I know some folks want to see comments to know you are a real couple or person but how many are like us and turned off by the comments about how great the bedroom action is or was?. Or the shear volume or frequency of comments??
It's nice when someone makes a nice comment to let you know they are real and fun. Not to tell you they are great in bed.
For us we like to see comments on a profile especially if they have been on here for several years. Kind of like face pictures for us just a little more assurance that they are real and will meet up. Speaking of that we owe someone who has posted on this a long overdue comment. They are a dynamite couple!
With so many posers and wannabes on here, the comments can act as yet another form of validation.
Butt they don't necessarily reflect everything you need to know about the person/persons.
We have several validating comments from other folks on other sites we belong to.
The fact that we have no comments here only means we have yet to play with anyone from Swingular who has submitted a comment.
And BTW: Everyone has to approve any comment made about them before it posts to their profile.
Unless someone is a TOTAL idiot, you're not likely to see any negative comments.
As for the other sites, we only leave POSITIVE comments when we've had a positive experience.
If it's anything less than positive - we just don't comment.
Assuming others feel the same way, comments (or the lack of them) in a profile do NOT influence us.
Butt they don't necessarily reflect everything you need to know about the person/persons.
We have several validating comments from other folks on other sites we belong to.
The fact that we have no comments here only means we have yet to play with anyone from Swingular who has submitted a comment.
And BTW: Everyone has to approve any comment made about them before it posts to their profile.
Unless someone is a TOTAL idiot, you're not likely to see any negative comments.
As for the other sites, we only leave POSITIVE comments when we've had a positive experience.
If it's anything less than positive - we just don't comment.
Assuming others feel the same way, comments (or the lack of them) in a profile do NOT influence us.
Comments that indicate the couple or single have played with people we wouldn't get with will stop us from considering meeting with those couples/singles, even just for drinks. It's just one of the various things that help us decide if we want to take the time to meet. Even though our process eliminates most couples/singles we still have plenty of options to choose from.
It is very reassuring to know, that at a bare minimum, someone has met them and liked them enough to leave a comment.
Bob
Bob
ANDRAYWAY_SHANAYNAY wrote:
I don't know about turned off by comments on other people's profiles, but we prefer to receive comments about how good we are with our clothes on. We are more attracted to people who are known as fun to party at the bar with than people who can fuck upside down from the ceiling.
I didn't realize we left the "upside down fucking" comments up, gonna have to think of another gimmick now.
It really all depends on what your lifestyle objectives are...
We have many great comments but we immediately tell the people who commented that we dont post any because we view them as something of a popularity contest, which is something we work hard at avoiding. - We know that every individuals relationship with each other is a personal thing to them and all have different dynamics.
INVITESOME's comments are a fairly good example
We have many great comments but we immediately tell the people who commented that we dont post any because we view them as something of a popularity contest, which is something we work hard at avoiding. - We know that every individuals relationship with each other is a personal thing to them and all have different dynamics.
INVITESOME's comments are a fairly good example
"Comments that indicate the couple or single have played with people we wouldn't get with will stop us from considering meeting with those couples/singles, even just for drinks."We understand and agree about not wanting to waste time but we've gained some pretty good friends who we initially thought no at first... EVERYBODY's "reality tunnel" is different and will fit differently with others on a one to one and couples basis. No reason to stop someone before they've even begun... but then we dont really want to hang with shallow people like that anyway so maybe its time to post our comments??? lol
Comments and posts often tell us more about those who write than about those they are commenting on. Thus I have a hard time accepting others comments as either a + or a -.
Comments are subjective. I take them with a grain.
If people send us a coment saying the enjoyed or dis like us we dont post to share with public as a report card. and we been on this site a long time
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Exactly! Comments are opinion and as such are subjective to personal bias and experience. I too am a long time member. It boils down to the old adage, "opinions are like assholes..."
IDCPL4FUN69 wrote:
It is very reassuring to know, that at a bare minimum, someone has met them and liked them enough to leave a comment.
Bob
Yep...our thoughts, too. We personally have a number of them Do we post them all? No..but we do try to send them, most typically to the newer members here. Unless you are one of those " model" couples that so many seem to lust after, it is often very hard to find your niche here..at least it seemed that way to us. When we meet a great couple, etc, we like to help them along all we can. Let them decide whether they want to post them, or not. As you can see here..everyone has very different opinions of their worth.
A few good comments help us make an informed decision about who to meet.