Yes as I am currently a single male and part of it comes down to this. The times I've taken a friend or playmate to a event I never cared how much they played or who with but when it was my turn I always felt bad, almost guilty even though I had permission. I'm wondering how often this has happened or happens to others. Also if you overcame it, how?
Thanks for the help
Thanks for the help
It's because you are and have always been a perfect gentlemen. Always putting your date first. Definitely not the typical single male.. We love you chef..............
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SIMPLEPLEASURES wrote:
It's because you are and have always been a perfect gentlemen. Always putting your date first. Definitely not the typical single male.. We love you chef..............
Simples
AWE, blushing. Thanks I love both of you to
I gave up guilt a long time ago. For me it is a matter of respect and not a question of guilt. Were I to escort a lady, other than my own to an event, it then depends on the arrangements and parameters we had discussed beforehand.
My lady is part of me and I will not generally play with out her and will only do so with her consent or urging. It is not that I need her permission even though I already have it. It is a matter of respect for her and our ?togetherness?. (My apologies for the inadequacies
My lady is part of me and I will not generally play with out her and will only do so with her consent or urging. It is not that I need her permission even though I already have it. It is a matter of respect for her and our ?togetherness?. (My apologies for the inadequacies
This is why we almost insist on only spending our time with married couples!! The longer the better.
It sounds like you may not have communicated enough before the party. or one of you has more feelings or less for each other. As far as we are concerned this trend of single folks hooking up to bypass the couples only rules is not a good one.
It sounds like you may not have communicated enough before the party. or one of you has more feelings or less for each other. As far as we are concerned this trend of single folks hooking up to bypass the couples only rules is not a good one.
MAYBEMOR wrote:
This is why we almost insist on only spending our time with married couples!! The longer the better.
It sounds like you may not have communicated enough before the party. or one of you has more feelings or less for each other. As far as we are concerned this trend of single
folks hooking up to bypass the couples only rules is not a good one.
I'm not trying to bypass anything or anyone. The communication has always been fine. It may come down to the fact that I am a giver not a taker or maybe simple pleasures nailed it
MAYBEMOR wrote:
This is why we almost insist on only spending our time with married couples!! The longer the better.
It sounds like you may not have communicated enough before the party. or one of you has more feelings or less for each other. As far as we are concerned this trend of single folks hooking up to bypass the couples only rules is not a good one.
If you spend all your time with couples then why are you kicking this guy in the nuts? Your comments make you seem very pretenious. This seems to be the MO of a few couples here.
CHEFFATMAN wrote:MAYBEMOR wrote:I'm not trying to bypass anything or anyone. The communication has always been fine. It may come down to the fact that I am a giver not a taker or maybe simple pleasures nailed it
This is why we almost insist on only spending our time with married couples!! The longer the better. It sounds like you may not have communicated enough before the party. or one of you has more feelings or less for each other. As far as we are concerned this trend of single folks hooking up to bypass the couples only rules is not a good one.
I understand the hesitation and think that
S&s I agree, I've always been a person that puts the needs of others before mine and actually prefer watching the other person get pleasured more than getting pleasured myself. So it's a double whammy sort of. I'd rather watch my partner be satisfied while maybe performing oral on the swapped partner rather than actual intercorse at the same time. Like I put in my profile, I get off by helping others get off
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
It is because you know deep down inside you might wreck the girl you play with for any other man and do not want to be responsible for that. Seriously I would not worry about it. Better to be overly considerate than inconsiderate.
For sure I don't want to ruin anyone or thier relationship and not trying to steal anyone away. I want to help them as a couple. As for Maybe more I know they have had some bad experiences with single males, I hold nothing against them or thier views although I don't believe they have met me. Thank you everyone for the kind words, help and opinions
[quote=UCANTOUCHMYMONKY]Sugarandspice said "most swingers are down on single men. So many males are here for their own pleasure period. It is the God
I believe everyone has a right to their own opinion and the only times they should keep it to themselves is when it is hurtful to other people or groups of people. Not everyone on the site or in the community will get along, it happens. But I posted an issue that is important to me and asked for help. Not for bickering between 'gangs' however one person has posted more than once and never once touched the question. I found that intriguing. All people have brought up some valid points, mine being how do I date someone and we swing if I don't feel right when it's my turn for pleasure? Maybe I just let her have at it. As a single male however I can attend certain events and if asked to join can help a couple satisfy a fantasy or need and in doing so I am happy. There are no concerns for my partner and her feelings
I think that I've only had the pleasure of meeting sp and dw. I am always looking forward to getting to know more people and becomming friends. However some would have to get over the fact that I'm a single male and over weight. But if we are ever at the same event come say hi, I'm actually a nice guy
the misses here... I have permission to play on my own, but I choose not to. and the reason I don't is not out of guilt, but because I know I would spend the entire time wishing he was there with me and I wouldn't be able to fully enjoy myself. so it would be pretty much pointless for me. when I experience pleasure with other people, I want him to be there with me to share the experience... that kind of sharing is true gratification...
[quote=UCANTOUCHMYMONKY]Sugarandspice said "most swingers are down on single men. So many males are here for their own pleasure period. It is the God
It wasn't you at all 
I liked your comment alot actually
I liked your comment alot actuallyChief,
I do not know exactly what you are experiencing, but I might think it is like how I use to feel when we first started having male guests over.... I use to sometimes think that my partner was being 'cheated' in some way... I, over the years communicated this to him, and he repeatedly reassured me that there is noting like that going on. At this point in our lives I do not even have that thought enter my mind anymore, as long as you are communicating honestly, and being considerate of your partner(s) I would say its you are doing just fine.
Remember, everyone enjoys different aspects of this lifestyle.
Oh boy, Candj23, you are singing my song.
I also have full clearance to play solo and I choose not to.
My sexual turn-on is my husband and sharing the experience with him.
I have indulged in solo play a few times, but it is never as pleasureful and gratifying as with my partner. You hit the nail on the head... "that kind of sharing is true gratification..."
I do not know exactly what you are experiencing, but I might think it is like how I use to feel when we first started having male guests over.... I use to sometimes think that my partner was being 'cheated' in some way... I, over the years communicated this to him, and he repeatedly reassured me that there is noting like that going on. At this point in our lives I do not even have that thought enter my mind anymore, as long as you are communicating honestly, and being considerate of your partner(s) I would say its you are doing just fine.
Remember, everyone enjoys different aspects of this lifestyle.
Oh boy, Candj23, you are singing my song.
I also have full clearance to play solo and I choose not to.
My sexual turn-on is my husband and sharing the experience with him.
I have indulged in solo play a few times, but it is never as pleasureful and gratifying as with my partner. You hit the nail on the head... "that kind of sharing is true gratification..."