Do any of you have anything that you would change about a parties? What kinds of things would you like to see incorporated into them?Any likes/dislikes? We are just looking for other peoples insights and opinions. Any themes you would like to see?
How about an oral welcome to the party. Help the new people to get relaxed and comfortable and made to feel welcome. 
music is a given. Oral at the door would really relax people. :-) would be a great way to start off the night. we are thinking of hosting a big party and are just looking for additional ideas.
music is a given. Oral at the door would really relax people. :-) would be a great way to start off the night. we are thinking of hosting a big party and are just looking for additional ideas.
Having me there is pretty much an essential element for a good party.
Huh? Narcissist? What's that?
Huh? Narcissist? What's that?
One word. Stuffed ferrets.
That is two words.......haahahaha :-)
OMG ur right. How could I have EVER missed that?
Black lights would be fun. They can really be nice seeing what ends up glowing all around.
we had thought about backlights as well.
Any other ideas that anyone has would be great. So we have more music, backlights, oral at the door lol any thing else? What about themes you would like to see?
Any other ideas that anyone has would be great. So we have more music, backlights, oral at the door lol any thing else? What about themes you would like to see?
Fetish nights are always fun.
Bob
Bob
I had an idea a few months ago about having a "Texas-Hold-Em" poker night... chips as well as clothing...music in the background..."strip WII bowling" for those that don't play cards...and an entire downstairs with workout equipment, big-screen TV, bad-ass fully carpeted bedroom, (you'd have to see it to understand how useful it could be), or just hanging out and mingling. No pressure at all.
I got accused by someone local of "having my own agenda". Are you fucking kidding me??? I didn't reply like that because I didn't wanna be a dick, but aren't we ALL in this lifestyle because we have an "agenda"??? Aren't we doing this for sex, friends that we can relate to, fantasies, and maybe long-term relationships???
So I dropped the subject. I felt like a pervert. Oh my GAWD!!! Am I a pervert??? Well this is fucked!!! I just wanted to get naked...respectfully...without an agenda...or thoughts of fornication...and other naughty non-sense.
"EAT MY DICK"!!! I guess that's what I should have said.
Anyone wanna play Scrabble and have rootbeer floats???
I got accused by someone local of "having my own agenda". Are you fucking kidding me??? I didn't reply like that because I didn't wanna be a dick, but aren't we ALL in this lifestyle because we have an "agenda"??? Aren't we doing this for sex, friends that we can relate to, fantasies, and maybe long-term relationships???
So I dropped the subject. I felt like a pervert. Oh my GAWD!!! Am I a pervert??? Well this is fucked!!! I just wanted to get naked...respectfully...without an agenda...or thoughts of fornication...and other naughty non-sense.
"EAT MY DICK"!!! I guess that's what I should have said.
Anyone wanna play Scrabble and have rootbeer floats???
Well I had thought that we all had an agenda as well. Maybe the agenda is watching, just gaining experiences as a couple or just sex is all still agenda.So if a person/ couple doesn't want to participate in the events you had planned give them extra chips,or just keep them off your invite list and hear about it later.People sometimes. To us the lifestyle is new experiences, fantasy, fun, meeting people possibly friends, maybe not always sex hey if it happens we won't complain. :-)
Thanks for your insight. :-)
Thanks for your insight. :-)
The one thing I have done at my parties.. is to have music going while showing porn on the TV at the same time (without the fake moaning.. yada yada...i.e turn the sound off). (my satellite only gives me 3 channels anyways... porn, sports, and porn.) It's not TOO distracting and since we're there to get in the mood .. viola! Seems to work well for most that have mentioned it.
We used to have house parties on a regular basis. we then expanded it one night last fall and had around 20 couples attend.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:Wow....we've hosted LOT'S of large parties, never had anything near that happen. But then, with the exception of a couple we've had...we tend to invite folks we know, and trust...with a few new couples thrown in.....That might be the secret. Don't overwhem the party with people no one knows.
We used to have house parties on a regular basis. we then expanded it one night last fall and had around 20 couples attend.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
We used to have house parties on a regular basis. we then expanded it one night last fall and had around 20 couples attend.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
We feel your pain, SIMPLE. Been there all too often with the Ogden mansion parties. Broken glass in the hot tub, new sheets stained with oils, puke all over the bathroom, condoms everywhere. We had our liquor stolen, or crystal broken, and our idealistic view of the "community" shattered by disrespect. We tried the "bring a bottle to share" and half don't bother, and then we have to dig into our personal stash. We try providing beverages and charging a token amount to cover expenses and people complain about having to pay. We gave up a long time ago hoping anyone would stick around to help clean. Now we pay a cleaning crew to come in, and that adds to what we have to charge. Yes, it is frustrating trying to do something for our outcast community and then getting shit on for it. That said, we have kept a catalog of the dozens upon dozens of truly awesome couples and SF we have met, who are welcome anytime. Watch for the personal invites to future events. P.S., the new dungeon playroom is almost finished.
PALS4FUN wrote:First of all, you would totally be invited, and given your own room at the end of the night...with us...just to be sure you aren't molested...illegally!
Having me there is pretty much an essential element for a good party.
Huh? Narcissist? What's that?
NEWBIES2650 wrote:Exactly!!
Well I had thought that we all had an agenda as well. Maybe the agenda is watching, just gaining experiences as a couple or just sex is all still agenda.So if a person/ couple doesn't want to participate in the events you had planned give them extra chips,or just keep them off your invite list and hear about it later.People sometimes. To us the lifestyle is new experiences, fantasy, fun, meeting people possibly friends, maybe not always sex hey if it happens we won't complain. :-)
Thanks for your insight. :-)
JJLM wrote:Great ideas!!! That's what I'm talking about! We can do that, and you can be sure of it!!! BTW what the hell is a "cocksucker" shot??? Anyhooo, let's do this.
In my experience, it seems like most of the parties (at least the ones I've been to) have one of two major issues. One, people coming up and getting 'handsy' without so much as a "Hello, I'm Joe-Bob.", or two, everyone sitting around talking about the weather until someone gets drunk enough to get nekkid.
(Okay, that last one isn't entirely accurate. I'm usually naked waaay before anyone manages to get drunk.)
But! I think the fixes would be easy. For one, a simple list of rules for people to read when they first get there, explaining conduct and how to go about asking to touch someone's bits, would help a lot. And having games and activities set up that are organized and clear would do a lot to take care of the other.
(By clear, I mean things like strip poker, butt-jiggling contests, cocksucker shot contests, "Guess the dick", etc. Not "There's a bunch of water guns in the corner, filled with lube. Have fun doing..... something with those. There's also chips....")
Once people have some direction, and a REASON to get naked, it's pretty much a go from there. It's just getting everyone there, comfortably, without having to wait until they/we are all plastered that's the challenge.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:You don't get people to clean up the mess. Unfortunately, that kinda stuff is gonna happen and I guess we better be prepared for it.
We used to have house parties on a regular basis. we then expanded it one night last fall and had around 20 couples attend.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
And I'm really sorry about the the "hot rub" towel thing...EXACTLY why we don't have a hot-tub...cuz people just wipe their shit all over the place!!! We have grass! Wipe away!
We are hosting a house/bbg party comming up, do we stress about whos comming, No. Do we worry about the mess, No. Do we worry about who attends..yes. Its not personal. Its not a free for all. Have you been invited? if your friends of ours and blown us off in the last year or two, probably not.If you have been your fun! if you havn't you have moved on..and so has the Wolf & Majestic. Bottom line is Throw a party! It doesn't have to be the biggest and the best, The idea is to get like minded people together for 1 night and see what connections are made.
Quit with the psychobabble...you cant host, dont!
Quit with the psychobabble...you cant host, dont!
By the way, I find anybody shitting on or in anything other than a toilet, better hope I find it because if Teresa(Majestic) did,you would be so done..lol Those that are scared of me? Better hope she doesnt catch you...
Mrs. here, we haven't been to many lifestyle parties but the vanilla parties I have been too, are about the same. I tend to stay up late and get up early so if we have a sleepover I tend to clean up, I dont think it is up to the host to do everything.
As for people not cleaning up after themselves sounds like teenagers that need to grow up. Sorry some people have no respect.
As for people not cleaning up after themselves sounds like teenagers that need to grow up. Sorry some people have no respect.
We usually try and help keep the place cleaned up as we go and also afterwards and our friends do the same when we host parties too. Maybe we just have really police friends but I think "most" in the lifestyle are pretty good peeps.
well I am sorry that you had such a mess- people should be more respectful without having to be told to not wipe shit on towels, are you kidding me. I was not there but apologize for people like that- rude comes to mind
we are making another attempt at a party in the near future. On the alcohol. we have had folks in the past show up saying they didnt think about it. This time we will be prepared. We ahve directions to the two nearest stores that we will hand them when they show up. No, we will make it right next time.
We just want to have fun, let everyone have fun as well and not sweat the small stuff. Games, relaxing environment, great folks. thats the way it should be.
We just want to have fun, let everyone have fun as well and not sweat the small stuff. Games, relaxing environment, great folks. thats the way it should be.
One thing we found out that works great are colored arm bands. Bands with a posted sign listing of what each color stands for. For example red means open to all couples, ladies, single men that's part of a couple at the party, or green was couples only, purple would be females only and so on. But to make it all work out for the best was for the host to find out what each couple was looking for at the party. What we mean talk to you guess at the party and see which couples are interested in another couple at the party and the host be the ICE breaker between the couples. Why is that you ask? It's because most couples will see a couple at a party that they are interested in, but they are to afraid to approach that couple because they do not know them.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
we are making another attempt at a party in the near future. On the alcohol. we have had folks in the past show up saying they didnt think about it. This time we will be prepared. We ahve directions to the two nearest stores that we will hand them when they show up. No, we will make it right next time.
We just want to have fun, let everyone have fun as well and not sweat the small stuff. Games, relaxing environment, great folks. thats the way it should be.
How anyone can not think about bringing an adult beverage of choice is beyond us, pretty poor guests in our opinion.
We always tell everyone it's byob, we'll supply ice and normal mixers so if you want to mix with something other than coke, diet coke, sprite then bring it along too. We don't like the bring a bottle to share set up because most of our friends and ourselves like a specific drink and don't want someone drinking everything we brought and then we don't have our favorite drink to consume. Plus then there are a bunch of bottles of stuff left at the house that we don't want to store. We'll usually have jello shots and yeiger bombs and people will bring things for whatever their fav shot is to share. We also usually tell everyone to bring as small snack to share.
We went to a mansion party in Vancouver. It was BYOB. They provided the mixers and a bartender. When you came in you gave your crink to the BarKeep and he would put your name on it and you drank from your own bottle.
We agree that the share concept has it limitations. We attended a party 23 weeks ago and took some flavored rum. It was gone in the first hour and we were left to drink SKY the remander of the night. We jsut didnt realize that was everyones favorite drink or we would ahve brought a bottle as well. lol.
We like the concept of introducy couples to others as a way to break the ice.
We had a thought for a future party that couplse would put their name in a bowl. then every 30 min or so you would draw from the bowl. then that couple would do their thing so to speak. it could be a shadow sex kinda thing for shy folks or center stage for the not so shy, so to speak. figured we would have to start.
We agree that the share concept has it limitations. We attended a party 23 weeks ago and took some flavored rum. It was gone in the first hour and we were left to drink SKY the remander of the night. We jsut didnt realize that was everyones favorite drink or we would ahve brought a bottle as well. lol.
We like the concept of introducy couples to others as a way to break the ice.
We had a thought for a future party that couplse would put their name in a bowl. then every 30 min or so you would draw from the bowl. then that couple would do their thing so to speak. it could be a shadow sex kinda thing for shy folks or center stage for the not so shy, so to speak. figured we would have to start.
we went to one house party everyone was standing around until the drinks to there effect the mrs had a great time with her large chest her weight wasn't an issue the Mr ended up sitting on the couch watching the fun he asked for permission to touch and play and was turned down by every lady there he is 6 ft and 350 set the rules if you don't want heavy people there then post it we have not been to a party since because of this. it was humiliating for him.
We went to a great party that had wristbands. So awesome. Totally agree with SexyMixedCup.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
We used to have house parties on a regular basis. we then expanded it one night last fall and had around 20 couples attend.
Our quetion is, how do you get folks to help clean up the mess. If you are not charging to attend. we are opposed to that. Then whats the secret? After the last party we picked up something like 15 condoms tossed around the yard and house. We had trash cans everywhere.
We also asked folks to bring a favorite bottle. We had ablut 1/3 show up and say they forgot or brought some drink that noone would touch. We then ended up opening up oour cabinet so there was enough alcohol.
We eveen had one kind person wipe his "Shit" on one of the hot tub towels.
Thoughts.
I don't care who you are treat other peoples homes like you would your mothers. Parties can be fun but a couple of rude people can really ruin it. They need to think this is not a hotel where someone cleans up after them this is some ones home. Your an invited guest and act like it. We love house parties better then big ones. It gives us a chance to talk and get to know people. The best parties are the ones where people go to relax and enjoy themselves. If they go to just see if they can get laid then I really don't want them there. We like relaxing and see what happens. One tip would be do it on a Saturday night. Too many people work Saturdays and staying up late Friday and having to work the next day is not very fun.
VOYEURS4U wrote:
We've been to a few parties and felt they were a little clickish. Maybe it's just us being shy. It's tough to feel welcome when everyone already has their friends and hardly even looks at you.
Ice breaker games would be a good idea to help get people mixing.
We have felt the same way.....
WATCHUSPLAY69 wrote:
An idea for the folks here that mentioned the pushy and inappropriate touching..a safe area for those newbies and slow starters works well.
How about just not doing it. Would you like some strange man walk up to your wife and grab her breasts just because your at a swingers party? Show respect.
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
I had an idea a few months ago about having a "Texas-Hold-Em" poker night... chips as well as clothing...music in the background..."strip WII bowling" for those that don't play cards...and an entire downstairs with workout equipment, big-screen TV, bad-ass fully carpeted bedroom, (you'd have to see it to understand how useful it could be), or just hanging out and mingling. No pressure at all.
I got accused by someone local of "having my own agenda". Are you fucking kidding me??? I didn't reply like that because I didn't wanna be a dick, but aren't we ALL in this lifestyle because we have an "agenda"??? Aren't we doing this for sex, friends that we can relate to, fantasies, and maybe long-term relationships???
So I dropped the subject. I felt like a pervert. Oh my GAWD!!! Am I a pervert??? Well this is fucked!!! I just wanted to get naked...respectfully...without an agenda...or thoughts of fornication...and other naughty non-sense.
"EAT MY DICK"!!! I guess that's what I should have said.
Anyone wanna play Scrabble and have rootbeer floats???
I'm in for dirtyword scrabble and Bourbon ROOTBEER FLOATS....
That is sick and wrong