We now live in a society where nobody takes personal responsibility for their actions, or in this case the actions of their partners. So, it's easier to create insulting labels that admit that you have a problem in your relationship, and it's not the "snake" who is the problem.
But hey, that's just my two cents' worth, in pointing out how one person's insecurity leads them to blame another.
But hey, that's just my two cents' worth, in pointing out how one person's insecurity leads them to blame another.
MAYBEMOR wrote:
From the prospective of a guy who was a couple in the past. . Some couples are not looking for SM's to bring into their bedroom. At first it is usually soft and or another couple. Maybe they are just enjoying the sexy parties and dancing..the fun of being out on the town in Utah where sex can be a topic of conversation and the women can dress as sexy as LA, Atlanta, or Vegas nightclubs. Maybe this couple are interested in voyeurism or exhibitionism by having same room sex. Then the interest may turn or was there from the start for some gal gal fun. Just human nature as women are so soft , sexy and beautiful. IT may advance to soft swap or full or whatever. Then maybe it turns into exploring the fun in a MFM situation. Or it may start there??
Also many couples go to places like the green door in Vegas or other LS parties where 5-6 un attractive loser looking SM's with buggy eyes follow the couple everywhere and when the couple tries to get sexual the SM's move 3-4 ' away and start to unzip to wank or think they may get lucky.
I think it is those guys who couldn't ever catch a girlfriend who give SM's a bad name.
Maybe a guy who thinks a topless woman at a party means he can grab a breast without asking for permission?
Don't make such a big deal about it.. Just become a better person and try to be the best SM you Can be until you find a gal who takes you away from this LS or agrees to try it.
I think you misread the question.
maybe... I dont know what a snake is referring to. Maybe a SW who is hoping to steal the man of a couple?
I've never heard single females called "snakes" (unicorns yes, snakes no) and we've been swinging since before Moses was circumcised. Any time someone opens their relationship to other people there is the potential for problems (if you think that's not true you probably also believe in Santa, The Easter Bunny, and that "More Doctors Smoke Camels Than Any Other Cigarette"). And yes that is the risk you take when you sign on to swinging and the risk singles do NOT have and thus the huge dichotomy between couples and singles and where much of the inherent animosity lies. People complain that singles don't bring as much to the table. I would argue that it's much more that singles aren't risking nearly as much (if anything) in a swinging transaction. And yes it takes two to tango and anyone who believes their spouse is blameless and that a woman (or a man for that matter) seduced them against their will should probably find a time machine and go back and live in the 1950's (or go live in some gawdawful 3rd world theocracy). Maybe you need to hang out with people who aren't amateur herpetologists. Either that or realize that as a single in the lifestyle you are going to encounter push back for any number of reasons and just try and go with it. It's not likely to change in our lifetime. 
I would say the snake part would be what that particular SW did that was the problem, did she do something with the male half that she knew was wrong or not going to be perceived well by his partner and behind her back then she needs to take 45% of the blame for those actions. Now the Husband on the other hand knew all to well that his wife would have a shit fit over what they did so he should be the snake, its his best friend, or should be that he just hurt.
Now if the SF did not know what problems she was creating by what she did then she still should take 25% blame because she was still involved,its takes two. Now how you handle this with the wife could slide the snake label right over to your side, did you just say fuck it I dont care and still see him, did you keep contacting him after, or did you excuse your self from the situation nicely and with respect and leave them alone. No Snake there.
That would not be a SF situation in as much as just a bad person situation. You are who you show yourself to be, act like a snake, get the label as a snake. Just my .02
If and when we get into that situation we always require some sort of communication from the other people involved before any of it is ok, helps to keep the peace at home.
Now if the SF did not know what problems she was creating by what she did then she still should take 25% blame because she was still involved,its takes two. Now how you handle this with the wife could slide the snake label right over to your side, did you just say fuck it I dont care and still see him, did you keep contacting him after, or did you excuse your self from the situation nicely and with respect and leave them alone. No Snake there.
That would not be a SF situation in as much as just a bad person situation. You are who you show yourself to be, act like a snake, get the label as a snake. Just my .02
If and when we get into that situation we always require some sort of communication from the other people involved before any of it is ok, helps to keep the peace at home.
I'll show single females a snake