My wife and I have been in the life style for almost ten years. We have always been a MFF couple I broke a rule by not using a condom a few years back. She broke a rule by fucking around with a co-worker in a back room at work behind my back. Are these even comparable? Or is she only trying to justify her actions?
trying to make things comparable or even is a recipe for disaster imho. Work on the quality of the relationship, not punishing the other. Either you're both committed to it and work to make it work, even swinging, or you just as well end it now.
Wow !!!!!! The two are not even close to the same ..... And cheating or even sleeping with a co worker is a no no in our book . Sounds like shes not a happy camper LOL !!!!!!
Did she use a condom with the co-worker? Did you ENJOY the feeling of not using a condom with that woman? I suggest that you see if you can get as many people on your side as you can so you can throw that in her face and show her just how wrong she was since it's just CRAZY that just because you are allowed to fuck other women (with or without condoms) doesn't mean she should be allowed to fuck other guys. That's just not right. I would cut off her allowance and make her like cook dinner and wash the clothes and stuff just to show her who's the boss and teach her a lesson. Ooooorrrrr you could sit down and talk about this rationally and maybe figure out why each of you did what you did and set some equitable ground rules for the future. Or not....
Not rippin' on you dude...well, not too much. Just kind of gently pointing out that perhaps she felt like you "always (being) MFF" maybe didn't feel totally fair to her and when you violated another rule (one that could potentially have harmed her physically) she maybe felt like what was good for the goose was good for the gander. Or she just wanted to fuck her co-worker. We've seen a lot of "rules" over the years and have also seen how one partner or the other could find inequality in certain rules (and yes there are plenty of instances where the GUY isn't allowed to fuck others yet the lady is so it runs both ways). Talk it out and don't try to make either one of you "wrong" or have the "worse" rule violation. Or you could just call it a day. Unfortunately a lot of people do for offenses a lot less than those you describe. JMO
Cheating isn't swinging. It's cheating.
Not using a condom when you agreed that you would is irresponsible. Your action put another person at risk.
You guys probably need to talk.
Not using a condom when you agreed that you would is irresponsible. Your action put another person at risk.
You guys probably need to talk.
That depends on what your rules are. I would say they are both bad karma.
NEEDSOMEADVISE wrote:
My wife and I have been in the life style for almost ten years. We have always been a MFF couple I broke a rule by not using a condom a few years back. She broke a rule by fucking around with a co-worker in a back room at work behind my back. Are these even comparable? Or is she only trying to justify her actions?
holy shit really, you make another screen name for your drama!!!!!!! you two shouoldnt be together move on
OMG, SLDCPL. You're right. I thought it was a little too coincidental that their screen name was exactly the same as what this thread was about. We're onto you buddy.