Well, I have a co-worker that I have been friends with for a while and recently found they are a swingers, it wasn't shocking to me or anything just thought it was interesting. So some time has passed and I thought I wonder if I could join them sexually.
To me it would just be awkward to as him that. Obviously I'm not going to ask him "hey can I bang your wife?"
I don't care if it was both of them or just her, I've always thought she was hot and I consider my co-worker a good friend.
So, how do I ask that and/or is it a bad idea?
Thanks
To me it would just be awkward to as him that. Obviously I'm not going to ask him "hey can I bang your wife?"
I don't care if it was both of them or just her, I've always thought she was hot and I consider my co-worker a good friend.
So, how do I ask that and/or is it a bad idea?
Thanks
I say just go for it and ask if you can bang his wife. Of course just like bringing a nice bottle of wine to a dinner party it would be the polite thing for you to do to bring some hottie you know for him to bang. If you don't know any hotties you can ask him if he's ok with a hooker...or like your sister or something. 
Thanks for such a great answer.
Lol evildoers, and I'll take that into consideration and try and make it happen for him
Lol evildoers, and I'll take that into consideration and try and make it happen for him
You have been given some good advice. I assume that they both know you are in the lifestyle? If so ask them out on a date with the provision that she is or at least may be interested in exploring the possibilities with you in the mix. A double date would be even better as long as there is mutual interest or consent among the ladies. Most couples will not let you pay for everything but it does not hurt to offer.
Don't even go there. It NEVER works to bang a co worker, and banging a co workers wife. Really!
hey ! I banged my co worker and it worked just fine lol, we are on this site together haha.. but we are probably an exception.. But in reference to the post. Bring up the subject over drinks... Ask if they have ever played with friends then progress conversation from there
I appreciate the responses and opinions.
I am not in the lifestyle and don't think I ever really fully would be, just want to experiment and see what's what, but I don't want to troll around either. If an opportunity comes up that's fine.
He's really chill, laid back and open minded. I've had many conversations about everything that I otherwise wouldn't have with any other person. So if I asked and the answer was no I don't think anything would come out of just asking. I just wanted to find out from other people in the lifestyle what their opinions and personal experiences were.
I am not in the lifestyle and don't think I ever really fully would be, just want to experiment and see what's what, but I don't want to troll around either. If an opportunity comes up that's fine.
He's really chill, laid back and open minded. I've had many conversations about everything that I otherwise wouldn't have with any other person. So if I asked and the answer was no I don't think anything would come out of just asking. I just wanted to find out from other people in the lifestyle what their opinions and personal experiences were.
"To me it would just be awkward to as him that."
And even more awkward afterwards, no matter what his answer. If you know some of the same people or go to some of the same parties/clubs then interacting in an out of work fashion might be a good idea and then let them decide if they want to go there.
And even more awkward afterwards, no matter what his answer. If you know some of the same people or go to some of the same parties/clubs then interacting in an out of work fashion might be a good idea and then let them decide if they want to go there.
we can see this going bad, we would stay away from it but that's just us
"I am not in the lifestyle and don't think I ever really fully would be"
"K USSIR your not a swinger but you wanna have sex with you friends wife with your friend there? HMMMMMMM I smell a swinger in the making"
Naw, I smell a single guy who just wants to get laid. If you aren't really interested in swinging just leave it alone and get your jollies elsewhere. There are plenty of ways for you to get your rocks off in bars and clubs and on Craigslist. It's your VERY common SM attitude that makes it tough for the very few single guys who get it and really want to be part of the lifestyle. No wonder so many people constantly say that singles aren't really swingers. But don't worry. You aren't alone. We've met TONS of single dudes over the years who've admitted that they would NEVER allow their wife (if they ever got married) to fuck another man. Swinging is an attitude and a mindset. A guy who would let you fuck his wife is risking a lot and sharing with you the most important thing in his life. If you can't grasp that concept you should just stay home and jerk it to online porn.
"K USSIR your not a swinger but you wanna have sex with you friends wife with your friend there? HMMMMMMM I smell a swinger in the making"
Naw, I smell a single guy who just wants to get laid. If you aren't really interested in swinging just leave it alone and get your jollies elsewhere. There are plenty of ways for you to get your rocks off in bars and clubs and on Craigslist. It's your VERY common SM attitude that makes it tough for the very few single guys who get it and really want to be part of the lifestyle. No wonder so many people constantly say that singles aren't really swingers. But don't worry. You aren't alone. We've met TONS of single dudes over the years who've admitted that they would NEVER allow their wife (if they ever got married) to fuck another man. Swinging is an attitude and a mindset. A guy who would let you fuck his wife is risking a lot and sharing with you the most important thing in his life. If you can't grasp that concept you should just stay home and jerk it to online porn.
Well said Evildoers!
I like reading all the responses. And want to thank Ussir for being honest about his feelings thoughts. It does show some respect and just hope it continues on. Wish more guys would ask and learn before doing. Keep us single guys from having a bad rap.
I like reading all the responses. And want to thank Ussir for being honest about his feelings thoughts. It does show some respect and just hope it continues on. Wish more guys would ask and learn before doing. Keep us single guys from having a bad rap.
EVILDOERS wrote:
"I am not in the lifestyle and don't think I ever really fully would be"
"K USSIR your not a swinger but you wanna have sex with you friends wife with your friend there? HMMMMMMM I smell a swinger in the making"
Naw, I smell a single guy who just wants to get laid. If you aren't really interested in swinging just leave it alone and get your jollies elsewhere. There are plenty of ways for you to get your rocks off in bars and clubs and on Craigslist. It's your VERY common SM attitude that makes it tough for the very few single guys who get it and really want to be part of the lifestyle. No wonder so many people constantly say that singles aren't really swingers. But don't worry. You aren't alone. We've met TONS of single dudes over the years who've admitted that they would NEVER allow their wife (if they ever got married) to fuck another man. Swinging is an attitude and a mindset. A guy who would let you fuck his wife is risking a lot and sharing with you the most important thing in his life. If you can't grasp that concept you should just stay home and jerk it to online porn.
Yeah, that was well put
And thanks deliciouslywet for your response too.
I guess I'll leave it alone and if I'm hanging out with them and it happens great if not that's fine too.
don't do it no one likes single males, you'll make them get out of the lifestyle and ruin it for the rest of us.. especially if they are good looking
Honestly, a lot of people here are being negative about single men. Don't let it make you feel like you are a leper. A lot of couples seek out single men. Everyone has their own preferences. If your friend confided enough in you to tell you that he and his spouse were swingers he obviously is open enough with you to not be upset you asked something like that. What exactly are you looking/interested in doing with her(them potentially)? Threesome, voyeurism, DP, DVP, or are you just wanting to take his wife alone for an evening of some great swingers sex lol?
USSIR wrote:
Well, I have a co-worker that I have been friends with for a while and recently found they are a swingers, it wasn't shocking to me or anything just thought it was interesting. So some time has passed and I thought I wonder if I could join them sexually.
To me it would just be awkward to as him that. Obviously I'm not going to ask him "hey can I bang your wife?"
I don't care if it was both of them or just her, I've always thought she was hot and I consider my co-worker a good friend.
So, how do I ask that and/or is it a bad idea?
Thanks
As a single male also in this lifestyle who has faced a similar situation my advice would be to just openly talk about the lifestyle, involve both him and his wife in the convo casually over drinks one night when your just hanging out. Basically plant a seed and see if it grows, realistically if they are into the lifestyle and are open to the idea they will invite you, but its best to let them think its their idea to include you. For some couples it just might be out of bounds to include friends into their sexploits.
EVILDOERS wrote:
"I am not in the lifestyle and don't think I ever really fully would be"
"K USSIR your not a swinger but you wanna have sex with you friends wife with your friend there? HMMMMMMM I smell a swinger in the making"
Naw, I smell a single guy who just wants to get laid. If you aren't really interested in swinging just leave it alone and get your jollies elsewhere. There are plenty of ways for you to get your rocks off in bars and clubs and on Craigslist. It's your VERY common SM attitude that makes it tough for the very few single guys who get it and really want to be part of the lifestyle. No wonder so many people constantly say that singles aren't really swingers. But don't worry. You aren't alone. We've met TONS of single dudes over the years who've admitted that they would NEVER allow their wife (if they ever got married) to fuck another man. Swinging is an attitude and a mindset. A guy who would let you fuck his wife is risking a lot and sharing with you the most important thing in his life. If you can't grasp that concept you should just stay home and jerk it to online porn.
Great points.. And if I may say, I am a single fella in this lifestyle, and yes if I were married or had a girlfriend, I would love to share with another man, woman, or couple. In fact when I go on dates, swinging is one of the conversations I make sure we have, if she is not interested in the lifestyle, then we enjoy the date and go our separate ways. I am open and honest upfront and not afraid to express my involvement in the lifestyle. If she is interested then we will talk more about it as the dating continues, if not, no hard feelings..
If you're welcome - you'll be invited.
Until and/or IF that happens - STFU.
It'll save your friendship.
Until and/or IF that happens - STFU.
It'll save your friendship.
^^^^ that spelling ^^^^
