woman here....just wanted to know if anyone gets jealous in the lifestyle and how they handle it .
Jealousy in my opinion can't be in the lifestyle. It leads to double standards and hurt feelings.
You need to be able to talk about every and all experiences and possible experiences. Otherwise jealousy
Can tear you apart. Been there done that... its one of the reasons I'm single.
You need to be able to talk about every and all experiences and possible experiences. Otherwise jealousy
Can tear you apart. Been there done that... its one of the reasons I'm single.
Jealousy?? is it pretty evenly mixed,, or is it more of the male being jealous,, or the female,,, and what bout envy,, when the lady gets more attention/play than her hubby,, or vice versa?
how do others handle that?
how do others handle that?
Jealously is a natural emotion and can happen to anyone. It does not have to have anything to do with sex. It comes from many different places and exists in many forms. It generally develops from an imbalance in something as simple as lack of attention. It might be the amount of attention one gets or gives to others. It might be that a person perceives that someone or something has more privileges than they do.
When it comes to any relationship the only way to stop jealously is to be completely honest about your feelings with the other person. The earlier you let them know of the feeling the easier it is to solve. Don
When it comes to any relationship the only way to stop jealously is to be completely honest about your feelings with the other person. The earlier you let them know of the feeling the easier it is to solve. Don
I agree mojo 100 percent. I've.just met some couples who aren't so secure and than get attached to your man. Kinda makes things complicated lol. So we try to avoid those people
Lol good job beary I like that
Sorry spelled your name wrong stupid.predict text lol
When we had our first MFM the wife thought I would be jealous. I wasn't and I finally proved it to her. Total honesty and communication is a must.. Otherwise we would have been torn apart by lots of things. I think that she would be a little jealous if we had a MFF so I am not pushing the issue intil she is ready to talk about it more..
Love watching each other, hell yes, jealous, hell yes, awesome sex afterwords, hell yes. Those who know us know we are essentially drama free and fun to play with.
Bob
Bob
IDCPL4FUN69 wrote:
Love watching each other, hell yes, jealous, hell yes, awesome sex afterwords, hell yes. Those who know us know we are essentially drama free and fun to play with.
Bob
You two are soooooo much fun we loveeeee you guys......I am not Jealous we give freely hehe...will be poly love all around. hehe.....You guys are awesome.....Cant wait to see you again!!!
I agree that jealousy is an emotion. However, it's a negative emotion like hate. It is indeed derived from fear and insecurity. People are jealous because of their perception. The jealous person has a trigger to said emotions. These feelings can lead to humility, anger, depression etc.
In the lifestyle, jealousy can be, among other things, caused by feelings of inadequacy derived by seeing their partner with someone. The jealous person feel may feel that the other person is superior to them in some way. It could be fear of losing a relationship etc. These fears can be derived by a previous deception on the part of their significant other or it could be from feelings of abandonment in earlier life. Often it's caused by one's self-image and self-esteem.
I don't think it is a healthy or "normal" (whatever that means) response. If the decision/desire to participate in the lifestyle is actually mutual, it should be addressed immediately, before proceeding. It should be addressed through lots of communication. We are all different and handle our emotions differently. Jealousy can quickly, for some, lead to other negative emotions and actions. I think those that derive pleasure from humilation, such as the cuckolds, are the exception among us and not the rule.
I personally do not think that jealousy has any place in the lifestyle. I think it's a warning sign letting you know, before you proceed any further, you should discuss whether or not the lifestyle is the correct choice. This is my opinion of course.
D
In the lifestyle, jealousy can be, among other things, caused by feelings of inadequacy derived by seeing their partner with someone. The jealous person feel may feel that the other person is superior to them in some way. It could be fear of losing a relationship etc. These fears can be derived by a previous deception on the part of their significant other or it could be from feelings of abandonment in earlier life. Often it's caused by one's self-image and self-esteem.
I don't think it is a healthy or "normal" (whatever that means) response. If the decision/desire to participate in the lifestyle is actually mutual, it should be addressed immediately, before proceeding. It should be addressed through lots of communication. We are all different and handle our emotions differently. Jealousy can quickly, for some, lead to other negative emotions and actions. I think those that derive pleasure from humilation, such as the cuckolds, are the exception among us and not the rule.
I personally do not think that jealousy has any place in the lifestyle. I think it's a warning sign letting you know, before you proceed any further, you should discuss whether or not the lifestyle is the correct choice. This is my opinion of course.
D
IDCPL4FUN69 wrote:Oh yes very very fun
Love watching each other, hell yes, jealous, hell yes, awesome sex afterwords, hell yes. Those who know us know we are essentially drama free and fun to play with.
Bob
Jealousy is as common as rage, fear, contempt. It all boils down to whether it's healthy and your desires and actions. Jealousy is common because we ALLLLLL have insecurities. That's where the coping mechanism comes into play. If you can't cope, jealousy is ABSOLUTELY unhealthy. 
Jealousy? That's my favorite Billy Joel song!
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
I do think jealousy is why Marselus Wallace threw Tony Rocky Horror off a third floor balcony. Mr. Wallace just needed to read Thomas Paine and listen to Billy Joel.
Truth
Sunday, September 30, 2012
I never knew,
one so true,
that truth was
none truer.
For days are few,
where truth is anew,
and fast becoming fewer.
- Don "Shutterbugs"
You may be right. I may be crazy. But it just may be a lunatic you're looking for. Or possibly a MFM?
Yes, DELICIOUS, shame on you! You seem like an angry young man. But don't go changing, to try and please me. I love you just the way you are.
MUSICMAKERS wrote:
I agree mojo 100 percent. I've.just met some couples who aren't so secure and than get attached to your man. Kinda makes things complicated lol. So we try to avoid those people
Completely agree. If there is vibe that the other couple is not secure with things there is a good chance they will not be in the lifestyle for long. Or if they are it will be as a single.
Playing in the lifestyle for us enhances our experiences and the sex with each other after we play is heightened.
CB & KB
Jealousy has its time and place like any other emotion. We got in this to share though. Too a point, I'd say I'm more guilty of pride when it comes to the knowledge of what my beautiful wife can do, and that she's coming home with me. The only time I become green-eyed is when we walk into a situation where I feel more like a third wheel... It goes both ways too. If she feels left out, it makes it hard to enjoy ourselves. Just means we are a little more picky in who we associate with.
The last couple I played with...the husband got really jealous in the first couple of days after we played. He thought his wife was hooking up with me behind his back...which was not the case. He even called me and grilled me for 20 minutes about my whereabouts on that particular day. Huge turnoff and totally ruined that whole experience! I was hoping to play with them again...but I'm sure that won't happen now. That's too bad! I am in this to have fun and make friends. Jealousy should not be a part of a healthy relationship.
To us sex is sex, no jealousy, We find it exciting to watch the other with someone else. We know that we love each other and no one else can change that... and the experiences we have brings us closer
JEALOUSY HAS NO PLACE IN 'THE LIFESTYLE', IF YOU CAN'T GET EXCITED OVER YOUR PARTNERS ACTIVITY, JEALOUSY IS DISTRUCTIVE. I EVEN GET TURNED ON THINKING OF MY WIFE HAVING SEX WITH 3 YOUNG LAWYERS SHE WORKED FOR YEARS AGO. IF I COULDN'T FIND A GOOD SIDE TO THAT IT WOULD BE EATING AT ME FOR YEARS. IN FACT, WHEN SHE STARTED MAKING PORN VIDEOS, THAT WAS A REAL TEST. THE FIRST TIME I WATCHED A STUD GIVE HER 12 OR 13 INCHES OF HIS HARD BLACK COCK I GOT SO TURNED ON I REALLY DIDN'T BELIEVE WHAT A TURN ON IT WAS.
I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT IT MIGHT BE JEALOUSY THAT I'M TURNING INTO A GOOD FEELING. WHATEVER, YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL.
I HAVE TO ADMIT THAT IT MIGHT BE JEALOUSY THAT I'M TURNING INTO A GOOD FEELING. WHATEVER, YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL.
By Will Irvin
Many people view jealousy as strictly a negative thing, but it isn't. There is a healthy level of jealousy that can vastly improve a relationship. It can be very difficult to know where to draw the line between healthy jealousy, and the type of jealousy that is really mistrust, but it is possible.
Healthy Jealousy
When you're out somewhere with your partner, do you ever notice other people checking them out? Or does the server at the restaurant seem to be flirting with them more than seems normal? If this makes you proud that you have such a desirable partner, you have a healthy level of jealousy. If it makes you want to do bodily harm to that other person, you do not have a healthy level of jealousy. A healthy level of jealousy can let your partner know how much they mean to you. It can also open up an opportunity for them to give you a compliment or other reinforcing comment (this stuff seems to all be tied together...hmmmm, how about that?), or even for you to give them a compliment or positive reinforcement. A little healthy jealousy can let your partner know that they are important to you.
Unhealthy Jealousy
Now, back to the thought of doing bodily harm to the person who was checking out your partner. If this describes you in this situation, you have an unhealthy level of jealousy. There are many possible causes for this. Maybe there has been a betrayal of trust, or maybe you're just a jealous person.
If there has been a betrayal of trust that causes you to be unusually jealous, you really need to sit down with your partner and talk about this. A relationship cannot endure without trust, so this is something that needs to be resolved, sooner rather than later. The unhealthy jealousy will lead to resentment, anger, smashed windshields, screaming late night phone calls, including to the other woman, and ultimately could lead one or the other of you to do something truly hurtful to the other, like try to run over them in the driveway with your car.
If you are a jealous person, there is one main thing to keep in mind. The person you are with chose to be with you for a reason (or a number of reasons). Remember that they are with you, and not with the person who is checking them out. Everyone likes a little confidence boost, and it doesn't mean that they think any less of you. Either way, you should definitely talk to your partner about it, and not act childish and petty about it. And, definitely do not try to retaliate by trying to intentionally make them jealous, because that is only going to damage the relationship. With some time, and some good communication between you and your partner you can overcome your jealous tendencies.
Why This Is So Important
Everyone likes a little confidence boost now and then. Trust me, just like compliments from you, a little boost they get from someone else flirting with them will only mean good things for you. A confident person is a better lover, better friend, and better partner. And, if you have the right point of view, someone else's flattery of your partner means a lot about how lucky you are to actually get to go home with them.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2091004
Many people view jealousy as strictly a negative thing, but it isn't. There is a healthy level of jealousy that can vastly improve a relationship. It can be very difficult to know where to draw the line between healthy jealousy, and the type of jealousy that is really mistrust, but it is possible.
Healthy Jealousy
When you're out somewhere with your partner, do you ever notice other people checking them out? Or does the server at the restaurant seem to be flirting with them more than seems normal? If this makes you proud that you have such a desirable partner, you have a healthy level of jealousy. If it makes you want to do bodily harm to that other person, you do not have a healthy level of jealousy. A healthy level of jealousy can let your partner know how much they mean to you. It can also open up an opportunity for them to give you a compliment or other reinforcing comment (this stuff seems to all be tied together...hmmmm, how about that?), or even for you to give them a compliment or positive reinforcement. A little healthy jealousy can let your partner know that they are important to you.
Unhealthy Jealousy
Now, back to the thought of doing bodily harm to the person who was checking out your partner. If this describes you in this situation, you have an unhealthy level of jealousy. There are many possible causes for this. Maybe there has been a betrayal of trust, or maybe you're just a jealous person.
If there has been a betrayal of trust that causes you to be unusually jealous, you really need to sit down with your partner and talk about this. A relationship cannot endure without trust, so this is something that needs to be resolved, sooner rather than later. The unhealthy jealousy will lead to resentment, anger, smashed windshields, screaming late night phone calls, including to the other woman, and ultimately could lead one or the other of you to do something truly hurtful to the other, like try to run over them in the driveway with your car.
If you are a jealous person, there is one main thing to keep in mind. The person you are with chose to be with you for a reason (or a number of reasons). Remember that they are with you, and not with the person who is checking them out. Everyone likes a little confidence boost, and it doesn't mean that they think any less of you. Either way, you should definitely talk to your partner about it, and not act childish and petty about it. And, definitely do not try to retaliate by trying to intentionally make them jealous, because that is only going to damage the relationship. With some time, and some good communication between you and your partner you can overcome your jealous tendencies.
Why This Is So Important
Everyone likes a little confidence boost now and then. Trust me, just like compliments from you, a little boost they get from someone else flirting with them will only mean good things for you. A confident person is a better lover, better friend, and better partner. And, if you have the right point of view, someone else's flattery of your partner means a lot about how lucky you are to actually get to go home with them.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2091004
Jealousy (a little from time to time, I'm admitting) always makes me horny. Horny wins!(:-)
We have had that happen before as well. Uncomfortable!
Yeah, wtf is up with THAT? We met some couples who were I guess "dating" each other's spouses or something. You would never see them with their own partner just with the other one. More than once, one of the ladies in particular would get jealous at parties if her playmate even danced or looked at another women. Why the fuck would you go to swing parties if you're going to act retarded like that? Fine, you're in love or whatever with someone besides your partner, then why go fucking swinging with them? Weird shit!