I am really interested in the feature as it is suppose to help clear out the fake people on the site, right?? I just talked with a "Single Male" that is interested in hooking up with couples and single females. However he isnt single he is married and is looking to cheat on his wife. So why do we even have thats feature when they verifies a liar.
I think the 'permission' is a HUGE difference.
Cheating and swinging are two completely different things. Swinging is about building a relationship into something new and exciting together, cheating is about tearing it down and destroying the relationship. When we choose to open up our relationship to other people, those people have the integrity to deserve to be there. Swinging isnt just screwing someone...anyone.
Cheating and swinging are two completely different things. Swinging is about building a relationship into something new and exciting together, cheating is about tearing it down and destroying the relationship. When we choose to open up our relationship to other people, those people have the integrity to deserve to be there. Swinging isnt just screwing someone...anyone.
@TINKFROMHELL- I think when this kinda stuff happens, every one of those cocksuckers should be called out. We don't owe them a thing, and if you're a cheat and a liar, others should be warned, and then make their own decision. Might save some really nice people a lot of drama. There's nothing worse than a liar and a cheat. I think he just messed with the wrong woman. Nice work sweety!
Johnny-The-Rock
Johnny-The-Rock
I believe in honesty. I speak my mind and let things lay where they fall. This often upsets people with differing opinions. I believe that having different opinions is a good thing and I know that we will not all agree in this.
If we start calling out the people we think are cheaters, what is to stop someone from lying about you and saying that you are a cheater. There are some pretty hot feelings that get displayed here. It doesn
If we start calling out the people we think are cheaters, what is to stop someone from lying about you and saying that you are a cheater. There are some pretty hot feelings that get displayed here. It doesn
When We recived our "Real" mark its because We met the Admin.
Not sure how they've been doing it these days but my understanding "Real" = a real contact and not a bot.
Now for the understanding of Fake pepole on here looking for sex isn't fake and last I understood lots of married couple solo some times telling there spouse and sometimes not.
What married couples deside to tell each other is up to them, but over the years of being on this site I've noticed its based around pepole hooking up for sex with no strings.
So Making up Forums to call pepole out is kinda stupid Since out of the 100k Profiles I've read pepole are looking for sexx with no stings or drama. "Drama" as in if the sex is good who realy cares about your privet life in the real world.
Just my 2 cents
Not sure how they've been doing it these days but my understanding "Real" = a real contact and not a bot.
Now for the understanding of Fake pepole on here looking for sex isn't fake and last I understood lots of married couple solo some times telling there spouse and sometimes not.
What married couples deside to tell each other is up to them, but over the years of being on this site I've noticed its based around pepole hooking up for sex with no strings.
So Making up Forums to call pepole out is kinda stupid Since out of the 100k Profiles I've read pepole are looking for sexx with no stings or drama. "Drama" as in if the sex is good who realy cares about your privet life in the real world.
Just my 2 cents
One good measure of the authenticity of a profile is the Comments others make about those folks. Look at the bottom of the left column of the profile. I know not everyone will comment on a person or couple they have met, and I know that you have to proactively accept and that you can reject comments, but if the profile has a positive comment it's a pretty good indicator that they are real.
Mr. Sexperimentors
Mr. Sexperimentors
The VIP and REAL seal verification is not a character verification but rather a system to prove that couples and single females are actually couples and single females behind the profile. As a matter of fact, it was NEVER intended for single males and we actually stopped verifying them because people were thinking that we were vouching for them.
The only purpose the seal serves is to know that you are truly talking to real couples or single females. You still need to take the time to get to know them and figure out if they are compatible. It was put in place to combat all of the fake profiles that single men would create to try and convince others to send them photos and videos. Since nobody really wants to fake being a single male, it serves no purpose for them. Single men have it hard as it is so why would anyone want to fake being one.
And when we verify somebody, we do not verify their looks, age, color, build or any physical property so that doesn't help single men either.
The REAL seal can be given by VIP members who meet other couples and single females in person or who get verified by photos by an administrator.
The VIP seal is only given by official local hosts, chat room mods or site admins and is only given to those who we meet in person or via a special webcam session.
Hope that helps.
The only purpose the seal serves is to know that you are truly talking to real couples or single females. You still need to take the time to get to know them and figure out if they are compatible. It was put in place to combat all of the fake profiles that single men would create to try and convince others to send them photos and videos. Since nobody really wants to fake being a single male, it serves no purpose for them. Single men have it hard as it is so why would anyone want to fake being one.
And when we verify somebody, we do not verify their looks, age, color, build or any physical property so that doesn't help single men either.
The REAL seal can be given by VIP members who meet other couples and single females in person or who get verified by photos by an administrator.
The VIP seal is only given by official local hosts, chat room mods or site admins and is only given to those who we meet in person or via a special webcam session.
Hope that helps.
DE2OFUS wrote:I agree to disagree. There's a fine line between rumor and reality that none of us should cross. I know the difference. And we ALL better have some form of an unwritten "honor code", or this fucked up world would be worse than it already is because of the way people treat each other. If I'm cheating on my wife, does it make it okay because I told you? Are you gonna help me cheat on her because I was honest with you about it? Where's the "honor" in that? This isn't a portal for people to cheat on their spouse, and was never intended to be. There are even way too many fake "couples" profiles where one of the partners has no idea it exists. I think they should ALL be called out when discovered. We would feel horrible if we were unknowingly a part of destroying someone's relationship. THAT is wrong!
calling him out in an effort to ruin his ability to take full advantage of his membership on this site was wrong. He was honest with you when you spoke and now, because of some unwritten "honor code", you want to call him out by name. THAT is wrong.
DE2OFUS wrote:
calling him out in an effort to ruin his ability to take full advantage of his membership on this site was wrong. He was honest with you when you spoke and now, because of some unwritten "honor code", you want to call him out by name. THAT is wrong.
Agree 100 %
Sorry for late post me and my wife are trying to get Verified as real people and we do not know who to contact or what we have sent a email with the photo of us both and the paper with are tag and date but have not got a reply to it can any one help us like admin or some one with the power to do so ?
The verification process is far from foolproof.
If it was, the requirements needed to make sure everyone IS who/what they say they are, would throw any semblence of privacy right out the window.
Take away privacy, and you lose members.
Lose members, and the site ceases to exist.
Yeah, it's a bit of a Catch-22 for admin.
But I'll bet if any of you have a suggestion for a 100% failure proof verification/documentation system that doesn't require mug shots, fingerprints and Social Security numbers, Admin would be delighted to hear from you.
If it was, the requirements needed to make sure everyone IS who/what they say they are, would throw any semblence of privacy right out the window.
Take away privacy, and you lose members.
Lose members, and the site ceases to exist.
Yeah, it's a bit of a Catch-22 for admin.
But I'll bet if any of you have a suggestion for a 100% failure proof verification/documentation system that doesn't require mug shots, fingerprints and Social Security numbers, Admin would be delighted to hear from you.
GENERICCPL wrote:DE2OFUS wrote:We agree as well. If we wanted to be judged by the morality police we would have stayed active in the LDS Church. Anyone in this lifestyle who has the nerve to judge others should get out of the lifestyle and go back to church where you can judge others. We don't want to be judged for our sexual pursuits and we feel it's not our place to judge others, be it cheaters, bi-sexuals, transgenders members of Oprah's book club... People have to live with their own decisions and consequences and answer to their own God not our God or our morals.
calling him out in an effort to ruin his ability to take full advantage of his membership on this site was wrong. He was honest with you when you spoke and now, because of some unwritten "honor code", you want to call him out by name. THAT is wrong.
I am making a PERSONAL judgment call. I don't care if you call it morals, decency, or just definition. If he is cheating on his wife he is NOT being honest. If anyone in the lifestyle is having sex with a man or woman in this situation, they are not swinging, they are cheating on the persons spouse. I know some people who are ok with cheating. I know some people who are not. It is a judgment, and it is right an necessary. We each have the right AND responsibility to choose what and who we are ok doing. This isn't about being morality police, this is about being ok with yourself and who you play with.
PCGAMMERS wrote:
Sorry for late post me and my wife are trying to get Verified as real people and we do not know who to contact or what we have sent a email with the photo of us both and the paper with are tag and date but have not got a reply to it can any one help us like admin or some one with the power to do so ?
If you guys go to the m&g, I'm sure there are a few of us who could verify you!
PCGAMMERS wrote:
Sorry for late post me and my wife are trying to get Verified as real people and we do not know who to contact or what we have sent a email with the photo of us both and the paper with are tag and date but have not got a reply to it can any one help us like admin or some one with the power to do so ?
Administration is a bit slow from time to time. It all depends on how busy they are. They are on vegas time. Tue, wed & thursday morning at 8:05 their time. Call them at the number listed under contact us. Or just send them more email. I think it took several days for mine to go through.
As said m&g hosts can do it.
DE2OFUS wrote:
Sorry folks, you are wrong. This is not a "who is cheating on their spouse" site. This is a swingers' website. A site designed to allow persons to have sex with other persons who are not their legal spouse. The question is, "verified REAL people". The gentleman in question, who INFORMED the young lady who started this post that he was married and cheating, was apparently VERY real. It is not up to you to call this man out as someone to stay away from. It is ENTIRELY up to you whether or not you want him to have sex with your wife, KNOWING he is married and cheating. Else, where do we draw the line? Is it up to me to send a note to the entire community if I believe your wife had a hygiene problem? Should I call her out by name in a forum and label her as someone to stay away from? I think not. The question was whether or not the guy was real...he was...and, again, probably more "real" than most of the people on this site.
TINKFROMHELL wrote:
I am really interested in the feature as it is suppose to help clear out the fake people on the site, right?? I just talked with a "Single Male" that is interested in hooking up with couples and single females. However he isn't single he is married and is looking to cheat on his wife. So why do we even have that feature when they verifies a liar.
Sorry DE2OFUS, but you are wrong. The verification process is to verify that a Couple is is a real couple or a Single Female is a Single Female and not a Single Male masquerading as a couple or single female as a way to infiltrate the site being something other than a single male. That was happening at the beginning of this site. It caused a lot of problems. It is not a question of whether this person is a real person or not. But, if we were to take the Real Seal literally, it is for 'Verification' to prove that this person is what he claims. He claimed on his profile to be 'single'. He admitted he is NOT single. Therefore the verification would have been false as he was NOT a Real 'Single' Male. He was married, whether cheating or not.
ADMINISTRATOR wrote:
As a matter of fact [The VIP and REAL seal verification] was NEVER intended for single males and we actually stopped verifying them because people were thinking that we were vouching for them. The only purpose the seal serves is to know that you are truly talking to real couples or single females.
Single men have it hard as it is so why would anyone want to fake being one. And when we verify somebody, we do not verify their looks, age, color, build or any physical property so that doesn't help single men either.
For the people who do care if the SM is lying or not, men like this do a great disservice to a SM like myself who is honest and truly single, not lying on his profile about his status. And remember that Swinging by it's nature must be about honest communication. It doesn't matter that this person 'admitted' a lie. What matters is that he LIED, and that the person who posted this question wanted him to be single, not a lying cheater.
(quote) Sorry folks, you are wrong. This is not a "who is cheating on their spouse" site. This is a swingers' website. A site designed to allow persons to have sex with other persons who are not their legal spouse. The question is, "verified REAL people". The gentleman in question, who INFORMED the young lady who started this post that he was married and cheating, was apparently VERY real. It is not up to you to call this man out as someone to stay away from. It is ENTIRELY up to you whether or not you want him to have sex with your wife, KNOWING he is married and cheating.
Else, where do we draw the line? Is it up to me to send a note to the entire community if I believe your wife had a hygiene problem? Should I call her out by name in a forum and label her as someone to stay away from? I think not. The question was whether or not the guy was real...he was...and, again, probably more "real" than most of the people on this site. (quote)
DE2OFUS, you've missed the point by a country mile.
Else, where do we draw the line? Is it up to me to send a note to the entire community if I believe your wife had a hygiene problem? Should I call her out by name in a forum and label her as someone to stay away from? I think not. The question was whether or not the guy was real...he was...and, again, probably more "real" than most of the people on this site. (quote)
DE2OFUS, you've missed the point by a country mile.
Wait a minute!? I thought it was socially acceptable to cheat, I mean come on yall, it is the 21st century, who doesnt have a mistress. Damn republican states. All I'm saying is with all these new technologies, it sure does make it easy. The internet first off, thank u Al Gore! And all the emails I have to hide things from being seen. All these dating sites make it easier than fooling around with neighbors or coworkers, who always end up blabbing! Damn them! And who doesn't love cell phones! Especially smartphones, with all these apps that look like one thing but tap a button in them and its a secret file for pics, messages, and calls! I'm glad I was born in the technological age, cause life is just sweeter these days.
We're real and we cheat together. Organized, spousal approved, cheating. In other words, SWINGING. I know there are douche bags out there that try to pull shit behind their wives backs. Not good guys! We encountered one of those several years back. Kept trying to hook up with us and we actually met him once but nothing ever transpired. Come to find out he was married. Scum. We fuck, but we have hall passes to do so. So if anyone is interested in a horny, good looking couple who is like Six Flaggs in the bedroom. Hit us up!!! HAHA We're actually shy and humble, I'm just acting cool on this post.
Seriously. Who wants to play for hell sakes?
Seriously. Who wants to play for hell sakes?
It amazes me that no one, absolutely no one complains about all the married women on Swingular that have a singles page and never state that they are married in their profile. I donUTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
We're real and we cheat together. Organized, spousal approved, cheating. In other words, SWINGING. I know there are douche bags out there that try to pull shit behind their wives backs. Not good guys! We encountered one of those several years back. Kept trying to hook up with us and we actually met him once but nothing ever transpired. Come to find out he was married. Scum. We fuck, but we have hall passes to do so. So if anyone is interested in a horny, good looking couple who is like Six Flaggs in the bedroom. Hit us up!!! HAHA We're actually shy and humble, I'm just acting cool on this post. Seriously. Who wants to play for hell sakes?
Tried hitting you up, but you aren't 'taking messages at this time'
Personally we have had the same thing happen and yes most ate honest about not being single but personally the whole
This is an all too common occurrence. We once wrote to a dude who said he was a hot sexy fellow who loved to swing. Yep, you guessed it. He was really a rather stout pudgy lowland gorilla named Bruce who didn't know a THING about gorilla-scaping. AND he claimed he had a great testimonial from Jane Goodall. He did but it was another Jane Goodall, a CPA from Overland Park, Kansas. Boy did we feel stupid falling for that one. I guess you just can't trust anyone these days. We'll play, UTHOTCPL, but first tell us if you really like bananas and how much body hair you have. Ya can't be too careful ya know.
Ok, we lied. We don't really want to play. We just want to cuddle.
http://www.businessinsider.com/this-woman-is-charging-1-a-minute-to-cuddle-2012-7
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This is the male half. In my opinion, males or females posing as singles when they are married are undesirable. We've run across many and never played with any of them. You know why? Because we took the time to find out. If you're so concerned about the marital status of your partners take a moment or two to get to know them a little before you end up naked in a pile. If you're out to fuck whomever or whatever strikes your fancy that evening, then you get what you get. Be it cheater or gorilla. It's not your place to "protect" the rest of us from these undesirables. Go ahead and assume that we can take care of ourselves.
He was really a rather stout pudgy lowland gorilla named Bruce who didn't know a THING about gorilla-scaping. AND he claimed he had a great testimonial from Jane Goodall. He did but it was another Jane Goodall, a CPA from Overland Park, Kansas. Boy did we feel stupid falling for that one. I guess you just can't trust anyone these days.
Sounds like Evildoers is anti-gorilla.
Hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings. I didn't mean to. I think I need a hug! 
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
Hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings. I didn't mean to. I think I need a hug!
*HUGS*
If they let their feelings get hurt because of your honest opinion, that was their choice, not your fault.
How about a cuddle instead of a hug? Only a buck a minute.
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
We would feel horrible if we were unknowingly a part of destroying someone's relationship. THAT is wrong!
Being honest is what this whole thing is really about.
You can not destroy someone else
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:
[quote=PEBBLEROCK] We would feel horrible if we were unknowingly a part of destroying someone's relationship. THAT is wrong!
Being honest is what this whole thing is really about.
You can not destroy someone else
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
We're real and we cheat together. Organized, spousal approved, cheating. In other words, SWINGING. I know there are douche bags out there that try to pull shit behind their wives backs. Not good guys! We encountered one of those several years back. Kept trying to hook up with us and we actually met him once but nothing ever transpired. Come to find out he was married. Scum. We fuck, but we have hall passes to do so. So if anyone is interested in a horny, good looking couple who is like Six Flaggs in the bedroom. Hit us up!!! HAHA We're actually shy and humble, I'm just acting cool on this post.
Seriously. Who wants to play for hell sakes?
We do we do.
So I have been accused of this very thing as I have a single male profile MRCNK. But I have a hall pass with full blessing and knowledge of the Mrs. (as she puts it I am a rabid sex maniac and her vagina needs more rest than I am willing to give it...ok not really). TINKFROM just tell the guy you are totally down to play as soon as you can talk to his wife and get permission, that should shut him up!
The funny double standard is we have watched couples and guys jump all over a girl who is cheating and is just "unfulfilled" but a guy who does it is a cheating asshat douchebag...which in truth they are both cheaters!
UTHOT - it is not cheating, just think of it as creative coloring outside of the lines!
The funny double standard is we have watched couples and guys jump all over a girl who is cheating and is just "unfulfilled" but a guy who does it is a cheating asshat douchebag...which in truth they are both cheaters!
UTHOT - it is not cheating, just think of it as creative coloring outside of the lines!
One of the biggest reasons I am in the lifestyle is because everything that I know from the couples, sf and sm I associate with. Is it is wrapped in honesty, trust, respect and dignity. The swingers I hang with must be the most amazing out there because this is not allowed with any of them
We met a couple that lied about age and had old pics on profile, we did not want to verify them but asked the ADMIN what we should do. We were told that it's to prove gender an nothing more. So if you meet a man and woman that are a couple you verify, even if they are not married. Meeting a single male who said he is married on a married profile is not good enough to verify, must see or meet both. Think it's more about men posing as a couple which we have seen many times or posing as a woman to collect pictures. It's not perfect but think it does work if people verify correctly.
CNKISS wrote:
The funny double standard is we have watched couples and guys jump all over a girl who is cheating and is just "unfulfilled" but a guy who does it is a cheating asshat douchebag...which in truth they are both cheaters!
I agree. I wonder if some excuse them for cheating because they are so rare. I bet if they were as easy to find as men they would also be held to account.
Here's an idea. If we discover cheaters, let's just tell them to go to AshleyMadison.com and leave the swinging to the honest people.
Yes, I know not all Swingers are honest or think it is our place to judge. I disagree. We always make judgments for what is acceptable to us and what is not. Swinging is about honest fun and cheaters are not being honest, so why should we include them? The suggestion is only for those of us who want honesty. Think about this, if there was no honesty swinging would cease to exist.
We played Monopoly once with a cheater. It sucked. :-(
I think it all boils down to the fact that some people sort of go thru life with the attitude that 'all is fair in love and war'...'survival of the fittest'...'you snooze you lose'...'what would you do for a Klondike bar?'...ok maybe not that last one but you get my point. Some people think living life for themselves (I guess the kids nowadays call it selfish? crazy kids!) and not really taking others into account is just being proactive or self confident or something like that whereas others live their lives with maybe a little more concern for others feelings as well. Just live your life like you want, I guess, but don't expect those who don't to see your point of view to not think you're a total cuntburger (with extra cheese) for not agreeing with how they live THEIR lives. Perhaps we should have TWO Swingulars. One would be regular Swingular and one could be Swingular Plus and could be for those that think cheating is cool and as long as the cheater doesn't drink all their beer or scratch their CD's or forget to flush the toilet then what's the BFD?
I think it all boils down to the fact that some people sort of go thru life with the attitude that 'all is fair in love and war'...'survival of the fittest'...'you snooze you lose'...'what would you do for a Klondike bar?'...ok maybe not that last one but you get my point. Some people think living life for themselves (I guess the kids nowadays call it selfish? crazy kids!) and not really taking others into account is just being proactive or self confident or something like that whereas others live their lives with maybe a little more concern for others feelings as well. Just live your life like you want, I guess, but don't expect those who don't to see your point of view to not think you're a total cuntburger (with extra cheese) for not agreeing with how they live THEIR lives. Perhaps we should have TWO Swingulars. One would be regular Swingular and one could be Swingular Plus and could be for those that think cheating is cool and as long as the cheater doesn't drink all their beer or scratch their CD's or forget to flush the toilet then what's the BFD?