We are very new to this and have sexual desires, but would like to meet a couple and develope a friendship first. Well say you meet a couple and they figure that your not a good match may it be that your to ugly? to fat? or that your to much of a party animal? or maybe you said your looking for a friendship thats not all about fucking? Now the first meeting is over and this couple has no idea that your not interest any more. Now do you just ignore their email and phone call after the first meet or do you responed back and say we are not a good fit?????
Do the honest thing and let them know ! That is what the meet and greet is for friend.
Not everyone will be a match. If people get their feelings hurt because you don't feel that they're the type, that's their problem. We have turned others down, others have turned us down. It's all part of it. Be up front with them. But then there are people we've met, but just can't find the time to get together with them. For us, sometimes age comes into play. We're all in this for one thing, but we also have different wants and desires in our playmates. We like to find compatibility with our friends. We enjoy conversation as well. Others may be in it just for the sex. It's what you need it to be to enjoy it.
If they weren't your type for any reason, do the right thing and say so. You don't have to go into detail about why you aren't a match, as attraction is not a scientific thing, and they probably wouldn't be able to do anything with your detailed information anyway. Remember, what is not attractive to you, may be perfect for someone else. Be courteous in telling them, so they are able to focus their attention elsewhere. Make certain you thank them for taking the time and making the effort to meet you! That is the most important part.
Well said craigandmar !!! Treat them as u would wanna be treated ....... And if they read the forums they already know 
Thanks just asked cause it happen to us, We don't know why they wont return a phone call or email But would have liked to been told we are not a match or thanks but no thanks
Thatmauicouple
Thanks for your last comment
Thanks for your last comment
Something must be in the air cause last weekend we talked to a couple for two days decided to meet up we drove an hour to meet them and got two blocks from their house when all the sudden I guess aunt flow decided to visit them. So we said o its ok we can still hang out have drinks. I would have much rather them say they are not interested than giving us a bull shit excuse especially after driving for an hour when we could have spent those two hours playing with a non stuck up sexy couple.
Sorry to hear that MJSWINGERS
Thanks to you all for the input, Guess we we keep looking or hope some one looking at us ( wink )
Thanks to you all for the input, Guess we we keep looking or hope some one looking at us ( wink )
We as a couple have never sent letters to others stating they are not good enough or even that we don't match for what they are looking for. We have had times where we could not always meet up but, have sent letters in advance to let them know ahead.
Another thing we do is actually meet people in person this takes away from hidden agendas and you can actually meet them and get to know them. We also rarely play the first time and maybe for awhile til we know that we are all on the same page. We have never sent a letter to anyone saying no to them or even putting them down if they don't match up to what we are looking for. We are honest with the letters sent but, watch what we write as to not offend someone else.....everyone is vital in the circle of life.
We came here to make friends first and then hopefully in time fun playmates. This seems to lesson the problem with mean replies back if they are not interested. We learned to stop sending replies to people we don't know and this helps with negative feedback. Most people don't want to share their private profiles with just everyone.
When we were new we use to get lots of negative messages from many different swingular members mostly due to them not knowing us. If someone sends you a negative message then move on and smile cause that situation might have been more drama then anyone really wants when trying to have fun with others.
Not everyone will see each other on a sexual level but, everyone will see you on a personal level if you meet them face to face. There are a billion people wanting someone just like you as a couple so the ones that think they are better are probably not worth the trouble in the first place.....Just sayin!!!
Another thing we do is actually meet people in person this takes away from hidden agendas and you can actually meet them and get to know them. We also rarely play the first time and maybe for awhile til we know that we are all on the same page. We have never sent a letter to anyone saying no to them or even putting them down if they don't match up to what we are looking for. We are honest with the letters sent but, watch what we write as to not offend someone else.....everyone is vital in the circle of life.
We came here to make friends first and then hopefully in time fun playmates. This seems to lesson the problem with mean replies back if they are not interested. We learned to stop sending replies to people we don't know and this helps with negative feedback. Most people don't want to share their private profiles with just everyone.
When we were new we use to get lots of negative messages from many different swingular members mostly due to them not knowing us. If someone sends you a negative message then move on and smile cause that situation might have been more drama then anyone really wants when trying to have fun with others.
Not everyone will see each other on a sexual level but, everyone will see you on a personal level if you meet them face to face. There are a billion people wanting someone just like you as a couple so the ones that think they are better are probably not worth the trouble in the first place.....Just sayin!!!
We play with who we want, when we want. We answer every email that comes in, and are offended that other couples don't do the same. If you don't like us! Fine tell us so. We are not planning to move in together. Common Courtesy goes a long way in our books.
dodge best way to find out if people are a good match is to fuck them. then if ment to be, a nice friendship will flourish
this only works if the people you meet are cute and friendly
if they are ugly/fat then they are not a match and you don't need friends like that anyways
this only works if the people you meet are cute and friendly
if they are ugly/fat then they are not a match and you don't need friends like that anyways