We are NEw to this and a little bit nervous...I mean Do Couples Just expect to get Laid at Swinger Parties.........Because I think that is alot of pressure.....We Love to play...But we don't love to be HUNTED?!?!?
Not really. A lot of the parties are for social. BUT, playing is one of the main ingredients of being a swinger, so playing is a large part of the idea behind the party. If not playing that night then deciding who you would like to be with in the future. You need to go to the party with the idea that playing could happen that night, so you should always be prepared.
Most of the time, no. Not everybody at a swingers party expects to have sex. But sometimes it depends on the party you go to. Off-premise parties like those thrown by Secret Desires www.secretdesires.org are a great way to meet others in the Lifestyle without the pressure of having sex. I'd recommend checking this out first, the next party is on the 10th of Feb.
No. Never. If it happens, we're always ready. But we never *expect* anything.
-R
-R
We never expect anything except to have a good time. We have gone to the local swing club and done nothing, had sex alone, had sex with a single, a couple and in a group. But it was never expected, it just happened.
We always go prepared, but playtime happens maybe a third of the time. Just go with the flow.
We EXPECT the same thing everytime we go to a party.
As soon as we walk into the party there's a waiting line to get out, happens every time.
We try not to take it too personal, but we expect it.
:-) LMAO
As soon as we walk into the party there's a waiting line to get out, happens every time.
We try not to take it too personal, but we expect it.
:-) LMAO
We never expect to play...we just go to have a good time. If we meet a couple to swap with...thats jsut a bonus. We have a great club/group of swingers around here....only thing I can say is try places and if ones not right try another....and word of mouth is the best at finding the one that might be right for you....or group does a weekly online chat night and helps inform people that want to know about of group and what to expect there. Also they do a Meet and Greet at a local bar on certain weekends to let newbies get to know the regulars.
Pretty much all the real action happens at after parties.. not in the club(at least not here in SLC)
Its pretty easy to tell someone that you dont want to go home with them....
Dont be scared... Just know how to say no
are you talking about the upcoming vegas party?
Its pretty easy to tell someone that you dont want to go home with them....
Dont be scared... Just know how to say no
are you talking about the upcoming vegas party?
We probably play 75% of the time we go to parties. We don't go expecting anything, but we usually end up with a couple (or two) that we just really like 
ABSOLUTELY!!! That's the great thing about any type of party or meet and greet. We're there for SEX, SEX and more SEX!
If we don't hook up with someone at the event ... We always hook up with each other. Turns out that we're extremely sexually compatible.
The point is ... We're going out planning on sex, the question is with who. Usually each other, but not always. None the less, we've planned a wonderful evening without kids, jobs, and other commitments but great sex. Besides it's a wonderful excuse to get dressed up, remind each other that you're still attrative and attracted. If no one else thinks so that night, that's OK ... we've reminded the people that count. Then it's time to go get undressed and remind each other ... of other things.
Have Fun!
Paul -n- Peg :z
If we don't hook up with someone at the event ... We always hook up with each other. Turns out that we're extremely sexually compatible.
The point is ... We're going out planning on sex, the question is with who. Usually each other, but not always. None the less, we've planned a wonderful evening without kids, jobs, and other commitments but great sex. Besides it's a wonderful excuse to get dressed up, remind each other that you're still attrative and attracted. If no one else thinks so that night, that's OK ... we've reminded the people that count. Then it's time to go get undressed and remind each other ... of other things.
Have Fun!
Paul -n- Peg :z
Do we expect something to happen? It depends on the type of club we are going to. If its a private house party with people we know then since we have that level of intamacy already established then yes, we are expecting it. If we are going to an party that we are unfamiliar with or an on premise or off premise club, then no, we do not expect it. Now if soemthing doesnt happen does it mean that we are disappointed? Not at all. life is full of ups and downs and we roll with what we wind up with.
No we don't expect to have sex but are happy when we do find a cpl/single that wants to play :-) if nothing esle, we willa lmost always at least find a place to go play with each other.
Paul -n- Peg you beat us to it . . . we always expect to have sex at or after a party and it is rare that we
CAn't really say. Guess when we are invited to our first party we will tell you what we expect. :-) LOL
BLVL we will be in STL a lot in the next few months integrating the new company we bought. We will make sure to find time to meet you guys (if you would like) for drinks when both of us are down that way. A bunch of PEEPS (hopefully Jerry and Jen) might head down to one of the clubs there and party. Hope you can join us.
For the most part, we always play when we go to the club. A few times we haven't (one or the other out of service) but otherwise always. Mostly because we always have one of our regular playmates there with us.
For the most part most of us hang out outside the club (vertical and swing stuff). Another poster on this tread has brought the fmaily over for dinner or swinging.
For the most part, we always play when we go to the club. A few times we haven't (one or the other out of service) but otherwise always. Mostly because we always have one of our regular playmates there with us.
For the most part most of us hang out outside the club (vertical and swing stuff). Another poster on this tread has brought the fmaily over for dinner or swinging.
Of course Cheeseheads, we always love to meet folks. Give a heads up when. :-)
Hell, we expect to get laid everywhere we go! LOL, just kidding. Actually, we try to live life without expectations. That way we can never be dissappointed.
AMEN WET
BLV will let you know We have a consolidation kick off meeting this week so who knows when it will be.
BLV will let you know We have a consolidation kick off meeting this week so who knows when it will be.
We have attended many parties with the intent of meeting new people and having a good time, what ever that ends up meaning. There are never any expectations on our part.
I think that it would be fair to prepare you for what YOU should expect from a party. Simply ask the host what kind of party it will be. We tend to avoid hotel parties because in almost all of the hotel based parties we have been to, it was more or less 'come in, get nekked and hump someone. Anyone.'
We prefer a party where we can socialize with others, and there is room for activities and conversation. When there is play, if there is any at all, we prefer that the area is set aside from the main room. It is important to attend functions that you will be comfortable with as a new couple. It can make the difference between having a lot of fun, or being nervous all night long.
Just my .02 cents.
If you are interested, I can elaborate more. Just email us.
Luvbugs! (mR.)
I think that it would be fair to prepare you for what YOU should expect from a party. Simply ask the host what kind of party it will be. We tend to avoid hotel parties because in almost all of the hotel based parties we have been to, it was more or less 'come in, get nekked and hump someone. Anyone.'
We prefer a party where we can socialize with others, and there is room for activities and conversation. When there is play, if there is any at all, we prefer that the area is set aside from the main room. It is important to attend functions that you will be comfortable with as a new couple. It can make the difference between having a lot of fun, or being nervous all night long.
Just my .02 cents.
If you are interested, I can elaborate more. Just email us.
Luvbugs! (mR.)
HEY you almost discribed our partys to a T lovbug (the meeting people one...not the whambam thankyamam ones)