Hi everyone -
Quick etiquette question concerning MFM threesome. We have a question concerning her being shared and what the men usually expect as far as everyone wearing condoms the entire time, and sharing the same areas of her body. We are not planning on having the husband wear a condom at all, but the question came up about what happens when she sucks the husbands cock and gets fucked by him and how will the other guy receive that when he tries to kiss her or go down on her after? The FB in this case will only wear a condom for intercourse, but not for anything else, meaning that the streams will be crossed at some point with both men. The husband doesn't really care, as he expects this. But we are curious what most guys expect in this situation.
Hopefully this makes sense. Also, any advice is appreciated since this is our first time out with this.
Thanks for your help!!
Quick etiquette question concerning MFM threesome. We have a question concerning her being shared and what the men usually expect as far as everyone wearing condoms the entire time, and sharing the same areas of her body. We are not planning on having the husband wear a condom at all, but the question came up about what happens when she sucks the husbands cock and gets fucked by him and how will the other guy receive that when he tries to kiss her or go down on her after? The FB in this case will only wear a condom for intercourse, but not for anything else, meaning that the streams will be crossed at some point with both men. The husband doesn't really care, as he expects this. But we are curious what most guys expect in this situation.
Hopefully this makes sense. Also, any advice is appreciated since this is our first time out with this.
Thanks for your help!!
That is really up to the three of you. No set rule as far as I know so it is really personal preference.
Thanks, Sugar. We are wondering if it is just something we talk to each other about before everything starts, or just go with the flow and see where things take us. We want to avoid falling into the trap of trying to define everything due to being nervous, while also making sure everyone is comfortable and having a great time. Thanks again. 
In some circles the husband gets treated just like every other male in the group and in some they get special privileges. If it is something you worry about then discuss it first. A man may not be homophobic but that does not mean that he wants to suck your husband off either. So consider this, if both men ware condoms it removes a potential problem and the discussion is not necessary.
Remember that for many swingers it is not a matter of pregnancy or a matter of safe play but what we simply like or dislike. Etiquette is about how we interact with others and that interaction is not always logical, especially when it comes to sex.
It should be OK for anyone to politely say that something is out side their comfort zone without offending the others in a group setting.
There are things that can be done in a MFM that simply can not be done as a couple. If you want to have the best sex then you need to speak up and guide your BF and Husband some and let them experiment some. If you do not let them know what you desire then you may not get it.
If you decide that you like or you don
Remember that for many swingers it is not a matter of pregnancy or a matter of safe play but what we simply like or dislike. Etiquette is about how we interact with others and that interaction is not always logical, especially when it comes to sex.
It should be OK for anyone to politely say that something is out side their comfort zone without offending the others in a group setting.
There are things that can be done in a MFM that simply can not be done as a couple. If you want to have the best sex then you need to speak up and guide your BF and Husband some and let them experiment some. If you do not let them know what you desire then you may not get it.
If you decide that you like or you don
Its all about the wife's pleasure. She shouldn't have to worry about anything. Hubby monitors. In our case, my wife and I set our rules in advance and then when we meet our new friend I lay out the plan,no ass slapping, no humiliation, etc.My wife's role at this point is merely to be sexy flirt.
I am in no case an imposing man and most of the few men we have met could have simply put me out the door. But as kind of scarey as it is to share the love of your with a stranger, we have had a great time. you have some great single guys on this site and every guy we have met has been very polite and respectful.
Go for it its crazy hot.
C&K
I am in no case an imposing man and most of the few men we have met could have simply put me out the door. But as kind of scarey as it is to share the love of your with a stranger, we have had a great time. you have some great single guys on this site and every guy we have met has been very polite and respectful.
Go for it its crazy hot.
C&K
I agree communication is the key, I personally like to wear a condom due to the multiple people I can be with. But I do make exceptions also. I have no problem going down on someone after another has been in her. I dont think I have ever thought I was sucking someones cock by kissing her after she has blown him. Hmmmm interesting concept. LOL I have learned that the couple should set the boundaries for the single guy and the single guy should respect those boundaries no questions asked. As a single guy if you want to play I would suggest that you respect boundaries or you will probably not be playing a second time. COMMUNICATION is always the key.
I (he) have no problem kissing a woman after she's sucked another cock, nor do I have any issue with going down on her after she's been fucked.
In fact - I find both to be VERY hot.
My only stipulation is, for me to do this, there will be no "fouling of the well" before hand.
In other words, once the other guy has cum, the area of his 'deposit' becomes OFF LIMITS.
In fact - I find both to be VERY hot.
My only stipulation is, for me to do this, there will be no "fouling of the well" before hand.
In other words, once the other guy has cum, the area of his 'deposit' becomes OFF LIMITS.
everyone has different limis/likes /desires. Only way to know them , is to discuss them. Amazing sometimes how people can share their wives/hubbies,with others; but do not share their thoughts
Also find it kind of funny that a lot of people would probably never consider "taking an offered lick from someone else's ice cream cone or tootsie roll pop, butwill immediately "mouth down". on a cock or vagina rightaftersome other mouth is removed! LOL
as for me (male) never had a problem kissing after oral, or muff diving after either,, that is , behind the other guy, mine? now , well,, lose an awful ot of inspiration,, so a little time must pass
Also find it kind of funny that a lot of people would probably never consider "taking an offered lick from someone else's ice cream cone or tootsie roll pop, butwill immediately "mouth down". on a cock or vagina rightaftersome other mouth is removed! LOL
as for me (male) never had a problem kissing after oral, or muff diving after either,, that is , behind the other guy, mine? now , well,, lose an awful ot of inspiration,, so a little time must pass
My hubby is in charge the whole time.....he already knows our rules so he makes sure the other men know their place. I just get to enjoy and be a huge flirt! The that we have had over have always been very respectful and good at taking orders as my hubby is sharing me with them.....So it is a rule of thumb that the hubby is always in charge of his sweet and sexy wife.
So just let him give the commands and you can just sit back and enjoy.
Condoms will help and most guys do not have a phobia at all about who is where when doing a gang bang!
So just let him give the commands and you can just sit back and enjoy.
Condoms will help and most guys do not have a phobia at all about who is where when doing a gang bang!
Hi everyone - Thanks so much for the great feedback. I think we are going to see how things go and play it by ear, while making sure to communicate all expectations at the bar. We don't want to kill the mood, but make sure everyone is on the same page. Sounds like it is going to be a lot of fun though. Wish us luck!!