Swingers Forum - Blind friend requests

We just send the request to the request grave yard to avoid additional attempts. Then we block the requestor reguardless of how hot they are. Our friend list is for friends, folks we have met and it looks like we will continue a friendship. That friendship being sexual or platonic. We have over 100 personal pics in there and feel comfortable sharing those pictures with friends. Not folks we have no idea who they are.

We are not into picture trading. Infact when we have parties at our house we provide the cameras, then sit down after the party and hand a disk to all participants with their pictures minus ones from anyone who would prefer not to keep thm. Then on our computer we delete all the pictures that we are not in.

We considere it an attempt to naked web search. We often receive emails from great folks accompanied by a friend request. We are flattered by their interest. We explain our thoughts, and make attempts to meet in the future.

Enough babble. Is that biblical? If so not sure its accepted under the terms of use. sorry..

It all depends on the situation for us. If we have met tou, or even just seen you around, or even posting on the site, chances are we will accept you. Profiles with no pics, or no communication usually dont get any attentiin from is. We usually send back an email saying we like some kind of communication along with the f/r. Surprisingly we never hear another word from most of them.
We love to meet new people. Thats why we organize a lot of the stuff we do.

DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:

Seriously, we get quite a few blind friend request too. Here are the form letters we use to respond to those request. Maybe 95% get #1, 3% get number 2 and a very few get #3 and we accept the request.

Response #1

We no longer accept friend request without some other sort of contact such as meeting in person.

In actuality we reserve our friends list and private photos and videos for people that live in the area and with which we feel enough of a connection and attraction that the relationship already is or may become sexual.

We can be friends and chat and such without full access to private folders.

Response #2

Hi there,

We usually do not accept friend request without some other sort of contact such as chatting or after meeting in person.

In actuality we reserve our friends list and private photos for people that live in the area, and with which we have enough of a connection and attraction that the relationship already is or may become sexual. We can be friends and chat and such without seeing each others private files.

We find your profile interesting but we would prefer to at least chat a bit before we accept the request. Our public profile contains quite a bit of information.

Response #3

Hi there,

We typically no longer accept friend request without some other sort of contact such as an e-mail or text message, chatting or after meeting in person. But after reading your profile we decided to make an exception.

In actuality we usually reserve our friends list and private photos and videos for people that live in the area, and with which we feel enough of a connection and attraction that the relationship already is or may become sexual. We can be friends and chat and such without seeing each others private files. We decided we want you to see ours.

We find your profile interesting and we would like to see what the possibilities might be. We hope you find our private files exciting.

Hmmmm...trying to remeber which # we got....think it was #4......"NO WAY!"

OK..just kidding..can't remember ever sending the SexyWets a request.

BADBOY8P wrote:

You all make great points !!!! We have no nude pics in our public or private albums so this does not bother us ..... But what does bother us is seeing all these nude pics without face pics , or face pics that are blacked out . Blacking out your face pics does not hide who you are If your family or friends got on here they would still know its you . But we do think their are alot of couples on here that do send blind request just to see your pics . We always read the profiles to see if we have anything in commen before accepting or sending friends request . We so wish others would read before sending ........ LOL

J&L

WHAT??? Read your profile first??? All of it??? Come on..let's be real here...lol

Excellent point, Badboy, about the face pics.

BADBOY8P wrote:

I know where u live TIFFND !!!!!!!!!!! Just sayin


J&L

Yes You do! We aren't scared! Have had a lot of fun everytime you've been here!

Thank you, Blueeyes!

Vanaheim, I don't know if I'm included in your compliments. I'm pretending that I am. You validated many of our points- "personality does even more". that's what I expect from others. It's a fair exchange.

A mistake a goof, not the end of all possibility. However, the same mistake made twice is a choice, and a third time is a habit, in my little world.

I want friends and lovers who can and will relax around me. Sex or convo with uptight people is painful, in more ways than one . If by relax, you mean revert to poor manners, then no, I don't want that kind of relaxation around me.

Tree

I have gotten a couple of blind friend requests from people. I don't have anything in my private photos for now, so my current course of action is this: If I take a look at their profile and find them at least mildly interesting, I'll accept the request and shoot them a friendly "hello, let's talk a bit" email. If they never respond, I'll usually delete them after a few days or whenever I get around to clearing the clutter from my lists. As for sending, I have never sent a blind friend request; I will always send a message first talking a little bit about me, saying why I thought they were interesting enough to send a request to, and ask if they are interested in getting to know each other. More often then not, though, I never get a response back :/ It makes meeting people so much nicer and easier when it does work, though

As for the iPhone issue, I hope the webmasters will get that fixed when they update the site (which I think is coming soon). I had no idea that you can't send messages from an iPhone; I wonder how many people this regularly affects.

We get a lot of blind requests. I have found they usually lead to nothing. If there is an intrest its always better to start a conversation first. Then become friends what gets me is when you get a friend request from florida lol

We don't mind blind friend requests but for us to approve them we are rather strict. They must be verified. If the male is missing we deny. We understand blurred faces but aside from that there must be a full body pic of both. Must be in our state. If you don't meet these we just ignore the request.
Next is whether we think we might be into the couple. For that we like to see pics that reflect personality not just close ups of your genitals. Genital pics say nothing about whether we will click or if you're attractive. Of course we need to be physically attracted as well.
Next is the profile. Yes we always read the whole thing. If it's the same old "we have been married for x years, we love each other, we are secure, etc." then you'd better have some good pics. That stuff is good to know but we are looking for personality. We also look to see if there are any obvious speed bumps. We have had to turn down folks we might have been into because they were just looking for a different experience than us. One example that comes to mind is someone we turned down because they were looking for an exclusive thing and that's just not what we're here for.
A few people have slipped by the rules but not many. We are pretty strict.