Really if you are 2000 miles away from us we aren't interested in sharing private pictures! We are totally and strictly a REAL TIME PLAY COUPLE! So for anyone who request to be our friend here, please either be local, local enough to meet, visiting soon or someone we have already played with! If your a huge distance from us we won't be interested in sharing pictures. IE: we are here to meet and fuck!
Don't get so upset LTHR. Thirteen year old boys need lots of material for their fap folders so they troll swing sites (and other places) looking for people gullible enough to let them see (and take) their private pics. 
We send out birthday emails, welcome to the site info, and hello emails part of just being friendly. Some folks we are interested in meeting. But then we get back friend requests with no email attached. We never respond just delete the request and let it sit in the pending requests folder. Over 200 there now.
When we get them from single males we block the male.
We view friends as friends. Folks we have met and looks like we're going to be you know friends. Not some query for naked pictures.
So please, if we send you an email, even if we say your fucking hot, please come over tonight and fuck the wife, we are not friends until we have met.
When we get them from single males we block the male.
We view friends as friends. Folks we have met and looks like we're going to be you know friends. Not some query for naked pictures.
So please, if we send you an email, even if we say your fucking hot, please come over tonight and fuck the wife, we are not friends until we have met.
We don't accept unless they are reasonably close and send a message with it
We don't accept unless it says in their profile that they're into geezer sex. 
We get them from Utah 
Sucks that so many hot people are so far away.
Sucks that so many hot people are so far away.
It sucks so many people are getting friend requests they don't want...btw we are into geezer sex, but only in a safe geriatric hospital environment...in case things get out of hand.
I do find the Friend Request thing a bit ironic. Being new to the site we read the forums and made sure to always send an email with a friend request as it's talked about frequently. Finding on most I get the approval for the Friend Request but no return email. So who knows.
We will send a simple email to show interest, then if we hear back from them and there is interest on their part a friend request will follow shortly. If they have absolutely no pics we will not accept requests.
the only reason some 13 yr old would be trying to get a pic of me (not ms. karma, she's hot) would be for some weird Jr. High School Science Fair project.
LOL well guessing it's the same one's sending out the bulk friend request it appears. You would think however, if your first request was turned down, why bother to send a second? That is however the one thing about this site that is different from others, the friend request part that is. Oh well it's all good thanks for everyone for your input.
The serial friend request spammers are likely in sales. Shotgun out a mass mailing and hope for a 10% ROI.
Also, apparently many can't read. Sad really. Who knew so many people were functionally illiterate. Had one guy FR us then write repeatedly and finally I wrote him and asked if he had actually read our profile. He wrote back and said it was too long (fair enough, War and Peace is shorter) and he didn't have time to read everyone's profile. He just sent a generic email out to anyone he thought was "hot".
Also, apparently many can't read. Sad really. Who knew so many people were functionally illiterate. Had one guy FR us then write repeatedly and finally I wrote him and asked if he had actually read our profile. He wrote back and said it was too long (fair enough, War and Peace is shorter) and he didn't have time to read everyone's profile. He just sent a generic email out to anyone he thought was "hot".
Angelhart, Very well said perhaps our original posting left certain things out or wasn't very clear. We get a certain amount of people who contact us simply because we live in a tourist city. We have been here long enough and are established in the lifestyle community. We have no issue with others contacting us especially if there seems to be a connection based on either profiles and pictures. What we do object to is the ones who are several thousand miles away and numerous of them have either very limited or no pictures at all and because of Swingular set up once you accept they have access to your pictures. They see pictures of an attractive woman and merely want to perv, that is the part that makes us unhappy
ANGELHART21 wrote:.
Trying to make friends on here can be difficult. Distance should not matter as much as having trust in those asking to be friends. For example we are in the military and because of that are hesitant to put a picture on our profile. We are stationed in TX and in the last year have traveled to Seattle, New Orleans, Miami and are heading to Vegas and Miami again. We are an attractive and very fit couple that has pictures, very sexy ones for those who do decide to accept our friendship. We send a polite email with an picture attached and hope you accept our request. We are willing to travel anywhere and distance has no effect if we are attracted to a couple socially and physically. Every friendship has to start with a simple hello and all we ask is you give us a chance and you might discover we have a lot in common.
I feel for you ANGEL but you have to realize why people might be skeptical. For every nice, real, honest couple in the lifestyle there are probably 10 (and of those 10 maybe 2 are actual couples) who are scamming for pics, trying to convince you to play with the "husband" (re:there is no wife) or trying to get YOUR wife to play with them alone without you. It sucks, but that's the nature of our online world. Far too easy to hide behind the anonymity of a computer screen. That's why meet and greets and parties are so important because then you can see that someone is real and talk to them and make sure they're on the same page. I know it's tough being in an area that isn't widely represented here on Swingular. Bottom line, unfortunately many (most?) people aren't going to accept a FR (well at least let you see their locked pics- other people have privacy concerns too) unless there is a real chance that you will be meeting. *shrug*
If I may interject, I am a single man, Im new to this site. I also have been into this lifestyle for a long time, but as a single man getting single women and couples in this lifestyle to realize that I am not into this lifestyle for just my pleasure. I'm more about the fantasy and experience, for example if I'm with a couple, its all about the pleasure and experience for the couple more then it is for myself, and when I'm with a single woman, I truly take pleasure in making sure she is pleased and satisfied. Now to the point of this discussion, I never try to friend any women or couples who are not in a 30 mile radius from me, but I do like to make friends and get to know other people who are involved in this lifestyle. That's what I found I liked about this site, the forums are a great way to talk to like minded people without the stigma of being a single male just trying to perv others profiles.
Pointers for newbies...
- NEVER accept blind friend requests.
- Even if there is a fairly decent accompanying message, go back and forth a couple times.
- Put "Easter eggs" in your profile that your trying to get a response to... be able to recognize the generic message they sent to 100 other profiles and dont answer them! Only answer the ones where they took the time to be more personal to you and your profile.
- Having a second profile is a good way to see who is sending mass messages BTW.
- In your private pictures dont include face shots with "parts" shots in the same photos!!!
- Possibly consider not including any face shots at all until physically meeting??... In a VERY public place, donut shop with cops!!
- NEVER accept blind friend requests.
- Even if there is a fairly decent accompanying message, go back and forth a couple times.
- Put "Easter eggs" in your profile that your trying to get a response to... be able to recognize the generic message they sent to 100 other profiles and dont answer them! Only answer the ones where they took the time to be more personal to you and your profile.
- Having a second profile is a good way to see who is sending mass messages BTW.
- In your private pictures dont include face shots with "parts" shots in the same photos!!!
- Possibly consider not including any face shots at all until physically meeting??... In a VERY public place, donut shop with cops!!
Mr. here I sometimes will send a friend request to someone I don't know but it's always accompanied by a message.
Brett
Brett
If you open a Friend request, then close and delete it w/o responding to it, it then blocks that person from ever sending you a FR again.
BENT wrote:
Pointers for newbies...
- NEVER accept blind friend requests.
- Even if there is a fairly decent accompanying message, go back and forth a couple times.
- Put "Easter eggs" in your profile that your trying to get a response to... be able to recognize the generic message they sent to 100 other profiles and dont answer them! Only answer the ones where they took the time to be more personal to you and your profile.
- Having a second profile is a good way to see who is sending mass messages BTW.
- In your private pictures dont include face shots with "parts" shots in the same photos!!!
- Possibly consider not including any face shots at all until physically meeting??... In a VERY public place, donut shop with cops!!
Tried the Easter egg thing. Didn't work. Then we put some kick ass Zombie Jesus references in and we got laid SO much. I think zombified deities totally turn chicks on.
We accept friend requests from just about anyone near us. In my personal opinion, now this is just my opinion, dont bash me. I think its good to see what they actually look like before u send some long b s email about wanting to meet them and all that other stuff especially if u dont really know what they look like. Yes we read profiles, but LOOKS MATTER, especially the face!
Again to us it's a matter of simple logistics if your several thousand miles away really? We have no issue opening nor accepting request from others. That being said sometimes people object even if your a few hundred miles away, we ourselves do not! But we also live in a tourist city (Las Vegas,NV) that being said we get numerous couples and some women who do enjoy travelling over to Vegas. We are always happy and trilled when they contact us, express an interest in us as well. Our point was truly simple, if you are travelling or planning to travel to Vegas we have no objection to those contacting us about perhaps meeting. But sending out request simply to view pictures is well adolescent at best! This is a very social community we all belong to, some of us are more social about it than others and some are merely here to hookup and fuck. We prefer to make friends or have some sort of attraction to the people we meet, but like the rest we have lives, families and other things that take up our time and demand attention.
InsertCoin wrote:
I can understand how getting blind friend requests is a nuisance. Equally unfriendly is sending out a friend request with a respectful message and then the request is accepted with no replies to the message or a follow up message.
From a single males perspective.. accepting a friend request is a form of interest. Please have the decency of responding to the accompanied message.
Am I in the wrong here?
I totally agree, I understand when its a blind request not replying but when a respectful email is sent a simple thanks for the inquiry but we/I are not interested at the moment, wouldn't be to much to ask would it?