Yes, just occasionally, I have trouble controlling my sarcasm, but there seems to have been lots of posts/replies lately from folks mystified by the lack of enthusiasm for the solo activities of their male half. Is it really all that difficult to understand?
Isn't a male with hall pass the same thing as a single male except that the hall pass proves that his own wife is kinda bored with him?
Dayum. did I just type that? Ah yes, humor folks, humor. Poor humor at that. What I meant to ask is, "Ain't a hall-pass-male just swimming in the same pool as all the single males that are treadin' water round here?" You know, that same cesspool that folks regularly like to toss raw sewage into and belittle on a regular basis? Not this female mind you, I'm always hot for the single males. Hell, lets face it, there's been more single guys through this woman then cars through the Holland tunnel during a major rush hour. 
Eh-hem. Humor, remember? There's been nowhere near as many guys in my tunnel versus autos in the Holland tunnel ... during rush hour. 
Anyhoo, just looking at Booty Calls, or Profiles, there's a plethora of folks looking for unattached (or with hall pass) women for play, but almost NO requests for single males. On the other hand, there's typically loads of single guys on Booty Calls looking to play. A male with hall pass is no different.
One recent post even seemed to blame Swingular: "the male half also (has) a few dozen hall passes, (but) gave up on using them on this site a long time ago." (my emphasis) Well sheez, Swingular is a swinging site, not a singles hook-up site.
Why the astonishment when the male-half doesn't have much success?
Isn't a male with hall pass the same thing as a single male except that the hall pass proves that his own wife is kinda bored with him?
Dayum. did I just type that? Ah yes, humor folks, humor. Poor humor at that. What I meant to ask is, "Ain't a hall-pass-male just swimming in the same pool as all the single males that are treadin' water round here?" You know, that same cesspool that folks regularly like to toss raw sewage into and belittle on a regular basis? Not this female mind you, I'm always hot for the single males. Hell, lets face it, there's been more single guys through this woman then cars through the Holland tunnel during a major rush hour. Eh-hem. Humor, remember? There's been nowhere near as many guys in my tunnel versus autos in the Holland tunnel ... during rush hour. Anyhoo, just looking at Booty Calls, or Profiles, there's a plethora of folks looking for unattached (or with hall pass) women for play, but almost NO requests for single males. On the other hand, there's typically loads of single guys on Booty Calls looking to play. A male with hall pass is no different.
One recent post even seemed to blame Swingular: "the male half also (has) a few dozen hall passes, (but) gave up on using them on this site a long time ago." (my emphasis) Well sheez, Swingular is a swinging site, not a singles hook-up site.
Why the astonishment when the male-half doesn't have much success?
Interesting take. As a male with a hall pass, I guess you would have to ask my wife if she was bored....I know the answer already. In fact we both have hall passes and are usually looking for a fun person to connect with. Same pool as single guys, sure I guess so except for the fact we can show up with an amazing partner from time to time.
We have had no success as a couple really hooking up from the site so I don't find it shocking that I don't have the door being blown down with requests. Why do I have a profile, on the off chance someone is looking here. Just because I have had equal success winning the lottery (I think my odds might be better with the lottery) doesn't meen we should not try.
Difference between a married with a hall pass and a single...duh I am married.
I have had enough success outside of the site so I am not really all that stressed about it either.
We have had no success as a couple really hooking up from the site so I don't find it shocking that I don't have the door being blown down with requests. Why do I have a profile, on the off chance someone is looking here. Just because I have had equal success winning the lottery (I think my odds might be better with the lottery) doesn't meen we should not try.
Difference between a married with a hall pass and a single...duh I am married.
I have had enough success outside of the site so I am not really all that stressed about it either.hubby has a hall pass
That's it, I'm starting a new business! Printing hall passes. And not the kind for school either. They will not have to be signed by your teacher. Instead they will have to be signed and notarized by your wife!
Just going off of all the people we have met on here, we dont believe that there are very many legitimate hall passes out there. Out of more than a hundred fifty people we have met, only two couples admitted to playing alone. So we tend to take the hall pass male a little on the cynical side.
LMAO...husband with a "Hall Pass"..About as worthless as a $3 bill... Unless he's out with a single woman or couple that he and his wife have been playing with already.
I don't have a FULL hallpass, My wife does not play, she is not bored with me , she is just not interested in sex. She does how ever let me enjoy myself with other women, Rules apply when I play. I tell the woman up front what I can do and what I can't do. A lot of couples I meet, don't want to play because the male half is left out. But I have found a few that enjoy it. I don't chase women, or come across strong or over powering,I don't do bootie calls. I am just a married man who enjoys spending time with women who enjoy the same thing I do. I am not interested in putting a notch in the bed post,but I guess I am just the odd ball male.
Hall passes have and always will be under used. But not for lack of trying I am sure. The two of us are always running out of them latly....
PALS4FUN wrote:Sheez, I'm quoting myself now ... that's kinda pathetic, eh?! I wanted reinforce the point though that I REALLY was joking by saying what I said above about the wife being bored! The real point of my post was how goofy the seeming surprise at the lack of interest for a male with a hallpass is.
... Isn't a male with hall pass the same thing as a single male except that the hall pass proves that his own wife is kinda bored with him?
The joke about being bored really was just that--me being my goofy, non-serious self. I will say, though, that I think boredom may be part of the reason hubby and I got into this: After 27 years of marriage, having sex upside down from a tree above a Tulip patch with a cheering audience of wild Moose can only be exciting so many times, ya know?
This "undertaking" has added a lot of zest and frequency to our sex lives! 
Oh, And for Gawd's sake the whole Holland tunnel thing was a joke too, YOU ALL KNOW THAT, RIGHT??
MRCNK wrote:It is indeed difficult to hook up as a couple at times--the complexity of four relationships seems to make proper connections exponentially more difficult. So yeah, sometimes just adding ONE to the mix of a couple works better or meeting up with a single guy or hall pass guy by myself is great but ...
Interesting take...We have had no success as a couple really hooking up from the site so I don't find it shocking that I don't have the door being blown down with requests...
H2ODREAMS wrote:LOL -- Yep ... I HATE the feeling that I'm interjecting myself between marital partners so get on those hall passes dang it! Or else ...
That's it, I'm starting a new business! Printing hall passes. And not the kind for school either. They will not have to be signed by your teacher. Instead they will have to be signed and notarized by your wife!
BABEANDBO wrote:Yep, I like this type of connection as well. If I know the couple and it's obvious she's ok with me playing with hubby alone then this makes it much less worrisome for me.
LMAO...husband with a "Hall Pass"..About as worthless as a $3 bill... Unless he's out with a single woman or couple that he and his wife have been playing with already.
KIDSATPLAY wrote:
Send me a not if you are married with hall pass and interested, and I will send you her photo.
There's your answer - Males with Hall Passes are still seen as superior. Married males and possibly even multiply divorced males are superior to Single Males in multiple ways.
This single male has made many friends on Swingular and enjoyed good times with them over the years. It's usually couples that contact me looking for a little extra sexual tension in the bedroom.
Sometimes I get the call because no one else is available on short notice. I think sometimes I get an invite because I'm *not* a thirty-something, muscle-bound, boy toy and the chances are lower that I'll disrupt the existing relationship. I've been on other adult sites as a single male but Swingular works best. For every couple that looks down their nose at single guys there's another couple that welcomes me as an intimate, no-drama, addition to their sexual relatiohship.
Sometimes I get the call because no one else is available on short notice. I think sometimes I get an invite because I'm *not* a thirty-something, muscle-bound, boy toy and the chances are lower that I'll disrupt the existing relationship. I've been on other adult sites as a single male but Swingular works best. For every couple that looks down their nose at single guys there's another couple that welcomes me as an intimate, no-drama, addition to their sexual relatiohship.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:I F'ing hate you people. Have you never heard of the unwritten law that posting a response longer than the original poster's text is a severe violation of Swingular rules punishable by a two hour tryst whereby Mr & Mrs Deliciouslywet are strapped down to the bed and have done to them whatever the OP desires?
We both have hall passes ... if that is what it takes.
You may want to consider that next time before you post a reply! But OK, that was pretty dang articulate and I'd reiterate the points that you mentioned that I agreed with but then I'd pretty much be repeating everything your wrote.
I will say, what with the sheer volume of words that we've typed between the two of us, it might appear that we need to do "less talk" and more action!
MINKNIGHT wrote:Guilty as charged! In our case though, it's a bit due to the fact that we're somewhat unusual here. I (the Mrs) sorta drive things and hubby is a minor participant. I'm sorta on a permanent hall pass and he's kinda along for the ride!
I also find it interesting that most profile (including our own) is filled with pics of the women and less of the male for the ladies to see
KIDSATPLAY wrote:Hey buster, the only gang bang that my MR participates in had better be one in which I'm the centerpiece!
...The gal I used my pass with has a hall pass for a Gang Bang and she wants me to help set it up. Send me a note if you are married with hall pass and interested, and I will send you her photo.
Tee-hee, I'm selfish that way!!JUSTRACHE wrote:Ahhh, but your logic entirely ignores those men that list themselves as "Single" when they are actually married and sneaking around!
LOVE IT- I can't tell you the number of "married" men who have told me they have a hall pass but are completely unwilling to let me meet both him and the wife to chat and get to know each other and varify that he does indeed have a hall pass. ... As a Single F who was also married in the lifestlye I would never want to be a part of a hubby cheating- But I honestly don't trust guys that say they do. I much perfer the single males for that reason.
PALS4FUN wrote:
Guilty as charged! In our case though, it's a bit due to the fact that we're somewhat unusual here. I (the Mrs) sorta drive things and hubby is a minor participant. I'm sorta on a permanent hall pass and he's kinda along for the ride!
I'm going to have to disagree with you there, Pals. Somebody earlier also made a reply that said something along the lines of "this site is male-driven". In my experience, at least, this site is the opposite of male-driven. Sure, there are plenty of single guys and "single" guys, but most of the active couples on the site are primarily female-driven as far as I can tell.
Now, that doesn't stop males with hall passes from being a rarity. Just because it's female driven doesn't mean that the male half is allowed to play on his own. Or that they are looking for additional guys. Even here, it seems that it is more acceptable for a female to admit to being bisexual or bi-curious than it is for the male. Take a look at the profiles of your friends; I would be willing to bet decent money that well over half of them have the male listed as straight and the female listed as something other than straight.
FRIENDLYGENTLEMAN wrote:Hey, I'm gonna disagree right back at ya, buster!PALS4FUN wrote:
Guilty as charged! In our case though, it's a bit due to the fact that we're somewhat unusual here. I (the Mrs) sorta drive things and hubby is a minor participant. I'm sorta on a permanent hall pass and he's kinda along for the ride!
I'm going to have to disagree with you there, Pals. Somebody earlier also made a reply that said something along the lines of "this site is male-driven". In my experience, at least, this site is the opposite of male-driven. Sure, there are plenty of single guys and "single" guys, but most of the active couples on the site are primarily female-driven as far as I can tell.
Now, that doesn't stop males with hall passes from being a rarity. Just because it's female driven doesn't mean that the male half is allowed to play on his own. Or that they are looking for additional guys. Even here, it seems that it is more acceptable for a female to admit to being bisexual or bi-curious than it is for the male. Take a look at the profiles of your friends; I would be willing to bet decent money that well over half of them have the male listed as straight and the female listed as something other than straight.
I think that the site and associated swingers are driven by the DEMAND for FEMALES but I think that the swinging and active searching for swing partners is mostly completed by the male half. For example, I'll bet that 90% of the folks posting here regularly are the male half.And yes, there's a huge volume of Bi-Females here, but certainly THAT is not exclusively female driven either. How many guys will raise their hands to participate if they're asked to watch two women going at it then be able to jump in the middle of 'em? A male fantasy. If the women were just interested in meeting other women there'd be female hall-passes getting used all over the place with other women, but there isn't because the husband wants to be involved and the women will generally acquiesce -- again, ultimately driven by the male desire rather than the females.
But then, hell, I like weeners too much to ever be gay so whadda I know?!
Maybe it all really is driven by women looking for other women and the men just get dragged along screaming and kicking! 
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:OK, you previously write a super articulate response to this thread, then this. What the hell does that mean? ACTIVE? Yer darn right it'd be active 'cause I'd be really active "abusing" both your bodies, but, being strapped down, how active could the DeliciouslyWets be?
Being strapped down by the OP sounds pretty active!!
PALS4FUN]
Up to a point I would agree but I like a good argument. So maybe I can start one.
First I would agree that it is mostly men that post and drive this site but it is mostly the women that say
Up to a point I would agree but I like a good argument. So maybe I can start one.
First I would agree that it is mostly men that post and drive this site but it is mostly the women that say
Really I am just looking to give someone the BFE (Boyfriend Experience) where I make them cook for me, clean up after me and eat all the food in their refrigerator before playing video games all night with my obnoxious friends.
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE] ...First I would agree that it is mostly men that post and drive this site but it is mostly the women that say
So PALS4FUN if we totally agree that Swingular is a male driven web site then why is it? I have a number of general questions that I would like to have answered and I appeal to great intellect to answer.?
Why is it that most postings are by married men and yet so many married women have singles profiles?
Why do we assume that booty calls by married men with hall passes are tantamount to cheating?
Is it that the married men are too fat or too pussy whipped to be desirable?
Is it a control issue?
Is it a trust issue?
Is it a used or damaged goods issue?
Are men just meal tickets?
Why is it that most postings are by married men and yet so many married women have singles profiles?
Why do we assume that booty calls by married men with hall passes are tantamount to cheating?
Is it that the married men are too fat or too pussy whipped to be desirable?
Is it a control issue?
Is it a trust issue?
Is it a used or damaged goods issue?
Are men just meal tickets?
OK, so I answered these within the quote itself (in reddish font). Obviously, I'm quite the odd bird so can only speak for myself, not all women!
(quote=SUGARSANDSPICE)
So PALS4FUN if we totally agree that Swingular is a male driven web site then why is it? I have a number of general questions that I would like to have answered and I appeal to great intellect to answer.?
LOL -- ya ain't findin' any of that in THIS household!
Why is it that most postings are by married men and yet so many married women have singles profiles?
Don't know! Maybe the crave the extra attention without the pressure of an actual meet? Such a situation would drive me batty -- I'm not very good at keeping up on email as it is
Why do we assume that booty calls by married men with hall passes are tantamount to cheating?
Because they are. Men are inherently cheating bastards.
Is it that the married men are too fat or too pussy whipped to be desirable? Perhaps SOMETIMES, married men are not quite "hungry" enough or "wildly desperate" enough!?
Is it a control issue?
Oh hell, no, certainly not for me ... I pretty much sexually run the show at home so not being in control is a fine change sometimes! teehee
Is it a trust issue?
At least partly, unless I've met the Mrs and she's fine with it.
Is it a used or damaged goods issue?
Nah ... if anything I'd expect the guys to think this way, thus the constant backtracking on my "Holland Tunnel" comment! I'd expect a married guy to be better trained in the fine art of errr...banging a woman senseless but making sure she's fully ready for said banging first!
Are men just meal tickets?
Yes. 'Nough said. Keep this on the "down-low" though, 'K?
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(quote=SUGARSANDSPICE)
So PALS4FUN if we totally agree that Swingular is a male driven web site then why is it? I have a number of general questions that I would like to have answered and I appeal to great intellect to answer.?
LOL -- ya ain't findin' any of that in THIS household!
Why is it that most postings are by married men and yet so many married women have singles profiles?
Don't know! Maybe the crave the extra attention without the pressure of an actual meet? Such a situation would drive me batty -- I'm not very good at keeping up on email as it is
Why do we assume that booty calls by married men with hall passes are tantamount to cheating?
Because they are. Men are inherently cheating bastards.
Is it that the married men are too fat or too pussy whipped to be desirable? Perhaps SOMETIMES, married men are not quite "hungry" enough or "wildly desperate" enough!?
Is it a control issue?
Oh hell, no, certainly not for me ... I pretty much sexually run the show at home so not being in control is a fine change sometimes! teehee
Is it a trust issue?
At least partly, unless I've met the Mrs and she's fine with it.
Is it a used or damaged goods issue?
Nah ... if anything I'd expect the guys to think this way, thus the constant backtracking on my "Holland Tunnel" comment! I'd expect a married guy to be better trained in the fine art of errr...banging a woman senseless but making sure she's fully ready for said banging first!
Are men just meal tickets?
Yes. 'Nough said. Keep this on the "down-low" though, 'K?
[/quote]Well, knowing the truth, I feel much better now!
I have a hall pass, but it has nothing to do with her being bored. It has to do with the fact that I travel for work extensively. While I could use a hall pass while in the home town, why would I want to? She's the best! When we're together we always play together; wouldn't want to play without each other.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Mr. Sexperimentors
PALS - that just goes without asking darlin! I mean I could have enumerated the inappropriate scratching and the occasional tea bag while you are asleep on the couch...but damn I wanna leave something to the imagination! Oh and don't worry, I never pee on the toilet seat because I never put it down....to damn much fun to see the look in your eye when your ass falls in cold toilet water.....now fix me a sammich!
ahh the lost art of humor...I think this might be my favorite thread ever.
ahh the lost art of humor...I think this might be my favorite thread ever.We have given each other hall passes in the past with no problems. We do discuss it before hand so that everyone is comfortable. Very exciting to hear the hot stories brought back of our experiences hehehe. One time when I gave her a Hall Pass, she decided to go out dancing one summer night and she spotted a guy and asked him to dance. After a few dances she invited him outside and gave him a BJ. It sure surprised and put a smile on his face she later told me. What a Couqar/MILF she is! I have been let out and had great experiences with other females either one on one, MFM, or group.
Are you kidding me? This is the (Mrs), and YES he has a "hallpass"...but ONLY if I give him the "key nailed to the driftwood" or the little sign for the hall monitor that says "I can go pee"!!! Or whatever the hell they say!
The point is...I frickin LOVE it when we find someone I can trust to give him a "hallpass". A lot of my fantasy is either WATCHING him and helping, or him telling me all about it, and railing him like Pinocchio on Viagra!! It's a "GIRL" thing! And Johnny rocks!! But that's just what I kinda like!
Is there a "right & wrong" page, cuz we missed that one I guess!
Hallpass!!! Isn't it up to us???
~PEBBLES~
The point is...I frickin LOVE it when we find someone I can trust to give him a "hallpass". A lot of my fantasy is either WATCHING him and helping, or him telling me all about it, and railing him like Pinocchio on Viagra!! It's a "GIRL" thing! And Johnny rocks!! But that's just what I kinda like!
Is there a "right & wrong" page, cuz we missed that one I guess!
Hallpass!!! Isn't it up to us???
~PEBBLES~
Sometimes we speak with the knowledge granted by our ignorance, and there is nothing wrong about being ignorant, since an ignorant is just him who lucks the right data or info... AKA (50)...
Anyways, I guess everyone is at a different comfort level, and there are more than 50 shades of being open minded, and my personal believe is that some of us are one step away of
Being on the white vanilla shade. So do we personally get hall passes? Hell yes!!! I guess we are weird that way, we travel quite often and not always together, at the same time our Lil ones not always allow us to go out together, so in our devious minds and behavior sometimes we encourage each other to go out and have fun, and to bring back a hot story to tell (not to mention pics to show) it's all about TRUST and comfort levels.
Some parts of this post sounded to me like if the RS president and the bishop came out and said "ewww... swingers...? Lets start a rally at chick-fil- a"
Anyways, I guess everyone is at a different comfort level, and there are more than 50 shades of being open minded, and my personal believe is that some of us are one step away of
Being on the white vanilla shade. So do we personally get hall passes? Hell yes!!! I guess we are weird that way, we travel quite often and not always together, at the same time our Lil ones not always allow us to go out together, so in our devious minds and behavior sometimes we encourage each other to go out and have fun, and to bring back a hot story to tell (not to mention pics to show) it's all about TRUST and comfort levels.
Some parts of this post sounded to me like if the RS president and the bishop came out and said "ewww... swingers...? Lets start a rally at chick-fil- a"