Swingers Forum - Lifestyle singles... or out of the lifestyle singles? which is b

Ok so wifey & I have been in the lifestyle for going on.... 10ish years now. makes us sound old... lol Recently we have discussed a lot about playing separate as a new chapter in our book of "trying new things" we had always talked a little about it but this time we decided to act on it and see how we both liked it.. Now here lies the interesting, tricky, strange, whatever the word you choose to associate with it may be. Her new F.B. was a choice of convince with an across the street neighbor, and its all good, they fucked at his house once, and things went smoothly. 2nd time we turned it into a threesum, and beings that he'd never been in that type of situation, he couldn't, ummmm, rise to the occasion. they went over to his house to try and finish and he still couldn't get hard. nothing has happened sense just because of the business of life, but im curious as to next time if he will be able to perform... and now for the single female. i had been talking to her for a while, she replied to one of my adds on craigslist of all places... i should have figured it to be too good to be true cause i found a single female(the infamous white buffalo) before my wife found her single male. but me and said girl ended up hooking up on multiple different occasions, had fun for the most part, but wifey started getting a funny feeling about her, and shortly after that she would start asking me to come over a lot more, even on holidays(Christmas, when i have kids and a wife) and wifey told me she was falling for me and wanted more of an emotional connection vs just a physical one? i didn't see it but i always trust the wifeys instincts... so long story short, a couple weeks later she started getting really weird, i asked her whats up and she said i have a new boyfriend and blah, blah, blah. started sending me pictures of the car of his she gets to drive, etc. so we figured she was just looking for someone to take care of her... so this is why i ask, lifestyle singles or non lifestyle singles... thanks for the input

Sugarandspice, very well stated. And I/we agree... I don't have hard feelings toward her based on her feelings. It actually gives me a little bit of an ego boost knowing she wanted more, physically and emotionally, but, being in my dream relationship already I'm not looking for more then a friend/fuck buddy. It just bothered me that she couldn't come out & say... Hey I want more, or I'm getting feelings for you, or I'm not getting what I want or need from this situation. But it is what it is, and really she doesn't owe me anything. So no hard feelings, I just think that people in the lifestyle that have done it before tend to know a little more how to separate feelings and sex? Just my opinion and as far as the other guy goes, I know it's an awkward position for the first time. My first time with my wife and another guy for her I had a hard time keeping it up, which now isn't an issue anymore. Lol ok enough of the book I'm writing for now. Lol

In my experience, ladies tend to want more of an emotional relationship than men want, which can be problematic. Also, it's a whole lot easier to find a willing male partner than a willing female partner so you could easlily end up in a situation where your wife is getting a lot more activity than you are. That can be unsettling to a man sometimes.

Mr. Sexperimentors