the word slut is a compliment. So really the questions is do we ladies have respect for ourselves? That's a personal question. Whether or not we choose to embrace our inner slut is our own personal business. And if we are making good partner choices, I am sure whatever they call us is perfectly acceptable. In the same line of thought, one of my guys is pretty rough with me. He would have never done that had we not established it was again perfectly acceptable. As far as the words you choose to allow, whether it be slut or whore or bitch, as long as both parties are comfortable then yes please. Sluts rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, and just because I have two regular guys, I'm a slut, so I'm still totally available.
IN_UR_DREAMS wrote:Your crazy girl but glad I found you anyway. And yes I will take you to a party soon.
TI'm a slut, so I'm still totally available.