Why in the hell do singles and couples keep inviting us to be friends with either no pics at all, or just private pics that turn out to be a bunch of BS! If you aren't going to show yourselves on here, then what's the point? Do you actually have success finding people that meet up with a bunch of unknowns? We've done that ONCE! I think everyone does and you learn real quick that if there are no pics, it's probably for good reason.
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
that's why you look to see if they have private pics or not before accepting the request. i always check stats, location, interests, profile info or lack thereof, and if they even have private pics.
although my general opinion is that internet lists of friends shouldn't be taken so damn seriously in the first place. lulz.
although my general opinion is that internet lists of friends shouldn't be taken so damn seriously in the first place. lulz.
Given the vulnerability of Windows 7 we no longer feel comfortable keeping pics on here. We will gladly send them to someone who is decent and talks to us.
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
Why in the hell do singles and couples keep inviting us to be friends with either no pics at all, or just private pics that turn out to be a bunch of BS! If you aren't going to show yourselves on here, then what's the point? Do you actually have success finding people that meet up with a bunch of unknowns? We've done that ONCE! I think everyone does and you learn real quick that if there are no pics, it's probably for good reason.
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
The "POINT" is, THEY get to see YOUR pics.
It's their whole point in requesting friendship.
There are a lot of poseurs, wannabes, and photo collectors on Swingular - along with most other lifestyle sites.
Often, you don't know how hot someone is until AFTER you've been burned.
HFUN wrote:
wow . to how many faceless couples on our list. all gone sorry but i agree..
I agree too. Then we should go after the females who claim to be couples or singles who are actually prostitutes. Then lets go after the guys claiming the same, who are actually cheating on their wife's. Then lets go after the fat ones and the ugly ones and the old ones that waste my time. Then....oh, fuck, just do it and stop whining about it, ya bunch of masochistic babies. Be adults for hells sake. Manage your profile and leave the rest of the world alone. Decline people and quit complaining. I'm tired of the negativity. I'm tired of opening up this website everyday and finding another stupid ass rant by someone so thin skinned that they are offended by someone having a different attitude when it comes to pic selection on their profile. (Ok, guess i woke up too early....low blood sugar....need breakfast....its ok....everyone needs a crusade.)
You know what would be nice? The admins should make it so that if you send a friend request to someone they can immediately see your private pics - even before accepting your friend request. You still shouldn't be able to see theirs, but if you are willing to ask to be their friend they should get to see all your pics. I know that would be some extra programming but I bet that would solve a lot of this problem....
I like Papi and Reina's concept, from our perspective in this world of social media sometimes you are rolling the dice when you accept an invite as to the actual motives. Many of us have careers that could be derailed or set back if pics were distributed or threatened to be distributed.
It can be a crazy world, we don't have as much of a concern with people that don't have face pics as we do the dishonesty/deceptive aspect of the discussion...
It can be a crazy world, we don't have as much of a concern with people that don't have face pics as we do the dishonesty/deceptive aspect of the discussion...
BLUEIDKAT wrote:HFUN wrote:
wow . to how many faceless couples on our list. all gone sorry but i agree..
I agree too. Then we should go after the females who claim to be couples or singles who are actually prostitutes. Then lets go after the guys claiming the same, who are actually cheating on their wife's. Then lets go after the fat ones and the ugly ones and the old ones that waste my time. Then....oh, fuck, just do it and stop whining about it, ya bunch of masochistic babies. Be adults for hells sake. Manage your profile and leave the rest of the world alone. Decline people and quit complaining. I'm tired of the negativity. I'm tired of opening up this website everyday and finding another stupid ass rant by someone so thin skinned that they are offended by someone having a different attitude when it comes to pic selection on their profile. (Ok, guess i woke up too early....low blood sugar....need breakfast....its ok....everyone needs a crusade.)
BLUEIDKAT your one of the people they talk about! You have no face pics does your wife know your posting some pic thats not her? And you have not been Verified! So many people want to be our friends that have no pics, or no private pics, or they list the same pic in the private pics that they do in the public ones. I also like the ones that have been members for years yet no member comments or they have NA by all the things they are into. I am sick of couples that can't meet but he has a hall pass so he can meet us. We have seen a single male once who when contacted he had to ask his wife. Wait didn't you list you were single? It's like this either you want to play or you don't. To you game players out there quit trying to live your life through couples like us who really like to play. And if you stop the rest of us won't tell your wife and bishop.
The reason for private pics is so people who are
Interested in each other can see what each other
looks like. If you don't have full pics with faces
of both then you shouldn't be sending requests.
Interested in each other can see what each other
looks like. If you don't have full pics with faces
of both then you shouldn't be sending requests.
We agree, all to often we either accept a friend request of a couple that we feel will become friends only to find out they have no face pics. Then we immediately delete the friend status. Our private pics have over 100 pics, and if theirs has no face pics then no reason for them to be friends, just add us as a favorite. That works. It's all about the face, don't care if there are nudie pics, not a collector.
Simples
Simples
Simple. Like others have said don't approve anyone who has no pics in their private section. If they do have pics and you approve and open theirs only to find no face pics or blurred or whatever then just immediately remove friendship. We even have a disclaimer in our profile that says as much (assuming anyone reads it, doubtful-lol).
I don't get it. We are on a sight to see if we wanna share each other. Why not show everyrhing up front. It's not like i dont want someone with the sane intrests to see what i look like. Why do we have to be private. Ultimatly we are all here for the same thing does it matter if another swinger sees your face. Lol two cents.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Simple. Like others have said don't approve anyone who has no pics in their private section. If they do have pics and you approve and open theirs only to find no face pics or blurred or whatever then just immediately remove friendship. We even have a disclaimer in our profile that says as much (assuming anyone reads it, doubtful-lol).
Exactly what we do. Just because they have private pics doesn't mean they are going to be worth looking at. Too many times, like Evildoers said, we end up immediately removing a recent add due to lack of face or any pics whatsoever. I don't agree that people are trying to add to look at your photos when they have nothing worth reciprocating. Also, when you invite us, maybe send us a message too that tells us why and what caught your eye or attention. Just sending an add, although appreciated, is funner when you know why. Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts on this..
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
Why in the hell do singles and couples keep inviting us to be friends with either no pics at all, or just private pics that turn out to be a bunch of BS! If you aren't going to show yourselves on here, then what's the point? Do you actually have success finding people that meet up with a bunch of unknowns? We've done that ONCE! I think everyone does and you learn real quick that if there are no pics, it's probably for good reason.
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
I sent you a pic of my cock. Wasn't it good enough? I know it's only 3.5 inches, but I can eat pussy like a ninja.
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
I don't get it. We are on a sight to see if we wanna share each other. Why not show everyrhing up front. It's not like i dont want someone with the sane intrests to see what i look like. Why do we have to be private. Ultimatly we are all here for the same thing does it matter if another swinger sees your face. Lol two cents.
I guess my point is that if other swingers were the only people on here, it wouldn't matter. However, this is and open website that excepts anyone temporarily and anyone permanently with enough cash. THEY DON'T DO BACKGROUND CHECKS! There are a lot of liars on here, plus occasional law enforcement and self righteous do-gooding crusaders. Don't assume its just the ones who hide their faces. And don't criticize me if I choose to be more cautious than you. I may be in a position in my private live where that is necessary. Look at all the trouble facebook causes people looking for a job. Can you imagine if they started checking swingular?
Besides I'm in Utah. This is the state where the Church sends people down to Trails to record license plates. This is the state that requires your name be entered into a data base when you go to a bar or strip club. This is the state that allows the printing of a weekly newspaper that shows the arrest report and photo of anyone taken into custody, locally or state wide. I live in Utah. I'm paranoid for a reason.
I don't think anyone is necessarily criticizing you BLUE. I think they are more or less asking you to understand WHY they would not respond to a friend request from you. We all have our reasons and rationales for being careful or even a little paranoid. But for better or worse we're all sort of in the same boat as far as risking being discovered in our little hobby. By all means protect yourself by whatever means that you feel necessary. Just don't expect people to be all that understanding when you send a friend request with no private pics of your own. Might I suggest that when people who for whatever reason don't have face pics maybe don't send a blind friend request. Perhaps a polite email explaining why you don't post any face pics. You could also attach a pic with a face pic to your email to prove that YOU are legit and not trying to scam them or anything. Just a thought.
DONMAXIMUS wrote:UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
Why in the hell do singles and couples keep inviting us to be friends with either no pics at all, or just private pics that turn out to be a bunch of BS! If you aren't going to show yourselves on here, then what's the point? Do you actually have success finding people that meet up with a bunch of unknowns? We've done that ONCE! I think everyone does and you learn real quick that if there are no pics, it's probably for good reason.
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
I sent you a pic of my cock. Wasn't it good enough? I know it's only 3.5 inches, but I can eat pussy like a ninja.
No problem Don. As long as it's 5 inches wide, she'll still like it.. haha.
BLUEIDKAT wrote:SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
I don't get it. We are on a sight to see if we wanna share each other. Why not show everyrhing up front. It's not like i dont want someone with the sane intrests to see what i look like. Why do we have to be private. Ultimatly we are all here for the same thing does it matter if another swinger sees your face. Lol two cents.
I guess my point is that if other swingers were the only people on here, it wouldn't matter. However, this is and open website that excepts anyone temporarily and anyone permanently with enough cash. THEY DON'T DO BACKGROUND CHECKS! There are a lot of liars on here, plus occasional law enforcement and self righteous do-gooding crusaders. Don't assume its just the ones who hide their faces. And don't criticize me if I choose to be more cautious than you. I may be in a position in my private live where that is necessary. Look at all the trouble facebook causes people looking for a job. Can you imagine if they started checking swingular?
Besides I'm in Utah. This is the state where the Church sends people down to Trails to record license plates. This is the state that requires your name be entered into a data base when you go to a bar or strip club. This is the state that allows the printing of a weekly newspaper that shows the arrest report and photo of anyone taken into custody, locally or state wide. I live in Utah. I'm paranoid for a reason.
I think a lot of it is paranoia. I've lived in Utah 30+ years and have been on this site for over 6 years and others for longer than that. Never had any issues with the state, church or police. Hell I know police officers that are on here fucking away like the rest of us. AND it's funny how many people are church-goin, law-abiding, Mom and Dad types by day and naughty swingers by night.
My point was, you don't have to show your face in your public profile. Hence the name "Private" pics. No one can see those unless you ask to see them. Generally people strike up some sort of conversation and develop a level of trust before inviting them to see the full monty. Just a little common sense and good judgement will prevail in this lifestyle. I've yet to see the porn police, but someone let me know when they raid Swingular and throw us all in Mormon jail for being naughty naughty people.
One more thing. If anything, the church condones what we do. Multiple partners is what they intended from the onset. Political and public pressure put the Kabash on that. So all we're doing is living out the wishes of the Prophet.
Don't we have the option to accept or DENY the friend request first? At the very least you can go and look up the screen name before giving any kind of permissions to anyone. Not really something to get bent about, but to each his own. Your statement has alot of anger in it and at that rate you are going to spontaneously combust one day....just saying ...
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
I live in Utah. I'm paranoid for a reason.
'nough said!
Mav
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:DONMAXIMUS wrote:
[quote=UTHOTCPLEXTREME]Why in the hell do singles and couples keep inviting us to be friends with either no pics at all, or just private pics that turn out to be a bunch of BS! If you aren't going to show yourselves on here, then what's the point? Do you actually have success finding people that meet up with a bunch of unknowns? We've done that ONCE! I think everyone does and you learn real quick that if there are no pics, it's probably for good reason.
So some advice for you that are wasting our time, and probably many others on here. Put some pics up and DO NOT invite us to be your friends if all you have is some cartoon, a GD pic of a unicorn, or some other BS that has nothing to do with what you actually look like as a single or a couple. NOT INTERESTED!!!!
I sent you a pic of my cock. Wasn't it good enough? I know it's only 3.5 inches, but I can eat pussy like a ninja.
No problem Don. As long as it's 5 inches wide, she'll still like it.. haha.
Well tell her it looks like a pinky fleshy bullfrog.
i love boobs...
We have a lot of private pic of both and a few of both in the public album, but our faces are blurred out. Sorry, but there are flakes so we are not plastering out faces all over the internet...We do have many face pics in a separate album that we open to people we are getting ready to meet.
However, we agree with you; this is a sexual site in nature and so come on people....
xoxo, R&B
However, we agree with you; this is a sexual site in nature and so come on people....
xoxo, R&B
MARGIN2011 wrote:
Not everyone wants their face on their public profile for one reason or another, but some don't do it for professional reasons...ie; doctor, higher up big wig, etc...but they should at least have one in their private album for friends to see so they have an idea who they're talking/friending/playing with. Do your pics in your private album however you want but do something more than the same pic that's on your public profile. It may take a little time to get those pics up, as it seems to be in our case, we've only been here a couple of weeks, but it's a work in progress....(and our pics are on our desktop which is in storage)So for people like us, please give us a little time...thanks!
AGREE:
There are many professions (education, Social Work, counselor, etc.) where employees are required to sign a contract containing a "morals" clause.
Being in the Swing Lifestyle, and/or having your photograph available on ANY type of adult site, could be construed as immoral behavior.
Sure, you might ultimately win a lawsuit, but by then, your name is mud.
It's just not worth the risk.
With regard to privacy, I think you can show pics with your faces blurred. You don't need to show your faces on a public profile. Just show the rest of you. Doesn't have to be nude. Just give an idea of your build etc. Photos should be recent. Then have the same photos in your private showing your face. Bottom line is that people need to be able to see you before they meet you. I don't meet anyone unless I see them on cam or in a photo first. I wouldn't blame anyone for wanting to see the merchandise first. Who the hell wants to be stuck in a date/booty call with someone unattractive?
Signed,
A pro photographer
Signed,
A pro photographer
Great timing to see this post. We just accepted a request to open the private pics to fine one picture of CINNAMON BEARS! What the hell? No we will never be interested in meeting to see if there is a connection with chewy candy
H2ODREAMS wrote:
Great timing to see this post. We just accepted a request to open the private pics to fine one picture of CINNAMON BEARS! What the hell? No we will never be interested in meeting to see if there is a connection with chewy candy
Ha ha! That's funny. That same profile is what prompted me to start this thread. The cinnamon bear couple. They are red hot and spicey good.. LOL. C'mon people, I'd take a blurred face over a cinnamon bear..
BLUEIDKAT wrote:SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
I don't get it. We are on a sight to see if we wanna share each other. Why not show everyrhing up front. It's not like i dont want someone with the sane intrests to see what i look like. Why do we have to be private. Ultimatly we are all here for the same thing does it matter if another swinger sees your face. Lol two cents.
I guess my point is that if other swingers were the only people on here, it wouldn't matter. However, this is and open website that excepts anyone temporarily and anyone permanently with enough cash. THEY DON'T DO BACKGROUND CHECKS! There are a lot of liars on here, plus occasional law enforcement and self righteous do-gooding crusaders. Don't assume its just the ones who hide their faces. And don't criticize me if I choose to be more cautious than you. I may be in a position in my private live where that is necessary. Look at all the trouble facebook causes people looking for a job. Can you imagine if they started checking swingular?
Besides I'm in Utah. This is the state where the Church sends people down to Trails to record license plates. This is the state that requires your name be entered into a data base when you go to a bar or strip club. This is the state that allows the printing of a weekly newspaper that shows the arrest report and photo of anyone taken into custody, locally or state wide. I live in Utah. I'm paranoid for a reason.
You got it Blue! but understand about 95% of occupations dont have a risk of income loss if they are found out. some can even get more biziness. Many folks dont have kids that they worry about being teased at school (worse case). Many folks have been outcast by family and their friends would not be surprised at all or are on here too. If a couple seems to need to be discreet we like that.... If you have face pics in the public we will never be going on a date with you! that is for sure!
Well my wife works in a high profile proffesion and I work construction. They both have their limits as to who we would want to know we are on here. We dont worry about private pics cuz not everyone can see them. In the public pics there is nothing that could be used against us, but we do have a couple of face pics just so that those interested can see who they are contacting. Granted, we need need to put up some new ones since we have both lost some weight and are looking better all the time, he he.