Over the years, I've read a lot of profiles and Forum posts where people mention "soft" swaping.
I've (he) also learned by playing with others (mostly couples) that the term "soft swap" means different things to different folks.
For some, it's been each couple having sex in the bed next to the other couple.
For others, it seems it's touching/rubbing/fondling but no further.
I've met some who consider stopping at oral sex to be within the "soft" guidelines.
One couple actually felt that as long as you don't "cum" with someone - it's soft.
So, knowing the answers are going to be all over the board, I'd like to hear where all of you consider the line to be.
When does "soft swap become "full" swap?
I've (he) also learned by playing with others (mostly couples) that the term "soft swap" means different things to different folks.
For some, it's been each couple having sex in the bed next to the other couple.
For others, it seems it's touching/rubbing/fondling but no further.
I've met some who consider stopping at oral sex to be within the "soft" guidelines.
One couple actually felt that as long as you don't "cum" with someone - it's soft.
So, knowing the answers are going to be all over the board, I'd like to hear where all of you consider the line to be.
When does "soft swap become "full" swap?
ANDRAYWAY_SHANAYNAY wrote:
I think it's best to just go with a full swap to eliminate all confusion. We don't exactly know what a soft swap is, we just kinda go with how the other couple defines it.
Amen! To each their own by all means, but for us, the soft swap seems too much like a tease.
damn i thought it was one of the guys couldn't rise to the ocassion and the other had a 3some
We thought it was FMF
I think for most people (and to us) soft swap means anything except full intercourse. But if in doubt communicate, communicate, communicate.
When does "soft swap become "full" swap? When you quit being afraid of going to hell for having sex.
SUGAR, with the exception of Utah and maybe a few other places I seriously doubt that fear of going to hell is one of the main reasons some people don't full swap.
EVILDOERS wrote:
I think for most people (and to us) soft swap means anything except full intercourse. But if in doubt communicate, communicate, communicate.
Exactly, we are this way. We r, allready open to rthe option of full swapping but its going ,to b with someone we know and, trust and actully have a,relationship with. For us, intercourse is personal and want it to b a, valued exsperiance. Also momma if, still fertial and we, don't want to chance thst with just some Tom,Dick or Harry.
What Evil said.....anything except full intercourse. We have it clearly stated in our profile so anybody who has read it should know where we stand.
Cant most of you posters see how you ruined this thread? The thread title asked to define soft swap. Most of you have no idea what it is! and have never even tried it and all of its combinations. So many of you skipped right over it and had full sex on your first ride out of the gate.
Soft sex is when you have such great sex with your long time partner that you cant imagine the need to try anybody else but still enjoy all the sexually stimulating antics that 4 people can imagine.
On a side note I do hear the BYU students are now doing this sexual maneuver called "Docking" . YEs it involves full penetration but no movement! Then somehow its not full sex?
Soft sex is when you have such great sex with your long time partner that you cant imagine the need to try anybody else but still enjoy all the sexually stimulating antics that 4 people can imagine.
On a side note I do hear the BYU students are now doing this sexual maneuver called "Docking" . YEs it involves full penetration but no movement! Then somehow its not full sex?
We agree, its everything minus penetration. Those who are defining it as "same room"(which we feel is the appropriate term for having sex in the same room.[see what they did there!]) seem to be missing the word swap that is included. Just our two Pennies and to each their own.
"On a side note I do hear the BYU students are now doing this sexual maneuver called "Docking" . YEs it involves full penetration but no movement!"
Uhhhh ....... yeah ... like that's going to happen. Seems sort of like swallowing ... but only halfway. Choke, choke, choke ...
Uhhhh ....... yeah ... like that's going to happen. Seems sort of like swallowing ... but only halfway. Choke, choke, choke ...
Ah GEE! I have no self control! We have never done that! how could that be fun?? dUH let me post on this thread anyhow.
TY Maybemore, well said! We have been soft swap for over 7 years now and have loved every minute of it. We do alot more than alot of people think and never a complaint of being unsatisfied by anyone. Theres alot more to it then simple definitions.
Now THAT I can believe prolly goes on at the "Y". LOL Why are some peeps so judgmental on the soft swap thing? If you absolutely have to get yer dick in some strange (or plug yer cooch with some dude's schlong) to have a good time just don't contact any softies. We actually enjoy both soft and not so soft. It's more about attraction and just having fun and hanging with cool people for us. Different strokes... If everyone did everything the same way life would be pretty fucking boring. :-)
HOTTYZX2 wrote:
Soft swap??? Is that like planning and paying for vacation but never going?!?!!?!
LOL or paying to look at a menu, something like that.
WOLFMAJESTIC wrote:
TY Maybemore, well said! We have been soft swap for over 7 years now and have loved every minute of it. We do alot more than alot of people think and never a complaint of being unsatisfied by anyone. Theres alot more to it then simple definitions.
We know you guys, and have nothing but respect for you both. There's never a hard definition of anything as we have seen. We enjoy full swap, but at the same time, we don't push anyone beyond their decisions, and have even enjoyed some soft situations. We hope that neither you, or anyone else has taken any disrespect in our post.
The one thing I do find interesting is, and this is just my perception, is that some people who are full swap are rather quick to judge people who are soft swap, and not in a good way. I've read some posts that have made me feel somewhat guilty for choosing soft swap but that's what we have chosen so after all is said and done, I'm perfectly fine with it. We've had some pretty amazing sex after going to get togethers and I'm just not willing to sacrifice that for the unknown (I'm selfish 
).
I've never seen anything that has said this lifestyle is all or nothing. We're a couple months into it and we've met some great people, some full swap and others soft swap. It really doesn't matter to us because we're looking for like minded people, first and foremost. As long as everybody is on the same page and everyone's boundaries are respected, it's all good!
~Mrs. E
).I've never seen anything that has said this lifestyle is all or nothing. We're a couple months into it and we've met some great people, some full swap and others soft swap. It really doesn't matter to us because we're looking for like minded people, first and foremost. As long as everybody is on the same page and everyone's boundaries are respected, it's all good!
~Mrs. E
EVILDOERS wrote:
SUGAR, with the exception of Utah and maybe a few other places I seriously doubt that fear of going to hell is one of the main reasons some people don't full swap.
Gee whiz folks. I never said it was the only reason. I am sure that there are others. What ever turns your boat is fine by me.