My wife and I have had a beautiful baby boy. still have a month to go before we can have sex. it has already been 2 since last time. To the ladies out there if this happened to you what would you do if your guy just wanted somebody to fuck what would you do?
Her ass didn't have a baby...just sayin'. ;-)
Ya, the doctor said you can't have sex, but what did the dentist say????? Does her mouth still work?
A civilized man might wait.
I'm sure such a "hand-some" man could come up with other opportunities to satisfy any urges...
With all the emotions right after a baby, honestly I'd be a little pissed that he couldn't be sensitive enough to wait until I could with him...we never played with anyone else during that very emotional time....but that was just us and I think after 19 years, we're doing something right (for us anyway) Congrats on the new baby 
true that is why I am and yes she has ben doing the best she can that is why i was askig
thanks all very much!!!
thanks all very much!!!
Rub one off, and deal with it. She has been through more than you could imagine. and this is the Mr. typing. Could you imagine pushing something the size of a watermelon through your ass. or lets even say the size of a Lemon.. We have had three kids, and I can say I feel what you are saying. But, things will get better. And if when she gets back to feeling better, and through all the things she has been through, if you are not behind her 100% through it all, she may have some hard feelings after.
Don't they have hookers in Georgia? jk And my initial response was also a joke. I'm with the "just be patient and deal with things yourself" line of thought. I mean it's only a few months, not like you're in prison or something. Unless...this was a thinly veiled plea for some pity sex from someone out in swingerland. We had a friend email us once after she had minor surgery asking Ms. Evil to "take care" of her hubby's "needs" while she was temporarily incapacitated. Yeah, might have worked too if it hadn't only been like two days. (and it was probably the hubby sending the email) LOL I can totally recommend a great lube and the URL's for some good, free internet porn.
Evil
Evil
Yeah I have been seeing mary and her sisers wife has done what she can the birth went well we had a c section and no i have not been trying to push her any way so I will continue to watch streamex.com and talking with you guys and thanks for the grads everyone.
Well first off you married her so I would hope she is an Oral gal? > or its your fault! May I suggest on your next day off and during the week help out as much as you can and around the house and with your son or daughter as I suspect the work load that has been dumped on your lovely wife is the major sex reducing factor.
Plus you may tell her from my point of view and many other males that post birth women bodies look hot. Sure they are not model bodies but Us guys are envious of women for the ability they have to carry our child and mature guys enjoy the different look of a women who has just given the World so much. Something very animalistic about a mom.
Plus you may tell her from my point of view and many other males that post birth women bodies look hot. Sure they are not model bodies but Us guys are envious of women for the ability they have to carry our child and mature guys enjoy the different look of a women who has just given the World so much. Something very animalistic about a mom.
MAYBEMOR wrote:
Well first off you married her so I would hope she is an Oral gal? > or its your fault! May I suggest on your next day off and during the week help out as much as you can and around the house and with your son or daughter as I suspect the work load that has been dumped on your lovely wife is the major sex reducing factor.
Plus you may tell her from my point of view and many other males that post birth women bodies look hot. Sure they are not model bodies but Us guys are envious of women for the ability they have to carry our child and mature guys enjoy the different look of a women who has just given the World so much. Something very animalistic about a mom.
Ditto! Cowboy up buddy!
I remember being young and horney and doing stupid things though. There may be reasons to play alone but I do not think that this is one of them.
Personally I think that you would be making a mistake but it would really depends on how she feels. Healing and emotional balance takes whatever time it takes and she may not be in the best place mentally for you to even ask this question. I really think it would be dumb to even bring it up with her and I would not risk it. She may say one thing but deeply feel another and she should not have to go through that emotional event.
Babies take a lot of energy and time and I am surprised at how little some husbands give to the child and mother after the event. My experience was a long time ago but I did all the night feedings etc and spent as much time as I could with my daughter. That helped my wife recover faster because it allowed her body to spend energy healing.
Personally I think that you would be making a mistake but it would really depends on how she feels. Healing and emotional balance takes whatever time it takes and she may not be in the best place mentally for you to even ask this question. I really think it would be dumb to even bring it up with her and I would not risk it. She may say one thing but deeply feel another and she should not have to go through that emotional event.
Babies take a lot of energy and time and I am surprised at how little some husbands give to the child and mother after the event. My experience was a long time ago but I did all the night feedings etc and spent as much time as I could with my daughter. That helped my wife recover faster because it allowed her body to spend energy healing.
You may also want to keep in mind when the dr does give her the green light, it doesn't mean she will be ready. There is still healing to do even though she had a c-section(which can also cause more emotional issues) and didn't push the baby out. Let her lead.
I've had two c-sections and we did what we felt comfortable doing when we felt comfortable doing it. Also keep in mind that there is still discomfort the first time post baby, regardless of the fact that she had a c-section.
~Mrs
I've had two c-sections and we did what we felt comfortable doing when we felt comfortable doing it. Also keep in mind that there is still discomfort the first time post baby, regardless of the fact that she had a c-section.
~Mrs
If the two of you are already into swapping/swinging, where's the harm in having one of your female friends drop by the house on a "service" call?
If your wife has issues with that, then I say your collective committment to the Lifestyle could stand a reassessment.
If your wife has issues with that, then I say your collective committment to the Lifestyle could stand a reassessment.
This is the Mrs. C-section. I have been doing everything possible to keep my man happy during our pregnancy. It is not that I haven't wanted to have sex, it was an order to not have sex by the doctor and my husband was nervous also about having sex and causing early labor. I was giving everything of myself that I could and couldn't get anything physical in return. That was hard on me. I knew what he wanted, and he hasn't been pushing me to do or let him have a partner. We are new to the lifestyle and have yet to even meet other people in the lifestyle. I also would have been jealous if he got to have what he wanted but I had to stay back in the shadows. I want to experience the lifestyle with my husband, not watch him. Especially not just watch when I want to join but cannot. I have been guilt ridden for the past 3 months for his blue balls. The guilt comes only from myself. Now since we have had our baby, I am still guilt ridden, at least for the next 6 weeks. I WANT
to have sex with my husband!! I want to please him. I want to experience the lifestyle with him for our first time. I am very emotional right now and that makes it harder. So, no we haven't swung before, yes, I am giving the best damn blow jobs and hand jobs he has ever had, and to Sir Newby, yes he has suffered sexually cause of me, but I have also suffered sexually and I guess I am selfish for not letting him have a partner. Maybe someone could give some helpful advice on any techniques for me to use on my husband until I can get back in saddle and do my duties.
I wasn't trying to be aggressive, I just wanted to point out what had been going on from my side. As I have said, kind of an emotioanl wreck right now. I don't think anyone was getting uppity, too bad anyway. He and I for that matter were wondering what do oher swinger couples do when pregnancy comes into the picture. I was actually a little surprised and relieved at some of the comments. Thought more people would say to the hubby to go for it. Just wanted to let people know why he hasn't had a sex partner come over. Please don't take offense, did not mean that response to sound like that.
JACK85 wrote:This is the hubby, and it's not your "duty" to satisfy your whiny-assed husband! That sounds horrible! It's a partnership and you aren't his slave! If you had a high-risk pregnancy, he needs to be sensitive to that! For infection as well as discomfort reasons, he needs to wait until it's safe and you're ready! And just because you're starting out in this lifestyle, doesn't mean you should feel like you need to let another woman into your bedroom to "take care" of his sniveling ass when it's something YOU want to experience together! "Suffered sexually"? Are you fucking kidding me? He has two perfectly good hands to take care of his "baby blue balls" until you are ready and physically able to have sex with him safely! It's part of life and parenting. Deal with it!
to have sex with my husband!! I want to please him. I want to experience the lifestyle with him for our first time. I am very emotional right now and that makes it harder. So, no we haven't swung before, yes, I am giving the best damn blow jobs and hand jobs he has ever had, and to Sir Newby, yes he has suffered sexually cause of me, but I have also suffered sexually and I guess I am selfish for not letting him have a partner. Maybe someone could give some helpful advice on any techniques for me to use on my husband until I can get back in saddle and do my duties.
I'm sorry it's really none of my business, but if he's that fucking selfish and narrow-minded to put that kind of shit in a public forum, he better be man enough to take the criticism and another good look at what a fool he just made himself look like! I think men that have his kind of attitude toward women need to be tied to a tree and ass-fucked DRY by their wife until they learn a little bit of respect! Stand up and be a fucking man Jack! This isn't about your balls!
P.S. If you don't like the answer, don't ask the question!
Johnny-The-Rock
At pebblerock, my husband is not being so selfish and narrow minded. He was just wondering what couples in the lifestyle do when pregnancy comes into the picture. Also, many men and women are frustrated sexually during this time because you are limited. He wasn't complaining about me just not being able to have sex with me. He NEVER brought up bringing another woman into the bedroom with me, I felt bad for him, but that is just my personality of wanting to take care of everyone. My husband has not pressured me in any way to do anything, which is stated in previous comments by him and myself. As for the comment "suffered sexually" I was quoting what a previous lifestyler had said.