..We thought it would be nice to share them with others just joining the lifestyle the ones we call newbies. I can only imagine it would very valuable info and insights for those who are just starting out...
Newbies couples-You two talked about this for how many years? So don't expect to sign up here and get what you want in 2 weeks.. Think more in terms of months. Take your time and enjoy each baby step as it happens.. Picture taking, sexy shopping, Chatting with others, meeting your first couple.. Each step is exciting and will do wonders for your relationship and sex life!
Talk to each other and be brutally honest especially when something happens that you do not like. Be honest about your feelings and always be respectful of how your partner feels. Lying about any of this will end badly.
What ever you do, do it together.
What ever you do, do it together.
Own your choices and respect others.
The number one thing We have learned is: Whoever goes to Town to pick up Ice, bring back an extra couple of "Blow Jobs", Or at least One for Me and One for my Buddy. Thanks Big Steve
get verified and get a web cam, most people are gonna want to see you before they agree to meet you. for us if we can see you on web cam first there is no way we are going to agree to meet you, two many decade old photos floating around out there
Open communication, know your limits, ladies call the shots, treat people with respect, take care of the ladies first, and try to have a little fun!
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
The number one thing We have learned is: Whoever goes to Town to pick up Ice, bring back an extra couple of "Blow Jobs", Or at least One for Me and One for my Buddy. Thanks Big Steve
You're so damn funny Big Steve! Never a dull moment hanging out with you two.
NEVER do anything you're not 100% sure you can look at yourself in the mirror afterwards.
Set clear boundaries and don't cross them unless you discuss it first.
Do: Set rules beforehand while you're not horny. Lol. If you can't talk about it while you're not in the heat of the moment, you're probably not ready. Do: Have fun and flirt and enjoy the attention you'll get from the opposite sex. Just because you spent 10 minutes flirting with someone at a party, doesn't mean you have to sleep with them. Course you might get lucky too.
Don't: Change rules while you're "sex drunk". That's that fastest road to drama.
Don't: Start or participate in drama. That news spreads like wildfire. You'll wonder why you no longer get invites to parties.
Don't: Change rules while you're "sex drunk". That's that fastest road to drama.
Don't: Start or participate in drama. That news spreads like wildfire. You'll wonder why you no longer get invites to parties.
JSTJIM72 wrote:
NEVER do anything you're not 100% sure you can look at yourself in the mirror afterwards.
and that is why i have removed all mirrors from my house. now i have no issues with that.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:JSTJIM72 wrote:
NEVER do anything you're not 100% sure you can look at yourself in the mirror afterwards.
and that is why i have removed all mirrors from my house. now i have no issues with that.
that is damn funny!!! So my question is at what point are you no longer newbies?
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
The number one thing We have learned is: Whoever goes to Town to pick up Ice, bring back an extra couple of "Blow Jobs", Or at least One for Me and One for my Buddy. Thanks Big Steve
All good advice! But I REALLY like this idea!! Thanks Big Steve!!!
At what point are you no longer newbies? Interesting question! I guess the easy answer to this is you're no longer a newbie when you don't feel like one. I still feel like one and we've been swinging for years. Maybe another answer is you're no longer a newbie when you've been at it longer than the other couple you're with. A third answer might be that you're no longer a newbie when you no longer worry about being one.
Mr. Experimentor
Mr. Experimentor
Three really important things.
Communication, communication, communication.
Communication, communication, communication.
SEXPERIMENTORS wrote:
At what point are you no longer newbies? Interesting question! I guess the easy answer to this is you're no longer a newbie when you don't feel like one. I still feel like one and we've been swinging for years. Maybe another answer is you're no longer a newbie when you've been at it longer than the other couple you're with. A third answer might be that you're no longer a newbie when you no longer worry about being one.
Mr. Experimentor
Nice answers! I guess my newbie feeling (this is the female half) went away very fast! I am very open to sexual experiences and very open minded....and I guess my feeling is I am always hoping to have some kind of new experience. Isnt that the point??
Drinking a little to overcome natural inhibitions is OK. Drinking so much that you don't remember who or what you did... IS NOT>
My advice to *newbies*
1) unless your marriage is already at 100% do NOT try Swinging. It won't fix your marriage.
2) Total and Complete communication with your spouse/other half is vital.
3) Don't be in a rush. Enjoy the journey =)
4) Set rules before hand. If something comes up that you weren't expecting to have a problem with but DO, let your partner know asap.
5)Don't ever feel pressured to do anything.
6) NEVER *take one for the team* or expect your spouse to either. That never ends well.
7)Patience! A lot of people on here have crazy work schedules, kids or both. If something clicked with a couple/single, waiting for the opportunity to get together, it will be worth it.
8)At least for us, our life doesn't revolve around Swinging. We enjoy it. We've made great friends and had some amazingly sexy fun, but at the end of the day our lives with our kids, family, and friends always comes first.
9) Have Safe Fun =)
*Amber
1) unless your marriage is already at 100% do NOT try Swinging. It won't fix your marriage.
2) Total and Complete communication with your spouse/other half is vital.
3) Don't be in a rush. Enjoy the journey =)
4) Set rules before hand. If something comes up that you weren't expecting to have a problem with but DO, let your partner know asap.
5)Don't ever feel pressured to do anything.
6) NEVER *take one for the team* or expect your spouse to either. That never ends well.
7)Patience! A lot of people on here have crazy work schedules, kids or both. If something clicked with a couple/single, waiting for the opportunity to get together, it will be worth it.
8)At least for us, our life doesn't revolve around Swinging. We enjoy it. We've made great friends and had some amazingly sexy fun, but at the end of the day our lives with our kids, family, and friends always comes first.
9) Have Safe Fun =)
*Amber
LOOKN4A3RD4FUN wrote:
My advice to *newbies*
1) unless your marriage is already at 100% do NOT try Swinging. It won't fix your marriage.
*Amber
what about the people that weren't married when they started swinging
communicate,,, communicate... and more communicate