I keep getting couples or single females sending me friend requests, then never making anymore contact? They don't even introduce themselves. Is this common?
Must be happens to us alot
Could be because they simply want to see what you look like to see if they are interested in taking it a step further, and maybe you're not their type. I don't know what you look like, so I am honestly saying this in general terms. Also, I think people "collect" profiles to either perv on the pictures, or when someone catches their eye, they want to keep track of them even if they are not in the position to play at that moment. Or they are like me and get distracted then lose track of people. Squirrel! Lots of possible reasons.
I think a lot of people here are a bit shy, and use friend requests like a wink. They hope that you find them interesting enough to send them an email.
I get a friend request now and then, but I think it's just that they are intrigued by something in my profile and want to know more. If there is no more contact, I presume that I just did not tickle their fancy. I do not pursue anyone who has requested friendship, but only answer messages sent to me. Just the way I roll ...
We agree they just want to see your pics. Thats why we took our pictures off line. And we just go to parties from the couple we have met.
We thought they were confused and thought they were on mybook or facespace..Collecting as many friends as possible.
IE: See how popular I am? I have over 70,000 friends LOL!
We send out a friend request if we have communicated, or met them. If we have no communication; like after a year....We delete and start over.
@sexymixedcup -Did we meet at Rumours Vegas?
IE: See how popular I am? I have over 70,000 friends LOL!
We send out a friend request if we have communicated, or met them. If we have no communication; like after a year....We delete and start over.
@sexymixedcup -Did we meet at Rumours Vegas?
Our philosophy is you'll never know unless you ask. So who want's to get together? We're here to meet people, make friends and have fun. It's really hard to do when people don't communicate. We have received many blank friends request and when we get them from single males it tells us they didn't even read our profile. Like Picturegirl said, a lot of it we think is simply to access your private photos.
As far as our friends list, we keep it pared down to those we have met and those we hope to. We have no interest in profile collecting.
As far as our friends list, we keep it pared down to those we have met and those we hope to. We have no interest in profile collecting.
idk... but I keep getting them as well... sorry but if u have no pic and no message.. it gets deleted.. there is nothing to decide on if we know nothing...
SNLUTAH wrote:
I think a lot of people here are a bit shy, and use friend requests like a wink. They hope that you find them interesting enough to send them an email.
this is probably true most of the time... I'm shy and really don't know what to say in emails sometimes. besides, 95% of the time when I do take the time to write something thoughtful, they're not even courteous enough to send any kind of response. so I consider it a waste of time to send an email with a friend request, but I know how some people on here are uptight and think they are too good for friend requests, so I still send introductory emails every now and then.
SEXYMIXEDCUP wrote:
We agree they just want to see your pics. Thats why we took our pictures off line. And we just go to parties from the couple we have met.
and I disagree with this 100%... most people on here aren't picture collectors. they are mostly people who want to make friends with like minded people and see if there is an interest or a connection. I'm pretty sure every one on here wants to see pictures before meeting for the first time. so why should anybody care if the request to look at them comes from a friend request or a personalized email? when we get a friend request we look at their profile and public pics and if we are intrigued, we accept the request. then we can see the other pics and decide if we are interested in pursuing a friendship.
I'm not sure why some people are so negative and like to think the worst of everyone before they even meet. People are just people... we are all the same in that we all want to be accepted and be happy. so if someone is friend requesting me just to look at my pictures and that's what makes them happy, then why should I care? I don't have anything to hide. I like how I look and I would get naked in front of almost anybody. that doesn't mean I want to have sex with just anybody, but I don't mind them looking at me.
so to answer the original post, a friend request is just a wink or a nod from across the room... a minor display of interest that may or may not turn into something more. no need to over analyze or assume the worst...
CANDJ23 wrote:
I'm not sure why some people are so negative and like to think the worst of everyone before they even meet.
Hostile is the new sexy
Thank you all for your comments. Food for thought. I do find it more likely that the ones I have received are more like winks, and I am not too worried if people just want to see my pics. But it would be nice to get some friends who actually want to do something with me! We all know what this site is for, let's not be shy. (Easier said than done for some of us, I understand) The profile pic I have without my face is there because I think it is funny! I guess I should get another on there of my face.
SLCSEXADDICT wrote:CANDJ23 wrote:Hostile is the new sexy
I'm not sure why some people are so negative and like to think the worst of everyone before they even meet.
To each his own
Hostile is not sexy for all of us. I prefer considerate and fun.
SINGLELOGAN wrote:
Thank you all for your comments. Food for thought. I do find it more likely that the ones I have received are more like winks, and I am not too worried if people just want to see my pics. But it would be nice to get some friends who actually want to do something with me! We all know what this site is for, let's not be shy. (Easier said than done for some of us, I understand) The profile pic I have without my face is there because I think it is funny! I guess I should get another on there of my face.
I dont think a face pic is what you need but maybe a little bit more of what you look like is always nice. I dont except a request unless I get a message and still at that the message has to be the right one
we get tons of friend requests mostly we assume so people can look at our photos. some we accept some we dont. some get accepted we check them out and then either keep them and try and make contact or delete them and like some others if we havent talked to you in quite a while it seems likely that we will delete you....simple right? oh hell I confused myself
SLCSEXADDICT wrote:
Hostile is the new sexy
Being hostile is NOT sexy. Rudeness, arrogance, and negativity make even the best looking people unattractive... although it does make for an entertaining read occassionally...
too much of it does get tiresome.SLCJEEPER wrote:Sounds like us.....can't say we've ever "collected" anyones picture...we don't save them....nope. There is always the curiousity...of course..to wonder what someone you've met, or want to meet, looks like.....or maybe I'm just a pervert..But I AM an HONEST pervert..lol.
Our philosophy is you'll never know unless you ask. So who want's to get together? We're here to meet people, make friends and have fun. It's really hard to do when people don't communicate. We have received many blank friends request and when we get them from single males it tells us they didn't even read our profile. Like Picturegirl said, a lot of it we think is simply to access your private photos.
As far as our friends list, we keep it pared down to those we have met and those we hope to. We have no interest in profile collecting.
That said tho, if it is someone whom you haven't met..a lot of times you can't even see a face pic, without seeing private photos. We do question all the friend requests we get from people hundreds, or even in one case, thousands, of miles away.....hmmmm....
we get a lot from out of state requests and we usually always decline. We do not travel out of state often so the chances of us meeting are probably ZERO. Nothing personal against them or their profile just the fact they are no where even close to where we live. We have some new friends that we haven't met yet and I am hoping the Naughty by Nature camp out fixes that We've noticed a lot of our "friends" will be attending and we won't be shy to say hello so if you notice us first, don't be shy to approach us. We will probably be close to the "tiki bar" or taking shots off the ice sculpture vagina ha ha.
We've noticed a lot of our "friends" will be attending and we won't be shy to say hello so if you notice us first, don't be shy to approach us. We will probably be close to the "tiki bar" or taking shots off the ice sculpture vagina ha ha.CANDJ23 wrote:SLCSEXADDICT wrote:
<sarcastic>Hostile is the new sexy
Being hostile is NOT sexy. Rudeness, arrogance, and negativity make even the best looking people unattractive... although it does make for an entertaining read occassionally...
Oops, I forgot the sarcastic tags.
y not???
PIIXXIIEE wrote:
y not???
Yep, that's part of the question
it's common. what you decide to do with them is up to you. when i get FR from profiles that have no pics or it's obvious they haven't read my profile (um, there is a part about sending an email of intro)I just ignore it and let it sit in the FR request que. That way they can't ask again. If at a later date I meet them and find they are pretty cool I will go back and accept it. I might send a blank FR but only to those I have met in person and talked to first. Otherwise I always send an email saying who I am and why I'm writing.