Now that you're a swinger do you think that you're more or less tolerant of people of a different body type than yours? We ran the Utah Undie Run yesterday (WAY fun, highly recommended btw) and today we were checking out the stories about it from the local news outlets and more than that the message/comment boards. Now we all know that there are a LOT of people in Utah who are/were very offended that some people would run around downtown on Conference Sunday in their underwear so we were expecting a lot of "sour grapes" type comments about it being disrespectful, etc.. What we weren't expecting quite so much were the MANY negative comments about how unattractive the participants were. Sure there were a few that could have hit the gym a little harder but we felt like the majority were actually quite fit and trim (and mostly quite a bit younger than we are-LOL). So it got us wondering if swingers are, in general, more or less tolerant of others who maybe aren't in spectacular shape. Or were you more tolerant before you became a swinger? We're not talking about people you'd necessarily like to fuck just about people in general. What say you?
It's bad enough that the newspaper's and media are showing our pics (the one's that need to go to gym as you two implied) but now you two are putting it on Swingular!! You two can kiss our asses (or at least we would like to hope for ;-D).....hehehe....so we are definitely less tolerant...unless you wanna?????
...am all in favor of running in undies unless you are carrying scissors...then I am quite opposed.
we like to think we are more than before, as we have learned that SEXY comes in many ways and forms.
Nothing worse than running with your panties in a bunch...run naked on conference Sunday thou shalt not judge and have fun....
I personally am more tolerant. I've learned it's not about body type and more about the mind. You can play with the hottest couple on the planet but if they are a dead fuck it kinda makes it lame. I would much rather play with somebody with an imperfect body but is just as kinky and naughty as me. The naughtier the better I always say 
Bully's always make fun of others. Has not changed from the time of Kane and Able. We can pretend it does not hurt. Though humans have a tendency to judge that which is different then their own ways.
The internet opens people up to this problem. Though many great factors to having this great communication. We tend to use things for evil as well. Most American's are blinded by the truth and illusions. why do we do this to each other I will never understand. Maybe it is survival of the fittest but I will call it being a Ka Douche.
I myself will never be perfect for everyone but, I am perfect to my sweet man. That is what floats my boat. The eye of the beholder is a beautiful thing. I do feel I have always accepted people for who they are before what they look like. I will never tear someone else down to make myself look better. I just do my thing and watch them as they do their thing. Cha Ching!!!
The internet opens people up to this problem. Though many great factors to having this great communication. We tend to use things for evil as well. Most American's are blinded by the truth and illusions. why do we do this to each other I will never understand. Maybe it is survival of the fittest but I will call it being a Ka Douche.
I myself will never be perfect for everyone but, I am perfect to my sweet man. That is what floats my boat. The eye of the beholder is a beautiful thing. I do feel I have always accepted people for who they are before what they look like. I will never tear someone else down to make myself look better. I just do my thing and watch them as they do their thing. Cha Ching!!!
I never run unless the cops are chasing me..clothes or no clothes..end of story..lol
I think we are the same if not more tolerant for sure. We were already really open minded to even attempt the LS. We have defiantly meet a lot of fun sexy.interesting ,sstrange to normal peeps that we may not normally be drawn to but then God they took the chance to meet us and we count them as good friends now and we have me a lot sexy as hell Model type people that were the ugliest people weve ever meet. But we are true to who we r and want to meet those that see us foe who we r and not whet we look like.
I think it is pretty much the same but it has added a whole new set of questions and they are definitely framed from a different perspective or point of possibilities.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
We think that in regards to your own appearance that you just cannot take the negativity that will be thrown your way too seriously. When we first formed this profile there was a group that threw parties that had a strict "undressed code" as to how you should look naked. A lot of people understandably got offended and there was a lot of banter and unfriendliness in the forums. We actually got several invitations, from some members of that group to join. We declined the invitations but we were surprised we were invited. For all the banter back and forth we would not have been welcome due to our age and or some sort of flaw in the body. Perhaps the exclusivity was the sell point and the members were more average than you would expect. Not that there is anything wrong with average. What the hell is average appearance anyway? Acceptance meant you were a notch above the rest in the eyes of the members as in the only true swingers. Does feeling sexy about yourself have to come at the expense of others? I do not know if that group still exist anymore. The founder fell in love and went monogamous last I knew. Well about that same time we submitted application as it were to join an older longer established group that puts together parties because we thought the parties looked like fun. About 60 days after our submission to join the group was sent we got back an e-mail declining our participation. We could get upset and lose time and joy wondering if we just were not sexy enough to be considered among the elite or we could just move on and know we were still going to find new and exciting people and adventures anyway. The real reasons for denial are only found within the person or persons that said no and if they have their reasons those same reasons do not make them bad people. I like to think that way at least. Mrs. Delicious just told me, as she was walking out the door to an appointment, that if they don't like her there must be something wrong with them. We can imagine until the cows come home and we will probably never guess right and it really does not matter anyway. I like to think the group, that told us no, is fun and is having fun but will just not know us. You cannot be part of everything anyway. The tendency for us to imagine that any group that might reject us is full of miserable losers that would not know sexy if it bit them is not good for us and the no was probably delivered with a lot less intolerance than we are imagining. I think we should concentrate on discovering more joy by fully focusing on the doors that are open to us. We are all going to get rejected from time to time and it might hurt but don't dwell on it. Opportunities to connect and to live and love surround us all.
Well written my friend and as a single male in this lifestyle this is something that needs to be preached and practiced
Kind of think its somewhat hipocritical for this OP to start this thread. A few weeks ago we posted something and these folks rushed to judgememt about what happened saying "I BET they got kicked for wearing affliction or ed hardy".....wrong to begin with...but a childish judgment enough not to deserve a reply....so yea...just a hint of Hipocrissy. .. o_O
Well first of all the Ed Hardy/Affliction comment was a JOKE! As are about 90% of all my forum posts if you're paying attention. Lighten up, Francis. 
I'll start putting lots of smiley faced emoticons on my posts so you can keep up.
I'll start putting lots of smiley faced emoticons on my posts so you can keep up.
Agreed with Sir Newby......damn the torpedo's and full speed ahead!!...lol.....seriously though we are more tolerant with asses.....especially sexy ones ;-D !!
We are probably the same as before we became swingers.. U have to be atractive, but we have learned douchiness comes in all shapes and sizes
We are about as far from being Ken & Barbie as you can get.
We're entering our senior years, and we're overweight and out of shape.
NOT fugly - just NOT magazine cover quality.
But thankfully, there are others out there who are NOT elitists, and NOT ego maniacs - folks who are looking to share some time together and experience a little fun in the process.
Experience has taught us that folks who have a fixation with the way others (or they) look will have MORE hangups than just physical appearance.
We've had the MOST fun with other who - like ourselves - care more about the person(s) and personality than looks.
We're entering our senior years, and we're overweight and out of shape.
NOT fugly - just NOT magazine cover quality.
But thankfully, there are others out there who are NOT elitists, and NOT ego maniacs - folks who are looking to share some time together and experience a little fun in the process.
Experience has taught us that folks who have a fixation with the way others (or they) look will have MORE hangups than just physical appearance.
We've had the MOST fun with other who - like ourselves - care more about the person(s) and personality than looks.
about the same , we have never been the type to judge the book by the cover, i mean we like a hot cover by all means but if the content inside is dull and boring then whats the point, and some of the best Treasures come in a plan brown bags, we are not by any means perfect looking models, and could prob use to lose a few pounds and work at a bit more but ya that's real never going to happen . But we can dream right.
We've always been pretty tolerant of body types and appearances, which has been nice because many of the nicest and most enjoyable people we've met were the ones who would not be considered hot or attractive. However, the more we play the more we learn to appreciate that the best part of a person isn't what you can see, it's what you can experience. And no matter how hard you try you won't be able to experience a person's looks because it's all in the personality. We've also found that, with rare exceptions, everyone is fundamentally the same even though they may look different. And this may surprise some people, but large ugly people enjoy sex just as much as slim pretty people do. So yes, we're much more tolerant now than we've ever been, mainly because of swinging and the unique perspectives that can be acquired through it. As our profile says, we don't care about the superficial aspects of a person (age, race, body type, weight, looks, etc.), nor do we use those aspects to select our playmates, because we've discovered that in the end they really don't matter.
SEXY comes in many ways and forms. To me this is the beauty of swinging. I find my wife very sexy but if her ways and forms was all that I found sexy why would I swing? With swinging one can enjoy the other ways and forms that one finds sexy.
CR4FUN wrote:
We've always been pretty tolerant of body types and appearances, which has been nice because many of the nicest and most enjoyable people we've met were the ones who would not be considered hot or attractive. However, the more we play the more we learn to appreciate that the best part of a person isn't what you can see, it's what you can experience. And no matter how hard you try you won't be able to experience a person's looks because it's all in the personality. We've also found that, with rare exceptions, everyone is fundamentally the same even though they may look different. And this may surprise some people, but large ugly people enjoy sex just as much as slim pretty people do. So yes, we're much more tolerant now than we've ever been, mainly because of swinging and the unique perspectives that can be acquired through it. As our profile says, we don't care about the superficial aspects of a person (age, race, body type, weight, looks, etc.), nor do we use those aspects to select our playmates, because we've discovered that in the end they really don't matter.
Very well said. We have met some awesome friends here. It's more about what they have to offer in the friendship than their looks. Although we have met some very sexy people!!
I'm definitely more tolerent. I don't take things personally myself. What I have discovered is that the mind can be as sexy if not more than the body. I've enjoyed my experience in life. I look forward to discovering more.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
We know and we agree that personality is more important than body type but it is hard to see personality in a picture, or at least a picture without facial expressions. If you want to maintain a bit of anonymity to your profile and not show face pictures, that either leaves cleverness in presentation when it comes to your photos or a display of you doing something that others might also enjoy, like riding motorcycles. You can also show a bit of booty which we do and some sexuality which we do and enjoy doing.
We have found that some folks, think that erotically displaying our bodies might mean we are all about and only about the corporeal human interactions associated with swinging which is just not true. Corporeal experiences, better known as "booty calls" are great fun but they are much more fun with nice people who are a pleasure to know intellectually and honest and kind enough to trust emotionally too. It is all about the whole of the relationship that determines the level of satisfaction and fun to be shared. The better the relationships the more deeply and pleasurably the adventures together will unfold.
Also well said. One thing I'd like to add is that being truly tolerant (which is really more what this discussion is about, even though it morphed into a discussion of the relative merits of looks vs. personality) means not caring about how people look, whether we know their personalities or not. We (meaning us) don't care about how people look, and many times we have met and immediately played with couples without ever seeing photos of them, knowing ahead of time that we'd play with them even if they turned out to be overweight and ugly. We then learn about their personalities as we play. If they have great personalities we get together with them again to develop a relationship, and if they don't, we treat the encounter as a one time sexual encounter and leave it at that (after all, sex as a physical activity can be done quite well without any other kind of relationship, so for a purely sexual encounter the personality doesn't really matter unless they're outrageously obnoxious).
One additional thought: while this discussion is about being tolerant of body types and looks, a side topic could be whether we're now more tolerant of unusual or negative personalities. While many people agree that personality is more important than looks, what happens if we get with a couple who look great but have obnoxious personalities? How tolerant would we be about that? As I just posted, you can have sex, even enjoyable sex, with people who have "bad" personalities. We might not want to associate with them outside of the sexual relationship, but it's conceivable to have a purely sexual relationship with people who we wouldn't want to see for any other reason. So does being TRULY tolerant mean being capable of enjoying sex with people regardless of their bodies, looks, and personalities as well?
Sorry we don't tolerate negative personalities. Our upstats are great. We confront and shatter suppressives. Bet your Xenu on it, buster! 
Hygiene is way more important than body type to me as I love everybody lol