It seems finding a couple with a straight female is just barely easier than everyone says finding a sf is (we haven't tried) the Mrs. Is straight but will play with girls and it doesn't bug her it just does nothing for her. We both enjoy the lifestyle but are surprised at how much it limits you when your both straight. I (Mr.) Was just curious how many other couples have had similar experiences
We agree, this has limited us as well.
We have. Wife sounds alot like yours....our profile says she is "bi-curious" only because she doesn't mind girls touching her and she doesn't mind touching them, she just really prefers playing with man parts.
Sounds typical! We get hit on a lot by Bi F's that want our F. And the guys, look at her, who wouldn't.
Makes for some disappointment as she is not into girls at all. So most of our encounters have been MFM. She likes that a lot!
Makes for some disappointment as she is not into girls at all. So most of our encounters have been MFM. She likes that a lot!
We are in the same boat. She doesn't mind being touched by a female. She will even kiss and play with boobs. But, she is not a vagetarian.other women going down on her does nothing for her.
Wife here is what we call 'boobie bi', she is really straight but enjoys kissing and playing with boobs.
Make sense?
Make sense?
We are both straight and wife will not play with girls, its not even a turn on to think about it. Most of our encounters is MFM, FM while I video tape it, or me flying solo. The other straight couples we attempt to hook up with male is into my wife and his wife is not into me or his wife is into me and the male not into my wife. Wife don't drink and I smoke that's the other turn off with most couples. An I have never smoke in some ones home who don't smoke. But have to agree finding a couple where everyone is interested all around is far few and in between.
Mr. 2 cents.
Mr. 2 cents.
So, reading this brings up a question I have based on our experience so far...if you are a straight male or female would you flat out not consider playing with or even talking to someone who lists themselves as bi?
It feels like we have encountered the issue of not being considered potentials because we are both bisexual. However, I would think that would just add more fluidity to the situation. If we're bi and the couple we play with is not, then of course we would go off of what they're comfortable with. I feel we're very clear in expressing ourselves and being respectful to others, so I guess I'm just wondering if bisexuality is off-putting to some people.
It feels like we have encountered the issue of not being considered potentials because we are both bisexual. However, I would think that would just add more fluidity to the situation. If we're bi and the couple we play with is not, then of course we would go off of what they're comfortable with. I feel we're very clear in expressing ourselves and being respectful to others, so I guess I'm just wondering if bisexuality is off-putting to some people.
ESPECIALTY wrote:
So, reading this brings up a question I have based on our experience so far...if you are a straight male or female would you flat out not consider playing with or even talking to someone who lists themselves as bi?
It feels like we have encountered the issue of not being considered potentials because we are both bisexual. However, I would think that would just add more fluidity to the situation. If we're bi and the couple we play with is not, then of course we would go off of what they're comfortable with. I feel we're very clear in expressing ourselves and being respectful to others, so I guess I'm just wondering if bisexuality is off-putting to some people.
I would imagine, as long as boundaries are respected, it shouldn't be a problem. The wife is not bi with every woman, but if she feels an attraction, the boundaries come off. I don't care if the male is bi as long as he knows that I am not, and there is no expectation that I'm going to change my mind. Ain't going to happen. Boundaries are the key. Respect those and things are good. That being said, we've never run across this issue.
We have had mff encounters and I don't mind playing with a girl, but mostly because it drives him crazy. Would never go for a girl on my own.
Ah yes, one of the dirty little secrets of the lifestyle. Ladies better be bi and guys better not. Along with "We ALWAYS use condoms." and "drama free". LOL
(For the record Ms. Evil is bi-comfortable but it really doesn't do much for her other than she enjoys how it turns the guys on.)
(For the record Ms. Evil is bi-comfortable but it really doesn't do much for her other than she enjoys how it turns the guys on.)
Ehem, I'm always misinterpreting things. It seems, so far, that the opinions in this thread include a bit of paradox:
Don't post the woman as being straight 'cause that's just too inflexible and demonstrates closed-mindedness.
Don't post the man as being bi 'cause that's too flexible and open-minded.
I ain't taking one for the team.
I'm going to perform sexual acts with other people simply for the benefit and entertainment of other people, even though I'm not really into it.
OMG, My guy would never be with another guy and I shouldn't express a desire to see that.
My hubby should just get me to close my eyes and have sex with another woman 'cause I'd probably learn to like it.
Swinging is an activity that is focused on the womens' pleasure.
Many women don't really care to play with other women but do so for their husband's entertainment.
I've had some great chuckles from this thread ... it makes for some good blogging fodder!
Don't post the woman as being straight 'cause that's just too inflexible and demonstrates closed-mindedness.
Don't post the man as being bi 'cause that's too flexible and open-minded.
I ain't taking one for the team.
I'm going to perform sexual acts with other people simply for the benefit and entertainment of other people, even though I'm not really into it.
OMG, My guy would never be with another guy and I shouldn't express a desire to see that.
My hubby should just get me to close my eyes and have sex with another woman 'cause I'd probably learn to like it.
Swinging is an activity that is focused on the womens' pleasure.
Many women don't really care to play with other women but do so for their husband's entertainment.
I've had some great chuckles from this thread ... it makes for some good blogging fodder!
This is interesting. The Mrs. is very bi but it is never a requirement that the other girl be bi also. Although we have chatted with some couples where it is a requirement for them. We had a couple the other night have a requirement that we both be bi, so we said bye, lol.
The misses never played with a woman before we started swinging, but loves it now, we are laid back and up for whatever but found that the less boundaries we have during sex the more fun and fluid it is, No gay male stuff but everything else is on the table. But if the girl is straight and doesnt want to touch and kiss the misses it just doesnt feel as exciting to us. THIS IS JUST our OPINION though to each their own. But the word no shouldnt come up too much while being naughty
I find I that being with couples where the female is straight can be just as much fun it is just different. It is fun to focus just on the male once in awhile. I'm bi but do not require the female be bi too. I respect boundaries. I just think it can be plain hot having two women pleasing one man.
I am bi but prefer the cock.....Getting the motor running and a little foreplay is hot but, want to end up with a man. If a woman is not bi I totally respect that and her boundaries. I started out straight, then bi-curious, and finally said hell I'm bi. I would have never thought about it in a million years before I got into the lifestyle. I have had wonderful experiences both ways. Don't be afraid to meet with bi couples. You will find that they are fun and I hope they are like us, non-pushy and respect your boundaries. Just make sure to clearly state what those are. Then have fun.
Hell i thought i had the only straight wife in the ls
Our profile says she is "bi-curious" but really its 95% cock but with the right woman she can be interested in more. We updated our profile info to say that so hopefully the couples searching for a couple with a straight female wont be scared off by us. Sexy couples with straight ladies are very welcum here!!
Great blog......we truly believe that sexuality is an exploration yet limits are very personal and based upon preferences need to be respected. We are both bi-fun yet that is not a requirement for ladies, gentlemen, or couples that we have played with.
We both prefer our opposite sexes yet also are comfortable with our own sexes as we play in the same bed and want every one touching and playing with everyone so no one ever has to be left out of play time. The Mr. was the one that grew up homophobic and thus, he was the one that made the decision to be bi-fun as honestly this all about having fun and sharing Experiences with the Mrs.
Lastly, male bisexuality is funny, as we laugh at how many straight males want to do a DVP or have sex with their wife after another man just came inside of her (think about it really....lol) as truly any play beside with your partner is all about sharing these erotic moments with each other and adding some spice to your sex lives with what ever you both are comfortable with.
Hoping all is oh so erotic,
Euroclass
PS Send any hot shemales to us as we will only have to pay for one dinner with only half the drama.....lol....hehehe
We both prefer our opposite sexes yet also are comfortable with our own sexes as we play in the same bed and want every one touching and playing with everyone so no one ever has to be left out of play time. The Mr. was the one that grew up homophobic and thus, he was the one that made the decision to be bi-fun as honestly this all about having fun and sharing Experiences with the Mrs.
Lastly, male bisexuality is funny, as we laugh at how many straight males want to do a DVP or have sex with their wife after another man just came inside of her (think about it really....lol) as truly any play beside with your partner is all about sharing these erotic moments with each other and adding some spice to your sex lives with what ever you both are comfortable with.
Hoping all is oh so erotic,
Euroclass
PS Send any hot shemales to us as we will only have to pay for one dinner with only half the drama.....lol....hehehe
PALS4FUN wrote:
Ehem, I'm always misinterpreting things. It seems, so far, that the opinions in this thread include a bit of paradox:
Don't post the woman as being straight 'cause that's just too inflexible and demonstrates closed-mindedness.
Don't post the man as being bi 'cause that's too flexible and open-minded.
I ain't taking one for the team.
I'm going to perform sexual acts with other people simply for the benefit and entertainment of other people, even though I'm not really into it.
OMG, My guy would never be with another guy and I shouldn't express a desire to see that.
My hubby should just get me to close my eyes and have sex with another woman 'cause I'd probably learn to like it.
Swinging is an activity that is focused on the womens' pleasure.
Many women don't really care to play with other women but do so for their husband's entertainment.
I've had some great chuckles from this thread ... it makes for some good blogging fodder!
I felt like this too. Say what people?
Some of you might need to seek some help. Some of you are very confident about how you feel and that is okay too.
If your man is making you do things then maybe you are not as progressed as you think. If he wants you to be with a girl but he wont touch a guy.....I call bullshit. Making your straight wife walk a line you never would yourself that is wrong and really not helping your lady out. Maybe it is your turn to not be selfish and really listen.
I have a problem with people saying one thing but allowing another to do it based on their own understanding or even by watching porn. Porn is not real life stop thinking your wife wants what you want and actually ask her what she wants? Come on she has come this far you can at least meet her in the middle.
Now for all those that are actually bisexual this is not for you at all....Only the ones that men push their wives to enjoy something they only fake.....Like a fake ORGASM.....Yes women FAKE THIS ALL THE TIME!!! Do you know why? You never really asked her what turns her on!
Oh and to put a label on myself I am human. I prefer humans who are equally on my level. It is not hard to find these people because I am very good a communicating where I stand. Hope that helps!!!
Sara
Sara
I would think that most of the females that are part of a couple prefer men over women, but enjoy playing with women as a warmup. I couldn't imagine too many (unless specified in their profile) that wouldn't respect the boundaries of a straight female.
ESPECIALTY wrote:
Thannnnk you. These are the observations I've made so far as well.
I think its so interesting that the overall feeling on male bisexuality seems to be negative. Apparently female bisexuality is hot, and male bisexuality is gross.
We're in the same boat there. Well, a similar boat. The wife is bi-comfortable but I'm very much bi-friendly and wanting to explore further. That's a major turn off for most couples, men especially.
I like the number 5.......MFM FF........that way everyone gets a taste of what they like the best!
One of the earlier posts mentioned the "dirty little secrets" that the female needs to be bi and the male better not be bi. I would bet that there are a number of guys on here who are bi curious, comfortable, bi, whatever, but don't say so because they still want to meet other couples. So not to take this the other way, but what about the guys? I will say it, I don't have that I am curious/comfortable on my profile (being single and stating you are bi comfortable ect... would be similar to banishment to Swingular leprosy colony).
I LOVE everything about women. All shapes and sizes. Always have, but in certain circumstances, certain things can be erotic, and if it feels good, is legal, and everyone is comfortable, why "conform"? Guess I should update my profile...If people don't want to get to know me, their loss.....[/quote]
This is definitely what we've found. Couples have messaged us noticing our male half is bi because theirs is comfortable, curious, or bi as well, they just prefer not to state it on their profile. I do not understand this mentality, and have found it interesting. You would think the swinging community is pretty open but there are definitely pervasive social norms that people that think they're open minded internalize. Anyway, I think if you want to change your status you should. Why lie or be cloaked about who you are? Fuck close minded people.
I LOVE everything about women. All shapes and sizes. Always have, but in certain circumstances, certain things can be erotic, and if it feels good, is legal, and everyone is comfortable, why "conform"? Guess I should update my profile...If people don't want to get to know me, their loss.....[/quote]
This is definitely what we've found. Couples have messaged us noticing our male half is bi because theirs is comfortable, curious, or bi as well, they just prefer not to state it on their profile. I do not understand this mentality, and have found it interesting. You would think the swinging community is pretty open but there are definitely pervasive social norms that people that think they're open minded internalize. Anyway, I think if you want to change your status you should. Why lie or be cloaked about who you are? Fuck close minded people.
Commenting mostly to find more couples like us
It can be difficult to tell from these profiles if people are accepting or not... I think that is what we are getting at.
I think many straight men see 'bi' as meaning you will receive anal from a male when, in actuality, there are a lot of 'gay' men who don't even do that. I don't know that I'm necessarily interested in being around guys banging so I don't list myself as bi-comfortable. I am mentally comfortable with gay and bi but I'm not interested in that physically.
It can be difficult to tell from these profiles if people are accepting or not... I think that is what we are getting at.
I think many straight men see 'bi' as meaning you will receive anal from a male when, in actuality, there are a lot of 'gay' men who don't even do that. I don't know that I'm necessarily interested in being around guys banging so I don't list myself as bi-comfortable. I am mentally comfortable with gay and bi but I'm not interested in that physically.