Does it worry you/bother you to play with people who live in the same town as you? Would you be willing to fool around with someone who has children that goes to the same school as your children go to.
We have, but just curious what others thinks about it.
We have, but just curious what others thinks about it.
We try, but this is a very small area. Would love to have close friends closer. So anyone in our area reading this let us know.
No. Don't see why it should.
We sure try to meet sexy local folks, if even just for friendship, dinner, games, or something to do, but we are avoided like the plague. I just don't get it. Are we that hideous that nobody dares be seen with us in their hometown? I promise we don't have anything that won't wash off, but it doesn't seem to matter. There seems to be something taboo about it...or maybe it's just us. Oh well, back to our cave I guess.
ALONE IN ZION
ALONE IN ZION
No problem at all
What's even better for us, and something we're looking for, is finding couples that we can develop true friendships with that go outside the lifestyle. It's nice to find people that share the same interests who can also enjoy vanilla times.
What's even better for us, and something we're looking for, is finding couples that we can develop true friendships with that go outside the lifestyle. It's nice to find people that share the same interests who can also enjoy vanilla times.At first we wanted to avoid it...but we have relaxed more and just kind of whoever is cool. Cause drving to draper for all the parties and fun sucks sometimes(awesome while ur there) just bad on way home haha... Where are all the OGDENITES at???
I would play with my next door neighbor if they were in the lifestyle 
First of all, if there'a any question as to whether or not you're going to be as discrete as we HAVE to be, then there's a zero chance of us playing together - no matter WHERE you live.
We'd have no problem playing with our next door neighbors, as long as all are comfortable that what happens behind closed doors STAYS behind closed doors.
As long as everyone is adult enough to be able to maintain a facade of normalcy in public, why would geographics have ANYTHING to do with it?
Blowing your cover, and outing another person or couple - for any reason - IS JUST PLAIN STUPID.
The Lifestyle is as much about trust as it is about anything else.
Reveal that you can't be trusted, and WE won't be playing with you no matter WHERE you live.
We'd have no problem playing with our next door neighbors, as long as all are comfortable that what happens behind closed doors STAYS behind closed doors.
As long as everyone is adult enough to be able to maintain a facade of normalcy in public, why would geographics have ANYTHING to do with it?
Blowing your cover, and outing another person or couple - for any reason - IS JUST PLAIN STUPID.
The Lifestyle is as much about trust as it is about anything else.
Reveal that you can't be trusted, and WE won't be playing with you no matter WHERE you live.
We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and most of our kids do go to the same schools. In the beginning it just seemed weird for us to play with locals so we basically made it a rule NOT TO, however the thought of having a Booty Call very close by, seems like a good plan lol I think most of us know of each other and respect each others privacy and discretion. I think it would just depend on the couple and who we feel we could trust. (Mrs.)
My kids live in Florida, funny enough, but I live in Utah, so that's not a concern for me. I much prefer to find local people to play with as I am pretty much landlocked.
It's difficult finding local playmates as I am a single guy now, but I am persistent! And respectful.
It's difficult finding local playmates as I am a single guy now, but I am persistent! And respectful.
BUTTABING wrote:We live in the area, would love to meet you and create another closer friendship.
We try, but this is a very small area. Would love to have close friends closer. So anyone in our area reading this let us know.
When we lived in Utah, yes we played with people in the same city, in fact the same zip code. When we lived in Las Vegas we did the same thing. Since we have moved to Bakersfield, California the answer is NO. NO because this town doesn't have a lifestyle scene like Utah, or Nevada. Or Arizona, or anywhere else. This town is dead when in comes to the lifestyle. Good for Las Vegas because we are planning a monthly trip there this fall.
My wife and i live in a small town in ill. We usually play aways from home we met a guy at a regular bar and got to know him over a few weeks . The subject of sex came up and my wife being atracted to him we later descusd a threensomso two weeks later we ran into him again and talked about it with him with him not being in the lifestyle we talked about rules of swinging witch he agreed with just the regulaer stuff that we only play together and it is privet no one is to here about it so one thing led to another we went and had a verry good night the next weekend we were going to meetup and i got calld into work my wife went to meet him to let him know we would hafta plane another night . Latter that evening with my consent thay went to a motel had a great time all was good ten days later i ran into guys i know and thay informd me that this guy was telling ppl about us and what we did with him my friends were not in the lifestyle so i had to explNe it to them not a good thing so now we dont play close to home sorry for the spelling im on my phone at work on my short break.
We don't mind. It is easier if they live cliose you can have the spur of the moment ORGY!
SHERA_HEMAN3 wrote:
We don't mind. It is easier if they live cliose you can have the spur of the moment ORGY!
Hmmm...come on spur of the moment! LOL
We keep getting weird looks when we ask the neighbors...but the missionaries don't come over anymore...
We live in a small town of about 25,000 ... there are approximately 30 folks around here in the lifestyle. Although this site does have some folks that live close by we have never met anyone from this site, I am not sure the reason why, maybe were too ugly, or just dont strike their fancy. We have to drive to Dallas (an hour away) if we want to meet other people that like to play and have fun.
If anyone close by us wants to get together for dinner or drinks and do vanilla things we would be open to that, who knows they might find out we are pretty cool people to hang out with and there's always a possibility that it could go further if there was a connection.
If anyone close by us wants to get together for dinner or drinks and do vanilla things we would be open to that, who knows they might find out we are pretty cool people to hang out with and there's always a possibility that it could go further if there was a connection.
SPEXDEX wrote:
We keep getting weird looks when we ask the neighbors...but the missionaries don't come over anymore...
I thought I'd go the direct route and ask them to join in. Try it with the JWs too!
I prefer close by
I would love to support local couples or a HOT WIFE with a HP to play.
we would love to have play friends that live close or within a couple of miles
We don't mind close by friends, and have played just a couple of blocks from the house.
When we started talking about having others play with us, the Mrs always wanted to make sure that there was a little distance between us and them so she wouldn't feel weird running into them in the grocery store. Now I don't think either of us would care if they lived down the street. The more we find out about this lifestyle, we're looking forward whomever we meet and click with. Running into them in the store would be great.
The issue of playing with lifestyle friends that we see regularly in vanilla settings is a total non-issue. Actually, we would probably prefer more of them. We tend to gravitate toward couples that we could be with in vanilla settings without fear of them exercising lifestyle privileges in vanilla settings.
Time is a HUGE issue with us, as it is with many couples. Playing with couples that are in much closer proximity to us is very attractive since it requires less travel time.
On the other end of the spectrum, since I travel a lot professionally, and have a hall pass, I do seek out play pals in more distant places. We also travel for pleasure a bit and often look for play pals where ever we are going.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Time is a HUGE issue with us, as it is with many couples. Playing with couples that are in much closer proximity to us is very attractive since it requires less travel time.
On the other end of the spectrum, since I travel a lot professionally, and have a hall pass, I do seek out play pals in more distant places. We also travel for pleasure a bit and often look for play pals where ever we are going.
Mr. Sexperimentors
SEXPERIMENTORS wrote:
The issue of playing with lifestyle friends that we see regularly in vanilla settings is a total non-issue. Actually, we would probably prefer more of them. We tend to gravitate toward couples that we could be with in vanilla settings without fear of them exercising lifestyle privileges in vanilla settings.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Although we haven't had the chance (yet) to meet people in the lifestyle (at least that we know of), this is exactly what my wife and I are looking for in our new friends. Having a few close friends that we can enjoy in a social setting, travel with, go to the lake with, hang out with, but still respect our person time and space, and then even closer when the lights go dim, would be the epitome of what we're looking for. Close friends with benefits.
We now live out in the Country, so its not a big issue at all, in fact we would welcome it, even with our closess neighbors. when we lived in the City, we hosted fuck parties, gang bangs, dondage parties, etc. And it never was a big deal, because we live our lives as we see fit, and don't give a rats ass what anyone else thinks. Now we live in Foley, Mo we fould a lovely home with 3 acres and its very private here, we are just told that we live to far out to party with. What a bummer that has turned out to be. We thought our little get away would be idea to party at, even spent $10,000 adding onto the home to host parties. Well what the fuck, live and learn. WE do enjoy our huge back porch now anyway.
As said in our previous post, as long as everyone is discrete, it doesn't matter to us.
But apparently, a lot of our 'neighbors' don't feel the same.
We've sent totally non-threatening e-mails to a number of folks in our area (just to say hello) and never got a response.
Their loss.
P.S.
I wonder - if we would change, and become elitists, would the elitist people then talk to us, or do they even treat each other like crap?
But apparently, a lot of our 'neighbors' don't feel the same.
We've sent totally non-threatening e-mails to a number of folks in our area (just to say hello) and never got a response.
Their loss.
P.S.
I wonder - if we would change, and become elitists, would the elitist people then talk to us, or do they even treat each other like crap?
Living in Utah, we only do it with three boobed cloned women from far away galaxies and BIANCASMITH001 porn-bots.
we tried but seems like most close couples don't answer emails, so until they do we will look elsewhere
ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:Ahhhh...to be a little bit closer...we DO answer emails! LOL
we tried but seems like most close couples don't answer emails, so until they do we will look elsewhere
And yes..we love the friends we've made in the neighborhood....Never in our wildest dreams did we realize there were so many...so close! hehehe
I wouldn't mind a couple neighbors being play friends. Would definitely liven up the neighborhood!!! Block parties would definitely be more fun!!!
I don't mind it, find it covenant that there is someone just up the street and we don't always play, sometimes we just hangout and watch the game
WETANDHARDUTCPL wrote:Then you would be close to us ..ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:
we tried but seems like most close couples don't answer emails, so until they do we will look elsewhere
Wish we were closer to you two