I was gonna start this out by stating a behavior of mine, then asking if you thought I was weird. Hah! I beat ya'll to it though 'cause I recognized that the answer'd be a resounding "YES" from all of you. 
Anyhoo ...
I get a slew of friend requests, some with intro emails, some without. I know some of you just leave those, without accompanying emails, in limbo. I just accept everyone! I state in my profile that we've deleted all our private photos so there's no reason to request us as friends if you're just looking for pics.
Anyhoo, my question is simply, do you guys look at requester' photos after you accept their friend request? Are those people who don't send an email along with the request EXPECTING that I'll look at their photos so that I'll contact them if interested? 'Cause I don't!
I guess ya gotta raise my curiosity, get my panties slightly damp, with some mind stimulation -- through the written word or verbally -- before I could even gauge whether you were attractive or not by seeing your picture? Perhaps that IS weird! Sounds weird to me now that I've typed it! But it's true for me. Now I'm not saying that I don't want BOTH mental AND physical compatibility before jumping in the sack with someone -- 'cause I do. I guess it's just that the mental comes first for me.
This came to mind because my "friends" list here has gotten huge, and I've probably looked at maybe a dozen of the pics that are available to me there. Of course I'm always interested in the male half and there's never any pics of them anyway, so I suppose it's probably not unusual for a straight female here to not really give a damn about pics on this site?
Anyhoo ...I get a slew of friend requests, some with intro emails, some without. I know some of you just leave those, without accompanying emails, in limbo. I just accept everyone! I state in my profile that we've deleted all our private photos so there's no reason to request us as friends if you're just looking for pics.
Anyhoo, my question is simply, do you guys look at requester' photos after you accept their friend request? Are those people who don't send an email along with the request EXPECTING that I'll look at their photos so that I'll contact them if interested? 'Cause I don't!
I guess ya gotta raise my curiosity, get my panties slightly damp, with some mind stimulation -- through the written word or verbally -- before I could even gauge whether you were attractive or not by seeing your picture? Perhaps that IS weird! Sounds weird to me now that I've typed it! But it's true for me. Now I'm not saying that I don't want BOTH mental AND physical compatibility before jumping in the sack with someone -- 'cause I do. I guess it's just that the mental comes first for me.
This came to mind because my "friends" list here has gotten huge, and I've probably looked at maybe a dozen of the pics that are available to me there. Of course I'm always interested in the male half and there's never any pics of them anyway, so I suppose it's probably not unusual for a straight female here to not really give a damn about pics on this site?
I like both of the invites to be honest
Well said. We are looking for friendships with other couples and then maybe something extra. So I don
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE] ... When it comes to pictures I must admit that I look at public pictures and almost never look at the private ones ... I don
With us we will hardly every accepted anyone friends request without an email from them or unless we have meet them at a prior event. If it a couple that we both like we will email them if they don't send us an email with there request with the hopes to start a conversation with them. We have both found when we first started out that most people just want to see your private pictures without much contact after that.
But to answer your question when we finally do add someone to our friends list we do look at there private pictures to see if they have any more face pictures to see if there mutual attractions. We are all about making friends and having a good time along the way :-)
But to answer your question when we finally do add someone to our friends list we do look at there private pictures to see if they have any more face pictures to see if there mutual attractions. We are all about making friends and having a good time along the way :-)
it is also amazing to me that people say in their profile that if you dont write something it is an automatic reject, so i always write something and still only about 1 in 10 accept me as a friend. i have found that if in the chat room and you are talking to them and ask if you can send a request that almost all of them say yes and accept you as a friend. i dont just look at the pics but i do use it to see when someone i know is on line.
We read the profile first to see if we are a close match !!!! Then we want to just see face pics !!!!!!! But most profiles never have pics of the male half ...... We only want see you naked in the bedroom . After 6 years we have some great friends in and out of the bedroom . 
J&L
J&L
I usually look at them, but I hate getting friend requests when there are no pics at all! None, not public or private. I don't get it. Just send an email if you want to talk and have nothing to share.
For us we will send an email by itself. If we get a response we will email to chat a little more then we or they may send a FR. If there were no face pics in the private album we look at the private pics so we have an idea of the people we chat with. We have had many that within 30 minutes or so of accepting they will delete us. Just want to see our private pics I guess. Maybe we need to be pushy and not so laid back. No we like it the way it is.
If the friend request doesn't have a message with, we don't bother. If you're interested in talking with us, then send a message introducing yourself.
If they can't be bothered to even say hello, chances are we aren't going to be a good match. As long as some one is friendly and respectful, we'll always respond back.
If they can't be bothered to even say hello, chances are we aren't going to be a good match. As long as some one is friendly and respectful, we'll always respond back.
Call it bi-est or what ever but we will except Female Friends with out an email only but only after we have read there profile first, as for all the rest if a couples profile looks good and reads well we will email them and if they don't reply then we wont except them, and single guys are always ignored unless they send an email first, as for pics yes we do look at them and we are looking for some standard things we are not overly picky about looks more about attitude and personality you can get more of an idea of some ones personality from a pic than most people think, of course we wish more guys would show them selves both dressed and naked we no its not very PC but if the guy ain't at least got a usable size package (average or bigger) we don't want to play with him in bed so to speak, for us its about pleasure for all that are play as much as friends we have several friends on here that we don't play with and that's fine too but if we are going to play then we like to know what were playing with before hand, then its not one of those oh wow what do we do with that type thing,
We get the no face pic thing cause we have family and jobs that could make that cause problems with. but we have some in our locked and we will send a face pic to any one that ask for it with out any questions as long as we have chatted a bit first and have got an idea about who we are sending them too.
We get the no face pic thing cause we have family and jobs that could make that cause problems with. but we have some in our locked and we will send a face pic to any one that ask for it with out any questions as long as we have chatted a bit first and have got an idea about who we are sending them too.
STARSHELL1212 wrote:
If the friend request doesn't have a message with, we don't bother. If you're interested in talking with us, then send a message introducing yourself.
If they can't be bothered to even say hello, chances are we aren't going to be a good match. As long as some one is friendly and respectful, we'll always respond back.
+1 Starshell, we couldn't have said it better ourselves. We generally give them a chance by sending them an email that says we don't accept blind requests and asking them to talk to us. Most the time, they don't respond.
I don't typically bother with friend requests without an intro email. Those just get deleted or stay in limbo.
If a profile has no pics at all regardless of an intro email or not I will not accepts them or if the profile is incomplete. I figure people that don't have any pics or a profile that has not been filled out are likely pic collectors or just looking for a quickie since they can't spend a few minutes on their profile.
If a profile has no pics at all regardless of an intro email or not I will not accepts them or if the profile is incomplete. I figure people that don't have any pics or a profile that has not been filled out are likely pic collectors or just looking for a quickie since they can't spend a few minutes on their profile.
Mrs here~ we like a email with the friend request or if we have been chatting in the chat room that works too. I will only accept friends or cam request if you have pictures or a cam up so I can see who I am talking to.
I like the connection, it isn't always about the looks. I have seen profiles I thought were nice and sexy, thinking we would get along, haha then in person realized there wasn't that connection. Pictures are nice personality is better.
I like the connection, it isn't always about the looks. I have seen profiles I thought were nice and sexy, thinking we would get along, haha then in person realized there wasn't that connection. Pictures are nice personality is better.
A friend request to us should tell us that you are interested in us and to see if we have some sort of connection, the profile should tell us your likes and dislikes and what you are looking for and in some ways a little look into your personality.
The pic part shows us if there could be a sexual connection, after the read and the pics we would have an idea if we want to change our plans or leave our kids to make time to see if it really is what we thought it was. Sometimes it is better and sometimes it just isnt there, but those two parts of your profile give it a chance.
With that said, if you leave half of your profile out and have no sexy and or face pics in your public we have to take a chance on your private pics, so if you dont have any, or dont give us that chance to see if there could be a connection why would anyone take the time away from the friends they already have, or their kids to go meet you, and the pics that are so small that the left and right arrows cover it up is just like having none, so why bother. We all have important jobs that could be affected by something getting to the wrong person so be smart about what and how you post pics, crop out face in your sexy, put faces separate,or how about a note that I will share through email when we have chatted a little bit, Something for GOD sakes. OK ok breath, deep breath deep breath. lol We all have friends, we want better ones, the kind that understand how we feel about our sexual wants, and maybe, just maybe a friend that we can F--k as well.
Those completely filled out profiles and at least a few sexy pics and one face pic in there some how, that is what tells us if we have a chance to even get along, Wow I need a drink, that was harder the my day at work.
The pic part shows us if there could be a sexual connection, after the read and the pics we would have an idea if we want to change our plans or leave our kids to make time to see if it really is what we thought it was. Sometimes it is better and sometimes it just isnt there, but those two parts of your profile give it a chance.
With that said, if you leave half of your profile out and have no sexy and or face pics in your public we have to take a chance on your private pics, so if you dont have any, or dont give us that chance to see if there could be a connection why would anyone take the time away from the friends they already have, or their kids to go meet you, and the pics that are so small that the left and right arrows cover it up is just like having none, so why bother. We all have important jobs that could be affected by something getting to the wrong person so be smart about what and how you post pics, crop out face in your sexy, put faces separate,or how about a note that I will share through email when we have chatted a little bit, Something for GOD sakes. OK ok breath, deep breath deep breath. lol We all have friends, we want better ones, the kind that understand how we feel about our sexual wants, and maybe, just maybe a friend that we can F--k as well.
Those completely filled out profiles and at least a few sexy pics and one face pic in there some how, that is what tells us if we have a chance to even get along, Wow I need a drink, that was harder the my day at work.
Gawd now I feel bad...we have quite a few fr's in our list, and only a handful that we get together with that are actually friends and a few more that we have chatted with several times, but not met yet...althought we would really like to. Those that we have gotten together with we have had a great time, and have enjoyed their company. Really would like to meet, more of the fr's.
My real point is, I am always a little amazed at how critical people get on this stuff. I am sure we have not sent an email along with our friend request, every time...not because, we are lazy or don't have the time...or not to be bothered with a couple of sentences, but just sent it out with the idea that maybe if you are interested we can IM when we are both on line and get to know each other. Our profile is our best attempt to say who we are, is it an exact replica of who we actually are...I dunno, think it is pretty damn close.
We are not naked in our pics...sorry about that...my personal preference is to not necessarily look at a penis or a vagina...we are not ashamed in any way as to how we look, just a little more reserved...that is just us. My thought is that Swingular can bring in Kim Jung Un to set up some rules of protocol, and polices and punishment for those that do not comply...those damn blind requests will stop pretty damn quick. Wait a minute I got in to the lifestyle cuz I didn't want to conform, but now we all need to be the same. Geez alright, I'll get back in line now...can I have more soup...please!
My real point is, I am always a little amazed at how critical people get on this stuff. I am sure we have not sent an email along with our friend request, every time...not because, we are lazy or don't have the time...or not to be bothered with a couple of sentences, but just sent it out with the idea that maybe if you are interested we can IM when we are both on line and get to know each other. Our profile is our best attempt to say who we are, is it an exact replica of who we actually are...I dunno, think it is pretty damn close.
We are not naked in our pics...sorry about that...my personal preference is to not necessarily look at a penis or a vagina...we are not ashamed in any way as to how we look, just a little more reserved...that is just us. My thought is that Swingular can bring in Kim Jung Un to set up some rules of protocol, and polices and punishment for those that do not comply...those damn blind requests will stop pretty damn quick. Wait a minute I got in to the lifestyle cuz I didn't want to conform, but now we all need to be the same. Geez alright, I'll get back in line now...can I have more soup...please!
GOODKARMA1211 wrote:Our profile is our best attempt to say who we are, is it an exact replica of who we actually are...I dunno, think it is pretty damn close.
And with that info a couple can then judge if they think you could be a fit.
And naked pics in our opinion is not a must, but a person can not know if you could be compatible sexualy unless they see who you are and how you look. You do not need to be a barbie, but we should have an idea who we are meeting.
And you should update your profile on occasion. People change, their desires, their looks and their beliefs.
Had a bad stalker experience....So now I do not accept any friends requests....I know it crazy for a single guy...but just keeping it real......
If someone's profile, beliefs or desires change they should update the profile...we have made a few adjustments in the year or so we have been on here, and most of our pics are within the last month. All of Ms. Karma's and all but one of mine are within the last 6 months or so, not sure if that last part was meant for us.
Nope just talking in general, about things we look at, last time profile was updated. but that still doesnt meen much
I don't see the point in sending a e-mail with a friends request . If your profile is filled out then the sexy people you are sending it to will know from pics and reading the profile if they are interested . Even if they send a e-mail with a friends request most couples on here would not respond anyways . So when we get a friends request we look at it and read the profile, if we are interested then we accept, if we don't like what we read then we don't . People put so much into swinging .
We view friends on here as folks we hang out with or in the past few months have modified our thoughts to include folks we intend to hang out with.
Our private pics have face pictures and more intimate revealing pictures. We definitely are not on here to picture trade. That's what red tube and xxnx is for if that floats your dingy.
So we just delete and send to the pending request folder all request from out of state and those without hello emails. Those received from single males without emails we block then delete.
Those we accept we open and look at the private pics. If there are no head shots we immediately unfriendly. We can see their bods in the public folder without sharing our faces.
We battle with what to do when we look at their pics and realize we are not attracted to them. Many moons ago we would send back a polite email saying we were not interested. But after receiving several "oh, your too good for us" replay emails we decided it would be simpler to just wait a few weeks then unfriendly. We preferred to upfront and open approach but clearly were not talented with the ability to say thanks but not interested correctly.
So we keep our list short. For those we click with and have made plans to say hello at the next party. The. Every few months we go through and those we can't remember we quietly say goodby.
Our private pics have face pictures and more intimate revealing pictures. We definitely are not on here to picture trade. That's what red tube and xxnx is for if that floats your dingy.
So we just delete and send to the pending request folder all request from out of state and those without hello emails. Those received from single males without emails we block then delete.
Those we accept we open and look at the private pics. If there are no head shots we immediately unfriendly. We can see their bods in the public folder without sharing our faces.
We battle with what to do when we look at their pics and realize we are not attracted to them. Many moons ago we would send back a polite email saying we were not interested. But after receiving several "oh, your too good for us" replay emails we decided it would be simpler to just wait a few weeks then unfriendly. We preferred to upfront and open approach but clearly were not talented with the ability to say thanks but not interested correctly.
So we keep our list short. For those we click with and have made plans to say hello at the next party. The. Every few months we go through and those we can't remember we quietly say goodby.
The great thing about swinging is as a couple you get to make your own rules . The bad thing is that you have to find couples with rules that are close to yours and its really hard to find . We are not Ken and Barbie by no means and we are not looking for Ken and Barbie like people . We are looking for down to earth fun people to do fun things with and if it turns into sex then that's fine and if it doesn't we are ok with that to . People are to fast to judge other people by looks or what their profile states I think that's kind of shallow . Some people take bad pictures or don't know what to really say in their profiles . I say whats wrong with meeting a couple for drinks at a bar or as we say a safe zone LOL and see where it goes . Swinging might be a lot easier if there was a set of rules that were set in stone but nothing could be that easy ............. HAPPY HUMPING
HOLY FREAKING CHIT!
Sorry, as the OP, I truly did not mean to start some kind of "Friend-Request Hater-War!"
For us, it really doesn't require any kind of a judgement call on our part in regards to how YOU all use this site. Receiving Friend-Requests here, without an accompanying email, seems to be the more frequent occurrence for us. If anything, this thread has shown me that many of us use this site's tools differently, and interpret how they "should" be used differently. Online communication certainly is fraught with the potential for misinterpretation/miscommunication. My question here was simply to clear up, in my mind, what protocols others had in mind when they use the Friend Requests -- not to make a judgement call as to whether my way was right and yours wrong -- but I'm just so Freaking wordy sometimes that my question or point gets lost!
But I can tell from the responses here that many of you DO wait, after sending a Friend Request, using that Friend Request to judge whether there's any interest on the receiver's end. So I suppose my question is answered, but now I've got to decide how to deal with it. As I said, I always just accept the request, but I almost never go check the senders profile or pictures out.
Why not? Because I'm a busy little beaver, and I (THIS IS NOT A JUDGEMENT, JUST MY OWN PERSONAL THOUGHT ON IT!) kinda feel that if someone's going to make the request then they must have some reason for thinking we might be compatible. It'd be nice, and save me time, if they told me that reason right up front, rather than expecting me to find it for myself. Simple example: "Hey, I see you're into banana sex. Gee, we're more into cucumbers, but check us out and see if there could be any fruit/vegetable cross pollination possible." Or even the more blunt: "WOW, you look so DAMN HAWT IN THAT PIC WITH THE BANANA HANGING OUT YOUR AZZ! Check us out, we oughtta get together and make an Ice Cream Sundae!"
Ehem ... Either way, thanks for all the input, and keep being patient and kind with each other ... communicating here TRULY is fraught with the potential for misunderstandings. (and please, all you fans of anal sex, please don't send a friend request to see that banana pic -- it was just an imaginary example!! )
Sorry, as the OP, I truly did not mean to start some kind of "Friend-Request Hater-War!"
For us, it really doesn't require any kind of a judgement call on our part in regards to how YOU all use this site. Receiving Friend-Requests here, without an accompanying email, seems to be the more frequent occurrence for us. If anything, this thread has shown me that many of us use this site's tools differently, and interpret how they "should" be used differently. Online communication certainly is fraught with the potential for misinterpretation/miscommunication. My question here was simply to clear up, in my mind, what protocols others had in mind when they use the Friend Requests -- not to make a judgement call as to whether my way was right and yours wrong -- but I'm just so Freaking wordy sometimes that my question or point gets lost!
But I can tell from the responses here that many of you DO wait, after sending a Friend Request, using that Friend Request to judge whether there's any interest on the receiver's end. So I suppose my question is answered, but now I've got to decide how to deal with it. As I said, I always just accept the request, but I almost never go check the senders profile or pictures out.
Why not? Because I'm a busy little beaver, and I (THIS IS NOT A JUDGEMENT, JUST MY OWN PERSONAL THOUGHT ON IT!) kinda feel that if someone's going to make the request then they must have some reason for thinking we might be compatible. It'd be nice, and save me time, if they told me that reason right up front, rather than expecting me to find it for myself. Simple example: "Hey, I see you're into banana sex. Gee, we're more into cucumbers, but check us out and see if there could be any fruit/vegetable cross pollination possible." Or even the more blunt: "WOW, you look so DAMN HAWT IN THAT PIC WITH THE BANANA HANGING OUT YOUR AZZ! Check us out, we oughtta get together and make an Ice Cream Sundae!"
Ehem ... Either way, thanks for all the input, and keep being patient and kind with each other ... communicating here TRULY is fraught with the potential for misunderstandings. (and please, all you fans of anal sex, please don't send a friend request to see that banana pic -- it was just an imaginary example!! )
aah...we love all of our friends on here...and very much so krazygurl...love all this diversity of thought and different ways of doing things...hell we even luv you pals4fun. Just so in the end, despite all the adversity, anger and frustration...the blog ends in love, affection and understanding...wait is Jupiter aligned with Mars?
GOODKARMA1211 wrote:OMG, it appears as if that was SO very hard for you to type that statement!! LMAO
aah...we love all of our friends on here...and very much so krazygurl...love all this diversity of thought and different ways of doing things...hell we even luv you pals4fun. Just so in the end, despite all the adversity, anger and frustration...the blog ends in love, affection and understanding...wait is Jupiter aligned with Mars?
Ms. Karma had a gun to my head when I typed that...thought about the alternative so I did as told. It wasn't so much the potential gunshot to the head that made me type it...she threatened no blow jobs till valentine's day...that is just so cruel.
JBVIPER1 wrote:
hell...we've been really nice to each other on this blog...
GOODKARMA1211 wrote:sorry viper...that was me trying to quote you...ok so now let's really get it going tell me how stupid I am for not knowing how to properly quote....JBVIPER1 wrote:
hell...we've been really nice to each other on this blog...
Ok so I have to weigh in here. Please just relax and see where this roller coaster takes you. We have been in love and swinging as a couple for close to twenty years and I still cant find a way to describe it. Find friends make frirnds then fufk em... Personally we are here for having a great time so we look for couples who seam to share our recreatiohal limits. Please look us up if you want to hook up
Bob
Bob
interesting hearing everyone's different perspectives on friend requests...our opinions and views have evolved over time as well... I'm not sure there is a right or wrong way... we do almost all of our surfing of this site by Cell phone, so writing a message explaining what we liked about a profile or even responding to everyone's messages we've received sometimes is very hard... but like most people here we've met and made some wonderful friends with our approach... we never mean to offend others by not writing a message along with a request... we feel our request itself shows we have some level of interest... read ours, we'll read yours and if we all like then we'll go from there :-D
I'm looking at all of your profiles as I type. To see whom I want to send freinds rquests to. To see the rest of the story just kidding It's just Human nature to look
just kidding It's just Human nature to lookSKITTELS wrote:
I'm looking at all of your profiles as I type. To see whom I want to send freinds rquests to. To see the rest of the story
You found out my secret. If I respond on a post, and the more shocking you post the more interest you get, and then the friends requests just roll in.lol
PALS4FUN wrote:GOODKARMA1211 wrote:OMG, it appears as if that was SO very hard for you to type that statement!! LMAO
aah...we love all of our friends on here...and very much so krazygurl...love all this diversity of thought and different ways of doing things...hell we even luv you pals4fun. Just so in the end, despite all the adversity, anger and frustration...the blog ends in love, affection and understanding...wait is Jupiter aligned with Mars?
I may do something really crazy to tick you off...might even send you a blind friend request that'll teach ya!
That's it!! I'm buying blind friend requests around! Boobies up
....errrr I mean BELLY up folks!
....errrr I mean BELLY up folks!
awesome profile pals4fun
PLAYEN4FUN wrote:You're sweet, thanks! It's old and I've thought of changing it -- but really? Just being goofy and taking everything here (and swinging in general) lightly and with humor is so totally how I feel. Hell, even this thread kinda got out of hand -- everyone's so freaking serious all the time! If it isn't just fun and light-hearted then I'm not into it.
awesome profile pals4fun
PALS4FUN wrote:well saidPLAYEN4FUN wrote:You're sweet, thanks! It's old and I've thought of changing it -- but really? Just being goofy and taking everything here (and swinging in general) lightly and with humor is so totally how I feel. Hell, even this thread kinda got out of hand -- everyone's so freaking serious all the time! If it isn't just fun and light-hearted then I'm not into it.
awesome profile pals4fun
we need to get a 'meaner' profile name if we are going to be the adversary on the blog posts...goodkarma just doesn't do it...how about "manimal"? Any suggestions? Does that strike terror or what?
Hey you two, been a while, so maybe change it to Badkarma, thats what you get when you cross this sweet lady I sleep with.
We have 1 friend we did have a friend list but when we messaged them got no response so we figured why have a friend list if there wanting to hang out? And all our private photos are less than 6 months old as well as public ones but now we'll just go to parties and not try and setup one on one dates it's too much
I don't think either of us have ever sent a friend request to anyone, actually, unless we've talked first or something. I'm not even certain we've ever sent a request, as opposed to responding to someone else's request. The main reason is that it seems a lot of people (maybe even most) want to do the fiend thing to look at the private pics. Don't misunderstand, we don't think there's anything wrong with that, especially when the public pics don't show what someone even really looks like. I know I look at private pics hoping to see a face pic when there isn't a public one. even though I read profiles before looking at nay pics, even public ones. It's just that we don't have any private pics, at least not yet, and sending someone a friend request feels sort of like "you show me yours and I'll show you mine", and they aren't going to get to see mine. And that feels, I don't know, presumptive, rude, arrogant, I don't know just what the right word is. Maybe if we ever manage to get any private pics to post things will change a bit.
As to the friend requests, if it's a single male I always assume they're interested in Dana, so she decides about all of them. And if it's a couple I approve everyone. Hell, I like everybody, unless and until someone does something mean or really rude. ~ Terry
As to the friend requests, if it's a single male I always assume they're interested in Dana, so she decides about all of them. And if it's a couple I approve everyone. Hell, I like everybody, unless and until someone does something mean or really rude. ~ Terry
We NEVER accept any "blind" friend requests which are unaccompanied by any other communication... yet we continue to get several every week IN SPITE OF this decidedly unambiguous paragraph in our profile...
And now, one final pet peeve. We simply will not accept a blind friend request, without so much as a "hi, we like to to drink too." We can only assume you are trolling for naked pictures and we probably won't respond. (Unless you are married to Megan Kelley or Scarlett Johansen...) Besides, doing so now makes it obvious you haven't REALLY even read our profile. So we'll make it easy for you, just cut and paste this into an email to send along with your friend request and it will all be good... "Hi, Mrs. ALLITTLETWIST has a nice ass. We would like to learn more about you and see whether or not Mr. ALITTLETWIST is a troll. Thanks"
It's pretty clear that those who are sending the requests are just scrolling down the list sending requests.. don't want to sound like a dick, but we're just not that desperate.
And now, one final pet peeve. We simply will not accept a blind friend request, without so much as a "hi, we like to to drink too." We can only assume you are trolling for naked pictures and we probably won't respond. (Unless you are married to Megan Kelley or Scarlett Johansen...) Besides, doing so now makes it obvious you haven't REALLY even read our profile. So we'll make it easy for you, just cut and paste this into an email to send along with your friend request and it will all be good... "Hi, Mrs. ALLITTLETWIST has a nice ass. We would like to learn more about you and see whether or not Mr. ALITTLETWIST is a troll. Thanks"
It's pretty clear that those who are sending the requests are just scrolling down the list sending requests.. don't want to sound like a dick, but we're just not that desperate.
BADBOY8P wrote:
We read the profile first to see if we are a close match !!!! Then we want to just see face pics !!!!!!! But most profiles never have pics of the male half ...... We only want see you naked in the bedroom . After 6 years we have some great friends in and out of the bedroom .
J&L
Haha I just peeked at your pics....did you change them? Just saying!! lol.
i don't accept friend requests from people that don't let me know what it is about me that they find interesting. That weeds out most of the trolls.
I have a tendency to behave in a superficial manner when looking at pics. I like esthetically pleasant and engaging photos.... However, some people just don't have the right relationship with their camera. In the interest of being more open to experience and variety, I rarely bother looking at people's profiles -which makes me a bit of a hypocrite since I have added layer upon layer of information/photos in my own. When it comes to new folks, I need something to pique my interest in their words or approach.
I know that, often, I'm getting form-lettered. It's not easy to have an initial contact come out personally and spur of the moment every time you feel the urge to contact someone. However, it's not really my thing - I'd prefer a couple of sentences typed in sincerity than any number of cut/paste missives.
I know that, often, I'm getting form-lettered. It's not easy to have an initial contact come out personally and spur of the moment every time you feel the urge to contact someone. However, it's not really my thing - I'd prefer a couple of sentences typed in sincerity than any number of cut/paste missives.