I'm finding more and more that this site is frustrating. Not only is it hard finding single women. The ones on this site hardly ever visit, and rarely reply to e-mails. And the last two single females I was in contact with were hiding boyfriends or husbands. I understand pictures help but I'm thinking if you are mature enough to swing then that should not be a top priority. Ahh whats comes first looks or STD free? Any comments out there.
You have only one thing going for you you are a paying member but have to be honest witha a pic you are fightinga loosing battle hell single guys with pics have a hard enough time to meet cpls so what are we telling you when you are single guy you have to charm the lady half of the cpls and realize that lots of times it is the guy half of the cpl that monitors the site and with ZERO pics you will more than likely be bypassed so to be honest you are wasting your time if you have ZERO pics just trying to be honest here cpls see no pics and they think "what is he trying to hide" ?
this is not a singles dateing site your in the wrong place .its a swing and swappers meeting place
Put a pic in your profile. Check your spelling and capitalizations! Your profile makes you look like a high school drop out. Show couples you have something to offer them.
Man, all I can say is go back through the forum and read all the suggestions and comments for single guys. What you are asking and complaining about has been hashed and re hashed at least 100 times. Go back and read some and then decide what you if you think the site is right for you or not. Unless policy has changed everybody gets a free temporary memebership before paying any money. People should use this free time to determine if the site is what they are looking for.
No STDs is very important BUT If I'm not attracted to a man, then doesnt matter what he does, I won't get with him........ So YES pics are extremely important.
gee i guess im one of the dumb ones since i dont know how to spell so i guess i/we will never get to hook up with certain people and even if we did get the chance we wouldnt because all they like to do is talk about people on here.plus we are a payed member and a cpl but we havent found the single bi female either so i guess we are stupid,and if everyone realy looks at the site realy carefully it is false advertising and if you have to ask why is that your not looking at the whole site.
joe
p.s. we have meet a realy nice couple and a realy nice single male off of here
joe
p.s. we have meet a realy nice couple and a realy nice single male off of here
Darn Joe, you sound mad at the world today. Normally you guys are pretty happy. Smile, be happy my friend.
No not mad at the world or mad at all, actually happy. Just think its wrong for others to put people down because they cant spell right or use capitals when they write, or if they are a single male.. we just been pointing out that people that are being discriminating against because of something they cant do right when they probably make mistakes themselves. If you are not a certain way or act a certain way people like talking about you , when they need to check there ownselves. That is probably why this site is losing alot of people. which I know there will be people saying they are not, but when we first came on this site there was at least a thousand plus people on every day at all times. Now you will be lucky if you see 800 people at any time of the day. With peoples attitudes like that no wonder this site is losing people. Not one of us is 100% percent perfect and need to quit acting like they are.
Joe
Joe
"Just think its wrong for others to put people down because they cant spell right or use capitals when they write, or if they are a single male.. we just been pointing out that people that are being discriminating "
The guy was wondering why he did not get replies. We delete emails from people who send us a very poorly written email or their profile is written that way. Apparently so do others. It wasn't a personal attack against the "poor guy". We do not discriminate against single males, only those who send vulgar or poorly written emails. If no pic is included it is deleted as well.
He asked what was wrong. He could not figure out which was most important, no STD or pictures. His profile has other issues. It was NOT a personal attack against him! Geez!
The guy was wondering why he did not get replies. We delete emails from people who send us a very poorly written email or their profile is written that way. Apparently so do others. It wasn't a personal attack against the "poor guy". We do not discriminate against single males, only those who send vulgar or poorly written emails. If no pic is included it is deleted as well.
He asked what was wrong. He could not figure out which was most important, no STD or pictures. His profile has other issues. It was NOT a personal attack against him! Geez!
This site is no different than any other site on the net in that respect. The single woman is the most sought after creature in the lifestyle. You have to remember that not only are you in competition with all the other single males but also the majority of the couples.
The advice that is given to the single males by other couples and females is very good advice. If they are all saying the same thing then there must be some truth in it.
Also remember that when a single woman does join the site she is immediately overloaded with potential friends. From what we have seen it doesn't take long for her to hook up with either a couple or a single male and next thing you know they become a lifestyle couple that only play together. Takes maybe a couple of days for that to happen.
The single females that do manage to be the true single woman as far as the lifestyle is concerned have a lot to choose from so it stands to reason that single guys have to have their profiles appear more interesting and in line with what the single woman is looking for.
It's common sense that if she gets several emails a day and her focus starts to become more about trying to keep up with the mail than anything else you know she isn't paying much attention to profiles that have no pics, really doesn't have anything interesting to say or appears to be forward, disrespectful or rude.
Put yourself in her place and think about what you would do if you posted an ad and the next thing you know your mailbox is full of mail. My guess is that the mail that stands out and has a picture with it will get your attention faster than the others (... ok my husband just got this evil grin thinking about getting a bunch of mail from women!).
Think of it as a job interview of sorts... if you interview for a job and your resume is full of spelling mistakes (an occassional typo is fine) and pretty much says nothing about who you really are, odds are you are going to be passed over by the person that took some time to present himself in a little better light.
You can't go wrong with a good attitude, sense of humor, nice pics if possible and demonstrate a genuine concern that you don't come across as disrespectful or impatient. This will obviously help out in your search. Even if you do all that and put your best effort forward there is no guarentee that you will be successful... but the odds will be more in your favor than just feeling like since you are a member you should automatically be successful.
I can tell you from a womans point of view that some of the male profiles that I may have passed over initially got my attention when I started seeing them post informative and sometimes very funny replies in the forums. Made me go back and check their profile when normally I wouldn't have given it a second thought. It's amazing that you can usually get a pretty good understanding of the persons personality and attitude just by reading their posts and profile if written correctly.
I've talked to several single males that have hooked up with single females from sites like this but it's like I said earlier... a lot has to do with your presentation and timing. If you have trouble spelling try writing your message on Microsoft Word and use the spell and grammer check. Once you've made the corrections copy and paste it in the forum or mail.
In my humble opinion... the worst thing you can do is assume that since a woman joins a site like this that she will spread her legs for anyone at their request (not saying you are). If your messages or profile gives her that impression from the beginning odds are you're gonna fail.
purrr...
T
The advice that is given to the single males by other couples and females is very good advice. If they are all saying the same thing then there must be some truth in it.
Also remember that when a single woman does join the site she is immediately overloaded with potential friends. From what we have seen it doesn't take long for her to hook up with either a couple or a single male and next thing you know they become a lifestyle couple that only play together. Takes maybe a couple of days for that to happen.
The single females that do manage to be the true single woman as far as the lifestyle is concerned have a lot to choose from so it stands to reason that single guys have to have their profiles appear more interesting and in line with what the single woman is looking for.
It's common sense that if she gets several emails a day and her focus starts to become more about trying to keep up with the mail than anything else you know she isn't paying much attention to profiles that have no pics, really doesn't have anything interesting to say or appears to be forward, disrespectful or rude.
Put yourself in her place and think about what you would do if you posted an ad and the next thing you know your mailbox is full of mail. My guess is that the mail that stands out and has a picture with it will get your attention faster than the others (... ok my husband just got this evil grin thinking about getting a bunch of mail from women!).
Think of it as a job interview of sorts... if you interview for a job and your resume is full of spelling mistakes (an occassional typo is fine) and pretty much says nothing about who you really are, odds are you are going to be passed over by the person that took some time to present himself in a little better light.
You can't go wrong with a good attitude, sense of humor, nice pics if possible and demonstrate a genuine concern that you don't come across as disrespectful or impatient. This will obviously help out in your search. Even if you do all that and put your best effort forward there is no guarentee that you will be successful... but the odds will be more in your favor than just feeling like since you are a member you should automatically be successful.
I can tell you from a womans point of view that some of the male profiles that I may have passed over initially got my attention when I started seeing them post informative and sometimes very funny replies in the forums. Made me go back and check their profile when normally I wouldn't have given it a second thought. It's amazing that you can usually get a pretty good understanding of the persons personality and attitude just by reading their posts and profile if written correctly.
I've talked to several single males that have hooked up with single females from sites like this but it's like I said earlier... a lot has to do with your presentation and timing. If you have trouble spelling try writing your message on Microsoft Word and use the spell and grammer check. Once you've made the corrections copy and paste it in the forum or mail.
In my humble opinion... the worst thing you can do is assume that since a woman joins a site like this that she will spread her legs for anyone at their request (not saying you are). If your messages or profile gives her that impression from the beginning odds are you're gonna fail.
purrr...
T