We sent out 10 invitations for a house party to couples on this web site. Not one, no not even one, had the courtesy to even answer. Not even a "no thanks". WHY????
Here, not only would we respond but we'd show up EARLY...with green Jell-O and funeral potatoes.
In utah all ten would of showed up and brought ten of there friends !!!!!!!!!!! Just sayin
True Utah parties are great... we drive down to them quite often
Definitely demographics! No problems getting house parties full of HOT friends in Utah 
Hmmm...maybe we're doing something wrong then.....we are in Utah...and still find that the majority of new people we invite to our parties...often never send a reply. One of my pet peeves. I don't really care why you aren't coming...but we would like to know how many to figure on. A simple "sorry can't make it this time" seems pretty reasonable to expect to me.
It is true...our parties are usually pretty full for the reasons stated by the other posters above, but...I think it is because we've done this long enough now to know who will come..and who probably won't. Usually if we recieve no reply a few times from someone..we figure they really aren't to interested in coming to our parties! LOL So we stop inviting.
It is true...our parties are usually pretty full for the reasons stated by the other posters above, but...I think it is because we've done this long enough now to know who will come..and who probably won't. Usually if we recieve no reply a few times from someone..we figure they really aren't to interested in coming to our parties! LOL So we stop inviting.
I haven't been invited to a party yet. I don't know if I would go to one if I were invited because I am a sf and would probably be going alone. I'm kinda weird.. I don't like going places by myself. If I were invited and couldn't make it, I would for sure replay to let them know! That is just common courtesy. It could be your location, or people just don't feel it necessary to respond.
The question is: Were these 10 couples that you already knew? Or were they just couples in your area that you would like to know? If we got a random party invitation from people we didn't know we would be more hesitant to go to the party. And if we don't know who you are, or why you're inviting me to your party, we might not reply to your email either, figuring you are just sending out lots of party invites. Now, a personal invitation from a friend definitely deserves a response.
Hmmm...maybe...just maybe...there aren't many folks in your area at the moment...or possibly...just possibly...some of us can't afford condoms, lube, whiskey, wig glue, teeth whitener, a Farrit, two "fluffers" and a defibrillator...not to mention the price of GASOLINE, just to get to this "shindig". Gonna start saving and hoping for that "invite"... cuz our phone sure isn't ringing "off the hook" either!!! Good luck! If ya find out what the secret is, shoot me a text. PEACE!!
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I'm sympathetic, REDINTOE. We've had that happen to us, even in Utah and even with people we already had met and played with before. I would way rather have someone reply and tell me to go to hell or that I stink, my dick's too small, my belly's too big, or whatever than to just ignore me. To me, that's just the worst insult you can throw at me. It's ignore-ance. We used to try to put together some semi-vanilla lifestyle get-togethers with after-party play available but got the cold shoulder so much that we've just quit trying. We even invited folks from our "friend request" list that we'd not met, just so we could meet. Nothing!
I have to wonder; is it age related? Both you, REDINTOE, and I are getting up there a little. I just turned 57. Mrs. Sexperimentors is about a decade behind me so I don't think that's a reason. I wonder if my age is causing problems.
I know that most of us (at least those in their 30's to 40's) have kids at home and that severely limits when and where we can play. There are tons of reasons in our busy lives that prevent us from participating in the occasional event. That's certainly a good reason for a declination, but it's no excuse for not responding at all. That's just rude.
Mr. Sexperimentors
I have to wonder; is it age related? Both you, REDINTOE, and I are getting up there a little. I just turned 57. Mrs. Sexperimentors is about a decade behind me so I don't think that's a reason. I wonder if my age is causing problems.
I know that most of us (at least those in their 30's to 40's) have kids at home and that severely limits when and where we can play. There are tons of reasons in our busy lives that prevent us from participating in the occasional event. That's certainly a good reason for a declination, but it's no excuse for not responding at all. That's just rude.
Mr. Sexperimentors
SEXPERIMENTORS wrote:
I'm sympathetic, REDINTOE. We've had that happen to us, even in Utah and even with people we already had met and played with before. I would way rather have someone reply and tell me to go to hell or that I stink, my dick's too small, my belly's too big, or whatever than to just ignore me. To me, that's just the worst insult you can throw at me. It's ignore-ance. We used to try to put together some semi-vanilla lifestyle get-togethers with after-party play available but got the cold shoulder so much that we've just quit trying. We even invited folks from our "friend request" list that we'd not met, just so we could meet. Nothing!
I have to wonder; is it age related? Both you, REDINTOE, and I are getting up there a little. I just turned 57. Mrs. Sexperimentors is about a decade behind me so I don't think that's a reason. I wonder if my age is causing problems.
Thanks. I couldn't have said it better myself
I know that most of us (at least those in their 30's to 40's) have kids at home and that severely limits when and where we can play. There are tons of reasons in our busy lives that prevent us from participating in the occasional event. That's certainly a good reason for a declination, but it's no excuse for not responding at all. That's just rude.
Mr. Sexperimentors
SEXPERIMENTORS wrote:Yep...exactly our opinion, too.
I'm sympathetic, REDINTOE. We've had that happen to us, even in Utah and even with people we already had met and played with before. I would way rather have someone reply and tell me to go to hell or that I stink, my dick's too small, my belly's too big, or whatever than to just ignore me. To me, that's just the worst insult you can throw at me. It's ignore-ance. We used to try to put together some semi-vanilla lifestyle get-togethers with after-party play available but got the cold shoulder so much that we've just quit trying. We even invited folks from our "friend request" list that we'd not met, just so we could meet. Nothing!
I have to wonder; is it age related? Both you, REDINTOE, and I are getting up there a little. I just turned 57. Mrs. Sexperimentors is about a decade behind me so I don't think that's a reason. I wonder if my age is causing problems.
I know that most of us (at least those in their 30's to 40's) have kids at home and that severely limits when and where we can play. There are tons of reasons in our busy lives that prevent us from participating in the occasional event. That's certainly a good reason for a declination, but it's no excuse for not responding at all. That's just rude.
Mr. Sexperimentors
I think that's a very jaded viewpoint and something we've found to be untrue. Of course there are shallow people in the lifestyle as there are in people in most other demographics but to generalize that "the vast majority of people in the lifestyle are super shallow and don't give a crap about others" is unfair. We've met some of the nicest people in the world in the lifestyle. People who would literally give you the shirt off their back and have become lifelong friends.
We agree with evildoers. We have found so many wonderful friends in the lifestyle. Real peeps with real lives who would give you the shirt off their backs or at least a pair of sexy underwear as a memento. Utah peeps are in a class all to themselves. They know how to party,they know how to please and they know how to kee p it real.If Maui needs or wants to find aloha sexy then invite us over and we will rock your island .And yes we will bring the jello shots an. funeral potatoes.
Common courtesy, should be a factor in all our lives. We all have our likes and dislikes. I feel if someone goes out of their way to email, or comment on me its only right to respond.
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side note heading down for some chilies
I guess we've been in the lifestyle long enough to know there are usually two sides to every story. Not saying the OP's situation didn't happen but we weren't privy to any details. Perhaps they invited a whole bunch of young hot twenty something peeps who explicitly state in their profiles that they want to stay in their age range. Maybe they invited people who are very new and not quite ready for a house party. Maybe it was something as simple as people who prefer non smokers. Was it rude to not reply to an invite? Probably. Any more rude than not responding to blind friend requests or obviously spammed out trolling emails? Hmmm probably not. If we were sent an invite to a party by someone we have never met or corresponded with there is a good chance we might not respond depending on what else is going on in our lives at the moment. If that makes us bad people so be it I guess. Just another viewpoint not knowing ANY details and giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Aloha that maui couple we are coming to the big island in feb. we will look you up and island hop over to see you..and show you a little big Utah
Then perhaps you should edit your post, MAUI, to say that "the vast majority of people in the lifestyle THAT WE'VE ENCOUNTERED IN THE EXTREMELY SMALL GROUP OF SWINGERS ON MAUI are super shallow and don't give a crap about others". Maybe it's just Hawaiian people in general who are super shallow and don't give a crap about others. Or maybe just people on Maui. I'm really sorry your swinging experiences haven't met your expectations. And believe it or not I'm not trying to rip you a new one. I genuinely feel badly for you. Have you explored other options? Travel, obviously. How about other swing websites? Swingular is big here in Utah (it was started here) but there are few members almost everywhere else except Florida. And the part about Maui being family oriented...have ya HEARD about Utah? LOL A very wise swinging couple once told US that the way to be successful in swinging is to first get rid of you expectations (so you won't be disappointed) and then to approach each situation and couple looking FOR reasons to connect and play rather than looking for reasons not to. I'm not saying play with peeps you aren't attracted to or are not compatible with but far too often it seems swingers look for reasons WHY this or that couple isn't perfect and they end up being disappointed that they can't find anyone to play with. Try some different websites. Host some meet n greets. Hell, host a house party and invite people similar to yourselves. Just a few thoughts. Good luck.
we would had jumped on a plane if we were invited