Swingers Forum - Let's Talk About Sex BABY!!!

So,

I am going to tell you a little secret. Swinging is something that is bigger then one person. It is a whole group effort. lol

However you can be a swinger even if you are single.

The key to swinging and finding partners is to make eye contact. To flirt...cast out your lure and see if they let you reel them in...haha Never be overly pushy...sometimes it is not your moment to play. It will happen when it happens...I promise.

This is true on any level....when attracting a mate.

When you make eye contact....ladies lick your lips....batt your eyes. hehe

Boys stare her straight down...she will love that! whoot whoot!

anyways,

Let's see what others have to help those struggling with swingng?!

DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:

[quote=HOTFIRELOVERS]So,

I am going to tell you a little secret. Swinging is something that is bigger then one person. It is a whole group effort. lol

However you can be a swinger even if you are single.

The key to swinging and finding partners is to make eye contact. To flirt...cast out your lure and see if they let you reel them in...haha Never be overly pushy...sometimes it is not your moment to play. It will happen when it happens...I promise.

This is true on any level....when attracting a mate.

When you make eye contact....ladies lick your lips....batt your eyes. hehe

Boys stare her straight down...she will love that! whoot whoot!

anyways,

Let's see what others have to help those struggling with swingng?!

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Nice!

Can I sign up for this class, I promise I will pay attention and follow directions this time,

HOTFIRELOVERS wrote:

I am going to tell you a little secret. Swinging is something that is bigger then one person. It is a whole group effort. lol ...!

You're kinda joking here ... but I really think this to be true! From helping tone-down a guy/girl who is too drunk and being a jerk at a gathering, to not only proclaiming how great a party idea sounds but instead ACTUALLY freaking attending that party when you say you will, etc, etc ... I DO think that the overall group can set a good tone!!

So as I read your post, HotFire, I was getting disappointed, thinking to myself, "Aw crap, they're ACTUALLY going to make me type an entire response in a serious manner. But then you let loose with this statement:

HOTFIRELOVERS wrote:

The key to swinging and finding partners is to make eye contact. To flirt...cast out your lure!

"Oh YEAH, I thought, now I've got him. Other people may have missed it, but I knew what you were referring to there: Your talking about flopping your dick out onto the table, eh? Well I want you to know that doesn't work. Well I mean it doesn't work for other women. Works great with me, but then I've got this fetish for weiner and .... Ehem, never mind. Anyway, that's why I like to attend parties 'cause while those other girls are all going for each other, I'm heading out ... ummm .... to use your analogy .... fishing. Ehem...

I REALLY REALLY liked this part of your post:

HOTFIRELOVERS wrote:

... Never be overly pushy...sometimes it is not your moment to play. It will happen when it happens...I promise.

But then I disagreed. I like the "never pushy" part, but sometimes I'd like it to read, "It will happen when it happens IF it happens." In any particular meeting it doesn't HAVE to happen. I get so uptight when I meet someone and it's like, EXPECTED. "Well why are you here if you're not going to fuck someone!" My gut response is usually, "Yeah, I'll fuck someone, FUCK YOU!" For me, my legs fall apart a hell of a lot faster if the spreading is accomplished by forces of gravity rather than the expectations of a horny guy (or couple).

Another important one that goes along with my last statement, I suppose, is just to not worry about rejections. Know that sometimes, the person rejecting you has some reason that really doesn't have much to do with you, and that they may feel JUST as bad doing the rejecting as you do receiving it. I HATE saying no -- I just DO NOT LIKE TO HURT peoples' feelings -- I'm a real sissy that way! But also, its just really difficult for 4 people to gain all those cross connections required for ALL of you to be comfortable enough for major intimacy. But, like ya say, HotFire, it WILL happen, just not maybe with a certain couple at a certain time at a certain place. Lower epectations and be patient -- AND MEET SOME COOL FUN PEOPLE TO HANG WITH IN THE MEANTIME!

Let's talk about all the good things and, the bad things. That may be let's talk about SEX!!!

PALS4FUN wrote:

I am a bit of a smart ass and, I am teasing but, some of the points are true.

lol I love me some HOTFIRE and FIREWALKERS!!! yummy!

A lot of good advice here... even the sarcastic stuff ;-)

JADEANDJAY wrote:

There are some good points here, but there are different types of pushy. Jay is aggressive; but sometimes it comes off as pushy (he's definitely an alpha) but it's a good kind of pushy. It kinda sucks going out and people are so laid back you don't know if they are into you and waiting for you to make the first move, or they are just being nice until you go away.

Yes,

We have also seen this laid back side of things as well. Not really fun to be part of that. Though it does happen to us as well. We can not stand sitting back with everyone we are constantly moving around. meeting new people. Many are still our friends to this day. Some we have played with and, some we have not had the chance and yet we still all remain great friends to this day. 6 years baby!!!

Dreams and Fantasies have become a reality for us..Our dreams consist of a bucket list so long it would take a few lifetimes to fulfill. We have enjoyed all of our times spent with the sexy people of Utah and their gifts of sharing themselves with us..you have brought our sexual relationship to new and blissful heights. Thanks hotfirelovers for putting up this post and for the who of who you are..and once again speaking of sex and dreams here is the hounds greatest dream of all.and his greatest achievement. just a taste for those who have never met her..my Fox.. I so adore you.