We are new and planing on meeting our first couple this weekend. My wife is totally nervous about this because she has no idea what is going to happen and she likes to plan everything out to the last second.
We plan on meeting at a bar and having a drink and then they will take us to their home.
Now from there on we dont know if or what is the norm or if there is a so called protocall.
My wife wants the guy to 'clean up' but does not know how to bring it up . Also the lady is bi-curious. ok what is the difference between curious and bi comfortable.....
my wife never done anything with a woman but would like to give it a shot but does not want to go down on the wife . She would like to explore that path but wants to see how it feels first.
Now , please help us with some insider information and maybe some tips how to ease her mind.
We plan on meeting at a bar and having a drink and then they will take us to their home.
Now from there on we dont know if or what is the norm or if there is a so called protocall.
My wife wants the guy to 'clean up' but does not know how to bring it up . Also the lady is bi-curious. ok what is the difference between curious and bi comfortable.....
my wife never done anything with a woman but would like to give it a shot but does not want to go down on the wife . She would like to explore that path but wants to see how it feels first.
Now , please help us with some insider information and maybe some tips how to ease her mind.
Keep in mind they are probably just as nervous as you, so just BE YOURSELF. During drinks, test the waters by just placing a hand on her back, and have her make contact with him as well. There does always seem to be that awkward moment of "well, should we?" but just be confident and don't be afraid to make the first move. Maybe kiss your wife, and then invite the other woman to kiss her too...
Bi curious, in my opinion, is when you find women attractive, maybe enjoy kissing them, playing with breasts, but it's waist up. Bi comfortable is when you are willing to go down on a woman, and test the waters there, but still definitely prefer a man. That is just my own definition.
Oh, and if you meet them, and the chemistry isn't there, don't be afraid to back out. Never do something just because you feel obligated. I've made that mistake and it just isn't worth it.
Bi curious, in my opinion, is when you find women attractive, maybe enjoy kissing them, playing with breasts, but it's waist up. Bi comfortable is when you are willing to go down on a woman, and test the waters there, but still definitely prefer a man. That is just my own definition.
Oh, and if you meet them, and the chemistry isn't there, don't be afraid to back out. Never do something just because you feel obligated. I've made that mistake and it just isn't worth it.
Yeah, what she said.
I think we tend to over-engineer things like this. Stay within your comfort zone; you're not going to be crazy about everyone you meet; let nature take its course.
I think we tend to over-engineer things like this. Stay within your comfort zone; you're not going to be crazy about everyone you meet; let nature take its course.
wesee is correct. Just be honest and polite. It is Ok to let others know that for you some things are out of bounds. Simply work out the rest as you go.
At 9:15pm start discussing the options of play, then at 9:30 all clothes should be off, and people should now be playing with their respective partners. Use a position for only 10-15 minutes to increase time efficiency, and energy. By 11:30 you should be putting clothes back on, and making your way out the door. Call backs are not to be placed until at least 12-16 hours have passed. If you set alarms or timers on your phones, it makes it so much easier.
If you're still reading, do what feels right. Be open and honest with each other first discussing what might happen, and what you're comfortable with. Then have that same open communication with the prospective couple, and when the vibe feels right, let things happen as they may. Above all, have fun with it, there's no guideline to what you have to do, or when it has to be done. Relax, and enjoy your evening!
If you're still reading, do what feels right. Be open and honest with each other first discussing what might happen, and what you're comfortable with. Then have that same open communication with the prospective couple, and when the vibe feels right, let things happen as they may. Above all, have fun with it, there's no guideline to what you have to do, or when it has to be done. Relax, and enjoy your evening!
Or like we said last night, we can be lucky enough to have a wife who isn't shy about instigation... 
I thought we established a LONG time ago here that, as far as bi-curious goes, you're only curious until you've had a "first contact" encounter.
From that point on - you're either straight, bi COMFORTABLE or bi sexual.
It's like being "almost" a virgin, and a "little bit" pregnant.
Gray areas quickly become either black or white.
From that point on - you're either straight, bi COMFORTABLE or bi sexual.
It's like being "almost" a virgin, and a "little bit" pregnant.
Gray areas quickly become either black or white.