We were at a Christams Party this past weekend and this has been on our minds since then, so we thought we would ask all of u about it and get your thoughts young and old. We encountered a couple (in their 30's) and was playing with them and it looked like it was going to be a great night,somehow age was brought up and they ask us our age,when we told them we were 56 and 52 they said that having sex with us would be like doing it with the crypt keeper. we didnt know what to say but of coarse at that point it was all over, but before they actually knew our age all was ok,SOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
How old is to old to swing?
Excuse me while I go outside to beat the dust and cobwebs off me.
How old is to old to swing?
Excuse me while I go outside to beat the dust and cobwebs off me.
10 years older than yourself is old. Nuff' said.
Its more about the chemistry between the 2 couples than the age. We have had a great time with people of all ages.
Age doesn't mean a whole lot. Many people don't look their age in the first place and if everyone is enjoying themselves why bring bring it up. Just have fun you may even have found some awesome new friends.
Too old is when the heart stops ticking.
CBUTAH wrote:
Its more about the chemistry between the 2 couples than the age. We have had a great time with people of all ages.
This is the best reply so far. The 10 year thing? That is a personal decision. To be talked to as you were is ignorant and childish. They seem like self adsorbed assholes.
This is one of those things that I feel pretty strongly about in this life. We believe if there's chemistry, that's all that matters. We have been with couples that have children older than us, that could keep up with any young couple, and have the experience to back it up. We have also played with couples that are younger than us. We are in this for the pleasure, not the numbers....
some people don't want to sleep with a clp that is younger then there kids, and others that wont do it if you are older then there parents. each have a age group. My girlfriend wont do it if there are under 35yrs old. Me I like anyone from 21 to 70 yrs old as long as they play. good luck you will find someone.
How old is too old?
We talking age - or maturity?
If we're talking maturity, then, it becomes a matter of How Young Is Too Young.
We talking age - or maturity?
If we're talking maturity, then, it becomes a matter of How Young Is Too Young.
I am 39 and my GF is 21. I think there's someone out there for everyone. 
Everyone has something that floats their boat. As long as it's legal, you should chase whatever you want.
D
Everyone has something that floats their boat. As long as it's legal, you should chase whatever you want.D
JUST_RACH wrote:Hey sexy lips! Do I look old enough to be your dad?...Don't answer that! LOL. I agree with what you said. It's totally a "situation and moment" kinda thing sometimes, or you get to know someone, and all of the "normal" boundaries tend to be "bent" a little bit. There are incredible people that are older, and younger if they have the right maturity...it works both ways...if you keep an open mind and know what you want...and only YOU know what you want, and that's your right, and totally respectable.
I have a prefered age range for myself, not becuase of the "number" but because you are naturally more attracted to people who are closer to your age. Yes there is always that exception and I don't let that prefreance limit me if I want to, however, its not really often I do want to go out of it. For my over 4O is not my cup of tea, becuase thats old enough to be my mom/dad.
~ROCKO~
It seems like the older you get the less baggage or drama you carry into your friendships. But age wise there are no real barriers other than legal age. Emotional maturity is the key and some have it and some never will. If you don't have it you won't comprehend this.
I had an experience about 3 years ago. A young woman (23-24) rented a room from me. She was initially all flirty and teasy (my weaknesses, for sure!) to the point where I found myself having to consider the ramifications of fucking her. I decided I had no problem with her age. It progressed rather rapidly until one day the subject of my age came up in a conversation with a few other people. When I announced it, she visibly shook (like she was having a fit, almost), and suddenly came down with a horrible headache. It was never the same after that. Now all that really happened is that I spoke my age. I didn't morph into a decrepit, scraggly old artifact before her very eyes. Yet, to her eyes, I must have done exactly that! It makes me wonder what goes on with some people's thinking. Like, really, does the fact that someone is "as old as my parents" or "as young as my kids" make them into your parents ... or kids? No! All I can say is that the mind is a truly amazing, astounding (and sometimes baffling) thing! And, obviously, a thought (alone) can effectively alter how someone views another person. Not an inviting or welcoming state of affairs, but it isn't the first disappointment I've ever experienced in life, and I don't imagine it will be the last. I just really enjoy the company of people who can look and see who is in front of them rather than looking through a transparent copy of the job application, if that makes sense.
Like, you know ... "Harrison Ford just hit on me, and I'm, like, kinda excited about it, but he was born in 1942 and since he's 70ish that makes him as old as my parents so ... nope, he's out." Uh, huh ...
My two cents is....Why should I open myself up like a flower and let every bee take some of my pollen dust....No that is never going to happen lol.
I don't care about age nor does the hubby. We are not the oldest or the youngest....Probably right in the middle. Being in the middle you get pulled from both ends....One will win while the other might not. However, if I open my mind I like to take my time and enjoy the splender in all of it. Mostly having the right connection is KEY to everything and everyone!
We have been lied to a time or two about ages and been suddenly surprised but, we still had a great time and may not and usually does not end in sex on the first time. Takes us a while to find a couple that we like and who likes us for who we are too!
I personally do not like to be told I do not have an open mind from people way older or way younger. As we are SWINGERS which to some means you are EASY...Which is not true in any way and why some bottom feeders make it hard for other then cry out for the unjustice.....Ummm Sex is about feeling alive and if you make us not feel that way, no matter the age. Then we shall pass by and keep looking.
I don't care about age nor does the hubby. We are not the oldest or the youngest....Probably right in the middle. Being in the middle you get pulled from both ends....One will win while the other might not. However, if I open my mind I like to take my time and enjoy the splender in all of it. Mostly having the right connection is KEY to everything and everyone!
We have been lied to a time or two about ages and been suddenly surprised but, we still had a great time and may not and usually does not end in sex on the first time. Takes us a while to find a couple that we like and who likes us for who we are too!
I personally do not like to be told I do not have an open mind from people way older or way younger. As we are SWINGERS which to some means you are EASY...Which is not true in any way and why some bottom feeders make it hard for other then cry out for the unjustice.....Ummm Sex is about feeling alive and if you make us not feel that way, no matter the age. Then we shall pass by and keep looking.
LGSBCS wrote:
We were at a Christams Party this past weekend and this has been on our minds since then, so we thought we would ask all of u about it and get your thoughts young and old. We encountered a couple (in their 30's) and was playing with them and it looked like it was going to be a great night,somehow age was brought up and they ask us our age,when we told them we were 56 and 52 they said that having sex with us would be like doing it with the crypt keeper. we didnt know what to say but of coarse at that point it was all over, but before they actually knew our age all was ok,SOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! How old is to old to swing? Excuse me while I go outside to beat the dust and cobwebs off me.
To B:
You're to old
To L:
You're hot as a firecracker :P~
Seriously though, age is a number, y'all are some of the best people we've known over the years, always a kind word, a nice smile, and a great conversation. Neither of y'all look your age (except when he goes into his cardigan pocket to get a Werther's Orginal), it was the 'youn uns' loss, not yours.
T has a thing about 'old people,' for her it is all about how you act, how you look (traditional old people look), and how you carry yourself. I (male typing, in case you didn't notice) prefer older, they seem to know what they want, they're not afraid to get or ask for it, and if you're not doing it, they'll tell you.
Y'all, under no circumstances, would be considered 'old,' we have some mutual aquaintences that are what we'd consider old.
Finally, for them to say such a thing doesn't say you're to old, it shows they lack the maturity to communicate nicely. Had they said, 'Oh, I have my monthly visitor, I have a bad back and it just started acting up' or the like, we wouldn't have this thread, they were rude to indicate it was age, even moreso using 'crypt keeper' to compare your age to it.
Fuck them, better yet, don't. Let them figure out it is the older people who have the skills and finesse to make it a pleasurable experience, not the youngsters.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:Wow! I actually read all of that! LOL And have to say...I agree...yep! Some VERY good thoughts! I know a lot of younger folks will read this and say.."Yeah...You notice it's mostly the OLD folks that say age dosen't matter? These old guys are just trying to get the young hotties, like everyone else!" My advice?? READ THIS!It's true.
My thought about the subject is do not worry about it.
We have hooked with couples in their mid twenties in the not so distant past and with a couple now 60 too. We find some people young and old to be attractive and some people young and old to be unattractive.
As for aging, to state the obvious, it happens to everyone. It seems to me that aging gracefully, joyfully and productively requires that you accept it is normal and it is happening to you.
Yes lifestyle choices and genetics allow some people to live a vigorous lifestyle for decades longer than most. At 57 I am still comfortably wearing a pair of jeans with a 32 inch waist as I type this and I can run and play games, recreate and such at levels usually considered the territory of much younger men. I know people in their 60s and 70s that are more capable physically than a good percentage of the population in their 30 and 40s. They will, in fact, outlive a percentage of the younger population that lives an ultra sedate lifestyle. I know an 81 year old that skis 5 to 6 days a week and even drops into powder filled mountains bowls etc. He looks like he is in his late 60s early 70s. Which means to most he looks old. Older people look older to the older too you know. Many if not most people find older people become more attractive as they themselves become older. Good thing! Even though he enjoys exceptional prowess in his advanced years this 81 year old skier is most probably not going to be picking up Hello Kitty at area 51 anytime soon. Enough said about exceptional genetics and lifestyle choices. In the end we all age unless we die young. Just because you are a healthy older person it does not mean that younger people should be required to be attracted to you. If they are they are and if they are not then they just are not. Oh well, boohoo, your life is not over or unfair.
Fact is we all are going to get older and older and older and eventually die. To do that gracefully and joyfully you just cannot resent the inevitable. At 57 I am not a youngster. I enjoy having friends of all ages. I know a lot of younger women with which I have become good friends, some of which are ultra attractive. As an older man, with more than a few experiences and adventures in life and a preponderance toward reflection and growth I have been told I am charming and fascinating and even sexy, or something to that effect, by a number of women much younger than me . Charming and fascinating and even sexy do not mean they all want to jump into bed with me or me and Mrs. Delicious. But yes, that can happen, well maybe it has happened. It needs to be initiated by the younger woman in my opinion. I enjoy friendship. Men that behave like a rake, which cannot stop from sexually aggressive behavior toward any woman that might be a friend, forfeit some potential friendships with women of all ages and a lot of good interactions that can bring a lot of joy into their lives. They limit their circle of friends and frankly the possibility of discovering lovers. The day may come, in four or five more decades that I may not be interested in sex. I assure you that if my brain is still intact that I will always be interested in friendships including some heart to heart and mind to mind intimacy with women of all sorts of ages. Aging women that will not own up to it can look as silly and become as frustrated as older men in denial.
At 57 there are still a few youngsters that seem to find me sexually alluring. I may not have yet had the last sex I will ever have with a 20 or 30 something lady. Then again I may have. I am not going to worry about that. Women decades older than that are also super hot. That possibility of sex with a 20 something or 30 something and so on and so forth, etc., will diminish with the passing years. That is normal and that is just fine too. At 57, just like my 81 year old friend, I will most probably not be hooking up with Hello Kitty at Area 51. That is normal and okay too. If I am a gentleman that accepts and loves each stage of life, I can enjoy friendships with women of all ages for the whole of my existence and that is absolutely wondrous to consider. I firmly believe that those that can be grateful for and fully enjoy the possibilities and opportunities in their life, in every stage of their life, are in my opinion much more likely to discover more possibilities and opportunities in each and every stage of life then anyone who holds resentments and unrealistic expectations in regards to something they can never completely control and only sort of slow down, like aging.
You'll notice for the most part its the younger ones that have the baggage and drama. Age has nothing to do with it. Maturity is what we like.
sometimes ya feel like a nut, sometimes you dont....
Age is an interesting atraction.. I find all ages atractive as I find many here do.. some have infactuation, maturity or other interests. I find the biggest fact is.. dont stress if someones not interested.. the Idea here to me is open friends, expecting nothing. the same as the Age being an atraction, we all have our own atractions, waight, education, hair color, race etc. and the same we all have our own turn ons. myself, (I love a beautiful face and smile... ) and a desire to be desired reather than pushing myself on many hoping to get a bite.. if someones rude to you about age, so what, consider the sorce and hold yourself above becouse always remember... the biggest turn off. is a bitter attitude
If they found you attractive before they knew the number, then the number should not have mattered. That sort of hang up is just foolish in my opinion. Each person is an individual & each couple is unique. Trying to pigeonhole someone by age or other single attribute does not make sense to me.
I find we are all bigots. We are just different flavors of bigotry. Just because it shouldn't does not mean much in the end.
LOL SUGARANDSPICE. I agree! Just as each person is free to form his/her own opinions/preferences independently, so there will always be people who agree ... and those who disagree.
I was just reading an Linked-In article on age (youth, in this case) in relation to entrepreneurship. And one comment was posted to the article which I found engaging: "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?" I thought it apropos to this thread, and it has made me think a bit ... always a good thing IMO.
Since we know the OP very well, I can tell you they are a really fun couple that are VERY lively and never give the lifestyle a bad name. I would answer B&L's question with ( when you find yourself just sitting on the sidelines with no play left. As long as I have known both of you I would guess TOO OLD is in about another 25-30 years..... Maybe we will not be playing with the 26 year olds anymore, but I can tell you I will fill my cock with cement before I am done!!!!!
PS. Don't forget to send your dues for the OLD SWINGERS HOME!!
PS. Don't forget to send your dues for the OLD SWINGERS HOME!!
Any couples here who have differing views on age as a consideration?
What if one or the other has certain restrictions/reservations about playing with others based on age, and the other doesn't have the same sentiment?
How do you handle it?
What if one or the other has certain restrictions/reservations about playing with others based on age, and the other doesn't have the same sentiment?
How do you handle it?
CarriermanAndGeekGirl wrote:
Any couples here who have differing views on age as a consideration?
What if one or the other has certain restrictions/reservations about playing with others based on age, and the other doesn't have the same sentiment?
How do you handle it?
Typically you hold to the one that doesn't like it. We don't like the idea of taking one for the team. Age doesn't bother us in most cases, but I find that I am a have an easier time seeing past the age barrier than my wife does. I find women attractive based on who they are, not how many candles they have on a cake.
So when the situation arises where age does concern the mrs., we pass politely and move on. Bottom line, our comfort first, and then the comfort of our potential playmates.
So, how strange is it then that I, mr simple has a fantacy to be with a much older woman. Guess I need to sit down with Freud?
In our minds age is a number on your birth certificate & drivers licence. If someone is hung up on your age, they are not swingers. Real swingers are out to have a good time weather or not they get laid is beside the point. If you're looking to just get sex, you need to step back and take a good look at yourself in the mirror.
I've always wondered about those "Active Lifestyle Communities" you see advertised in southern Arizona. Maybe Mr SimplePleasure's could recon one for us and report back.
Mr IDCPL
Mr IDCPL
well this is a hell of a thread, we find fun with all ages. But what is more interesting is the fact that we have more fun than the younger ones do. Someone mentioned the hello kitty types, who we have seen just sitting at the bar drinking and looking pretty, they never dance or have any fun cutting loose (maybe brad pitt will show up and see them).We do wild and crazy stuff all the time,and really love costume partys and we have been told we are too wild for the younger ones to keep up with.Enought with my rant age is just a number, young as you feel old as you act. H.
AMYNBOB wrote:
Amy here! Hi sexies! So I'll throw this question out at ya all! And don't be haters cuz I asked. Why on earth would an early 20s couple or even worse a late teen be interested in swinging? Is the relationship already boring or sour at that age and needing spice? How secure in the relationship/marriage could younger couples possibly be? Plus they are fertile, sounds scary as hell to me. Oh, and older gentlemen are very sexy in my opinion. Yummy!!! :-)
I don't necessarily think age has anything to do with open mindedness. If people are happy with each other, but still want to see what else is out there, then by all means. We are very happy in our marriage, but know that there are more experiences for the both of us to learn from than what is just in our own bed.
SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
So, how strange is it then that I, mr simple has a fantacy to be with a much older woman. Guess I need to sit down with Freud?
Would you consider CYN much older? Cuz I have a desire to be with a much younger woman. (BTW... Freud prefers you lay down on the couch.)
It's funny that younger folks, 20s and 30s, would say having sex with us would be like having sex with their parents. I sure as hell don't think having sex with younger folks is anything like having sex with my kids.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Mr. Sexperimentors
I dunno...we are both over 40 and we never get "searched" anymore. Although most who know us would never guess our ages. Age is not a barrier for us and we seem to gravitate towards people who LOOK our age so 28-35 but there was an older couple we met years ago that we had a blast with and they certainly did not look their age. There are some 20 somethings that I would not be interested in and age has nothing to do with it.
We have been there and done that. Our first encounter was with a mixed race couple twice our age, scared the hell out of us but when things were said and done they became the best friends we have in the lifestyle. Personally the day I can't reach and wipe myself I'm to old. Until then nothing will stop me, LOL (M)
There is a 15 year difference between the husband and I almost to the day. Age isn't a big deal to us. Although it does come into play with those people that haven't taken care of themselves. A lot of times men and women think I may be interested in them because they are my husbands age or older. In some cases I might be but in most cases I find that men and women my husbands age haven't taken care of themselves. In those cases, no I wouldn't be.
IDCPL4FUN69 wrote:
I've always wondered about those "Active Lifestyle Communities" you see advertised in southern Arizona. Maybe Mr SimplePleasure's could recon one for us and report back.
Mr IDCPL
Took us a while to see this, would be happy to? It may be strange but we have seen some beautiful 60-70 year olds and would not think twice about playing with them. And we have seen some 40 year olds that act like our kids. Age is not important to us. We agree all about the Chemestry.
It's funny how age becomes less and less important the older you get. As long as you can still perform, it's all about the sexual pleasure. I'm 69 and still can and do enjoy it. One of the most sexual females I have been with is 78 and a tiger in bed. And I was with a 28yr old that wasn't all that great. So, age? Who cares!! As long as you are enjoying yourself. I don't know about the rest of you but that is why we got into the lifestyle.
All I can say, coming from a couple that encompasses a pretty wide age difference all on our own, is "THANK YOU"! For all that have looked past the age thing to play with us, we've had a ball!! Hopefully you have all had as much fun as we have!
Hey i'm 32 and my best friend and fuck buddy just turned 69 we were friends for about 7 years i met him as a friend of my sister he used to take her riding on his harley but sis met a gut with tons of money and she had to stop the friendship with him because boyfriend who was younger did not like him, we met at a uno's pissa joint while i was there with my 3 month old son whose father beat me and abandoned us he helped me and for the last 6years has been a better father to him than any one man i know this boy loves him he buys him toys for christimes also a thomas linoel train set that was almost 300 dollars brought him a puppy for his birthday and helps me with my bills and as far as a lover on a scale of 1 10 i rate him a 12 he i older than my mother and step father and thew both love him so age is just a state of mind
Age is usually not as issue for us, attitude is the first thing we notice, then everything else, we have to say we have been very lucky with the couples we have met in the past. We have had this issue in the past where we have asked to be friends with a younger couple only to be told that we were too old. So some time went by and while at a party the couple that turned us down came and talked to us not really knowing who we were because we never exchanged pics, they turned us down remember, so after a while they said we should be friends and get to know one another, so we did the wrong thing and said no, not because we didn't think they were sexy but because they judged us before they even knew us, childish for sure but to be honest it felt good. Our point is get to know people before you turn them down you just might be surprised. We know not everyone is for us and we aren't for everyone but we always welcome friends.
ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:Well said! We couldn't agree more!Hope to make you guys friends soon!
Age is usually not as issue for us, attitude is the first thing we notice, then everything else, we have to say we have been very lucky with the couples we have met in the past. We have had this issue in the past where we have asked to be friends with a younger couple only to be told that we were too old. So some time went by and while at a party the couple that turned us down came and talked to us not really knowing who we were because we never exchanged pics, they turned us down remember, so after a while they said we should be friends and get to know one another, so we did the wrong thing and said no, not because we didn't think they were sexy but because they judged us before they even knew us, childish for sure but to be honest it felt good. Our point is get to know people before you turn them down you just might be surprised. We know not everyone is for us and we aren't for everyone but we always welcome friendts.
hey blueeyes, from our perspective at least, we think you are probably right and probably wrong at the same time!!! . . . you are right about being in the minority relative to the kind words offered by most in this post, but we really believe you are also part of the vast majority of swingers who use age as a primary basis for discrimination . . . kind of a strong opinion we suppose, except that we can see at least 4 different ways anyone can pretty easily check for age discrimination providing some basis for that opinion . . . BUT, before we go into all of that, please understand that we realize that everyone is entitled to discriminate in any way they see fit . . . in fact, discrimination is not just ok, it is absolutely necessary!!! . . . you see, no one has enough time to sample from every cup (sigh!!!), so everyone has to establish discriminating criteria . . . and, for sure, we're NOT feelin' sorry for ourselves; we realize it's just part of the deal . . .
there is one more thing to mention before listing ways to check for age discrimination: we think there is a pretty easy and logical answer for the OP . . . those tired of reading already, can skip to the bottom and get that opinion . . . however, we kinda hope peeps continue reading 'cause, sooner or later, age is an issue everyone will face . . .
so, how does one check for age discrimination??? . . . try this: pick any population center (like slc) . . . open a bunch of profiles in that population from different age groups (say, 30's, 40's, 50's, and beyond) . . . record the number of times each profile was "recently viewed" (ya know, that little statistic conveniently provided by swingular) . . . then, simply compare the numbers for the different age groups . . . if your sample is big enough, you will see profile interest decreases with age . . .
if you don't want to do the math, just talk with folks of all ages and ask them what they see . . . i know many (most???) complain like crazy about email (but somehow, everyone seems ok with tweeting, texting, facebooking, etc - - - hmmm???) . . . and, shit, there is always face-to-face (omg!!!) . . . so anywho, find an acceptable way to communicate, just ask, and keep track of what people say . . . we've done that to some extent, without any surprises . . . (although this method takes a bit more time, it has the added benefit of allowing you to connect with others) . . .
another way to look for age discrimination centers on visiting other swing sites . . . we won't mention those competitors, 'cause we don't want to upset swingular management . . . but, hey, most all of us know where to look anyhow . . . in our experience, virtually all other sites list age preferences inside each profile . . . so, open a bunch of 'em and note age preferences . . . if your sample is big enough, you will see that there is almost no interest in those beyond 55 . . . it's almost like a cliff, and that somehow, sex, sensuality, desirability, etc, have an expiration date . . . we would like to think that it really depends on the individuals involved . . .
and finally, there is an acid test: simply stick around the lifestyle . . . sooner or later, you will have a personal verification of the age discrimination issue . . . btw, we hope you do stick around, and we hope you have a great time doing it . . .
so, how old is too old??? . . . we simply believe you are too old when finding suitable partners becomes too hard . . . what is "too hard" and who is "suitable" will vary for everyone, so the chronological marker for every swinger will be a bit different . . . but, the bottom line is the same: you are too old when this business gets too hard . . . btw, we certainly hope our time doesn't come too soon!!! . . .
cheers!!! . . .
there is one more thing to mention before listing ways to check for age discrimination: we think there is a pretty easy and logical answer for the OP . . . those tired of reading already, can skip to the bottom and get that opinion . . . however, we kinda hope peeps continue reading 'cause, sooner or later, age is an issue everyone will face . . .
so, how does one check for age discrimination??? . . . try this: pick any population center (like slc) . . . open a bunch of profiles in that population from different age groups (say, 30's, 40's, 50's, and beyond) . . . record the number of times each profile was "recently viewed" (ya know, that little statistic conveniently provided by swingular) . . . then, simply compare the numbers for the different age groups . . . if your sample is big enough, you will see profile interest decreases with age . . .
if you don't want to do the math, just talk with folks of all ages and ask them what they see . . . i know many (most???) complain like crazy about email (but somehow, everyone seems ok with tweeting, texting, facebooking, etc - - - hmmm???) . . . and, shit, there is always face-to-face (omg!!!) . . . so anywho, find an acceptable way to communicate, just ask, and keep track of what people say . . . we've done that to some extent, without any surprises . . . (although this method takes a bit more time, it has the added benefit of allowing you to connect with others) . . .
another way to look for age discrimination centers on visiting other swing sites . . . we won't mention those competitors, 'cause we don't want to upset swingular management . . . but, hey, most all of us know where to look anyhow . . . in our experience, virtually all other sites list age preferences inside each profile . . . so, open a bunch of 'em and note age preferences . . . if your sample is big enough, you will see that there is almost no interest in those beyond 55 . . . it's almost like a cliff, and that somehow, sex, sensuality, desirability, etc, have an expiration date . . . we would like to think that it really depends on the individuals involved . . .
and finally, there is an acid test: simply stick around the lifestyle . . . sooner or later, you will have a personal verification of the age discrimination issue . . . btw, we hope you do stick around, and we hope you have a great time doing it . . .
so, how old is too old??? . . . we simply believe you are too old when finding suitable partners becomes too hard . . . what is "too hard" and who is "suitable" will vary for everyone, so the chronological marker for every swinger will be a bit different . . . but, the bottom line is the same: you are too old when this business gets too hard . . . btw, we certainly hope our time doesn't come too soon!!! . . .
cheers!!! . . .
Based primarily on observations, here's my (he) read on folks with age hangups/restrictions.
YOUNGER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH YOUNGER PEOPLE
Ego thing - a sign of immaturity. Consider themselves part of the "beautiful people" and wouldn't want anyone to know they've lowered themselves to play with UN "beautiful (older/mature) people". Elitists.
OLDER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH OLDER PEOPLE
Concerned that they'll feel like they're banging their kids if they do younger people.
Afraid they may not be able to keep up with a younger playmate.
"What if we find we have nothing to talk about?" OK - then just fuck.
YOUNGER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH OLDER PEOPLE
Mom, Dad - is that you? Oh, I love you both SO much.
OLDER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH YOUNGER PEOPLE
Middle/Older Age Crisis. Having issues dealing with the fact that they're getting older. Think that by doing someone 30 years their junior, they can take 20 years off their age. Trying to go back and get all the pussy/cock they missed when they were that age.
just sayin
YOUNGER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH YOUNGER PEOPLE
Ego thing - a sign of immaturity. Consider themselves part of the "beautiful people" and wouldn't want anyone to know they've lowered themselves to play with UN "beautiful (older/mature) people". Elitists.
OLDER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH OLDER PEOPLE
Concerned that they'll feel like they're banging their kids if they do younger people.
Afraid they may not be able to keep up with a younger playmate.
"What if we find we have nothing to talk about?" OK - then just fuck.
YOUNGER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH OLDER PEOPLE
Mom, Dad - is that you? Oh, I love you both SO much.
OLDER PEOPLE WHO WILL ONLY PLAY WITH YOUNGER PEOPLE
Middle/Older Age Crisis. Having issues dealing with the fact that they're getting older. Think that by doing someone 30 years their junior, they can take 20 years off their age. Trying to go back and get all the pussy/cock they missed when they were that age.
just sayin
10 years is a good range, at least for us...she prefers younger men anyways
Age hasn't been an issue at all for us, including having kids together. Both of us have dated people both much younger and much older than ourselves, and we've only been blessed by the experiences. People who discriminate based on age are foolish and narrow-minded, in our opinion, because they're cutting themselves off from wonderful relationships that could bring them unique experiences that nothing else can provide, if they would just open their hearts and minds. We both have first-hand experience in how rewarding age-different relationships of all types can be.
Not to beat a dead horse.. but think about this.. in the original post the top age was 56... the younger age was in the 30's.. If we assume younger was 35 (middle of the road guess) there is an age spread of 21 years.
Tell us this.. how often does the 56 year old couple play with couples that are 77 years old or older? What are the perceptions, real or imagined about that type of age spread when you take it the other direction? How often in your searches do you seek out 77 year old couples to play... or do you perhaps look for folks your age plus a few years (but not very many) or younger? Be honest here.. I know what we do is start at a younger age and go to about 10 years older when we do a search. No real good reason.. but like everyone else we think of ourselves as younger than we are because we are still waiting to grow up, have the same dreams and perceptions as we have had since 20 years ago..
We look for those we have a connection at some level with on a personal level but do find that we connect more often with people closer to our own age. Every couple and every person is different so there are no hard lines or limits for us. Just suggesting that age is a relevant factor on some level.
It is normal so what is the big deal about it? Understand and accept it would be the logical thing.
Tell us this.. how often does the 56 year old couple play with couples that are 77 years old or older? What are the perceptions, real or imagined about that type of age spread when you take it the other direction? How often in your searches do you seek out 77 year old couples to play... or do you perhaps look for folks your age plus a few years (but not very many) or younger? Be honest here.. I know what we do is start at a younger age and go to about 10 years older when we do a search. No real good reason.. but like everyone else we think of ourselves as younger than we are because we are still waiting to grow up, have the same dreams and perceptions as we have had since 20 years ago..
We look for those we have a connection at some level with on a personal level but do find that we connect more often with people closer to our own age. Every couple and every person is different so there are no hard lines or limits for us. Just suggesting that age is a relevant factor on some level.
It is normal so what is the big deal about it? Understand and accept it would be the logical thing.
I can understand some young people wanting to stay with their age group. I would just hope that they understand us older folks wanting to stay with ours.
VICOTT3 wrote:Hmmm..My guess is because it interests someone...if it doesn't interest you, I have to ask...Why do you keep clicking on it?
Why do they keep running this stupid thread?
Age is a number We found that most of the younger crowd ( not all mind you ) seem to be hooked on the MTV and television beauty thing .. if someone is going to judge age by number that's their choice ,, at a party in OKC I found a 65 year old I was stunned she was beautiful and had a helluva sex drive ... younger folks just need to judge its their choice move on leave it be and chalk one up as their loss ... dust and cobwebs huh lol
I find myself attracted to younger men. Married one...lol But have to admit when I do get attention from younger men, I tend to shy away cause I wonder why they would want to be with an older woman when they could get some 20/30 year old hot body.....which I don't have, never have. But my hubby is tan , tone (six pack) and the sweetest guy you'd ever meet sooooo younger woman are attracted to him. Its a mixed bag of emotions.....
age we are older than dirt but if ya like a good time we may be able to find just enough to get it done. or not wtf do we know. lol
We have been in the lifestyle for almost 20 years and have found over the years how age does make a difference. When we first started age was not a problem, we would play with ages from 25 to 70 and really had a great time. The older we get we have noticed how age really has become an issue, to bad cause we find that we can have just as much fun now as we did 20 years if not more.
I put my two cents in before so Mrs. Sexperimentors says it's now my four cents.
We like playing with anyone of any age. While I'd never want to have sex with one of my kids it never crosses my mind that someone their age or even younger would relate in the least to having sex with my kids. Conversely, it would never cross my mind that having sex with someone my parents age would even remotely correlate to having sex with my parents. I just don't get all of that.
Still, while I'd have sex with a woman of any legal age (a stiff dick knows no conscience) Mrs. Sexperimentors is a little more discerning and prefers folks within about 10-15 years of her age. ON the other hand, a lot of what we're here for goes deeper than how deep my cock goes into a pussy - we're also looking for friends we can relate to. That generally, but not always, implies having similar interests, abilities, experiences, and so forth, outside of the bedroom. And that, generally, implies people of a similar age group.
So, single ladies, or even married ladies, that are not in my age group, who want to have an experience with someone my age, feel free to connect for a royal romp filled with sexual abandon.
Mr. Sexperimentors.
We like playing with anyone of any age. While I'd never want to have sex with one of my kids it never crosses my mind that someone their age or even younger would relate in the least to having sex with my kids. Conversely, it would never cross my mind that having sex with someone my parents age would even remotely correlate to having sex with my parents. I just don't get all of that.
Still, while I'd have sex with a woman of any legal age (a stiff dick knows no conscience) Mrs. Sexperimentors is a little more discerning and prefers folks within about 10-15 years of her age. ON the other hand, a lot of what we're here for goes deeper than how deep my cock goes into a pussy - we're also looking for friends we can relate to. That generally, but not always, implies having similar interests, abilities, experiences, and so forth, outside of the bedroom. And that, generally, implies people of a similar age group.
So, single ladies, or even married ladies, that are not in my age group, who want to have an experience with someone my age, feel free to connect for a royal romp filled with sexual abandon.
Mr. Sexperimentors.