It would be nice if swingular had some definitions that pop up when you are scrolling over a persons profile... so the reader and profile creator would have a similar idea of what things mean.. For us I place a note on a couples profile for any bi guy anything. We have noticed that many guys change this later on for some reason? We skip all profiles with bi anything but I sometimes wonder if some guys have a different definition than we do?
What does it mean when a profile bi comfy?
the definition that we use and is used on another similar site says something like
guys or gals who enjoy receiving and giving play with others of the same sex but not as much as with the opposite sex.
What does it mean when a profile bi comfy?
the definition that we use and is used on another similar site says something like
guys or gals who enjoy receiving and giving play with others of the same sex but not as much as with the opposite sex.
Obviously, just as with everything else in life, there are going to be "levels" of comfort, as well as "degrees" of "bi-comfortable".
Obviously, it will be different for different people.
If that definition works well for you, then so be it.
But there are those of us for whom precise definitions aren't mandatory.
Or, even appropriate.
Obviously, it will be different for different people.
If that definition works well for you, then so be it.
But there are those of us for whom precise definitions aren't mandatory.
Or, even appropriate.
I would agree that it needs to be more defined. I am still not sure exactly what it means either. Given the bi-curious and bi- sexual definitions they seem to cover anyone who is willing to participate in a sexual act with the same sex. When we first joined the site I first thought that the bi-comfortable just meant that one would be comfortable with being around someone who is bi-curious or bi-sexual but just would not be interested in playing with a same sex partner. For example if there was a bi-guy who wanted to play with the mrs. And she wanted a three way I would not mind participating just not to where the other male and I would engage in any acts. If that makes sense. But because of the lack of definition of bi-comfortable I keep my profile as straight.
i'm bi-sexual and i think WEWNT2PLAY's definition is right on. bi-comfortable is someone who is OK being part of a group witch includes a person who plays with the same sex. it indicates acceptance, not interest or participation with MM or FF play.
During my (he) years in the Lifestyle, there's not much I haven't seen.
I've known of guys so homophobic, they won't fuck a woman if another cock has been in her that day/night.
As for definitions in profiles:
I've seen guys with "straight" in their profiles that are borderline fully homosexual.
I've met 100% straight people who use "bi" whatever in their profile merely because they think it's the only way anyone is going to give them the time of day.
They can always "choose" NOT to play bi with anyone they want - "ya know, it just doesn't feel right tonight - maybe next time".
And as I've pointed out here many times, back when I was a single male in the lifestyle, nearly every couple I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile.
Why? They didn't want their friends to know they lowered themselves to that level.
I suspect the straight vs. bi creativity is so friends won't know the male is into guy play.
Remember: You can fuck 10,000 women, and no one will call you a stud - get caught with 1 dick in your mouth, and you'll be labeled a cocksucker the rest of your life.
There's so much creativity going on with profiles these days (lying?), I'm hesitant to believe what city some people claim they are in.
I've known of guys so homophobic, they won't fuck a woman if another cock has been in her that day/night.
As for definitions in profiles:
I've seen guys with "straight" in their profiles that are borderline fully homosexual.
I've met 100% straight people who use "bi" whatever in their profile merely because they think it's the only way anyone is going to give them the time of day.
They can always "choose" NOT to play bi with anyone they want - "ya know, it just doesn't feel right tonight - maybe next time".
And as I've pointed out here many times, back when I was a single male in the lifestyle, nearly every couple I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile.
Why? They didn't want their friends to know they lowered themselves to that level.
I suspect the straight vs. bi creativity is so friends won't know the male is into guy play.
Remember: You can fuck 10,000 women, and no one will call you a stud - get caught with 1 dick in your mouth, and you'll be labeled a cocksucker the rest of your life.
There's so much creativity going on with profiles these days (lying?), I'm hesitant to believe what city some people claim they are in.
FLAME_N_TJ wrote:
I (TJ) have straight on my profile, As others have said there are shades to everything, I would consider myself Bi-Comfortable as in I am not homophobic and will not freak out if "things" touch in the quest to give Flame pleasure with another guy or couple.
Hell, you would have to be bi-comfy to even consider DVP because things will be touching!
Do I want sex with another guy? nope! Will I do anything to provide pleasure for the ladies? you bet!
Toujours Flammes (Forever Flames)
I have to say I agree most with the above statement. I would think if you are in the lifestyle and do enjoy anything that involves DP or DVP then you have to be somewhat bi-comfortable. I to would say I am comfortable with pleasure no matter who is involved. "If it brings you pleasure do it"
I am sure if the time comes everyone here is ok to bump some berries when the DP cituation comes up so are we all bi- comfy?
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
I am sure if the time comes everyone here is ok to bump some berries when the DP cituation comes up so are we all bi- comfy?
We have never been in the dp situation, but there have been times where just having two penises in the room is too much, hence why some folks play better in separate rooms. It al boils down to the individual comforts of all respected parties...
WHAT ABOUT THE TRY-SEXUAL WHAT Categories DO THEY FALL INTO?
DDRIVER03 wrote:
WHAT ABOUT THE TRY-SEXUAL WHAT Categories DO THEY FALL INTO?
Your house, we already know this....
Oh I get it. Lol
So men have penis envvy the same way a woman would be jelouse of some bad ass 7 inch heels
So men have penis envvy the same way a woman would be jelouse of some bad ass 7 inch heels
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
Oh I get it. Lol
So men have penis envvy the same way a woman would be jelouse of some bad ass 7 inch heels
Not sure it's envy, some folks just can't watch their spouse, and some just can't relax with their spouse watching...
Right
Lol I agree that the definition of by- comfy has a wide spectrum would be hard to determine a precise answer.
Lol I agree that the definition of by- comfy has a wide spectrum would be hard to determine a precise answer.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Bi-curious: hmmm, i wonder what being my same gender would be like.
Bi-comfy: Wow. That wasn't too weird, kinda fun. With the right person, I could do it again.
Bi-sexual: Cock and pussy are equal opportunity.
FYI. If you are limiting yourself and cutting out anyone with a bi-anything partner, try to remember that unless they are physically molesting you, you prolly aren't as attractive to them as you think you are.
On one hand you're terrified of being hit on and yet insulted if they don't. Good luck with that.
Sage comments oh wise one!
Iam a mans man....meaning if I am eating pussy someone else is sucking my cock......
Well as you can see it is a confusing thing... so how does a new site member have a chance of filling out their profile correctly to be meaningful at all?
I think Admin should add some definitions for the questions that are in the profiles.
Tammy,
Very good definitions you have a twisted sexy mind... hmmmm.
Spexdex. you do bring up a valid issue that does occur from time to time.
I think most couples usually assume that the two guys are going to be able to be in the same room or hot tub naked with the women but that is not always the case. I guess most of us call this ground zero. but there does need to be a place for a couple to say if the guy is so homophobic that same room is going to be a problem.
so the choices for the men should be
+ Bad Homophobic- I feel really freaked by another man naked near me or in the same room even when the women are happy. I will want separate room only play.
+ Mild homophobic- It might take me a few times to ease into the same room play game but I am not sure.
+ Straight- hey I am who I am but my goal is to please the women and be pleased by women. Need men doing their work near me is not a problem. In doing this work I understand that incidental contact may occur to satisfy some women's desires. Sometimes our tools may be shared by one woman.
Bi- Curious refer to tammy's post.
B- Comfy Refer to tammy's post
I think Admin should add some definitions for the questions that are in the profiles.
Tammy,
Very good definitions you have a twisted sexy mind... hmmmm.
Spexdex. you do bring up a valid issue that does occur from time to time.
I think most couples usually assume that the two guys are going to be able to be in the same room or hot tub naked with the women but that is not always the case. I guess most of us call this ground zero. but there does need to be a place for a couple to say if the guy is so homophobic that same room is going to be a problem.
so the choices for the men should be
+ Bad Homophobic- I feel really freaked by another man naked near me or in the same room even when the women are happy. I will want separate room only play.
+ Mild homophobic- It might take me a few times to ease into the same room play game but I am not sure.
+ Straight- hey I am who I am but my goal is to please the women and be pleased by women. Need men doing their work near me is not a problem. In doing this work I understand that incidental contact may occur to satisfy some women's desires. Sometimes our tools may be shared by one woman.
Bi- Curious refer to tammy's post.
B- Comfy Refer to tammy's post
I look at it as the Kinsey scale which goes from 0 to 6, 0 being totally straight and 6 being totally gay. Anything higher than 3 here is a moot point so I'll just address the other half of the scale.
0 = Straight
1 = Bi-Curious (Incidental homosexual behavior)
2 = Bi-Comfortable (More than incidental homosexual behavior)
3 = Bi-Sexual (Equal amounts hetero/homo behavior)
I'm a 2 and my wife is more like a 1. For the guys out there who are worried about incidental contact with another guy, don't worry about it. We aren't going to try and sneak it into your pooper and yell "Surprise!"
0 = Straight
1 = Bi-Curious (Incidental homosexual behavior)
2 = Bi-Comfortable (More than incidental homosexual behavior)
3 = Bi-Sexual (Equal amounts hetero/homo behavior)
I'm a 2 and my wife is more like a 1. For the guys out there who are worried about incidental contact with another guy, don't worry about it. We aren't going to try and sneak it into your pooper and yell "Surprise!"
OMG, after reading all these responses I realize how naive I am.
I always thought that "Bi-Comfy" meant providing a soft pillow to place under the knees of the fella kneeling down to give the other fella a blow-job!
I always thought that "Bi-Comfy" meant providing a soft pillow to place under the knees of the fella kneeling down to give the other fella a blow-job!
MAYBEMOR wrote:
Well as you can see it is a confusing thing... so how does a new site member have a chance of filling out their profile correctly to be meaningful at all?
Maybemore, I think you are correct. Where there are forms to fill out there should be a definition for each line of the form. This is especially true in the
well that is obvious... my wife says I just enjoy it when there are multiples of women's naked body parts.. and to see the tenderness and passion that two women can share is hot... I guess we are all wired differently.. I think if the definitions were clearly defined it would be most helpful. I guess the lack of a definition and my unwillingness to really ask each guy what it means is why I avoid profiles with bi anything...
to most men it means no mater how many times there profile says no straight males write them anyway or send a few freind req. cause they don't actualy read any part of your profile they got a little wood & can't read i guess!!!lol or there profile say straight and single but really they are gay and married and probly won't be able to sneak away for any time at all but hey lets be freinds and chat forever about what they want...lol
BIUTAHCOUPLE wrote:
to most men it means no mater how many times there profile says no straight males write them anyway or send a few freind req. cause they don't actualy read any part of your profile they got a little wood & can't read i guess!!!lol or there profile say straight and single but really they are gay and married and probly won't be able to sneak away for any time at all but hey lets be freinds and chat forever about what they want...lol
Well not everyone has had their experiences yet. This sounds a lot like getting a job. People want experienced players, but no one wants to help people that may or may not be interested...
Oh I think bi comfy simply means if I am turned on I am open to whatever happens.
Bi-curious is ... gee I'd like to feel or suck that.
From experience I have found that about half of the couples who talk to me have a man who is curious or more. I'm not offended. A lot of sexuality does depend on how turned on the person is.
Bi-curious is ... gee I'd like to feel or suck that.
From experience I have found that about half of the couples who talk to me have a man who is curious or more. I'm not offended. A lot of sexuality does depend on how turned on the person is.
Holy Fugging Chit. What are we all, a buncha friggin' accountants with our reading glasses slid down our noses, intensely studying balance sheets, trying to decipher which t is crossed and i is dotted?
ASK FOR GAWD FREAKING SAKE! Talk. Text. Email. Communicate. Do we really need another checkbox or someone's arbitrary technical definition to find out what "box" we fit in?
Sheez, some folks just have too much time on their hands.
ASK FOR GAWD FREAKING SAKE! Talk. Text. Email. Communicate. Do we really need another checkbox or someone's arbitrary technical definition to find out what "box" we fit in?
Sheez, some folks just have too much time on their hands.
Being the male . What I beleive it to mean in being "comfortable" is when on those occations when my wife has had a dvp and I am one of the participants I don't freak out when the other guy and myself as they say "cross swords". In the beginning I thought about it but when I see how much pleasure that my wife has with two cocks sliding inside her it passes .