I assume that everyone is on the same page on this. But i'm going to ask anyway.
Mr. Sutra is concerned that (living in Utah) being in places that we can be seen will effect our vanilla life, namely our jobs. How is this handled? I am brand new, and he is not use to being this 'out of the closet'
Thanks
Mr. Sutra is concerned that (living in Utah) being in places that we can be seen will effect our vanilla life, namely our jobs. How is this handled? I am brand new, and he is not use to being this 'out of the closet'
Thanks
I'm not sure what your question is.
Do you mean that you might go to parties and see people from the other part of your life? That's possible. Would they take some action against you? That's possible too, depending on your job.
I think everyone here accepts that they could be "found out" by work associates, friends or family members. And there would be repercussions. Is it just embarrassment, or worse?
I think if you are in a job that you would lose because of this, then you mustn't do anything in public. Even keeping it under wraps could fail.
Do you mean that you might go to parties and see people from the other part of your life? That's possible. Would they take some action against you? That's possible too, depending on your job.
I think everyone here accepts that they could be "found out" by work associates, friends or family members. And there would be repercussions. Is it just embarrassment, or worse?
I think if you are in a job that you would lose because of this, then you mustn't do anything in public. Even keeping it under wraps could fail.
Typically if you run into someone you know, there's that unspoken bond of privacy that goes along with the idea that you both could out each other.
we r always running in to people that i have either gone to school with , worked with and even church with and even people that know my father in law and good!!! im always getting the question Which one r u talking about all the brother's in my family lo if they r there then they r after the same thing or a snitch and chances r they are there to SWING!!!!!
Then there is the idea that if you out someone, that everyone will know in the community, and you'll have almost impossible luck meeting another couple after that...
I figure if they have seen me on here.......they were on here...so Is that the pot calling the kettle black? They must swing too or are interested. We rarely play, it all about the freedom of the lifestyle to be yourself without being judged.
We have run into a great number of friends and others we know....never had a problem. And..in fact many have been from work places. As most have said here..there is a pretty strict code most learn fairly soon...sort of the "What happens in Vegas, Stays in Vegas" attitude. We all have something to disrupt, or lose. As for the vanilla friends or relatives that we sometimes run into at swinger meets in public venues....I guess we've just been lucky none have created any "unpleasantness", other than a little awkwardness for a bit.
Just hurry and share some face. Then they have nothing to tell. Lol
We're always running into people that we know. And meeting new people that it turns out... we know on here. Its not affected us negatively. Only semi-negative thing we had was a few family members act like twats, but then, they do that anyways. 
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
Just hurry and share some face. Then they have nothing to tell. Lol
That's a great idea, just start off with a pass for blackmail purposes! That's hot!!
Please, please please, be polite, friendly and whatever you do don't try to throw in some lame ass innuendoes as a not so subtle inside joke. As stupid as our customers or coworkers might seem they can pick up on the tension and then ask some really fun pointed questions after you leave.
Thank you all, I thought that "what happens in Vegas" was the rule. But it is nice to get confirmation.
Thank you Karmen for asking this. It was a great subject for us newbies and the answers really helped the mrs. understand that we aren't alone in wanting discretion.
Careful on what names you put in some of these fourms. Since the other day I was messing around with ( Nude Poet_Rayl ) Poet_Rayl witch is my ID on here and it pull up Swingular forums where I didn't have to log into read.
Oh yea ...your forums show up if someone googles your profile name.
well I did the surch for fun becuse what a friend of mine did to secure a job interview. Didn't realy think of it tell this forum was brought up.
Mr. here.
Mr. here.
Well there us the other side of things, when you are in private venues, homes or parties it aplys what i have been reading, but it can be a lil problem wnen Meets and greets at the local clubs and pubs, for example it has happened a cpl of times where we both have been approached by our lifestyle friends at clubs and it wouldn't be a problem if we at the moment just happened to had run into vanilla friends, and they want to comment on things about us being in the lifestyle and even grab, kiss, and well Etc Etc... that's why we try to avoid public gatherings and enjoy the more private settings... We cant even do habits anymore without running into that kind of trouble...
I always figured that if I'm at a lifestyle event and run into a vanilla friend we'd both all of a sudden find out how much more we had in common.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Mr. Sexperimentors
Sexperimentors is right running into vanilla friends at a lifestyle event is usually fun. Running into lifestyle "friends" in a vanilla setting can get real awkward real fast. Dabomb pointed out the problem, please don't be forward and out us in front of our coworkers, friends or customers. They are usually pretty quick to pick up on your ever so subtle inside jokes and comments and it makes for great office gossip over the next few years.
Bob
Bob
IDCPL4FUN69 wrote:
Sexperimentors is right running into vanilla friends at a lifestyle event is usually fun. Running into lifestyle "friends" in a vanilla setting can get real awkward real fast. Dabomb pointed out the problem, please don't be forward and out us in front of our coworkers, friends or customers. They are usually pretty quick to pick up on your ever so subtle inside jokes and comments and it makes for great office gossip over the next few years.
Bob
Yep...what he said! ^