D and I were having that talk recently about what we would want for each other if one of us should pass.
I told her that I hope that she would find comfort with friends and family and hoped that she would get back to the life we so enjoyed. Naturally, since 1/2 of our friends are lifestyle, I would expect them to come rushing to her side, offering friendship. It would please me to know that after she mourned for a while, that she would maintain friendships in the lifestyle.
Here is the clincher....it would be fairly smooth for her...she is a bi-fem....she flipped it on me and wished the same for me! Now...I ask you, would I become a single male to friends who have accepted me as part of a couple? Would I have to mourn the loss of my friendships as well as the loss of my wife? Lets face it...a lot of couples don't accept single males. As a single male approaching new couples, the answer is easy. What about friends established as a couple? Do I have a special in? Will they be good enough to at least go out to dinner with me?
This does make me ponder.....
Your thoughts?
I told her that I hope that she would find comfort with friends and family and hoped that she would get back to the life we so enjoyed. Naturally, since 1/2 of our friends are lifestyle, I would expect them to come rushing to her side, offering friendship. It would please me to know that after she mourned for a while, that she would maintain friendships in the lifestyle.
Here is the clincher....it would be fairly smooth for her...she is a bi-fem....she flipped it on me and wished the same for me! Now...I ask you, would I become a single male to friends who have accepted me as part of a couple? Would I have to mourn the loss of my friendships as well as the loss of my wife? Lets face it...a lot of couples don't accept single males. As a single male approaching new couples, the answer is easy. What about friends established as a couple? Do I have a special in? Will they be good enough to at least go out to dinner with me?
This does make me ponder.....
Your thoughts?
If there were "TRUE" friends you damn right they would accept you if god forbid something happened to your wife/husband. We have a friend his wife died after having gastric bypass surgery. We all went to the funeral talk about solidarty but it was there for him,her family and their children. They were very strongly in the lifestyle and he is totally accepted by all us even if we don't chose to take a single man into our bedroom he was our friend when Christine was alive and he still is. We all get together about once a month have dinner go to a club just generally enjoy the company,and when I say we I speak about 2/3 of a yahoo group. I have come to find that friends within the lifestyle stick by you no matter what more so then friends who have known you long term. I believe its something about common ground we all share and the support network with the swingers lifestyle. Just my 2 cents *smile*
Becky and Jimmy
Becky and Jimmy
Hi there.
Its good to find out that there are people still thinking about this subject. We too did talk about it, although its much simpler for a women to keep the swinger contacts than a man, "we think".
We would always keep him/her as friend and even let the person left over share our sexlive. Sometimes we have one of the partners of a friend couple staying over at our house and often this ends in a threesome.
So why not after death?
We think there is not any frienship so intense then a swingersfriendship.
Alex and Bea from The Netherlands
Its good to find out that there are people still thinking about this subject. We too did talk about it, although its much simpler for a women to keep the swinger contacts than a man, "we think".
We would always keep him/her as friend and even let the person left over share our sexlive. Sometimes we have one of the partners of a friend couple staying over at our house and often this ends in a threesome.
So why not after death?
We think there is not any frienship so intense then a swingersfriendship.
Alex and Bea from The Netherlands
We too have a male friend who lost his wife. They were both good friends inside and outside our bedroom. We were faced with this same question and the answer was an easy one for us to make. The three of us still get together for any type social function and we have those fun MFM good times as well. The loss of his wife was very difficult for him and we could never add to that loss.
Since I'm single, it would be difficult for me to answer this question. But I just wanted to comment about what an interesting question it is. I would hope that his friends would stick by him, but I think unfortunately in time, he would be no different than any other single male in the lifestyle.
We had a great friend that, in his early 40s, was diagnosed with lung cancer and it had already spread. The couple was very active in the lifestyle and knew a lot of people. In the months that followed just how many could be considered real