So... I'm kind of pulling this question for another thread so that it doesn't get derailed too far from the original topic over there.
From Evildoers: "'In, or out, of the "lifestyle", there are ample opportunities for single males to have sex with many women'. So what is the appeal of the lifestyle for SM's? Committment free sex (no strings)? The thrill of fucking another man's wife? I'm sure it's likely somewhat different for each guy but I'm really curious as to why the lifestyle given the ample opportinities for sex outside the lifestyle."
This thread is mainly for singles discussion, including SF. What is it that attracts you to the lifestyle, and why do you prefer it over single's hook-up culture? If you do.
From Evildoers: "'In, or out, of the "lifestyle", there are ample opportunities for single males to have sex with many women'. So what is the appeal of the lifestyle for SM's? Committment free sex (no strings)? The thrill of fucking another man's wife? I'm sure it's likely somewhat different for each guy but I'm really curious as to why the lifestyle given the ample opportinities for sex outside the lifestyle."
This thread is mainly for singles discussion, including SF. What is it that attracts you to the lifestyle, and why do you prefer it over single's hook-up culture? If you do.
I am partial to the commitment free aspect of the LS and of course variety is the spice of life. I also rather enjoy being the center of attention sexually and as a SF you get that in the LS.
The why of my interest and involvement in swinging is largely answered by a term common to the lifestyle
Can I be honest?
Of course, not like anyone outside of Utah reads this shit anyway, and I have no plans of going out there....
I started as an SM, I was in the middle of a divorce and needed some ass, so I was surfing the net and found AFF, so I made a profile with very little information and no pics, as you may suspect, people were beating down my door to get to me, HA! While on AFF, I found chat, so I figured, 'Hey, if someone wants me to bone their wife, who am I to judge, maybe the chat is the way to go.' I found a unicorn there, and we became a couple.
In the process of becoming a couple, I dabbled as an SM, it was quite fun for me to show other guys how to make their wives be able to climax, apparently I have the oddest luck, I am a good lay, or the men who are in the lifestyle are REALLY lousy lays. Over the years, I have figured out its a combination of them all.
So, for me, it was an ego boost, an NSA sex opportunity, and it made me realize there was so much more to sex than a man and woman in missionary position, something that I sorta thought only happened in pornos....
Is that clear enough?
Of course, not like anyone outside of Utah reads this shit anyway, and I have no plans of going out there....
I started as an SM, I was in the middle of a divorce and needed some ass, so I was surfing the net and found AFF, so I made a profile with very little information and no pics, as you may suspect, people were beating down my door to get to me, HA! While on AFF, I found chat, so I figured, 'Hey, if someone wants me to bone their wife, who am I to judge, maybe the chat is the way to go.' I found a unicorn there, and we became a couple.
In the process of becoming a couple, I dabbled as an SM, it was quite fun for me to show other guys how to make their wives be able to climax, apparently I have the oddest luck, I am a good lay, or the men who are in the lifestyle are REALLY lousy lays. Over the years, I have figured out its a combination of them all.
So, for me, it was an ego boost, an NSA sex opportunity, and it made me realize there was so much more to sex than a man and woman in missionary position, something that I sorta thought only happened in pornos....
Is that clear enough?
For me...I came across the lifestyle by accident right after my divorce. I was on AFF and got an offer for sex with a woman...but didn't find out until later that she was married...and that he would be in the room watching. It was a little intimidating at first but ended up being a real turn on. I met some really cool people and found it something that seemed like a fun way to meet some people and learn/play at the same time. I've found that I might be able to offer something I have/can do to help someone else's fantasy or meet needs. Obviously, I enjoy sex and like the idea of variety without strings. It also has helped me to live out fantasies I once had about being in a group setting, etc. I've met some fun, classy people in the few months I've been exploring the lifestyle. I hope to meet many more...as long as I'm respected and feel welcome, I'll stick around.
What site is AFF? Not sure of that one? interested though. And I am not in Utah.
For me, the lifestyle was something that a couple of exes and I enjoyed sharing, and despite being single at the moment, I've developed some amazing friendships, including a number here on Swingular, that I enjoy keeping active. I don't really foresee a time when I'd not be at least passively engaged in the lifestyle, and around the site.
I know many will say that it is cheating and wrong. I can accept and understand that. For me I am in the lifestyle because it is a forum for me to find people who understand what I am after. As a Married single male(Wife doesn't play or Know that I do) the lifestyle allows me to fulfill those fantasies that I cant get at home. My wife is wonderful as a friend and great at sex when it happens. Its just that the frequency is off a bit. The lifestyle allows me to join couples and singles that are looking for the NSA fun. I am not here to take anyones wife just to add some excitement to both my life and anyone else that would like to play. People in the lifestyle seem to understand my situation. I am open and upfront on my profile and those that except what I am doing invite me to play and those that dont, Well they just dont invite me. And I am ok with that. What I do is not for everyone. So overall I guess for me its the NSA sex without any worries that there will be an emotional attachment after all is done. And not to mention I have met some awesome people in the LS. Heres to accepting people for who and what they are thats what I love about the LS.
Best of both worlds, men and women at the same time if they're up for it. If not straight threesomes are dang hot on their own.