...and are now part of a couple or conversely were formerly part of a couple and now find yourself single has your mindset or attitude towards those of your former group/ status changed at all?
LOL point taken. I mean as participants in the lifestyle. I doubt the majority of us became involved in the lifestyle as singles.
Well, I came in the lifestyle as a couple and now single. But it is amazing how as a couple your are accepted, but as single, well, let me just say.... Either I am not nearly as attractive as I think I am, or, I as a single guy, respectful, kind, good looking, nice shape, just targeted by the stereotypical single guy. UGH!!!!
Then my question to you would be, how did you and your partner treat singles? Were you SM friendly or did you seek primarily other couples or single females? There's no right answer here. Just curious if people who've switched demographics now have different viewpoints. Wish we could do polls here that would be annonymous so there would be no stigma or backlash to answering honestly. How about a "Forum Polls" option, ADMIN?
WE have had threesomes with singles guys and couples we enjoy both but we only have done this as a couple fof safety and for a couple thing......
I was part of a couple and had tons of friends (we ran the northern nights meet and greets) and then we split up and pretty much everyone stayed friends with her and ignored me... but we never did anything with singles either male or female... we were friendly with singles just never did the threesome thing...
Just wish it could be anonymous so we could possibly get totally honest answers rather than what people think they want others to hear. (Not accusing anyone who's answered of lying...just know that sometimes peer pressure can skew responses if not anonymous.)
SEXYUTCPL wrote:
but as single, well, let me just say.... Either I am not nearly as attractive as I think I am, or, I as a single guy, respectful, kind, good looking, nice shape, just targeted by the stereotypical single guy. UGH!!!!
Or both..... but if you are not going to have any pictures posted you are not going to get any responses from anyone ever.
Evildoers = Potstirers 
A change in marriage wouldn't change either of our outlooks on life or how we feel about the lifestyle but it would definitely change our relationships with others. No we don't hang out with a bunch of single guys but there are tons of them and if we want one we would seek them out. A singles best chance in this lifestyle is go to parties and activities and be themselves and make friends and they will find a group they get along with and be accepted. Well provided that being themselves isn't being a rude pushy asshole that is. Goes for both sexes too.
A change in marriage wouldn't change either of our outlooks on life or how we feel about the lifestyle but it would definitely change our relationships with others. No we don't hang out with a bunch of single guys but there are tons of them and if we want one we would seek them out. A singles best chance in this lifestyle is go to parties and activities and be themselves and make friends and they will find a group they get along with and be accepted. Well provided that being themselves isn't being a rude pushy asshole that is. Goes for both sexes too.
Naw. not stirring the pot. Just curious. How people rationalize their thought processes fascinates me. Also thought maybe it would help people perhaps see other's viewpoints a little better. And like I've mentioned in other threads we've definitely met people who've changed demographics whose mindset also changed now that they were in someone else's shoes.