What is the first thing you look at when you pull up a profile?
age, orientation, height/weight, and then i check out pics and skim the "about me" to make sure there are no big conflicts of interests.
First off Iwe look at whether or not they'll kiss, and then whether or not they'll full swap...
I look to see how they feel about single guys, and hope they like coffee.
Sexual orientatation, body type, and then we tend to read everything else to determine their charactor and preferances
If they are ok with single men, and if they smoke. Smoking, even stale breath, is a complete turn off. Nasty stuff. Then I move on to everything else.
For us kissing and sexual orientation then if female play is a big part of their play. Wife is not into bi at all
We only subscribe here to read the articles..... We don't look at the pictures in our Playboy either.
TIFFND wrote:
Sexual orientatation, body type, and then we tend to read everything else to determine their charactor and preferances
Well I know we are a couple of characters...
lolSPEXDEX wrote:TIFFND wrote:
Sexual orientatation, body type, and then we tend to read everything else to determine their charactor and preferances
Well I know we are a couple of characters...
Yes you are...lol
I have a mental check list of things I want in a couple and as I go down the list, if anything doesn't match up, I start to lose interest. however, there are a few things that I am willing to overlook if they make up for it in another area. my list is age, sexual orientation, height/weight, location, if they do girl on girl AND full swap, then I look at pics, and if I'm still intersted at that point, then I read the profile...
We look at pics. Too hot? Too not? Then we don't bother going any further. Is that shallow? Perhaps, but hey, we're in this for sexual friendships, and we need to know that we can be turned on without feeling overwhelmed. If the guy is hung like a light pole and the woman is shaped like Barbie then we move on. That being said we do want to be excited about how both halves of the couple look.
Then of course there are all of the other compatibility issues, sexual orientation of both halves of the couple, swing prefs, etc...
Then we move into the "looking for" section, as well as the "about us" section. And I saw someone here put it perfectly. If it's a 20 minute read forget it, if it's too little forget it too.
Then of course there are all of the other compatibility issues, sexual orientation of both halves of the couple, swing prefs, etc...
Then we move into the "looking for" section, as well as the "about us" section. And I saw someone here put it perfectly. If it's a 20 minute read forget it, if it's too little forget it too.
The first 4 things swingular provides at the top and are input all at one glance. Age= roughly 30-55, Orientation = No bi anything guys! Height and weight= fairly tight range on this. IF the guy is in the 200-250 range he better be over 6'tall. Also join date is considered. if you have been on here 5 or more years.... it scares us.
IF this all looks good then "play level" comes into the equation and I always read the entire profile. a few spelling mistakes are allowed but not many. Then look at pics, Send a hello if interested or even a hi or offer for advice to the real young kids. Sometimes send a compliment for very foxy gals with no expectations.
IF this all looks good then "play level" comes into the equation and I always read the entire profile. a few spelling mistakes are allowed but not many. Then look at pics, Send a hello if interested or even a hi or offer for advice to the real young kids. Sometimes send a compliment for very foxy gals with no expectations.
Location, age, orientation then photos.
If we're still OK at this point - then we start reading.
We read the ENTIRE profile to get a feel for them.
There are probably those who would consider parts of our profile to be elitist (we would, of course, disagree), but we want to determine if the couple has an "attitude" or not.
There's a HUGE difference between coming across as elitist, and stating what you want and/or are looking for.
That's what we've tried to do in our profile.
Our radar has gotten pretty good in that regard.
Essentially, we're looking for folks who are just plain folks - as we are.
No drama, no hoops, no games.
It's amazing what you can learn about people just by reading their profile.
Lots of misspelling and poor grammar - we'll probably not converse well together.
Strict H/W proportinate criteria - you're not gonna like us.
Smokers - we're not gonna like you (he quit 19 months ago after 52 years). Can't stand odor now.
We're neither prejudiced nor bigoted - but we know what we like and don't like.
So, when it comes right down to it, are we REALLY any different in how we view others' profile than anyone else?
If we're still OK at this point - then we start reading.
We read the ENTIRE profile to get a feel for them.
There are probably those who would consider parts of our profile to be elitist (we would, of course, disagree), but we want to determine if the couple has an "attitude" or not.
There's a HUGE difference between coming across as elitist, and stating what you want and/or are looking for.
That's what we've tried to do in our profile.
Our radar has gotten pretty good in that regard.
Essentially, we're looking for folks who are just plain folks - as we are.
No drama, no hoops, no games.
It's amazing what you can learn about people just by reading their profile.
Lots of misspelling and poor grammar - we'll probably not converse well together.
Strict H/W proportinate criteria - you're not gonna like us.
Smokers - we're not gonna like you (he quit 19 months ago after 52 years). Can't stand odor now.
We're neither prejudiced nor bigoted - but we know what we like and don't like.
So, when it comes right down to it, are we REALLY any different in how we view others' profile than anyone else?
If the sneak peak info meshes then I'll look at the rest of the profile. I tend to just read from top to bottom, looking at pictures last. I do get pretty excited if the female half is taller than me! A couple of things I always pay attention to is kissing, girl on girl and swap preference. It bugs me when there's a bunch of n/a's.
I've yet to send a friend request but it's only due to shyness.
~Mrs E
I've yet to send a friend request but it's only due to shyness.
~Mrs E
We look for the tag line "we will fuck anything" then we know we have a shot
I think we tend to look at location, age, weight, then read the profile. We are very pragmatic in knowing that a 24 year old hard body isn't going to want to snuggle up to a big 50 year old teddy bear. We know we may be a little soft around the edges. We read the profile to see if there is any connection. You can tell a lot about a personality by how they word their profile. We then look at the pictures. You can tell a lot about them from pictures as well. For us it's more about connection than size.
Since we're looking more for friends with benefits, we're looking for a connection. If they look like a couple that we would want to go out and do things with, including maybe some traveling, then we'll send them a note.
I'll take this time to apologize to those I may have sent a note or friends request and never gotten back to or sent two notes to. Sometimes I use my phone at work to look at the site. I guess my eyes suck and have screwed up!
Since we're looking more for friends with benefits, we're looking for a connection. If they look like a couple that we would want to go out and do things with, including maybe some traveling, then we'll send them a note.
I'll take this time to apologize to those I may have sent a note or friends request and never gotten back to or sent two notes to. Sometimes I use my phone at work to look at the site. I guess my eyes suck and have screwed up!