I wonder if the majority is the male in the relastionship?
We both decided about the same time so i guess it was a mutual decision. We've been married for 28+ years and are very secure, so we decided to take our fun to another level.
We were still dating and talking about our pasts and found out that we had both been in the lifestyle previously and enjoyed it. So It really was just part of who we already were.
AMY1868 wrote:
We started it because the wife wanted to be with a female. She loves women now! But as we progressed at lightning speed we are no longer looking for unicorns. We have found that couples in love and secure are the cats meow!!!! Nothing better than two people sharing all the sensual senses with another in tune couple!
You sound EXACTLY like us...the wife wanted to explore with a female and we very quickly realized that it was WAY more fun with a couple.
Chastity's idea. But the mr was very enthusiastic
We started dating when I was 23 (Mrs. now 34) I had absolutely no idea about this type of lifestyle, as a matter of fact I had never even had an actual orgasm at that point.
The Mr. introduced the idea of a male/female/male threesomes to me slowly through dirty talk and well I responded
. Step two was him inviting a friend and being very open and encouraging, trying to reassure me (the Mrs.) that we were ok and I should relax and enjoy myself.
Long story short, he started it, and once I figured out that this arrangement was not going to kick me in the butt later, or jeopardize our relationship I ran with it.
Then six years ago I wanted to just be us for a while, and we were until a few months ago when I turned 34 and then I brought this amazing journey back to life; he was thrilled with the idea of resurrecting our naughty selves.
So far returning to the LS has been amazing, so I guess we took turns being the instigator.
R&B
The Mr. introduced the idea of a male/female/male threesomes to me slowly through dirty talk and well I responded
. Step two was him inviting a friend and being very open and encouraging, trying to reassure me (the Mrs.) that we were ok and I should relax and enjoy myself. Long story short, he started it, and once I figured out that this arrangement was not going to kick me in the butt later, or jeopardize our relationship I ran with it.
Then six years ago I wanted to just be us for a while, and we were until a few months ago when I turned 34 and then I brought this amazing journey back to life; he was thrilled with the idea of resurrecting our naughty selves.
So far returning to the LS has been amazing, so I guess we took turns being the instigator.
R&B
I meet my wife on another swinger site. She had been in the lifestyle for years,
I was relatively new to it. We had some differences as to how we interact with other
couples, but has been resolved over the years. Going on six years together.
I was relatively new to it. We had some differences as to how we interact with other
couples, but has been resolved over the years. Going on six years together.
She was in befor I was. Met her here.
JD_AL wrote:
He brought up the idea after watching a few episodes of swing on playboy tv. Everybody seems to be more relaxed and comfortable with each other, which is what we are looking for.
Playboy's Swing definitely helped us make up our minds to go ahead with it. We know reality is probably a lot different than the show though.
Neither - we both put the idea into our own individual heads BEFORE we ever met.
Too bad - might have been fun corrupting each other.
Too bad - might have been fun corrupting each other.
He was the instigator.
Our friends are in the ls and would have parties but didn't invite us since we were vanilla. He always said we could be neopolitan for the night(not sure what that meant, I was to afraid to ask) when she said it was a ls party. That started a couple of years ago.
Fast forward to this year....
We went to The Madison for my birthday and got a room down there. We invited my friend for drinks beforehand and she brought some friends from the ls. Things got mildly wild and after we got home we talked about it some more and signed up on here. I went to a girls night out with her a couple of years ago and remembered the site that they were all on.
Our friends are in the ls and would have parties but didn't invite us since we were vanilla. He always said we could be neopolitan for the night(not sure what that meant, I was to afraid to ask) when she said it was a ls party. That started a couple of years ago.
Fast forward to this year....
We went to The Madison for my birthday and got a room down there. We invited my friend for drinks beforehand and she brought some friends from the ls. Things got mildly wild and after we got home we talked about it some more and signed up on here. I went to a girls night out with her a couple of years ago and remembered the site that they were all on.
I (woman) initiated it shortly after turning 21. We had friends in the lifestyle before we married and after I figured out that I had too much curiosity, It helps that my geeky husband started me out with the idea by introducing me to my first webcam and irc chat. He used to buy me toys just so I could fuck with someone's head on the internet. When it became physical in real life -- he got even more excited. We have now been married 17 years and find that my forays help to alleviate the fact that he'd prefer to play video games and initiate most human contact via XBOX live.
It was something this we had talked about for a few years and this lifestyle fits our wild personalities.
We like to play practical jokes on each other so I blind folded her and took her to The Red Rooster telling her we were going to a luxurious high end European style spa near the Vegas temple. Then I stripped her naked and threw her into the orgy room. Boy did we have a big laugh about that (after we got her all cleaned up and decontaminated). When we got back home and I caught her looking up European spas in Salt Lake I knew maybe we had finally found a mutual hobby to replace our macrame' club and collecting porcelain figurines of voles.
She was curious to be with a woman, and I happened to have a sexy bisexual friend that agreed to make it happen for her. So in 2009 we had "movie" night at our place, and one thing led to another. Before I knew it, we were in a 3 person naked ball, (I was just there for moral support of course) and from that night on, we were hooked!!! We placed an ad on Craigslist for a female interested in a LTR with a couple, and we were contacted by a woman that told us about Swingular. The rest is history. We have never been closer to each other, and made some amazing friends! What a ride, and I'm a very lucky husband that's crazy in love with his wife! It's always the quiet ones that turn out to be the freaks, and I love my freak!!!
~ROCK~
~ROCK~
SEXUALPLEASURES wrote:
We were still dating and talking about our pasts and found out that we had both been in the lifestyle previously and enjoyed it. So It really was just part of who we already were.
About the same for us. Both being incurable flirts. We decided before we got married. Had our first group thing on the honeymoon.
She had a fantasy of being with a woman and one of her friends at work was going thru a divorce so she set it up. Unfortuntaly at the last minute she cancelled and couldnt go thru with it. So the next weekend our bowling partner (guy) invited us over for dinner and one thing led to another and we all ended up fucking on the living room floor. We liked it so much we havent stopped now for 20 yrs.
It was all me...the Mrs...and he gladly said yes. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM.
Surprised that, of the respondants, most are female! But, then, it sort of makes sense as I consider it. At any rate, YAY! females!!! (:-P
My lady and I had known each other online since last winter. We decided to meet last May. We connected instantly. I'd had a couple of MFM experiences recently and one MFF when I was much younger. I knew I was interested in the lifestyle. She shared a story about a young woman who asked her to try on bras together in a department store and how they ended up fondling each other. That was enough for me to start asking questions about what she might be interested in regarding the lifestyle and it turned out there wasn't much she wasn't interested in. lol Now I have the perfect life partner and we both enjoy watching each other play with other people. Even though she had not played much she has realized she is very bi and enjoys being with a woman. She loves to watch me in action with another woman. We are looking forward to a lot of pleasure as we explore our sexuality with others.
It's a gray area, we started with fantasies before actually jumping in. Our first experience was with another woman and I could only watch. So I guess I can put the blame on her. Damn I love her. LOL
A very good friend thought the male half already was a swinger, and she introduced the idea and the website to us.
The mrs. had had a couple previous experiences, and one night we discussed it and I told her I was curious as to how it would work. We are somewhat ideological in our methods. We feel that there is more to learn about the sexual experiences that what lies solely in our bed. We enjoy the new experiences, and learning about ourselves and each other with the new friends we have made.
I initiated (Mrs.)
(Mrs.)My wife and I meet in the lifestyle,together going on seven years.
It was the male half of the relationship for us. I; the male half, was already in the lifestyle as a single male. I met my wife at a party; not a swinger party, for my brother, she left with someone else and I slept with few of the girls at the party. We ended up ; like a month or two later, meeting at another party; not swinger, where I almost slept with her best friend. I laid everything out on the table, told her this is who I am , I not changing for anyone. You can like me, love me or leave me alone and we have been together for 8 years now. I don't swing without her, she's not as comfortable in the lifestyle as I am so we move at her pace.
I don't remember who bright it up first but we had some friends with open relationships and we started talking about it more and more. I was the one who asked about going to a party and since then we've been enjoying the lifestyle quite a bit. She seems to enjoy being with other men and it really turns me on to see or hear about her adventures.
It was mutual but kind of fell into it. We went to a club in Nashville Tn. just to see what went on. Never played but she kissed a man and afterward said I think I could like this. Came home and went to Ft. Wayne and hooked up with a coulde for the first time.
I lost my virginity to my hubby, and had no other partners Before we married. We were fortunately able to befriend an older (25's) couple in college who were swingers. When I started having all the usual "what am I missing" emotions, he suggested that we pursue the lifestyle. We were rather young for it... started at age 21... but it has become an integral part of our lives. Now we have been married over 17 years and have a better relationship and sex lives than ever.
It was my wifes idea, she first brought up the idea of being with a woman as a way to test the water, then seeing how open I was to it she brought up the idea of swinging.
I was very apprehensive about the jealousy etc... that i might feel but after our first encounter all that melted away we were instantly hooked.
We are very much in love and very, very secure. This has been nothing but awesome.
To top it off the wife found out she is totally Bi and loves the touch, feel, and taste of a woman.
I was very apprehensive about the jealousy etc... that i might feel but after our first encounter all that melted away we were instantly hooked.
We are very much in love and very, very secure. This has been nothing but awesome.
To top it off the wife found out she is totally Bi and loves the touch, feel, and taste of a woman.