While I do understand the need the block messages from single males. I don't understand why members would turn this block on, then send messages asking questions to single males about M&Gs without turning the block off. How can they a reply in return? So that when we send a reply to the questions asked, we get this error message:
"Sorry, --BLANK-- is not accepting messages at this time."
Just food for thought,,,,,,
"Sorry, --BLANK-- is not accepting messages at this time."
Just food for thought,,,,,,
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The whole single male thing is a rather new concept in swinging, at least from our perspective having started doing this way back in the 80's. We'd been swinging for probably at least 3 or 4 years before we ever heard of a true single male in the scene. Of course back then it was still known in some circles as wifeswapping so by default that kind of precluded participation by singles. Unfortunately there will always be those who never accept single males (most accept single females, imagine that!) in the lifestyle. And there will also be those who are a bit schizophrenic (to say the least) in how they interact with single guys. The best advice I could give you would be to just try to not let it bother you and move on. Believe me, there are just as many couples who are total flakes when/how they interact with other couples too. Some aren't really couples, some the wife has no clue the husband had placed a profile here, some are more than content with just the titillation of being on the periphery and doing stuff like flirting via chat or email. Our motto in swinging has always been..."Some will, some won't, so what...next!" 
We used to have it turned on, then then as you point out asking question proved problematic. Now we just block single males that send blind reined requests.
I see nothing wrong with blocking single males BUT.....if your going to block single males then don't check that you are seeking single males. Often I have found that a profile states seeking SM, SF, CPL and then when you contact them they tell you they are interested in a SM. The burden is, and should be on the poster to fill out their profile correctly.
Evil, Actually the single guy is a rather old concept probably going back as far as swinging if not before. It was probably in the 70's that it got excluded to couples and single women I mean who would do guys with Angle fight suits with gold chains, platform shoes, and big old mutton chops and Village People mustaches. My father has a great story back in the "put the keys in a bowl" days(early 50's)when he was a single male. As per the topic if a couple wants to block single males, go ahead they should do what ever they feel like. I rarely if ever contact couples figuring I'm here if they're looking and since I have yet to block anyone , they can get in touch easily enough.
Where oh where would the Lifestyle be if not for the ever popular "single male" topic of discussion?
Many of you would be amazed to find out just how many hypocrites there are amongst us.
For the many years I spent in the Lifestyle as a "single male", the VAST MAJORITY of the couples I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile, and, BAD MOUTHED single males in any and all forums and discussions on the subject.
It all boils down to one thing:
There's a HUGE difference in what people do behind closed doors, and what they lead their so-called friends to believe they do.
Just as the number of profiles listing the male as being straight, when the guy will suck a cock at the drop of a hat in private, would BLOW your mind.
Many of you would be amazed to find out just how many hypocrites there are amongst us.
For the many years I spent in the Lifestyle as a "single male", the VAST MAJORITY of the couples I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile, and, BAD MOUTHED single males in any and all forums and discussions on the subject.
It all boils down to one thing:
There's a HUGE difference in what people do behind closed doors, and what they lead their so-called friends to believe they do.
Just as the number of profiles listing the male as being straight, when the guy will suck a cock at the drop of a hat in private, would BLOW your mind.
People block single males? What?
SLOWHAND311 wrote:
Evil, Actually the single guy is a rather old concept probably going back as far as swinging if not before. It was probably in the 70's that it got excluded to couples and single women I mean who would do guys with Angle fight suits with gold chains, platform shoes, and big old mutton chops and Village People mustaches. My father has a great story back in the "put the keys in a bowl" days(early 50's)when he was a single male. As per the topic if a couple wants to block single males, go ahead they should do what ever they feel like. I rarely if ever contact couples figuring I'm here if they're looking and since I have yet to block anyone , they can get in touch easily enough.
Your dad went to a key party in the early fifties? Interesting. So I assume he put his keys in a bowl and some lucky female pulled them out? Then there must have been at least one single female there...or a polygamist. Otherwise some poor guy who brought his wife to the party had to sit there and watch Jack Benny on the old black and white TV while your dad nailed his wife. Of course most of us married guys are closet cucks so I guess your story is plausible.
