I have a friend and he's big downstairs but doesn't exactly use it to its full potential. just wonderingif tips and teaching will go far enough?
Well, if he is a teachable guy then I don't see why not. It will depend a lot on your relationship with him and his attitude. I believe most guys are genuinely interested in pleasing their playmate so most likely if you are encouraging and use lots of positive reinforcement that may get a good response out of him. Heck, homework like that sure beats algebra!
I knew a young guy who thought that because he had the super duper heavy duty 24 oz. framing hammer it made him a great carpenter. He was soon shown he was mistaken. If he has the desire to learn you should be OK. Coaching him could help as long as he's listening and let him know it takes more than a big tool to do the job right. A big hammer in the wrong hands can ruin the fun.
Depends on how old he is and/or how experienced he is. If he's an older guy... its not particularly likely.
Read a book! When the time came for me to please a woman, you better believe I was reading all sorts of shit so I didn't just stumble, cum, and leave...lol
if someone is fucking me textbook style..... dunno if i'd be all that interested. its more of a mix of personal experience and being able to take direction/requests as partners are gonna differ from person to person.
going based off what the books said is only gonna work for the author of the book.
going based off what the books said is only gonna work for the author of the book.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
if someone is fucking me textbook style..... dunno if i'd be all that interested. its more of a mix of personal experience and being able to take direction/requests as partners are gonna differ from person to person.
going based off what the books said is only gonna work for the author of the book.
Oh come on, nothing wrong with getting some advice prior, obviously being open to direction is huge!
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
Depends on how old he is and/or how experienced he is. If he's an older guy... its not particularly likely.
On behalf of older guys everywhere - I resent the implication.
Yes. Most men are trainable but it depends on his attitude and willingness to learn. Generally it is not an overnight fix though.
I have to ask: Is he just supposed to learn how to please you or do you want him to learn how to please other women also?
I have to ask: Is he just supposed to learn how to please you or do you want him to learn how to please other women also?
Well. He definitely doesn't act cocky 
which is good. I'm sure he would be willing to learn But I don't want to tell him he's bad in bed or something. a little subtle direction will help, but I feel it needs more than that.
Sugar: for now just me.
which is good. I'm sure he would be willing to learn But I don't want to tell him he's bad in bed or something. a little subtle direction will help, but I feel it needs more than that. Sugar: for now just me.
BLUEBERRY wrote:
Well. He definitely doesn't act cocky
Sugar: for now just me.
If you just tell him in a way that is guiding him, "It turns me on so much when you ----", or even subtle suggestion... "I was thinking about you and I ----, wanna try?"
The real question is: does he know that he has some learning to do?
Have you implied or stated that you feel he could do better?
His reaction to that, could spell out whether he's worth your time. I read a playboy article years ago about "High Maintenance Cock" -- the boys who think that showing up with the best thing since sliced bread is ALL they have to do. Its one of the main reasons I avoid the big-uns. I prefer a partner who sees coupling as a joint venture -- rather than expecting me to worship his TROPHY.
Have you implied or stated that you feel he could do better?
His reaction to that, could spell out whether he's worth your time. I read a playboy article years ago about "High Maintenance Cock" -- the boys who think that showing up with the best thing since sliced bread is ALL they have to do. Its one of the main reasons I avoid the big-uns. I prefer a partner who sees coupling as a joint venture -- rather than expecting me to worship his TROPHY.
VIRANI wrote:
The real question is: does he know that he has some learning to do?
Have you implied or stated that you feel he could do better?
His reaction to that, could spell out whether he's worth your time. I read a playboy article years ago about "High Maintenance Cock" -- the boys who think that showing up with the best thing since sliced bread is ALL they have to do. Its one of the main reasons I avoid the big-uns. I prefer a partner who sees coupling as a joint venture -- rather than expecting me to worship his TROPHY.
Well said. I always make jokes about the "big ones" saying, "Just because you can sit on a parking cone, doesn't mean it's going to be enjoyable." Showing up is just that, if you're going to be there, invest the time to make it enjoyable for her. The day we stop learning is the day we die. I lay to claim to be the best lay around, but I'm open minded to the idea that there is always something new to enjoy given each experience.
Just too many oxymorons in this post. I ...... can't ,,,,,,,,, compute!
Bad ... Sex
Men ... Trainable
SlowHand ... Training big hammer dude
Sex ... Textbooks
Just as examples!
Bad ... Sex
Men ... Trainable
SlowHand ... Training big hammer dude
Sex ... Textbooks
Just as examples!
The old saying goes: Got'em books and a horse to ride to school and what'd he do...........Stood on the books and fucked the horse.
Absolutely, I think less than stellar sex partners are completely trainable. There is almost always a learning period with a new partner. Everyone likes something different or in a different way. You/they just have to be willing and open to suggestions or speaking up and saying something.
This whole thing went just towards the guys! What about the gals? Can a gal be taught better, more improved ways of doing things? Can a gal start doing things that she is not doing and make the whole thing work? Let's face it, if a female is not doing her part or if she just doesn't want to learn what her mate wants, needs or desires then what the hell! This is a two way street and sex partners need to talk and communicate to make sure that they are really meeting the needs of the other person. Whew, that was a lot.
Just our thoughts, but hell yes a partner is trainable to your personal preferences. I would say instead of making it like 'class' time for him or her just as the opportunity arises give a little direction and feedback, they will catch on and maybe even surprise you...
As for books/internet/communication, yes, yes, and yes. Over the years I have researched different BJ routines, and incorporated most of them at one time or another. Hell once I realized that I liked girls too I researched that as well, and I'm a girl. Sometimes the Mr. loves new moves, sometimes not. And like wise he has tried different techniques and with a little feedback we get there and stay there as long as we want.
We have been together forever at this point, but we still mix it up,and try new things, or revisit things. Basically if you are here then you need to bring your A game (couples/singles/male/female) and pay attention to the feedback and person you are with. Its all in the response and communication for us.
Sorry kind of ran off on a tangent
xo, Brandy
As for books/internet/communication, yes, yes, and yes. Over the years I have researched different BJ routines, and incorporated most of them at one time or another. Hell once I realized that I liked girls too I researched that as well, and I'm a girl. Sometimes the Mr. loves new moves, sometimes not. And like wise he has tried different techniques and with a little feedback we get there and stay there as long as we want.
We have been together forever at this point, but we still mix it up,and try new things, or revisit things. Basically if you are here then you need to bring your A game (couples/singles/male/female) and pay attention to the feedback and person you are with. Its all in the response and communication for us.
Sorry kind of ran off on a tangent
xo, Brandy
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All men think they are (1) excellent automobile drivers, and (2) great in bed. The truth is that most men are (1) average automobile drivers and (2) average in bed.
People can be taught anything if they are willing to try. As far as the bedroom goes you must have a man that is willing to learn. If not, he will always be an average driver and lover.
People can be taught anything if they are willing to try. As far as the bedroom goes you must have a man that is willing to learn. If not, he will always be an average driver and lover.
BRENT_C wrote:
All men think they are (1) excellent automobile drivers, and (2) great in bed. The truth is that most men are (1) average automobile drivers and (2) average in bed. People can be taught anything if they are willing to try. As far as the bedroom goes you must have a man that is willing to learn. If not, he will always be an average driver and lover.
I already consider my self average behind the wheel (car and bed!) which makes me very trainable.
The funny thing is what one women likes another one doesn't. Some girls like it slow and easy while others want to be pounded like a hurricane. Some girls like their nipples barely touched while others want them about twisted off. Plus it might change in the middle of sex too, start out slow and easy and turn into the hurricane. Guys are the same way. So one technique is not going to work for all women or men.
Communication is key here. Tell the other partner what you like or dislike. You can tell if you are doing something right a lot of the time by body language, same thing if they don't like something you are doing to them. A good lover asks what they like before hand and during. To many people are afraid to tell the other person that they dislike something for fear of hurting their feelings or something. But that person would feel horrible if they knew what they were doing was uncomfortable or hurt the person they were having sex with.
Communication is key here. Tell the other partner what you like or dislike. You can tell if you are doing something right a lot of the time by body language, same thing if they don't like something you are doing to them. A good lover asks what they like before hand and during. To many people are afraid to tell the other person that they dislike something for fear of hurting their feelings or something. But that person would feel horrible if they knew what they were doing was uncomfortable or hurt the person they were having sex with.
Botth men, and women need a bit of "training", if the female wants/needs something she is not recieving, then she needs to let it be known, and not i n a derogatory or mean way. I personally would love a little instruction if needed. and the partner, needs to let it be known that I have gotten it right,,in words and especially actions
EASTTENNCPL wrote:
Botth men, and women need a bit of "training", if the female wants/needs something she is not recieving, then she needs to let it be known, and not i n a derogatory or mean way. I personally would love a little instruction if needed. and the partner, needs to let it be known that I have gotten it right,,in words and especially actions
amen! Everybody's different!
When i was 25, I thought I was the best lover in the world, I began seeing a girl that was 36, the first time she squired, i realized how inexperienced I was, she was my girlfreind for about a year, and I learned alot, not only how to please her, but how to please other women, what it all comes down to it I believe when I have sex with someone new I am in training all over again, because every woman is different and is very unique in what pleasures her, still to this day, I love being with women that are older than myself, I love how they will talk and say what they love to have done to them. very big turn on for me. :-) wish I would have had an older woman when I was a virgin.
This is a very easy fix.
Place this young man in a room, butt ass naked with 6 of the freakiest ladies on this wonderful site. Let them work his well endowed rod over for 6 days. He will come out Humble, Respectful, ready to serve any woman the way she (or they) may want to be served. Make sure to feed the fella and shower him well. Hell it worked for me and I
Place this young man in a room, butt ass naked with 6 of the freakiest ladies on this wonderful site. Let them work his well endowed rod over for 6 days. He will come out Humble, Respectful, ready to serve any woman the way she (or they) may want to be served. Make sure to feed the fella and shower him well. Hell it worked for me and I
My girl just lies there, doesnt like to kiss and I have had better times waxing my Harley. Sounds like she needs to go. Agreed?