My wife is getting soooooo tired of being with men who cannot get an erection when it's time to play. Obviously, some men have physical reasons for not being able to achieve an erection but, it has been quite some time since she has been with a male who could get an erection. We mostly swap with couples who are in our same age area. Perhaps this could be an attributing factor as it is natural for a male at the age of approximately 50 to have erection challenges. More times than not, the men have had too much to drink and proclaim they have "whisky dick." She understands this, but come on! If you are there to play, it seems like you would limit your alcohol intake to be able to perform adequately. We are by no means whatsoever tee-totalers. We drink (sometimes like a fish).
Has anyone else experienced this issue? If so, what's the answer?
Frustrated in Pensacola
Has anyone else experienced this issue? If so, what's the answer?
Frustrated in Pensacola
It happens to the best of us. I've gotten nervous a couple times. Alcohol or not, sometimes the mind takes over. It's all about just relaxing and letting yourself enjoy. There are other ways to take care of business as well.
Thanks SPEXDEX. True enough. It does happen to the best of us, but... when you (she) wants a hard dick and her swap partner can't perform, it's frustrating for her.
FLAME_N_TJ wrote:
Can't say I (TJ) have ever had the problem, and yes I am pushing 50.
The only performance problem I have ever had was not being able to cum after a night of fucking and drinking, but the erection was not the problem....lol
And as far as others Flame and I have played with we have not seen a problem either, lucky I guess.
TJ same thing here, never a problem but sometime cuming may not happen, but still doesn't mean I'm not enjoying myself
NWFLCPL32571 wrote:
Thanks SPEXDEX. True enough. It does happen to the best of us, but... when you (she) wants a hard dick and her swap partner can't perform, it's frustrating for her.
Trust me my friend, it's just as disappointing when it happens. We've learned how to overcome it in most situations, thankfully. I agree with TJ as well, I may not finish sometimes, but I'm happy to enjoy myself even without the climax!
PERSEPHONE77 wrote:
i can definately be sexually aggressive, i guess some guys are not used to that level of hunger.
That's what caught me off guard when it happened to me. Once I relaxed though, and had a minute to let the situation catch up to me, it was game on!
I have had this happen when it was extremely cold in the room. There were several of us and the widows were cracked for the air flow in the winter. It got just a little too cold for performance.
Its a state of mind.. Attitude, confidence,stimulation,alcohol,temperature,comfort factors (setting and partners) among other factors all come into play. Once you learn to navigate these influences you can "stack the deck" in your favor! 
..Having a partner(s) that understands,acknowledges and works to achieve this comfort factor is of course rewarded with the most delightful outcome... "give a girl a boner... she fucks for the day... teach her how to cultivate that boner.. she fucks for life" LOL PEACE~
..Having a partner(s) that understands,acknowledges and works to achieve this comfort factor is of course rewarded with the most delightful outcome... "give a girl a boner... she fucks for the day... teach her how to cultivate that boner.. she fucks for life" LOL PEACE~Well, for me, its not sooo important anymore if I get off...as Long (hahahah), as I can make the woman Im with feel satisfied, orally or other ways, is mostly important. I get nervous sometimes when I get with a woman for the first time and things just don't happen. Oh well. my lips and tongue and fingers have not left anyone unsatisfied yet :-) . We men are complex creatures ladies...believe it or not..we dont have a magic switch as Urban rumor may have it be known. Once I get comfortable then...well still have not left anyone un-satisfied.
it happened to us once... we invited two single males to play with me while my man recorded it all. one of the guys couldn't perform and I tried very hard to help him out. I sucked that soft dick for 45 minutes! he was young, so that wasn't a factor. and I'm not lacking in oral skills, so that wasn't a factor either. I think he was just very nervous and it happens sometimes... not anyone's fault.
Also, performing can be kinda tough on a guy. It does happen to the best of them occasionally. I was with an incredible couple. She worked in adult films, and the fact that it was a couple made it really hard to focus. I agree with all the less alcohol, more relaxation prescriptions. =)
I've only ever pulled up lame at the gate twice in my life.
Both times, I was in my 30s - both times the ladies were extremely attractive.
Both times, I was as devistated as they were dissappointed.
Nerves?
Intimidation?
I hadn't been drinking.
Who knows - and it's too late now to get a government grant, go back and look them up, and do research to find an answer.
The bottom line is, it happens, and there's not a lot we can do to prevent it happening.
I suspect "whiskey dick" is just an excuse guys use when it happens, because lord knows it would have happened to me numerous times if that was a cause.
The answer is - I don't have an answer.
Aside from those 2 incidents, there's never been an issue.
And now, in my more "seasoned" years, I feel truly blessed by what I still have and can still do with it.
I remember hearing a story back when I was in my teens, about a gang bang that had taken place.
(no, I wasn't there)
The girl was not only my next door neighbor, but also the neighborhood slut.
It was at a dance at a fire hall, and one of the guys had a key to a back room with a cot in it.
8 guys lined up and 7 of them fucked her.
#5 in line couldn't get a hardon.
For 3 days afterward, his new nickname was "limber dick".
That quickly changed as, by the 4th day, each of the other guys realized he had the clap.
"Limber dick" still smiles about it today when the subject comes up.
Both times, I was in my 30s - both times the ladies were extremely attractive.
Both times, I was as devistated as they were dissappointed.
Nerves?
Intimidation?
I hadn't been drinking.
Who knows - and it's too late now to get a government grant, go back and look them up, and do research to find an answer.
The bottom line is, it happens, and there's not a lot we can do to prevent it happening.
I suspect "whiskey dick" is just an excuse guys use when it happens, because lord knows it would have happened to me numerous times if that was a cause.
The answer is - I don't have an answer.
Aside from those 2 incidents, there's never been an issue.
And now, in my more "seasoned" years, I feel truly blessed by what I still have and can still do with it.
I remember hearing a story back when I was in my teens, about a gang bang that had taken place.
(no, I wasn't there)
The girl was not only my next door neighbor, but also the neighborhood slut.
It was at a dance at a fire hall, and one of the guys had a key to a back room with a cot in it.
8 guys lined up and 7 of them fucked her.
#5 in line couldn't get a hardon.
For 3 days afterward, his new nickname was "limber dick".
That quickly changed as, by the 4th day, each of the other guys realized he had the clap.
"Limber dick" still smiles about it today when the subject comes up.
We have had this happen to us plenty of times. We have noticed that this happens more so with guys over the age of 43. We always ask if the guy knows he has this problem, why doesn't he go to see the DR and be put on a pill? It's very disapointing being aroused and ready to be just let down. As for my husband, he has never had a problem of it getting hard and he's over 50.
It happens, and for the folks that are saying it doesn't happen to this group or that age range do not understand the physiology and anatomy of the human body. A guy can be fine and something can distract him and it's over, then if he even worries about it at all it might not happen. Same with a lady having an orgasm, sometimes they do and sometimes they don't and she can be close and something can distract her and she's done too.
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Well said, my Sweet TNT4FUN2!
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It happens! Not everyone can get it up on command. My man's multi-orgasmic and will stay hard as a rock for a long time. But that's pretty unusual. We've played with couples where the other man couldn't get as hard as he'd like or stay hard as long as he'd like. It's just a part of life. To the gents that know they're going to have a hard time getting some time hard, get a Viagra. You don't have to tell a soul and nobody will ever know. For you guys that get a little taken by surprise when it doesn't come to attention on occasion - there are other ways to please a woman - know them all and be ready willing and able. Most women, including me, are very understanding.
Persephone, you need to meet my man! I want to watch you rock each other!
Mrs. Sexperimentor
Persephone, you need to meet my man! I want to watch you rock each other!
Mrs. Sexperimentor
SEXPERIMENTORS wrote:
It happens! Not everyone can get it up on command. My man's multi-orgasmic and will stay hard as a rock for a long time. But that's pretty unusual. We've played with couples where the other man couldn't get as hard as he'd like or stay hard as long as he'd like. It's just a part of life. To the gents that know they're going to have a hard time getting some time hard, get a Viagra. You don't have to tell a soul and nobody will ever know. For you guys that get a little taken by surprise when it doesn't come to attention on occasion - there are other ways to please a woman - know them all and be ready willing and able. Most women, including me, are very understanding.
Persephone, you need to meet my man! I want to watch you rock each other!
Mrs. Sexperimentor
Amen to this! I have done my best to be able to please in more ways than merely "putting it in..." I like to use my hands, my lips, my to the, etc... to make sure one way or another she gets satisfied!
OMFG wife come quick, told you, happens to everyone and not your fault.
Please don't tell my secret about not really needing a blue pill but when it comes to play time with others it's really magic, let them think it's just for old fucks and useless. In the mean time what did the package say about going over 4 hours, maybe I should put the dock on speed dial just in case.
OK so there is a downside to this for me, most of the time I don't get off, but I still look on the bright side, I enjoy my play time without a worry.
And one more issue I deal with, trying to tell a woman I enjoyed myself more than I deserve and still can't cum. (did they believe me?)
Please don't tell my secret about not really needing a blue pill but when it comes to play time with others it's really magic, let them think it's just for old fucks and useless. In the mean time what did the package say about going over 4 hours, maybe I should put the dock on speed dial just in case.
OK so there is a downside to this for me, most of the time I don't get off, but I still look on the bright side, I enjoy my play time without a worry.
And one more issue I deal with, trying to tell a woman I enjoyed myself more than I deserve and still can't cum. (did they believe me?)
It is not a problem that men discuss often even among themselves but it does eventually happen to all men. I know that how well I perform is directly proportional to how I feel at the time. So I don