So we have just moved from Salt Lake/Provo, Utah, the oasis of swinging and having friends, to Rapid City, a virtual desert in comparison and not having friends. We have tried emailing, figuring out where gatherings in the area are, and just attempted to connect, get to know, and otherwise meet people in this area. We have been verified and then some by Swingular as a couple so people know we are not a weird trolling "he" posing as a "we". Needless to say, there has been very little luck. I personally am tired of sitting home every Friday and Saturday night because I know no one or where to go to make new friends. And I doubt any of the friends we left behind in the oasis is willing to come here so we have new friends. Any advice anyone who might have experienced something similar? We are open to any and all loving, even joking, wisdom. HELP!
First of all, our condolences. Anyone who thinks Utah is the boondocks hasn't been to SD. About the best advice we could give is to either try Craigslist (Yeah, I know...but if you're a little more careful/cautious many people have good luck finding peeps there.) or doing some research to see which swing sites (most offer a free trial membership) have the most people from South Dakota. Most swing sites are skewed towards certain geographical areas. If all else fails start your own local swing website. Why the fuck not, everybody else does. LOL
I hear what you are saying. I am in Hawaii for a few weeks on business and there seems to be a lack of enthusiasm for the lifestyle. Good luck in SD though.
Lol Evildoers...oh that I could have just packed you up in moving boxes and moved you with us. I even wondered at the fact that we have VIP status. Out here I would think that would be a plus as not many have even been given a real verification yet. We could bring so much to so many...
Psyche72, totally hear ya. We moved from Boise to Pocatello recently and for the llllllongest time, there was nada as far as activity here. We in past years moved from Denver to Boise and Denver is a happening place, if one wants to find things for the LS. Boise is VERRRRRRRY private and from what we knew before (maybe not now), but was before, on the cliquish side. Denver is a very happening place, Mn is not, Idaho can be, if one is networked and knows where to look, Utah, wow, we'd have never of guessed it, but very good for the LS. Washington, HECK yea, it's active and Cali and Oreg are too. Vegas??? well, we all know the answer to that question!! that's our two cents C&M
ok...so anyone willing to travel to South Dakota so we can have friend?!?!? LOL. Thanks for the feedback! You ever find yourself hear for the Sturgis Rally or just because, drop us a note. 
I lived in Rapid for about 2 months while working locally and used the free dating sites to meet new people in the area. I had some good luck I guess and met a gal with a ranch and horses and such. The other place I had a great time was Oasis bar.
DANDH wrote:
We feel the same way! We have been in UT all our lives, but are new to the lifestyle and we are having the hardest time meeting people and being verified LOL. Any tips?
Go to chat in the evening, maybe some of the Meet & Greets. Or meet us.
Adult friend finder is not a bad place to start either. More singles than couples but the singles may lead you to some gatherings or meet an greets. Also on yahoo groups there is a group called Minn-Dak_social_club. Its a fairly active group that I have used when I travel to North Dakota but I know there are few South Dakotans on it. Also I know its a ways off but when Sturgis is happening there are a few groups that magically pop up around that time keep your eyes open. SLS is a great lifestyle site that can also point you in the right direction. Try this site also http://www.fabswingers.com/browse/country/USA/South_Dakota Just google South Dakota Swingers lots of different places. May take a little work but worth the effort. Good luck
PSYCHE...maybe give some thought to changing your screen name. Some folks aren't exactly the brightest bulbs in the chandelier and might read yours as PSYCHO. Might scare 'em. Another idea might be to just build your own swing club. Maybe out in a corn field. If you build it, they will cum. 
Thanks everyone! IF any of you are ever in our area, for Sturgis Rally or otherwise, drop us a live and let us know! We are more than happy to meet up and show you fun stuff in the city! In the meantime I may try some of your suggestions.
WYOFUNLUV wrote:
Adult friend finder is not a bad place to start either. More singles than couples but the singles may lead you to some gatherings or meet an greets. Also on yahoo groups there is a group called Minn-Dak_social_club. Its a fairly active group that I have used when I travel to North Dakota but I know there are few South Dakotans on it. Also I know its a ways off but when Sturgis is happening there are a few groups that magically pop up around that time keep your eyes open. SLS is a great lifestyle site that can also point you in the right direction. Try this site also http://www.fabswingers.com/browse/country/USA/South_Dakota Just google South Dakota Swingers lots of different places. May take a little work but worth the effort. Good luck
If you ever come back through or into the area...
Sorry to hear of your troubles. You may want to think about how long you have been there. It hasn't been that long. It is also winter, and most people don't go out much here in UT when it's cold, I could only imagine SD. Give it some time, you barely got there.
I'm not familiar with Rapid City, but go out every once in a while to the clubs that they have / or local gathering places. Talk to people, (I know the two of you can do that), not about swinging, but just in general. The two of you will find where you fit in and make more connections. Moving to a new part of the country is difficult, but at the same time it is an adventure. Just remember that.
I also second the AFF advice. I (we at the time) found swingular after being in UT for about a year by being pointed in the swingular direction by a couple we met on AFF in the AFF chat. SLS is also a good option as well.
Not a lot of help, but hang in there, it will get better.
I'm not familiar with Rapid City, but go out every once in a while to the clubs that they have / or local gathering places. Talk to people, (I know the two of you can do that), not about swinging, but just in general. The two of you will find where you fit in and make more connections. Moving to a new part of the country is difficult, but at the same time it is an adventure. Just remember that.
I also second the AFF advice. I (we at the time) found swingular after being in UT for about a year by being pointed in the swingular direction by a couple we met on AFF in the AFF chat. SLS is also a good option as well.
Not a lot of help, but hang in there, it will get better.