As I'm sure most swinger couples do, we have a couple of vanilla friends that we would absolutely love to introduce to the lifestyle. Unfortunately, we are realists and expect that 90% of vanillas would be horrified at the suggestion of joining a swinger couple.
With that in mind, is there anyone here that has successfully turned vanilla friends onto the lifestyle or shared a swinging experience with someone not in the lifestyle? We'd love to hear any sexy stories you are willing to share ;-)
With that in mind, is there anyone here that has successfully turned vanilla friends onto the lifestyle or shared a swinging experience with someone not in the lifestyle? We'd love to hear any sexy stories you are willing to share ;-)
well first off we were all Vanilla at one time.
We were the other couple being introduced to swing by good friends. We knew they were swingers, not because they told us but someone else "outed" them. it was just sexy flirting and a slow build, Not "hey we are swingers lets fuck".
our suggestion, because they are friends take it slow, put it out there and read how they take it. if they are good friends either way they will still be friends.
As for those looking for the Unicorns we have had better luck with Vanillas than we have in the lifestyle.
We were the other couple being introduced to swing by good friends. We knew they were swingers, not because they told us but someone else "outed" them. it was just sexy flirting and a slow build, Not "hey we are swingers lets fuck".
our suggestion, because they are friends take it slow, put it out there and read how they take it. if they are good friends either way they will still be friends.
As for those looking for the Unicorns we have had better luck with Vanillas than we have in the lifestyle.
We were never vanilla, we were born swingers ;-)
I was once vanilla...... 
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I think we were more Neapolitan...
I know this probably won't be a very popular point of view but I kind of have a problem with vanilla hunting. If you meet some vanillas and talk to them, hell tell them you are swingers or whatever, and they're interested and then you leave it there and they have time to go home and consider what you've told them and make a sober rational decision then great. Where the line becomes blurred to me is approaching vanillas in say a bar situation where there is plenty of alcohol or whatever and then sort of guiding (pushing?) them into a situation where they might not be thinking completely rationally. I think the majority of us probably approached swinging from the perspective of making a conscious decision to try it out or whatever before we were put in a situation where sexual play might happen. I just think it's only fair for others to have that same consideration "space", if you will, before they jump into something they might not be ready to handle. Swinging is great. We have an awesome little hobby that is DEFINITELY NOT for everyone, no matter how much we think it should be. The truth is very few people can actually handle the intense dynamics of swapping spouses. JMO
Well said evildoers, we completely agree with that
EVILDOERS wrote:
I know this probably won't be a very popular point of view but I kind of have a problem with vanilla hunting. If you meet some vanillas and talk to them, hell tell them you are swingers or whatever, and they're interested and then you leave it there and they have time to go home and consider what you've told them and make a sober rational decision then great. Where the line becomes blurred to me is approaching vanillas in say a bar situation where there is plenty of alcohol or whatever and then sort of guiding (pushing?) them into a situation where they might not be thinking completely rationally. I think the majority of us probably approached swinging from the perspective of making a conscious decision to try it out or whatever before we were put in a situation where sexual play might happen. I just think it's only fair for others to have that same consideration "space" if you will before they jump into something they might not be ready to handle. Swinging is great. We have and awesome little hobby that is DEFINITELY not for everyone no matter how much we think it should be. The truth is very few people can actually handle the intense dynamics of swapping spouses. JMO
Had the same uncomfortable thought when I read this post
EVILDOERS, did your account get hacked? We were expecting something off topic or smart ass remark. Lol
I think you are right on the button. Time to think chat and make sure the decision they make its their own sober choice and if they are a couple that it its right for them.
I think you are right on the button. Time to think chat and make sure the decision they make its their own sober choice and if they are a couple that it its right for them.
ALL_TEASE_N_PLEASE wrote:
EVILDOERS, did your account get hacked? We were expecting something off topic or smart ass remark. Lol
I think you are right on the button. Time to think chat and make sure the decision they make its their own sober choice and if they are a couple that it its right for them.
We agree 100 percent. Vanilla "hunting" in the sense that EVILDOERS described is crossing the line. The decision to join the LS needs to be well thought out. We just wanted to endulge a fantasy a little and see if anyone has some sexy stories :-)
OUR FAVORATE MEMORIES ARE THE NIGHTS WE DROPPED THE WORD ON VARIOUS MALE FRIENDS THAT THEY COULD FUCK THE GIRL THEY HAD BEEN LUSTING AFTER ALL THESE YEARS. SOME OF THESE GUYS COULDN'T BELIEVE THIER NAKED COCK WAS IN MY PUSSY. IN FACT, ONE GUY GOT SO HOT HE CAME AS HE PUT IT INSIDE ME. SINCE I ALMOST ALWAY GO BARE BACK THESE GUYS HAVE THEIR BARE PENIS IN MY PUSSY AND WHEN THEY CUM THEIR FILLING ME WITH THEIR JUICES. IN FACT, THAT HAPPENED OFTEN WHEN THEY CAME BEFORE THEY PUT THEIR COCK IN MY PUSSY. I STARTED THAT IN HIGH SCHOOL WHEN I USED TO GO TO THE DRIVE-IN WITH 2 GUYS AT ONCE. THE FIRST ONE IN GOT THE PRIZE AND THE SECOND ONE MIGHT HAVE TO WAIT. AND THE GUY WHO HAD SOME CONTROL HAD A GOOD TIME.
WE WENT TO A BUSINESS DINNER ONE NIGHT BEFORE ANYONE KNEW WHAT A SWINGER WAS AND THIS SLOB FRIEND GOT EXCITED BY MY NIPPLES THAT HE HAD TO GRAB A FEEL WHEN I WALKED PAST HIM, SINCE THEN MY HUSBAND REFUSED TO GIVE HIM A JOB BUSINESS FOR A LOAN AND JOB PERSONAL REFERENCE.
I jizzed on the window once while watching my vanilla neighbor sunbathe.
Most of our hookups and extended relationships have been with people that don't classify themselves as swingers or any other alternative group.
Haha we converted my husband's best friend and his wife....we don't play with them but it all turned out to be fun to be able to party with them! 
Some people just should not swing. Just our opinion. They aren't built for it. Us...we were probably never vanilla but also didn't need the LS... It just works for our marriage and makes it stronger.
EXPERIMENTING23 wrote:
Does masturbating a lot make me less vanilla?
Naw, just makes ya stickier.
We find the best place to pick up unicorns is during sacrament meeting in the foyer. Those women ditching church are calling our names... Oh yea...
We think its a must to have complete confidence in one another and no jealousies. Sometimes for those that are vanilla it takes time and honest conversation to be convinced both participants are at that point. Trust and honesty can go a long way in converting to the lifestyle and not feeling as though you made a mistake.