We are very new had one encounter so far but it was not what I expected to be. The guy wanted to cum in my mouth and thats a total taboo for me. I never even suck my husband off so this totally turned me off.
I liked the sex, it was fun and the wife came on to me but I have not done anything with a woman but I was kind of curious how this might pan out. I was ok with her touching me and I even enjoyed her giving me oral but I was not comfortable returning the 'favor'. Is it expected to return the oral or how do I react. Our profile states straight so what do I do when those subjects comes up again?
I really want to enjoy myself but I am too worried about every little detail my husband keeps telling me.
I liked the sex, it was fun and the wife came on to me but I have not done anything with a woman but I was kind of curious how this might pan out. I was ok with her touching me and I even enjoyed her giving me oral but I was not comfortable returning the 'favor'. Is it expected to return the oral or how do I react. Our profile states straight so what do I do when those subjects comes up again?
I really want to enjoy myself but I am too worried about every little detail my husband keeps telling me.
Honesty is the best policy. If it comes up, don't be afraid to say "no." You should never feel obligated to do anything you don't want too. But don't be afraid to do what is there in front of you too. (pun intended) Relax, have fun. If it ain't fun then why are you doing it?
What do you do when those subjects come up again?
You follow these common-sense guidelines:
You DO what you want to DO.
You DON'T do what you DON'T want to do.
You say NO when you mean NO.
You do NOT do anything you're not comfortable with.
If there's anything EXPECTED, then you're playing with the wrong people.
Don't EVER be afraid to remind people of what your profile says.
Don't EVER be intimidated to the point where you feel pressured to do something you don't want to do.
Don't EVER be afraid to either walk out, or throw someone out.
Pretty simple, all-in-all - wouldn't you say?
You follow these common-sense guidelines:
You DO what you want to DO.
You DON'T do what you DON'T want to do.
You say NO when you mean NO.
You do NOT do anything you're not comfortable with.
If there's anything EXPECTED, then you're playing with the wrong people.
Don't EVER be afraid to remind people of what your profile says.
Don't EVER be intimidated to the point where you feel pressured to do something you don't want to do.
Don't EVER be afraid to either walk out, or throw someone out.
Pretty simple, all-in-all - wouldn't you say?
i swallow for my hubby ONLY but it IS technically a recently acquired taste.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
i swallow for my hubby ONLY but it IS technically a recently acquired taste.
Recently acquired? Define that? mwahahhahahah...
Mav
MAVENX wrote:HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
i swallow for my hubby ONLY but it IS technically a recently acquired taste.
Recently acquired? Define that? mwahahhahahah...
Mav
as in exactly what is sounds like. i didn't do it for a very very long time. i only recently started swallowing and found that i really enjoy it.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:MAVENX wrote:
[quote=HELLO_KITTY12984]i swallow for my hubby ONLY but it IS technically a recently acquired taste.
Recently acquired? Define that? mwahahhahahah...
Mav
as in exactly what is sounds like. i didn't do it for a very very long time. i only recently started swallowing and found that i really enjoy it.[/quote]
Damn. "very very long time." That means I am old!
Mav
Y not swallow? A little bad taste shouldn't stop u from pleasing ur partner..or doing whatever to make them happy...there are some exceptions like shit that could really hurt or get u in jail haha. But generally I swallow.especially when giving road head or when he just wants a blow job.. ye returns the favor..so I can suck up a little salty yogurt.
And most guys love it... Makes them feel like they r in a porn ..
Do only what you want to do. This lifestyle should be about pleasure and not pressure.
Realize that at any point you may change your mind and you have a right to do that. Just because you do something with one person does not mean that you have to do it with everyone.
Besides it takes practice to do it well and most do not do it well. You may put any action in the place of the word 'it' and this will still hold true.
Realize that at any point you may change your mind and you have a right to do that. Just because you do something with one person does not mean that you have to do it with everyone.
Besides it takes practice to do it well and most do not do it well. You may put any action in the place of the word 'it' and this will still hold true.
Am I the twisted one among all the distorted??? Oh please may I???? It is divine to look up with the wickedest little smile that says "oh please, give that to me" What is more erotically captivating?? Okay I can think of one, or two, that compare, but most certainly in the top three!
No, actually I cant think of any other than that right now... 
PEACE~
PEACE~Newbie, my excellent partner (Carrierman - I'm Geekgirl) stated it very well. I'm with you, don't cum in my mouth, acquired taste or not, it is MY choice to CHOOSE who, when, or even if that happens. As for women, I agree, I'm not there yet and don't want to be forced... this is supposed to be fun for EVERYONE.
We had an experience where the male came in me (after only 3 thrusts) without any announcement which really ruined the day for both of us. Carrierman likes to lick after I'm fucked, but not someone else's cream. We like to be the last to play with each other with the finish being for us. The other's action effectively ended all play... No return engagement... we had established rules (or so we thought) but they were broken.
Some of these answers got away from your question... I don't care what others do or think should be done. I decide for me, you decide for you. My partner and I decide what we do together or apart; you and your partner decide what you do together or apart.
Stand your ground. Don't play with anyone you don't want to, and state the limits before you start. For some it will be a "no go," but it is still your body and you are in control of the situation. Everyone had different experiences and different expectations, the rules are always a work in progress, but you need to be at your own comfort level stretching the boundaries on your terms when you want, if you want. Don't let anyone take that away from you. Maturity has its virtue and value; enjoy what, and only what, you want.
Long answer to a simple question. Carrierman said it so well.
We had an experience where the male came in me (after only 3 thrusts) without any announcement which really ruined the day for both of us. Carrierman likes to lick after I'm fucked, but not someone else's cream. We like to be the last to play with each other with the finish being for us. The other's action effectively ended all play... No return engagement... we had established rules (or so we thought) but they were broken.
Some of these answers got away from your question... I don't care what others do or think should be done. I decide for me, you decide for you. My partner and I decide what we do together or apart; you and your partner decide what you do together or apart.
Stand your ground. Don't play with anyone you don't want to, and state the limits before you start. For some it will be a "no go," but it is still your body and you are in control of the situation. Everyone had different experiences and different expectations, the rules are always a work in progress, but you need to be at your own comfort level stretching the boundaries on your terms when you want, if you want. Don't let anyone take that away from you. Maturity has its virtue and value; enjoy what, and only what, you want.
Long answer to a simple question. Carrierman said it so well.
A-MUSE wrote:Oh and you are so good at that...Big Smile!
Am I the twisted one among all the distorted??? Oh please may I???? It is divine to look up with the wickedest little smile that says "oh please, give that to me" What is more erotically captivating?? Okay I can think of one, or two, that compare, but most certainly in the top three!
Mmmm... call me crazy but I love the power of knowing I have made a man cum with my mouth and love the taste. I will have to say though that it is a taste that took a while to acquire a desire for. In my early teen days I did not like it but gradually grew to acquire the tasty flavor. I know several women that do not like to swallow and most of them put on a show of letting it run out of their mouth down their chin or simply tell the man that they don't swallow. However, I have run in to very very few ladies in the swingers community that do not swallow. Just tell the guy up front that you don't.
Am I the only one walking around the office on a Friday morning with a large tent pole in my pants after reading the sexy responses from some of Swingular's most beautiful women????
AGEDTOPERFECTION wrote:
If you can't run with the pack,stay on the porch.
We don't play with anyone that has this kind of a HANG-UP.
Sex is to be enjoyed if not stay home.
That's why we only play with expirenced couples.
NO-WANNA-BE's
I never miss a chance to swallow and I've never had any complaints.
To Each There Own,only not with us if you don't.
Good Luck.
We all know there are selfish, inconsiderate folks in the Lifestyle who ONLY care about what THEY want or don't want.
Makes it SO much easier when they voluntarilly identify themselves.
Just have your guy drink pineapple juice , eat lots of fruit, watermelon is good and his cum will be so sweet. Yummy!!!
EVILDOERS wrote:nope im with ya lol
Am I the only one walking around the office on a Friday morning with a large tent pole in my pants after reading the sexy responses from some of Swingular's most beautiful women????
AMY1868 wrote:
I couldn't give a rats if the female swallows or not! I feel blessed to have my cock in a sexy woman's mouth!!! I always give them the warning and from there she can decide what she wants to do with it!
Amen to that!
NOT swallowing - oral sex (activity incomplete).
Swallowing - a Blow Job (activity completed).
Swallowing - a Blow Job (activity completed).
I do not swallow and my husband and I have an agreement that if I can't swallow him then I can't swallow anyone... there are some things a person just can't do. If you don't like the taste, texture, or smell and you attempt it hen you will probably end up not feeling to great and then what fun will you have? I have actually been told that I need to either swallow or do anal with a man... needless to say he lost out on some really good sex because I don't break my personal rules for anyone...
Just be safe and enjoy what you like to do...
Most men are thankful just being able to fuck a sexy woman...
Just be safe and enjoy what you like to do...
Most men are thankful just being able to fuck a sexy woman...
Your rules are your rules people should respect them. We try to keep it even so if she doesn't swallow I don't. As for you returning the favor I wouldn't worry about it. You have strait on your profile so that shouldn't be an issue. I think you are being very open minded for not freaking out when she touched you. Remember this is supposed to be fun even though sometimes it seems complicated. I hate complicated I get confused. :-)
I absolutely LOVE giving head. The Mr can attest to that. And he'd probably tell you that I'm pretty damn good at it too.
With that said, I'd be happy to give anyone pointers or lessons in the most supportive and educational manner possible...
We're all in this because we desire to bring ourselves and our partners enhanced sexual pleasure. We push our limits and boundaries every day. Personally, I rather enjoy the growth and learning that happens as a result.
Try anything once!
With that said, I'd be happy to give anyone pointers or lessons in the most supportive and educational manner possible...
We're all in this because we desire to bring ourselves and our partners enhanced sexual pleasure. We push our limits and boundaries every day. Personally, I rather enjoy the growth and learning that happens as a result.
Try anything once!
ok guys, tell me ,, what is the importance of swallowing anyway,,, wife gives great head,, and will take every drop in her mouth ,, and hold it, keep on tantalizing to point of "whoa! can't handle anymore",, and then spit it out,,,,, she lets me CUM IN HER MOUTH,, what she does with it afterwards,,, why should I care?
More intimacy.
Mrs. will swallow me on occasion, but NEVER anyone else....Its her policy.
CPL4OTHERS wrote:
Just have your guy drink pineapple juice , eat lots of fruit, watermelon is good and his cum will be so sweet. Yummy!!!
Bananas and Yogurt are a good way to change the taste also. My girlfriend loves to swallow.
Newbies123,
I'm sorry that you had this experience, it is unfortunate that we do not get a rule book or signed contract from play partners. Our first two encounters left much to be desired and the third was literally disturbing. We had previous plans to meet the fourth prior to this or we would have called it quits for a while. However, I am thrilled that we did not throw in the towel, the fourth meeting was and still is AMAZING. We have met repeatedly, communicate often, and have established a wonderful and intense connection sexually. Try to leave the bad, and run with the good.
There is a perfect connection for everyone, if it were me I would spend a little time prior to meeting to cover your expectations, as well as inquire about theirs; this may help. However, if and when you should feel uncomfortable just call it. You have the right and deserve to feel secure and thoroughly enjoy your partner(s).
As for the female oral situation, my profile also says straight, but for me it is not male or female; it is how I feel about the other person and my mood. Don't feel obligated, but also don't assume that your profile is being thoroughly read. I am of the opinion that many do mot actually read them.It's kind of confusing why they would not take time to learn more about a potential partner. I read and re-read them repeatedly before meeting, it's almost like having an insiders scope.
Lastly, nothing is scripted or goes like you plan so just be courteous, honest and do what feels right.
Xoxo, Brandy
I'm sorry that you had this experience, it is unfortunate that we do not get a rule book or signed contract from play partners. Our first two encounters left much to be desired and the third was literally disturbing. We had previous plans to meet the fourth prior to this or we would have called it quits for a while. However, I am thrilled that we did not throw in the towel, the fourth meeting was and still is AMAZING. We have met repeatedly, communicate often, and have established a wonderful and intense connection sexually. Try to leave the bad, and run with the good.
There is a perfect connection for everyone, if it were me I would spend a little time prior to meeting to cover your expectations, as well as inquire about theirs; this may help. However, if and when you should feel uncomfortable just call it. You have the right and deserve to feel secure and thoroughly enjoy your partner(s).
As for the female oral situation, my profile also says straight, but for me it is not male or female; it is how I feel about the other person and my mood. Don't feel obligated, but also don't assume that your profile is being thoroughly read. I am of the opinion that many do mot actually read them.It's kind of confusing why they would not take time to learn more about a potential partner. I read and re-read them repeatedly before meeting, it's almost like having an insiders scope.
Lastly, nothing is scripted or goes like you plan so just be courteous, honest and do what feels right.
Xoxo, Brandy
I can orgasm while giving head and having him cum in my mouth...to each her own, but damn it is just a beautiful...leg shaking moment, too beautiful to waste.
If you put it in your throat while he comes you won't even taste it, but it "blows" his mind, every time.
At the very least, you should be doing this for your closest partner.
At the very least, you should be doing this for your closest partner.
EASTTENNCPL wrote:
ok guys, tell me ,, what is the importance of swallowing anyway,,, wife gives great head,, and will take every drop in her mouth ,, and hold it, keep on tantalizing to point of "whoa! can't handle anymore",, and then spit it out,,,,, she lets me CUM IN HER MOUTH,, what she does with it afterwards,,, why should I care?
I can ALWAYS tell when she is swallowing instead of holding it. The feeling is amazing, especially when she takes it deep and starts to swallow. There is nothing like it.
I'm delighted to enjoy a couple and will swallow for the lady if she is turned on bi it!
Ok if you don't swallow for YOUR man then you shouldn't be expected to swallow any other man.
I do have a question about the girl play though. Did she know ahead of time that you were against pleasing another woman? If so then maybe she just enjoys women without the expectation of some in return. If you were not honest about not wanting to go down on her and she thought there was a chance then I say that's just selfish. Who doesn't like having oral done on them and to know that you're not going to get any on return...well I have had "bi-curious" women do this and it sucks!! If you're not sure if you like to go down on women them you should make sure they are aware of this.
Kisses,
Naugh-Ty
I do have a question about the girl play though. Did she know ahead of time that you were against pleasing another woman? If so then maybe she just enjoys women without the expectation of some in return. If you were not honest about not wanting to go down on her and she thought there was a chance then I say that's just selfish. Who doesn't like having oral done on them and to know that you're not going to get any on return...well I have had "bi-curious" women do this and it sucks!! If you're not sure if you like to go down on women them you should make sure they are aware of this.
Kisses,
Naugh-Ty
What you do or don't do it up to you. But you need to own it and not be shy about it. That being said, there were things that I said I would never do, and well, this weekend, I did several of them. My feeling is that there is a time and place when you might change your mind, but let it be YOUR decision. If it never happens then that's ok too. Be honest with your yourself, your significant other, and your play partners.
NEWBIES123 wrote:
We are very new had one encounter so far but it was not what I expected to be. The guy wanted to cum in my mouth and thats a total taboo for me. I never even suck my husband off so this totally turned me off.
Don't worry about it, state your limits from the start or put it on your profile. Up until 8 months ago my wife only gave oral on my birthday, and that made her gag. Then for some reason about eight months ago she did it and blew me away, one of the best I ever had. Still trying to figure out how she learned without using me, LOL. Now she goes straight to oral before anything. But I still can't cum in her mouth, think if I tried she would castrate me. Back to my point, she always made it clear to anyone before starting no oral would be given by her, trust me she is firm about it. A few times someone tried to talk her into it but only turned her off and didn't get anything. Just remember it's your fun and you set the rules, someone crosses them don't give them anything and see how they like that. Sure you have enough to offer someone without doing something you don't want to.
I set my boundaries in the beginning before playing. If somebody crosses my boundaries, especially on that one I BITE HARD!!!
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced, lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible.
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced, lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible.
no one should ever do what they don't want to do. People need to feel safe and relaxed to enjoy the sexual experience. Limits are meant to be respected.
However, If you always do what you did you always get what you got. In some cases that can be very limiting.
That being said, we have taken it upon ourselves to continually improve our performance and expand our sexual horizons. Learning new techniques that make it more pleasurable for our playmates and partners,
We focus on pleasure and it has worked for us.
rose has cum a long ways
Marcus n rose
However, If you always do what you did you always get what you got. In some cases that can be very limiting.
That being said, we have taken it upon ourselves to continually improve our performance and expand our sexual horizons. Learning new techniques that make it more pleasurable for our playmates and partners,
We focus on pleasure and it has worked for us.
rose has cum a long ways
Marcus n rose
It's really pretty simple: I'm not a fan of swallowing, so I let guys know before hand, or even as things get going. Strangely, not one has taken his cock and gone home. It's not a deal breaker, and if it is OH WELL!
As for girl/girl fun, sometimes you're in the mood, sometimes you're not. Just kinda how if is and again, if it's a deal breaker, sorry. There is no script to follow in a fun play session anyway! Just go with the flow and enjoy your new found play mates and they you!
I don't want any girl or guy feeling uncomfortable, it makes for a less fulfilling experience.
Mrs. DD
As for girl/girl fun, sometimes you're in the mood, sometimes you're not. Just kinda how if is and again, if it's a deal breaker, sorry. There is no script to follow in a fun play session anyway! Just go with the flow and enjoy your new found play mates and they you!
I don't want any girl or guy feeling uncomfortable, it makes for a less fulfilling experience.
Mrs. DD
AGEDTOPERFECTION
So your saying if someone doesn't play the way you do they should stay home? Personally we would rather be with someone new and play soft than choose someone with an attitude like that, we have never met a couple that played the same way we did or expected them to. The point is to have fun and not cross anyones limits, excluding oral sex would not stop us from having a good time. If we all did the same thing what would be the point, your not going to experience anything new.
So your saying if someone doesn't play the way you do they should stay home? Personally we would rather be with someone new and play soft than choose someone with an attitude like that, we have never met a couple that played the same way we did or expected them to. The point is to have fun and not cross anyones limits, excluding oral sex would not stop us from having a good time. If we all did the same thing what would be the point, your not going to experience anything new.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
I really do know the difference between waste and waist by the way. Just in case the grammar police noticed my mistake. It really isn't my fault! Thumb typing on an I-Phone and Canadian whiskey do not mix all that well.
Eye new ewe gnu the difference - and I gnu ewe new I gnu you knew.
Just in case no one else chose to hassle you about it.
DELICIOUSLYWET
Thanks for the grammar lesson. Our profile states clearly we enjoy oral. Not going to rule out someone else because they don't. All that matters is everyone had a good time at the end regardless of what you do.
Thanks for the grammar lesson. Our profile states clearly we enjoy oral. Not going to rule out someone else because they don't. All that matters is everyone had a good time at the end regardless of what you do.
Interesting banter above. We should all respect each other's opinions. However, we need not agree with them, just respect them. It's fine to not want to play with people. We know everyone won't desire us and likewise we do not desire everyone. Just simple respect. If respect means you choose not to get together, that's great. Interesting how "open minded" people often are not very open minded at all. Just an observation.
I really don't like to catch as a rule, but for some men I make exceptions. I'd love to know how you CERTIFY STD FREE playmates, Deliciouslywet. I think the doc should give us a card when we pass the std test. Other than requesting lab results, how are we ever sure?
So you get tested today fuck and swallow someone tomorrow. There is never a guarantee of someone being clean. Besides this is about sucking dick, where is my wife, think I need to find her. Can't cum in her mouth but it looks good on her tits.